I'm too sexual looking...........accusation from a gym membe

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  • ritajean3
    ritajean3 Posts: 306 Member
    Can I ask why you don't get shorts over the top that have drawstrings? If you tie them up tight enough they won't slip as easily as non drawstring ones. Do them tight enough not to slip but not so tight they cut into you.

    If you are covering your junk up with a shirt than there shouldn't be any issue except when you kick ect. I would say in all honestly she is just finding you attractive ect or has a issue with you in general or the gym and has taken it out on you by putting in this complaint. People are stupid and unless you get more complaints or you supervisor specifically tells you to I wouldn't bother changing.
  • TourThePast
    TourThePast Posts: 1,753 Member
    Can I ask why you don't get shorts over the top that have drawstrings?
    As a gym member, rather than an employee, I'll tell you why I personally wouldn't wear a second pair of shorts to go over the top of my shorts.

    1. I've worked bloody hard from being obese, to getting this body and I feel entitled to show it off, plus it provides inspiration. If I can turn myself around and end up looking like this, so can anyone.

    2. Wearing two pairs of shorts just because some random woman is apparently scared of seeing the human body is just bloody stupid. Maybe I should wear a bag over my head in case my smile beguiles innocents... *rolls eyes*
  • mea9
    mea9 Posts: 561 Member
    Your Boss needs to grow a pair and back his employee.
    ^^ This
    You don't know who it is though. I'd be careful guessing as the grapevine is less than reliable and often invested... What if it was another employee? Anyone have an issue with you?
  • sleepytexan
    sleepytexan Posts: 3,138 Member
    ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha!

    sorry.

    HA HA HA HA HAHA HA!!!!

    I'm too sexy for my work, too sexy for my work, so sexy it hurts . . . .

    ooh -- do you think being sexy burns extra calories??
  • arewethereyet
    arewethereyet Posts: 18,702 Member
    maybe it's the tight *kitten* that offends. wear shorts over the spandex, or invest in some Lulu for men :wink:
    Shirts I wear hang low enough to cover my butt and crotch area. Which is why I'm still wondering why she complained.

    maybe you were giving her a neck ache from craning her head in that weird position so she could see under the shirt?

    Just a suggestion:indifferent:
  • TheShelterCat
    TheShelterCat Posts: 160
    Maybe you should refrain from teaching classes in spandex with an erection.

    hahahahahahaha
  • Johnnyswife
    Johnnyswife Posts: 1,447 Member
    I got a warning from my Group Fitness Supervisor today to be aware of my clothing at the gym. In my avatar, I'm wearing the same spandex that I was accused of being "too sexual looking" in when a complaint was put in the suggestion box! I wear them because if I just wore shorts, every time I kick (and I kick high) in kickboxing instruction, you'd see my "junk". At least this way I'm "contained". Through the grapevine, apparently it's from a very "religious and conservative" woman who attends my classes.

    So your opinion: If I wore that to an instruction class, would you be offended?

    BTW, I have no choice but to "cover up" more.
    Sounds like she's got the hots for ya. lol Your supposed to wear close fitting clothes at the gym..I'd rather not see your junk while working out...Do others wear the same clothes? She can't make everyone change their clothes.
  • JNick77
    JNick77 Posts: 3,783 Member
    I got a warning from my Group Fitness Supervisor today to be aware of my clothing at the gym. In my avatar, I'm wearing the same spandex that I was accused of being "too sexual looking" in when a complaint was put in the suggestion box! I wear them because if I just wore shorts, every time I kick (and I kick high) in kickboxing instruction, you'd see my "junk". At least this way I'm "contained". Through the grapevine, apparently it's from a very "religious and conservative" woman who attends my classes.

    So your opinion: If I wore that to an instruction class, would you be offended?

    BTW, I have no choice but to "cover up" more.

    Thinking about this from a pure business stand point. Because one lady made that complaint there are probably even more women that come to the class just because of how you look and that would drive business which as a gym manager I'd tell this lady to deal with it that you're a fitness professional.
  • mnerfariousl
    mnerfariousl Posts: 41 Member
    if she was focused on her workouts she would have no time noticing your spandex goodness...i mean i would love some eye candy when i work out...:blushing:
  • jenny95662
    jenny95662 Posts: 997 Member
    Well, if you wore some white spandex with taint stains that should avert those sexual predators' eyes from staring at the crotchal area.

    omg i love you thats great
  • AlsDonkBoxSquat
    AlsDonkBoxSquat Posts: 6,128 Member
    I totally would not be offended, unless you didn't occassionally turn around and bend over (I'm an *kitten* girl). I think she sucks.
  • adross3
    adross3 Posts: 606 Member
    I don't Care what you wear....BUT, in a profesional environment clothes must be worn not to offend anybody. You work at a business that is not yours. You do not have the right to wear offensive clothes. If you owned the business you have the right to refuse service.
  • snowintx
    snowintx Posts: 11 Member
    Your reply made me laugh.
  • snowintx
    snowintx Posts: 11 Member
    Your reply made me laugh.
  • billsica
    billsica Posts: 4,741 Member
    only made it though part of this thread. I'd ask to see the dress code policy of the gym so you know what is appropriate.
  • SMarie10
    SMarie10 Posts: 956 Member
    want to read this - Bump
  • infamousmk
    infamousmk Posts: 6,033 Member
    I'm being sexually offended right now. You should take your top off, though.
  • Umeboshi
    Umeboshi Posts: 1,637 Member
    I don't Care what you wear....BUT, in a profesional environment clothes must be worn not to offend anybody. You work at a business that is not yours. You do not have the right to wear offensive clothes. If you owned the business you have the right to refuse service.
    I'm offended by shirtless men and bare legs. I shall complain and make all of the people in the gym wear pants and shirts.
  • Umeboshi
    Umeboshi Posts: 1,637 Member
    Fabulous double-post powers, activate.
  • Cait_Sidhe
    Cait_Sidhe Posts: 3,150 Member
    I'm thinking a fire-shooting cod-piece, like Blackie Lawless of WASP used to wear.

    Best idea yet!
    Definitely! A cod piece seems to be the only logical option here. Bonus points for a flame shooting one!
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 49,024 Member
    Can I ask why you don't get shorts over the top that have drawstrings? If you tie them up tight enough they won't slip as easily as non drawstring ones. Do them tight enough not to slip but not so tight they cut into you.

    If you are covering your junk up with a shirt than there shouldn't be any issue except when you kick ect. I would say in all honestly she is just finding you attractive ect or has a issue with you in general or the gym and has taken it out on you by putting in this complaint. People are stupid and unless you get more complaints or you supervisor specifically tells you to I wouldn't bother changing.
    Not saying that I can't wear shorts over them. But during a high intensity workout, it gets uncomfortable wearing layers of clothing. With just the spandex, at least "air out" and not build up lots of heat around the area below my waist.
  • suzycreamcheese
    suzycreamcheese Posts: 1,766 Member
    remove the sparkely codpiece?
  • myofibril
    myofibril Posts: 4,500 Member
    I don't Care what you wear....BUT, in a profesional environment clothes must be worn not to offend anybody. You work at a business that is not yours. You do not have the right to wear offensive clothes. If you owned the business you have the right to refuse service.

    True, but you cannot extrapolate a trend from a single complaint. The aim of a private business is to maximise profits and to do that you cater to what the most number of people want, not the least.

    Maybe the majority don't actually mind (and hey some may actually prefer it...) In addition there maybe more complaints or dropouts if the intensity of the workout suffers because they instructor is forced to cover up.

    A good business decision would look at the overall trend before formulating policy NOT retrograde, reactionary steps based on imperfect information.
  • MrsBlobs
    MrsBlobs Posts: 310 Member
    This seems silly to me. When I've taken classes I'm more worried about my own jiggly bits moving around (earthquake alert) and not hurting myself to be studying what the instructor is wearing.

    Sounds like you are the victim of someone elses neurosis, unfortunately. It's their problem and not yours, but you are performing a service for paying clients so it's a difficult one. But I do agree with the others, I would rather catch an outline in spandex than meet the meat and veg in person.

    You can get shorts with an inner bit that holds you in and covers you up - which may mean you could dispense with the lower spandex all together. At least that way you won't be layering to such an extent.
  • InfamousQ
    InfamousQ Posts: 266 Member
    Think it is amazing how the opinion of one or a small few change everything for everybody else.......
  • kimmie790
    kimmie790 Posts: 26
    Threaten them with wearing a man-kini!!! Borat style!!!
    That should shut them up!!!!!

    Gotta love the fashion police!!!!
  • BrettPGH
    BrettPGH Posts: 4,716 Member
    I got a warning from my Group Fitness Supervisor today to be aware of my clothing at the gym. In my avatar, I'm wearing the same spandex that I was accused of being "too sexual looking" in when a complaint was put in the suggestion box! I wear them because if I just wore shorts, every time I kick (and I kick high) in kickboxing instruction, you'd see my "junk". At least this way I'm "contained". Through the grapevine, apparently it's from a very "religious and conservative" woman who attends my classes.

    So your opinion: If I wore that to an instruction class, would you be offended?

    BTW, I have no choice but to "cover up" more.

    Easy fix. Explain that you're a devout muslim and you demand that woman cover herself completely.

    If she's smart at all she'll get it.
  • swordsmith
    swordsmith Posts: 599 Member
    Find a new gym
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 49,024 Member
    So got an email from my supe and she said that I am in compliance with dress code and that I can choose to cover up the spandex or not. Let's see if I get another complaint!
  • Kate6868
    Kate6868 Posts: 159 Member
    They look like gym clothes to me. When I'm at the gym, I expect to see gym clothes. Now, if you showed up at a nice restaurant like that, I might be concerned.
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