I'm too sexual looking...........accusation from a gym membe

Oh Please! Its a gym. You're wearing gym clothes. Maybe someone should suggest she find a Curves.

I'm thinking a fire-shooting cod-piece, like Blackie Lawless of WASP used to wear.

Best idea yet!

I got a warning from my Group Fitness Supervisor today to be aware of my clothing at the gym. In my avatar, I'm wearing the same spandex that I was accused of being "too sexual looking" in when a complaint was put in the suggestion box! I wear them because if I just wore shorts, every time I kick (and I kick high) in kickboxing instruction, you'd see my "junk". At least this way I'm "contained". Through the grapevine, apparently it's from a very "religious and conservative" woman who attends my classes.

So your opinion: If I wore that to an instruction class, would you be offended?

BTW, I have no choice but to "cover up" more.

I don't really see a problem with what you're wearing.. but then I'm not looking at your toodles. Though, I think some of the other guys here in the correctional facility may have a few sexy thoughts about you.

How did you find out it was me that complained?

Ok, it wasn't really me. I'm a very conservative Christian though but I've never thought of you as being too sexual looking in that outfit. Seems appropriate enough to me.

If she's in your class, maybe wear something loose but appropriate that might fling your junk in her direction. Next time you wear the container-wear she might be more appreciative :-P What you're wearing in the pic looks like normal gym apparel to me.

THIS!!!

Kinda reminds me of Ben Stiller's character from the movie Dodgeball :drinker:

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What do the male instructors at your gym wear to teach spin class? I would assume it would be bike shorts like what you have on. Maybe you could be like one psycho spin instructor I had who was constantly yelling "eyes" and doing the whole two fingers at his eyes, two fingers at our eyes. Maybe you could do the same and keep her eyes on your other "parts" besides what she is obviously focusing on! :laugh:

Well, if you wore some white spandex with taint stains that should avert those sexual predators' eyes from staring at the crotchal area.

Taint stains?? WTF is coming out of your taint area, love?? :huh:

Here's a solution...

I'll give the unpopular answer.... If it's only "Through the grapevine" that it was one lady, maybe that's the problem. If the supervisor felt the need to approach you about the attire, it seems like they have gotten more than one complaint about it.

I wondered this myself. Unless you know for sure (as in the women talked to you personally) that's the particular student that's troubled by it, you really don't know for sure where the complaint is coming from.

Could be the supervisor is uncomfy bringing it up and so she put it off on this one person. Seriously would you get a warning as an instructor for ONE complaint from one person? That is hard to believe at least with the class sizes around here. I don't know how big your classes are but that's seems a bit strange to me.

just some thoughts..

dude, just wear Under-Armour type shorts/boxers with some unrestrictive soccer shorts over it. That's what I'd wear to some of these MMA classes and such.

I've looked into it. I'm just a cheap *kitten*. $50 bucks for those shorts is a lot to me. I may well just have to go that direction.

Do you have an Under-Armour Outlet by you? You can find all that stuff for a lot cheaper then in their normal stores/online.

Back to your original question.. I don't think the outfits a problem. You gotta wear what you gotta wear to keep the goods in place.. and if she doesn't like it, then maybe suggest another class she can take.

Keep doing what you are doing. If she just can't keep her eyes off you and keep complaining, what's the worst that could happen? So the gym bans you from being too sexy for the other people... then you get new shorts with a caption on the front part of them reading; "I got banned from FridGym from being too sexy, wanna go out?".

Win win.

Here's an unpopular opinion, and maybe a little surprising... I HATE spandex. With a passioin. I don't care to see anyone's business in that much detail. I am a HUGE fan of the human body, men and women, and am all about seeing it naked! But packaged up tight in spandex is not flattering, to anyone, IMO. It's really easy to buy a pair of cheap shorts to wear over the spandex, just make sure they have a drawstring so you won't have the slipping down issue.

I do feel uncomfortable about someone in spandex (only), whatever gender, however fit. Not so much that i'd complain about it, but since you asked...

My supe is up front with me. She told me it was the very first complaint, so she hasn't taken it seriously and wanted to give me a heads up.

There is customer service, and there is pointless pandering to the more "challenged" members of society.

For every one woman who is disgusted by your (presumably "God given" in her addled mind) physique, there will be a dozen sane women who quietly and harmlessly enjoy seeing what a fit guy looks like. Or even *gasp* actually take notice of what you're trying to teach them, rather than leering over your body.

All too often, employers take notice of the loudest non representative voice, rather than the quiet voice of the overwhelming majority.

My recommendation? Ignore the stupid b*tch.

There is NOTHING disgusting or immoral about the human body, anyone who thinks there is has issues of their own that need addressing.

To answer your question "would you be offended?", no I wouldn't find your attire offensive, nor in fact would I find it at all offensive if you turned up stark bollock naked. I've seen a lot of naked men in my life, really, unless they're a sexual partner, it's no big deal.

What would be offensive to me is if you couldn't teach a good class, or if your warm up / cool down routines were inadequate.