WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JUNE 2020
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Thank you ladies
I know i have to learn to not be a doormat..
I am a total different bird than my brother
And I know for a fact that i hate confrontation
He just spews and then apologizes ,but keeps it up..
I have been off my meds for a few days so I have to get back on them..6 -
cityjane i hadn't thought about renting out my scooter... if we end up keeping it, ya never know. right now it's my sisters problem in getting it there (california from washington state). we do get alot of looks when we rode it, that's for sure. i rode it around the block when kirby took it to the front of the house to wash it. i rode it back after he was done and i almost forgot to shift, but it came back to me as soon as i started riding.
yesterday, sold some more and went through a CRAP LOAD of pics. it was another hard time, cuz i ran across a wedding album of my second marriage to bob and i ran across my wedding pics and honeymoon pics of my marriage to lenny, which both obviously brought back memories. i looked at those pics and realized i'm as thin now as i was in both of those weddings. when i married kirby that was the only time i was a fat bride.
i weighed myself yesterday and i only gained 1 lb over my goal weight. not bad for no traditional workout. then again, i was burning calories walking, picking up stuff, moving, throwing, etc...
kirby says in about 2 wks we are going to call some company to take all the trash that we are tossing and at that time, we are going to give them the couch too that we have in the living room, it's toast. we will buy one when we get there.
i really got lucky. one of the ladies that bought something from me collects stuff for the homeless. so she is my goodwill and has been taking stuff that i wasn't sure what i was going to do with. bedsheets (won't need flannel over there) socks, towels, t-shirts, etc) i am happy that someone else will b able to use them.
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grandmallie wrote: »Thank you ladies
I know i have to learn to not be a doormat..
I am a total different bird than my brother
And I know for a fact that i hate confrontation
He just spews and then apologizes ,but keeps it up..
I have been off my meds for a few days so I have to get back on them..
If they are anti-depressants, you have to stay on them. It is not good to go off them and go back on them again.
If you've been on them a while, your body will react very badly if you just go off them. Worse than before.
Then, when you go on them again, your body goes through another adjustment period where you'll feel really rough for a week or so.
It's not worth it going off them and on them and off them and on them. Once you're on them and have worked with a doctor to get them to a comfortable level, the only way you should go off them is with a doctor's supervision ... going off gradually.
M in Oz
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Machka- yes i know ,its not that ive been off them for weeks just have to redo my pill pod with them..im usually faithful in taking them..2
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Allie, It concerns me that you have had a series of emotionally abusive people in your life. First your husband and it took you years to decide that you'd be better off without him, then the dentist that you worked for and it took years to decide that you'd be better off without him, and now your brother who has treated you badly for as long as I've known you. It's time to take some personal inventory on what part you play in all this.
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grandmallie wrote: »Machka- yes i know ,its not that ive been off them for weeks just have to redo my pill pod with them..im usually faithful in taking them..
I went off mine accidentally a couple months ago ... within 3 days I was a mess. It doesn't take long to feel the negative effects. Often I'll notice if I miss one ... that time I was very busy and distracted with other things so I figured I was feeling "off" because of that.3 -
Hello Ladies! ...I've been reading to keep up ... haven't had much to say.
Hugs and prayers ... to those who need them ... Janetr, Luci come to mind first, but when I read I'm praying for all of you with concerns.
Allie ... Allie, Allie, Allie ... never just stop psych meds. If you don't like them or don't think they're helping, then call your practitioner.
Machka ... loved the mask list.
Rebecca ... I hope you've had your call with Owain!
Lisa ... your comments about food were spot on.
We are finally addressing projects around our home that have gotten beyond our ability to take care of by ourselves. A new pool fence is being installed and the gardens within the pool area will be redone by a young landscaper hungry for business. Lifts my spirits to see things being taken care of properly.
Beth near Buffalo
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Morning, afternoon and evening, all...
Allie - Honey, I'm just holding you in my heart. I don't like confrontation either, but people will treat you how you let them. I no longer let people treat me badly--but I had to decide that for myself, and stand up. You did so with Tom, and found a better life for yourself. You're such a lovely, caring person--you just need to remember to care for yourself, too. You are worth better treatment. You would have remembered those pills for someone you were taking care of. Time to take care of you.
Beth - Thanks - it took a lot of years to stop blaming the food and start owning the emotions. Not saying it made me skinny or anything, it didn't! But it does mean I can look at food and know it's effects on my body, not demonize it's existence, when none of us are capable of simply not eating. I told someone once dieting was like being an alcoholic--but then being told you had to drink at least one drink three times a day, or you will die. But if you drink any MORE than that, you're an alcoholic.
Lovely morning, will enjoy it while I can as Cristobal will be dumping rain on us this evening. After I hit the elliptical, I got the laundry on the line, and my grapevine tied up to the trellis I constructed this weekend. Was thinking about taking apart the porch glider to replace the wood and paint the frame, but I won't be able to paint until at least Wednesday, so will wait until then.
Pleased with my progress on my weight, and even more with my control over my eating. For me, it is a progression. First, start logging, then start dropping the calorie loads slowly. Six weeks ago, I ate 3,490 calories in a single day, yesterday I ate 1,390. Looks like a radical drop, but because I eased into diminishing the amounts slowly, I haven't felt horribly deprived. Would like to keep my eating between 1300 and 1500 calories until my weight loss stalls.
And the weight drops, average of about a pound a week so far.
Love y'all,
Lisa in AR6 -
SuziQ ~ I saw your poblanos on the Community Recipe page this morning and wondered what you had stuffed. Glad you showed it here and told us. I am completely lost if the food isn't Good Old South Georgia. I have learned so much from looking at the Recipe page.
Also, sorry about the fromica furniture having no new home. I wonder if you could put it on Craigslist.
Karen & Others ~ Good advice for Allie's situation.
Sharon ~ Good wishes for your daughter's recovery.
Facebook: I go there every day to see what's going on, but recently, I deleted almost all of my friends hoping to stop getting all those messages about "People You Might Know." I immediately regretted it because I didn't realize that if you delete a person, you can no longer see their page.
Carol in GA
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Good Morning from middle eastern Arizona. 51 premenopausal ugh and struggling. Hormones are trying to kick my booty but I am trying not to let them! I Crossfit, I hike and I try to have one meal a day. lol, my biggest issue is that I like to eat and drink and I do most of the cooking! Hubby is very helpful and after 30 years still here for me! I am not new here but have a renewed drive to succeed and be healthier. I am finally under 140 for the first time in years! I bought some cool biker chic tops (hubby has a motorcycle) I hope they fit! Well, I guess that's my intro.
Take care and keep on keeping on!
Chelle4 -
Getting my vegan recipe spaghetti dinner ready. It’s something my late Aunt would make,but with more diet conscious choices hers would be fattening by the time she was done ✅.
1 serving pasta sauce per 4 servings of pasta to lightly coat not smoother.
Pasta 1 serving
Sweet peas boil then toss to be stir fried in a frying pan of water y Pam cooking spray with the onion,sliced into noodles zucchini (using a Spanish type can use any tho),carrot shavings 🪒 with my veggie peeler.
Fresh cherry tomatoes for the side
That’s it the noodles bump up the calories automatically to 200cal y 90cal for my Prego garlic 🧄 sauce but add the low cal veggies your day after a plate for 2 meals leaves a 300-400cal budget for drinks y snack. (1200cal my daily plan) . Drinking low cal crystal light tea with it so more cal for snack time this evening before bed.
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Lisa - I had forgotten to comment on your take on food. And, yes, anything can be a drug. So glad you have mended your relationship to it.
I have learned to tell myself there is no bad food - my management of it can be good or bad. I also look at it as being either nutritionally dense or not and calorie dense or not. I was a Weight Watcher for a long time and I want to be able to enjoy a piece of cake from time-to-time and not feel "bad" because I ate a piece. For me it will always be a work in progress. I do know making sure I log the good, the bad, and the ugly every day seems to work for me. I also weigh myself every day - it helps me keep my awareness of the effects of my decisions.
I know these tactics do not work for everyone. Some feel getting on the scale as demoralizing and/or having to track everything they eat tedious.
There are those who eat to live and those who live to eat. I am of the former so will always have to be aware of my intake. The wonderful thing is I can and do have the ability to increase my movement so if I want 2 darn pieces of cake I can! LOL!2 -
Carol,
If I lived in the great State of GA I would probably weigh about 250-300 pounds! I love southern food. One year Charlie and I went on vacation in Savannah and I ate shrimp and grits at every restaurant to compare the variations. Oh, and the She Crab soup!
I have been exposed to many different types of food and love studying the similarities and differences in cooking methods and spices. I guess growing up and then moving to a melting pot State (Philadelphia and South Florida) has expanded my taste buds. I always attempt to cook meals I have enjoyed at restaurants and/or ask people for their recipes so I can make them at home. And, when I travel I no longer buy typical tourist things - I will ask the locals what spices they use and then go buy them. When I get home I will attempt to cook my favorite vacation meals. It brings back vacation memories/vibes. Many places I visit will have regional cooking classes which I enjoy. There is so much history in food and how certain meals/recipes come in to being.
The stuffed poblanos were a modified recipe of a meal I love which is loaded with just cheese. I looked up a few recipes online and just made it up. It basically is a stuffed pepper recipe with a different type of pepper and spices. I did not put meat in it, maybe next time it will be meat and vegetables.5 -
Heather I was 23 in that photo. My son was 8 weeks old. Grandma was 76, and my dad was 55. Sometimes my dad was carded when he ordered an alcoholic beverage in a restaurant. With the lights down low, he looked very youthful, even with the receding hairline. He was carded on his 50th birthday, and he thought Mom had arranged to have the waitress ask his age as a joke. The waitress was so confused when she looked at his ID. He got a charge out of it. His death was such a waste. He was brilliant and talented and ethical and we loved him. He had a grandson to live for. It was such a waste. He never knew I went into a medical field.5
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Allie tell yourself to keep your power! I have had much experience with bullies over the years by watching the children in my classes. The more you react to them the more they will pick on you. I know it is hard and I have to remind myself too that going to the safe place inside yourself where no one is allowed but you. From that safe place you can give a neutral reaction. Those who are used to pushing you around will push harder just keep telling yourself you have all of us behind you to not give into their foolishness. I tell myself I do not give into tantrums in myself or others because in the long run it will not help. Yes sometimes I do find I am a bully in that I have melt downs. This is why I try to be proactive and when I find myself heating up I take a break.
I am needing everything I just wrote to you for myself too. Because between COVID, RIOTS, and a suicidal depressed son that I am spending anywhere from 4-7 hours a day with (The same son that has put us through a nightmare for 12 years. So yes I know what a marathon is) I need to follow my own advice.
Fortunately I do not let this effect my sleep or my eating...I take many walks, avoiding the news now that the major danger is over, (I did have to watch it so I knew where it was safer to travel and what to avoid), concentrate on gardening, go to my healing music sites, and garden sites where flowers and tips are readily shared. Now that gardens are in maintenance stage I can get back to painting.
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I've been watching 'Carousel' online while I was rowing and then while I was preparing the cauliflower cheese and asparagus soup. (I used up the asparagus stalks, Michele) I've got bluetooth earbuds.
I had a good cry. When I went to see it on the stage in the 90s I was crying as soon as the overture started! My mum took me to see the film when it came out in 1956 and pre warned me that the hero would die and be in heaven. She was in the stage show when I was a teenager, so I know the music well.
We played You'll Never Walk Alone at my mum's funeral. We often sing That Was A Real Nice Clambake at our singing group.
SuziQ - I think I eat a cross between a rich Parisian, a Greek fisherman and an Indian farmer. Tonight's dish is traditional British.
No one used to pogo?
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx1 -
My approach to food is to not use it for recreation or entertainment. What my eating looks like is that I eat a lot of the same things again and again, I don't cook as a hobby, I don't meet friends at restaurants, when I eat at a restaurant with my husband I order the same thing every time, I don't get snacks to accompany me at special events, I don't eat at potlucks or parties, my husband knows to bring me a non-food item as a treat. I eat simple foods at regular times of the day. This won't work for everyone, but it has helped me lose 50 pounds and keep it off for years.
Barbie in NW WA3 -
Quite proud of this effort.
Heather UK XXXXXX4 -
Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie - My sister lives 1600 miles away from me. It's a very helpless feeling. I have a very large family and they all take care of each other.
However, I feel completely useless. The only contribution from me is to send money. My mister is an only child. Yesterday he mentioned how he was responsible for everything for his parents and how different it is that I am not needed for anything for mine. The feeling is not better....just the opposite side of the coin. It's difficult to not be needed.
As for my sister's health, it's hard to say. It's been 5 days and as of Saturday, one side of her face was still droopy (we do video chats). She seems to still have paralysis on her right side, though she was able to help get herself into a chair today. She can talk, sort of. I was unable to understand her, but others say they can when they are near her. She is expected to move to in patient rehab in a day or so. It's unclear how long she will be there, but she won't be able to have visitors. That will be very difficult. They are forging ahead with a theory of cranial amyloid angiopathy (CAA) causing it, though I have my doubts. I think it's more likely because she wasn't taking her blood pressure meds.
So many of us have hardships right now, both physical and emotional. My virtual hugs go out to all.
On a positive note, my hip issues seems to be much improved. We did a 4.5 mile hike yesterday without issue. It's had little elevation change, but the distance was more than I've done in several weeks.
Restaurants are opening up here with reservation only and at limited capacity. We will not be dining out for at least another week and I'm not even sure then. The way they have to do it just doesn't seem all that pleasant. Plus, we like to sit at the bar and I am not sure if they can have bar seating right now where we like to go. But that's OK. We are saving money.
My eating has been terrible lately. I feel the need to eat a lot of comfort food. Fortunately, I don't buy a lot of that stuff, so I can't eat it. However, I will likely have to make myself some pasta soon. I have managed to gain a pound or 3 in the past couple of weeks. I don't want to let it get out of control.
Have a great week.
Tina in CA3 -
I am not brought food as a treat typically. My mister buys me kitchen gadgets when he wants to treat me. The last one was a nice wood cutting board. I do buy him food for treats. Mostly chocolate, but food is not a problem for him. He eats to live, though loves his beer. He also works out like a maniac to compensate.1
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Family meals- I bring something healthy so I have an option other than theirs y ones dieting can eat mine.
Amber Tx
Luby’s closing here last ones they didn’t survive Corona here it’s a Texas restaurant.1 -
Heather: I had a pogo stick when I was young. It was all the rage for a while here. I was quite good on it. Never could manage a hula hoop for long though!!! 😂
My uncle worked in the local Tri-ange toy factory, so we got lots of reject toys cheap.1 -
TerriRichardson112 wrote: »Katla: Facebook is constantly updating, and is now owned by Google. If you are going in regularly the changes wouldn't be noticeable, as they have happened gradually.
Actually, Facebook is not owned by Google. Zuckerberg still owns nearly 58% and is by far the largest shareholder. https://www.investopedia.com/articles/insights/082216/top-9-shareholders-facebook-fb.asp. Of course mergers and acquisitions news changes often and perhaps I missed something.
I don't use my computer for logging into FB often. I use my phone and it seems mostly the same. I just keep it to stay in touch with family and friends mostly. Right now there is so much politically charged stuff that I haven't been logging in.
Tina in CA1 -
cityjaneLondon wrote: »Did the Bristol statue toppling get onto your news? The statue of Edward Colston was toppled from its plinth and thrown into the river. He was a slave trader who has halls and streets named after him all over the city. I was at university in Bristol 67-70 and hardly heard anything about the slave trade, which was of huge importance to the wealth of the city. I don't condone violence, but the statue should have been dealt with years ago. Perhaps made part of an installation, or moved.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
Yes, it did. I saw something about it this morning.
Tina
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Terri - I loved my hula hoop too. I was at it for hours! When my dad was off to work he would have to lean over to kiss me goodbye without interrupting my hula hooping. Woe betide him if he touched it and ruined my record attempt! My favourite toy was my red metallic scooter I called Flaming Star. But I did have fun on my pogo stick. We also played a lot of hopscotch. A London childhood.
Karen - for some reason I missed what happened to your dad. Could you bear to repeat it for me. Sorry.
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Barbie: I’m like you with food. I’ve eaten the same meals On certain days since the late 1980’s. It helps with planning for shopping trips.
I eat the same breakfast every morning.
I have a loose 3 week main meal schedule which stems from when I was a working mother. It used to be a 4 week schedule, but I had to give up eating roast lamb, as it gave me horrendous heartburn.
DH likes his Sunday roast, and he cooks it while I do veggies; We rotate chicken, pork and beef roasts.
Mon/Tues I use the roast meat in a casserole or stir fry;
Wed I do a cold meat Salad Bar;
Thurs we improvise;
Fri he does fish( usually salmon) + sides;
Sat he does venison, burgers, or sausages from our butcher, with sides.
I use up leftovers for my lunch, or have soup or salad. He makes his own sandwiches.2 -
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Heather My brother was good on the pogo stick. And the unicycle. Me, not so much. But I was a stellar hula hooper.
Very disturbing talk about the death of my family members - you are forewarned.You will probably recall the story of my dad's death once I tell it again. Dad was a brilliant talented physician and excellent father; Dana was a beautiful, accomplished horsewoman, scholar, musician, and expert on exotic wild animals. Both my dad and my sister committed suicide. My dad on March 27, 1981 and my sister March 31, 2000. My dad shot himself in the heart with a short-barreled hunting rifle. My sister hanged herself. It was tragic and a horrendous squandering of wonderful life, perpetrated by Evil Severe Clinical Depression. Strong biological history. Both brothers are mentally ill. I am prone, but nothing like my poor siblings and dad. Mom was not afflicted. She died from breast cancer.
Karen in Virginia11 -
Barbara: The vet is someone I trust and rely on for good advice. He says to keep watching for a while and we’ll know when our dog will need surgery. Since we came home the lesion disappeared. Good for now, but we’ll keep watching. We expect it to reappear. Keeping my fingers crossed that it will be a long while before we need to worry again.
Heather: Edie looks determined to conquer the pogo stick. If she does, good for her. I never succeeded with a pogo stick.
Machka: Your imagined kindergarten behavior seems likely. Here, schools are closed. We hope they will be able to reopen in September. Keeping my fingers crossed. Your many computer screens are amazing. We have three, not counting smart phones. I have a laptop & DH has a desktop and an Ipad. I think that is enough for two retired adults. You are employed in a highly technical capacity and your many computers are necessary for you to work from home.
Terri: Thanks for the information about facebook now being owned by google. It helps me understand why things are different than I expected.
Allie: Keep us in the loop. I hope that you’re not affected by Lyme disease. Get yourself checked out ASAP. Prompt antibiotic treatment is the best way to protect yourself. Our friend Mary had Lyme disease from a tick bite several years ago. She survived it back then. I don’t remember seeing her post in quite a while. The last I recall they were summering in their home state and wintering in AZ.
SuziQ: I’m sorry it will be so challenging to get rid of a working piece of furniture that has been cared for well. :ohwell: Perhaps you could advertise it as “Vintage Formica Chest of Drawers. Collector’s item. . .”
I’ve been shopping and also gone on a walk through our old town area because there are two places in that neighborhood that will be on our Planning Committee meeting this week. My shopping trip provided me some needed food items and a lovely little geranium that is now in a hanging basket beside our kitchen window.
Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon
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TerriRichardson112 wrote: »Rebecca: Your Writing area is much tidier than mine 😂
The photograph on my wall is with my father at my graduation in 1980. The pen and ink sketch is one I did from a photo of my daughters as part of my final exhibition. The photgraph is one I did a few years ago.
(My degree was in education, and I majored in Maths and Art. Photography, ceramics, and textiles were some of the elements of my degree course.)
So sweet Terri! Love the drawing and your grad pick. Happy smiles! You should see my desk when I am writing letters! Its piles, stickers, and crayons everywhere!
💖Rebecca2
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