Online Dating.

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  • Reckoner68
    Reckoner68 Posts: 2,139 Member
    When my wife and I were first dating I got her a flower but WHO KNEW that there was some weird cocoon on it and so when I gave it to her in the car and bugs started flying everywhere it created memories and set the bar sufficiently low thank GOD
  • slimgirljo15
    slimgirljo15 Posts: 269,456 Member
    TarryTaffy wrote: »
    Sadly, it's true. It's common knowledge here that many married people like to flirt, play etc with others here. Same is true for many online communities, unfortunately.

    Trigger warning... un-PC reply. If anyone objects, my apologies, but then move along... I'm only talking about my own experiences.

    Yes, I've seen what I call the harem builders... guys, mostly married (according to them), who have 50-150 friends, all women, most in seductive, scantily clad selfies. It is what it is... no judgment... they're all willing participants. That's a good chunk of who has initially contacted me (I've since had to weed them out... more below)... & there's the young lad sect, too, who like to collect compliments from middle-aged women... they've got their own harems... but when I don't respond how either group would like after they send me a pic of their abs/guns, in the guise of "hey, check out my dog" & I can only see a dog tail behind their Hulk Hogan, shirtless/sleeveless-tee pose or their "hey, can I be your next bf" email, they delete me, in most cases, or I delete them, cuz they're looking for major flirt & I just don't have or want to take the time.

    Those same guys pummel me with lots of personal q's... it's exhausting, so I just don't accept a lot of friend requests anymore, when they fall into the above scenarios. I'm not saying they're doing anything wrong (I don't embed myself into other's relationships/innocent flirtations or otherwise... that's for their SO's to deal with... leave me out of it), but I'm mainly here to record calories, write a few semi-amusing posts to interact with others & enjoy the many with great hearts or senses of humor... I see a lot of the latter, fortunately.

    I find so many people here to be clever, funny & good hearted souls, by far... those are the ones I enjoy. My friends list is currently a collection of lovely souls... male & female. I love when women contact me for friendship. Conversely, those women I've contacted to be friends (just 2) have so far declined, haha. Se la vie... :smile:
    I'm much more of an amber bach or lager drinker, I've found that IPA's are just a bit to tart/bitter for my tastes. But, I'd gladly buy you one. And, while it may be considered rude to turn down a beer given to someone, I don't think it is if it's given to someone who actually enjoys an IPA. ;)

    BTW, great pic. :lol:

    Lol. I understand... most I know are lite beer drinkers. I enjoy darker flavors... rye/black bread, as opposed to white... ristretto (double strength espresso, black) as opposed to coffee... stout/IPA only. Not for everyone... that's fine... we all differ, no judgment.

    🤗 I didn't decline 😙
  • TarryTaffy
    TarryTaffy Posts: 883 Member
    🤗 I didn't decline 😙

    True. You FR me... no matter, it worked out well in the end!
  • olegdevelopinc
    olegdevelopinc Posts: 1 Member
    TomFit18 wrote: »
    I got my popcorn ready....I have a feeling this might turn into a good one!

    Cool ... Now I also wanted popcorn.
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  • PlentyofProtein00
    PlentyofProtein00 Posts: 3,669 Member
    I did. Successful every time.
  • magnusthenerd
    magnusthenerd Posts: 1,207 Member
    I have not found it very fruitful. I've used tried various sites off and on for the 7 years now since my wife left. Over that time, I've
    * Met up with someone once, have her as FB friend but barely interact with her
    * Been messaged by one woman who was a Young Earth Creationist while my profile indicated I'm an atheist. I wouldn't be opposed to someone somewhat religious, but someone that thinks the world is only 6,000 years old is too far apart a worldview from me.
    * Been messaged by a woman who wondered if I would be her FWB since her husband is asexual. It would be expected that I would be exclusive to her though. This would also involve me being friends with the husband. Which, I mean, if that's what they want to do, ok. I'm just couldn't be in relationship with no real future and I don't think I could be like, "Oh hey buddy, let me go take care of our girl, then you and me are getting on the Xbox. Cool?"
    * Dozen of messages on Plenty of Fish that were just scammers. Some of them using the same woman's set of pictures - like if PoF had any kind fraud prevention, this person would never have an account.
    * Talked to one woman who after about 5 lines started talking about how she was going to go get on a plane like she was fishing for me to try to stop her. Pretty sure it was a scam.
    * Talked to one woman who was nice to talk to but then just stopped responding 1 week later. We just kind of talked about music and kids, and then radio silence.
    * Received on message from a woman asking about getting coffee sometime after quarantine, just for her to ask to go to emailing and get emailed by a Russian, almost certainly scam.
  • PlentyofProtein00
    PlentyofProtein00 Posts: 3,669 Member
    I have not found it very fruitful. I've used tried various sites off and on for the 7 years now since my wife left. Over that time, I've
    * Met up with someone once, have her as FB friend but barely interact with her
    * Been messaged by one woman who was a Young Earth Creationist while my profile indicated I'm an atheist. I wouldn't be opposed to someone somewhat religious, but someone that thinks the world is only 6,000 years old is too far apart a worldview from me.
    * Been messaged by a woman who wondered if I would be her FWB since her husband is asexual. It would be expected that I would be exclusive to her though. This would also involve me being friends with the husband. Which, I mean, if that's what they want to do, ok. I'm just couldn't be in relationship with no real future and I don't think I could be like, "Oh hey buddy, let me go take care of our girl, then you and me are getting on the Xbox. Cool?"
    * Dozen of messages on Plenty of Fish that were just scammers. Some of them using the same woman's set of pictures - like if PoF had any kind fraud prevention, this person would never have an account.
    * Talked to one woman who after about 5 lines started talking about how she was going to go get on a plane like she was fishing for me to try to stop her. Pretty sure it was a scam.
    * Talked to one woman who was nice to talk to but then just stopped responding 1 week later. We just kind of talked about music and kids, and then radio silence.
    * Received on message from a woman asking about getting coffee sometime after quarantine, just for her to ask to go to emailing and get emailed by a Russian, almost certainly scam.

    Have you tried other apps besides pof...pof is kind of a blah app. I've had most success on bumble and hinge.
  • magnusthenerd
    magnusthenerd Posts: 1,207 Member
    I have not found it very fruitful. I've used tried various sites off and on for the 7 years now since my wife left. Over that time, I've
    * Met up with someone once, have her as FB friend but barely interact with her
    * Been messaged by one woman who was a Young Earth Creationist while my profile indicated I'm an atheist. I wouldn't be opposed to someone somewhat religious, but someone that thinks the world is only 6,000 years old is too far apart a worldview from me.
    * Been messaged by a woman who wondered if I would be her FWB since her husband is asexual. It would be expected that I would be exclusive to her though. This would also involve me being friends with the husband. Which, I mean, if that's what they want to do, ok. I'm just couldn't be in relationship with no real future and I don't think I could be like, "Oh hey buddy, let me go take care of our girl, then you and me are getting on the Xbox. Cool?"
    * Dozen of messages on Plenty of Fish that were just scammers. Some of them using the same woman's set of pictures - like if PoF had any kind fraud prevention, this person would never have an account.
    * Talked to one woman who after about 5 lines started talking about how she was going to go get on a plane like she was fishing for me to try to stop her. Pretty sure it was a scam.
    * Talked to one woman who was nice to talk to but then just stopped responding 1 week later. We just kind of talked about music and kids, and then radio silence.
    * Received on message from a woman asking about getting coffee sometime after quarantine, just for her to ask to go to emailing and get emailed by a Russian, almost certainly scam.

    Have you tried other apps besides pof...pof is kind of a blah app. I've had most success on bumble and hinge.

    Actually never heard of hinge, thanks. All I ever got out of Bumble was a laugh at finding my older sister's friend's profile and telling her I treated it Baptists in the liquor store: I didn't see her there, she didn't see me.
    The first 3 things I described were on OkCupid. The two after PoF were on Tinder. The Russian scam was on Zoosk. I've tried a few others too.

    The experience on any site is a bit different for men looking for men versus women looking for men. I'm always surprised how many women are complaining about guys "playing games", "sending **** pics", or "just looking to get laid". I have no interest in any of that.

    I guess nearly 40 with two kids who's got interests both in nerdy stuff and being fit isn't high on compatibility. In my area it seems everyone wants someone for kayaking. Or maybe I'm just ugly and bad with fashion. :D
  • miscgraphics
    miscgraphics Posts: 24 Member
    No so much into online dating. But I’d be interested in more MFP friends.
  • PlentyofProtein00
    PlentyofProtein00 Posts: 3,669 Member
    I have not found it very fruitful. I've used tried various sites off and on for the 7 years now since my wife left. Over that time, I've
    * Met up with someone once, have her as FB friend but barely interact with her
    * Been messaged by one woman who was a Young Earth Creationist while my profile indicated I'm an atheist. I wouldn't be opposed to someone somewhat religious, but someone that thinks the world is only 6,000 years old is too far apart a worldview from me.
    * Been messaged by a woman who wondered if I would be her FWB since her husband is asexual. It would be expected that I would be exclusive to her though. This would also involve me being friends with the husband. Which, I mean, if that's what they want to do, ok. I'm just couldn't be in relationship with no real future and I don't think I could be like, "Oh hey buddy, let me go take care of our girl, then you and me are getting on the Xbox. Cool?"
    * Dozen of messages on Plenty of Fish that were just scammers. Some of them using the same woman's set of pictures - like if PoF had any kind fraud prevention, this person would never have an account.
    * Talked to one woman who after about 5 lines started talking about how she was going to go get on a plane like she was fishing for me to try to stop her. Pretty sure it was a scam.
    * Talked to one woman who was nice to talk to but then just stopped responding 1 week later. We just kind of talked about music and kids, and then radio silence.
    * Received on message from a woman asking about getting coffee sometime after quarantine, just for her to ask to go to emailing and get emailed by a Russian, almost certainly scam.

    Have you tried other apps besides pof...pof is kind of a blah app. I've had most success on bumble and hinge.

    Actually never heard of hinge, thanks. All I ever got out of Bumble was a laugh at finding my older sister's friend's profile and telling her I treated it Baptists in the liquor store: I didn't see her there, she didn't see me.
    The first 3 things I described were on OkCupid. The two after PoF were on Tinder. The Russian scam was on Zoosk. I've tried a few others too.

    The experience on any site is a bit different for men looking for men versus women looking for men. I'm always surprised how many women are complaining about guys "playing games", "sending **** pics", or "just looking to get laid". I have no interest in any of that.

    I guess nearly 40 with two kids who's got interests both in nerdy stuff and being fit isn't high on compatibility. In my area it seems everyone wants someone for kayaking. Or maybe I'm just ugly and bad with fashion. :D

    I have heard of the issues you've described that men have dealt with. And I'll be honest, if I'm not laughing and vibing with the guy's personality I just move on. Looks are a priority but for me I've come across some very Nice/Kind men...and our humor just wasnt the same...and hey!? What's wrong with kayaking??? 😂
  • magnusthenerd
    magnusthenerd Posts: 1,207 Member
    I have not found it very fruitful. I've used tried various sites off and on for the 7 years now since my wife left. Over that time, I've
    * Met up with someone once, have her as FB friend but barely interact with her
    * Been messaged by one woman who was a Young Earth Creationist while my profile indicated I'm an atheist. I wouldn't be opposed to someone somewhat religious, but someone that thinks the world is only 6,000 years old is too far apart a worldview from me.
    * Been messaged by a woman who wondered if I would be her FWB since her husband is asexual. It would be expected that I would be exclusive to her though. This would also involve me being friends with the husband. Which, I mean, if that's what they want to do, ok. I'm just couldn't be in relationship with no real future and I don't think I could be like, "Oh hey buddy, let me go take care of our girl, then you and me are getting on the Xbox. Cool?"
    * Dozen of messages on Plenty of Fish that were just scammers. Some of them using the same woman's set of pictures - like if PoF had any kind fraud prevention, this person would never have an account.
    * Talked to one woman who after about 5 lines started talking about how she was going to go get on a plane like she was fishing for me to try to stop her. Pretty sure it was a scam.
    * Talked to one woman who was nice to talk to but then just stopped responding 1 week later. We just kind of talked about music and kids, and then radio silence.
    * Received on message from a woman asking about getting coffee sometime after quarantine, just for her to ask to go to emailing and get emailed by a Russian, almost certainly scam.

    Have you tried other apps besides pof...pof is kind of a blah app. I've had most success on bumble and hinge.

    Actually never heard of hinge, thanks. All I ever got out of Bumble was a laugh at finding my older sister's friend's profile and telling her I treated it Baptists in the liquor store: I didn't see her there, she didn't see me.
    The first 3 things I described were on OkCupid. The two after PoF were on Tinder. The Russian scam was on Zoosk. I've tried a few others too.

    The experience on any site is a bit different for men looking for men versus women looking for men. I'm always surprised how many women are complaining about guys "playing games", "sending **** pics", or "just looking to get laid". I have no interest in any of that.

    I guess nearly 40 with two kids who's got interests both in nerdy stuff and being fit isn't high on compatibility. In my area it seems everyone wants someone for kayaking. Or maybe I'm just ugly and bad with fashion. :D

    I have heard of the issues you've described that men have dealt with. And I'll be honest, if I'm not laughing and vibing with the guy's personality I just move on. Looks are a priority but for me I've come across some very Nice/Kind men...and our humor just wasnt the same...and hey!? What's wrong with kayaking??? 😂
    I don't know, people put in their profile and I feel like I'm without a paddle and just can't go with the flow.
    Could be worse. Some people talk about loving sarcasm like it really is something rare. The worst are the people that say they like to have fun - I always want to ask those people who've the met that dislikes fun because I'm interested in how that could work. Or the women who like guys that are attractive. Not traits that are, just they like guys that are attractive.

    I'm tempted to put on my profile "I'm into women who love making tautologies. In case you don't know what that is, all tautologies are tautologies" because there seems to be a lot of them.
  • I have not found it very fruitful. I've used tried various sites off and on for the 7 years now since my wife left. Over that time, I've
    * Met up with someone once, have her as FB friend but barely interact with her
    * Been messaged by one woman who was a Young Earth Creationist while my profile indicated I'm an atheist. I wouldn't be opposed to someone somewhat religious, but someone that thinks the world is only 6,000 years old is too far apart a worldview from me.
    * Been messaged by a woman who wondered if I would be her FWB since her husband is asexual. It would be expected that I would be exclusive to her though. This would also involve me being friends with the husband. Which, I mean, if that's what they want to do, ok. I'm just couldn't be in relationship with no real future and I don't think I could be like, "Oh hey buddy, let me go take care of our girl, then you and me are getting on the Xbox. Cool?"
    * Dozen of messages on Plenty of Fish that were just scammers. Some of them using the same woman's set of pictures - like if PoF had any kind fraud prevention, this person would never have an account.
    * Talked to one woman who after about 5 lines started talking about how she was going to go get on a plane like she was fishing for me to try to stop her. Pretty sure it was a scam.
    * Talked to one woman who was nice to talk to but then just stopped responding 1 week later. We just kind of talked about music and kids, and then radio silence.
    * Received on message from a woman asking about getting coffee sometime after quarantine, just for her to ask to go to emailing and get emailed by a Russian, almost certainly scam.

    Have you tried other apps besides pof...pof is kind of a blah app. I've had most success on bumble and hinge.

    Actually never heard of hinge, thanks. All I ever got out of Bumble was a laugh at finding my older sister's friend's profile and telling her I treated it Baptists in the liquor store: I didn't see her there, she didn't see me.
    The first 3 things I described were on OkCupid. The two after PoF were on Tinder. The Russian scam was on Zoosk. I've tried a few others too.

    The experience on any site is a bit different for men looking for men versus women looking for men. I'm always surprised how many women are complaining about guys "playing games", "sending **** pics", or "just looking to get laid". I have no interest in any of that.

    I guess nearly 40 with two kids who's got interests both in nerdy stuff and being fit isn't high on compatibility. In my area it seems everyone wants someone for kayaking. Or maybe I'm just ugly and bad with fashion. :D

    Imagine my surprise when a girl I was talking to from a dating site sent me a D-pic that another guy sent her! 😂🤣

    Still met her, turned out to be pretty cool, and we talk this day still.

    It does seem, based on info in female profiles, that most guys on the sites are only interested in pen pals or nude swaps.

    Messing with the scammers can be fun, plus the longer you keep them busy the less time they have to prey on the more naive. Kind of a community service.

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  • emailnumber308
    emailnumber308 Posts: 116 Member
    I met my fiance on tinder. We fell in love and he proposed within 8 months. I had used the app off and on for a couple of years. Went on some fun dates but never felt a real connection. I also had a few awkward dates. There's so many people/personalities/perspectives/interests that the awkward and sometimes flat out horrific dates are bound to happen. Those unsuccessful dates were worth it though. I learned so much about myself and what I wanted out of a partner and relationship.
  • PlentyofProtein00
    PlentyofProtein00 Posts: 3,669 Member
    I have not found it very fruitful. I've used tried various sites off and on for the 7 years now since my wife left. Over that time, I've
    * Met up with someone once, have her as FB friend but barely interact with her
    * Been messaged by one woman who was a Young Earth Creationist while my profile indicated I'm an atheist. I wouldn't be opposed to someone somewhat religious, but someone that thinks the world is only 6,000 years old is too far apart a worldview from me.
    * Been messaged by a woman who wondered if I would be her FWB since her husband is asexual. It would be expected that I would be exclusive to her though. This would also involve me being friends with the husband. Which, I mean, if that's what they want to do, ok. I'm just couldn't be in relationship with no real future and I don't think I could be like, "Oh hey buddy, let me go take care of our girl, then you and me are getting on the Xbox. Cool?"
    * Dozen of messages on Plenty of Fish that were just scammers. Some of them using the same woman's set of pictures - like if PoF had any kind fraud prevention, this person would never have an account.
    * Talked to one woman who after about 5 lines started talking about how she was going to go get on a plane like she was fishing for me to try to stop her. Pretty sure it was a scam.
    * Talked to one woman who was nice to talk to but then just stopped responding 1 week later. We just kind of talked about music and kids, and then radio silence.
    * Received on message from a woman asking about getting coffee sometime after quarantine, just for her to ask to go to emailing and get emailed by a Russian, almost certainly scam.

    Have you tried other apps besides pof...pof is kind of a blah app. I've had most success on bumble and hinge.

    Actually never heard of hinge, thanks. All I ever got out of Bumble was a laugh at finding my older sister's friend's profile and telling her I treated it Baptists in the liquor store: I didn't see her there, she didn't see me.
    The first 3 things I described were on OkCupid. The two after PoF were on Tinder. The Russian scam was on Zoosk. I've tried a few others too.

    The experience on any site is a bit different for men looking for men versus women looking for men. I'm always surprised how many women are complaining about guys "playing games", "sending **** pics", or "just looking to get laid". I have no interest in any of that.

    I guess nearly 40 with two kids who's got interests both in nerdy stuff and being fit isn't high on compatibility. In my area it seems everyone wants someone for kayaking. Or maybe I'm just ugly and bad with fashion. :D

    Imagine my surprise when a girl I was talking to from a dating site sent me a D-pic that another guy sent her! 😂🤣

    Still met her, turned out to be pretty cool, and we talk this day still.

    It does seem, based on info in female profiles, that most guys on the sites are only interested in pen pals or nude swaps.

    Messing with the scammers can be fun, plus the longer you keep them busy the less time they have to prey on the more naive. Kind of a community service.

    🙊🙊🙊
  • PlentyofProtein00
    PlentyofProtein00 Posts: 3,669 Member
    I met my fiance on tinder. We fell in love and he proposed within 8 months. I had used the app off and on for a couple of years. Went on some fun dates but never felt a real connection. I also had a few awkward dates. There's so many people/personalities/perspectives/interests that the awkward and sometimes flat out horrific dates are bound to happen. Those unsuccessful dates were worth it though. I learned so much about myself and what I wanted out of a partner and relationship.

    Definitely learned lots about myself too. One guy specifically, secretly motivated me to get serious about my weight loss 😁
  • PlentyofProtein00
    PlentyofProtein00 Posts: 3,669 Member
    I have not found it very fruitful. I've used tried various sites off and on for the 7 years now since my wife left. Over that time, I've
    * Met up with someone once, have her as FB friend but barely interact with her
    * Been messaged by one woman who was a Young Earth Creationist while my profile indicated I'm an atheist. I wouldn't be opposed to someone somewhat religious, but someone that thinks the world is only 6,000 years old is too far apart a worldview from me.
    * Been messaged by a woman who wondered if I would be her FWB since her husband is asexual. It would be expected that I would be exclusive to her though. This would also involve me being friends with the husband. Which, I mean, if that's what they want to do, ok. I'm just couldn't be in relationship with no real future and I don't think I could be like, "Oh hey buddy, let me go take care of our girl, then you and me are getting on the Xbox. Cool?"
    * Dozen of messages on Plenty of Fish that were just scammers. Some of them using the same woman's set of pictures - like if PoF had any kind fraud prevention, this person would never have an account.
    * Talked to one woman who after about 5 lines started talking about how she was going to go get on a plane like she was fishing for me to try to stop her. Pretty sure it was a scam.
    * Talked to one woman who was nice to talk to but then just stopped responding 1 week later. We just kind of talked about music and kids, and then radio silence.
    * Received on message from a woman asking about getting coffee sometime after quarantine, just for her to ask to go to emailing and get emailed by a Russian, almost certainly scam.

    Have you tried other apps besides pof...pof is kind of a blah app. I've had most success on bumble and hinge.

    Actually never heard of hinge, thanks. All I ever got out of Bumble was a laugh at finding my older sister's friend's profile and telling her I treated it Baptists in the liquor store: I didn't see her there, she didn't see me.
    The first 3 things I described were on OkCupid. The two after PoF were on Tinder. The Russian scam was on Zoosk. I've tried a few others too.

    The experience on any site is a bit different for men looking for men versus women looking for men. I'm always surprised how many women are complaining about guys "playing games", "sending **** pics", or "just looking to get laid". I have no interest in any of that.

    I guess nearly 40 with two kids who's got interests both in nerdy stuff and being fit isn't high on compatibility. In my area it seems everyone wants someone for kayaking. Or maybe I'm just ugly and bad with fashion. :D

    I have heard of the issues you've described that men have dealt with. And I'll be honest, if I'm not laughing and vibing with the guy's personality I just move on. Looks are a priority but for me I've come across some very Nice/Kind men...and our humor just wasnt the same...and hey!? What's wrong with kayaking??? 😂
    I don't know, people put in their profile and I feel like I'm without a paddle and just can't go with the flow.
    Could be worse. Some people talk about loving sarcasm like it really is something rare. The worst are the people that say they like to have fun - I always want to ask those people who've the met that dislikes fun because I'm interested in how that could work. Or the women who like guys that are attractive. Not traits that are, just they like guys that are attractive.

    I'm tempted to put on my profile "I'm into women who love making tautologies. In case you don't know what that is, all tautologies are tautologies" because there seems to be a lot of them.

    😂
    I always tried to be outlandish. Anyone who can banter with craziness was my kind of person. And I agree, most people who put how funny they are, tend to not be so funny. But I've met a lot of good peeps along the way.
  • iMago
    iMago Posts: 8,714 Member
    its not so bad i don't think

    just be attractive.

    don't be unattractive
  • Manshot
    Manshot Posts: 9 Member
    Have plenty of horrible stories and I’ve also connected a few times. Recently tho, this whole COVID-19, have drinks during online video chatting stuff is a bit awkward. Looking forward to getting back to somewhat of a normal dating scene... hopefully sooner than later.
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  • ReenieHJ
    ReenieHJ Posts: 9,724 Member
    Both my dds did the online dating thing. One of them lived together for a few years, bought a house, then split up. He was really nice. My other dd is still living with her bf, and they just bought a house, also been at least a few years. They are so good together and he's such a great guy all around. I went to Iceland last fall with both of them and I was able to get to know him better; they are so great together.
    But I have to tell you; being a mom to a dd who's exploring the online dating scene is very scary.
  • Cutemesoon
    Cutemesoon Posts: 2,646 Member
    online dating seems terrifying.

    It is!
  • xGreatWhiteNorthx
    xGreatWhiteNorthx Posts: 335 Member
    In college I had one date with a guy who first, gave me his best impression of screamo music. In a restaurant I might add.

    He then proceeded to tell me that he'd like to stick his foot and his cellphone in my vagina.


    I noped out of there quick.








    Another one wasnt horrible but it was odd. but I met a guy who told me on our second date that he was going to marry me someday. Mind you, I was in the middle of a nasty divorce and commitment was the last thing I wanted so that put me off. He won me over though. That was almost 5 years ago and we're engaged. I dont really care to be married again, but whatever happens, happens.
  • JosephSlaterk13
    JosephSlaterk13 Posts: 3 Member
    edited December 2020
    I'm a man and I'm 40 years old. I'm single and I was always surprised that most often women write that men on dating sites are obsessed with sex and it is impossible to find a good man there. I can say the opposite. All the women I met on dating sites, were crazy. After 1 date, they thought I should marry them! If we spent 1 evening together, it does not mean that I love you for the rest of my life. And please, it's unnecessary to send me the breakup songs from http://breakupangels.com/best-breakup-songs/!
  • Versicolour
    Versicolour Posts: 7,164 Member
    I'm a man and I'm 40 years old. I'm single and I was always surprised that most often women write that men on dating sites are obsessed with sex and it is impossible to find a good man there. I can say the opposite. All the women I met on dating sites, were crazy. After 1 date, they thought I should marry them! If we spent 1 evening together, it does not mean that I love you for the rest of my life.

    Absolutely. Totally crazy to want a relationship. Usually I don't even have to meet. I like to know who I am meeting before I meet them. One encounter the man asked what method of birth control I use before he'd even asked about my likes, dislikes, beliefs, family. Real keeper that. Needless to say, I never met him.
  • slessofme
    slessofme Posts: 7,740 Member
    A bit more honesty (with themselves and others) from both sides would make the process more enjoyable.

    If just looking to rail... do it on an app that is specific to that - there are plenty out there and can be found with the dating apps in any app store. Or be really blatant about it in a profile on a dating app. Don't waste time and attention on people with different intentions. Reduces the amount of miscommunication and mismatched expectations.

    If focused on developing a relationship... don't bother interacting with, or meeting, someone that is blatant about only wanting to rail. Don't allow those with different intentions to distract from the goal. Reduces the frustration on both sides.