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Motorsheen wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »I am scared that one day I am going to come to not know myself. I am very averse to conflict, I don't have the fight or flight response, I have the freeze response. When in situations of conflict I usually just freeze. It's hard to explain, but I don't put up defences and I also don't take anything being said too seriously. When that happens it also means I don't remember things well because I'm actively trying to be neutral, to just let things glide across my brain like snow over ice. Waiting for it to be over. I don't know why I do this (okay, maybe I do if I think about it). Because I avoid conflict I generally say "yes" to everything. I'm not scared of new things, I actually love new things and I'm not generally not scared of failure. What I'm scared of is what if one day I keep saying "yes" only to realize I should have said "no" for my own happiness and wellbeing? What if it's already happened, but I'm just going merrily along along along and never really know if I am happy or just neutral.
There's a scene in the movie Carol with Cate Blanchett and Ronney Mara that talks about something similar in Ronney Mara's character. When I heard it, I realised that I absolutely could relate. Cate Blanchett's character asks Ronney Mara (with whom she is having an affair) what she is thinking about and Ronney Mara's character responds:
"I should have said "No" to you but I never say "No". And it's selfish because... because I just take everything and I don't know anything. And I don't know what I want. How could I when all I ever do is say "Yes" to everything?"
Along similar lines, I don't like talking about my feelings because I don't know them very well so this is some scary *kitten* for me to post. Really hope no one I actually know is reading this . . . POSTING AND HOPEFULLY NO REGRETS.
You misspelled 'Defenses'.
Wanna fight about it ?
.... and when I say 'fight', I mean thumb-wrestle.
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Well...technically
So now we don’t need to fight about it 😜. However, just because I don’t like fighting doesn’t mean a good thumb war can’t come in handy from time to time (see what I did there...)
DEFENSE
Also. Vitamin is pronounced V-Eye-Ta-Men
not: Vit-a-Men
Let's see, what else?
Behavior (drop the 'u', it doesn't belong, no more than the added 'e' on 'Center(e)'
And while we're at it, 'Whilst' isn't a real word.
Why are the above true? .....because we say so.
woah, woah, woah... "Whilst" isn't a word
Triggered ..
Oh and our Defence Force will not be changing its name for you 😄😝4 -
sweet_ermengarde wrote: »i quit this one job i had and its for the best, bc i like teaching way better and its less stressful but *kitten* *kitten* *kitten* i can hear the voices in my head of my family telling me i’m throwing away opportunities and yelling about me about my potential
we dont even talk anymore and they still haunting me
I'm glad you're doing what you love ❤2 -
sweet_ermengarde wrote: »i quit this one job i had and its for the best, bc i like teaching way better and its less stressful but *kitten* *kitten* *kitten* i can hear the voices in my head of my family telling me i’m throwing away opportunities and yelling about me about my potential
we dont even talk anymore and they still haunting me
Teaching is such a noble profession and a great show of service. In terms of transferable skills, teachers have MANY of those.3 -
sweet_ermengarde wrote: »i quit this one job i had and its for the best, bc i like teaching way better and its less stressful but *kitten* *kitten* *kitten* i can hear the voices in my head of my family telling me i’m throwing away opportunities and yelling about me about my potential
we dont even talk anymore and they still haunting me
What's that saying about find a job you love and you'll never work another day in your life?
Stick with what you like better. Happiness day to day is worth more than the big bucks, the fancy promotions, or whatever those opportunities are.
I've lived both and I picked the job I love.3 -
I found jobs I could tolerate, some I was even good at. But after 41 years of work I don't know if I ever loved one of my jobs. Sad but true. Now I'm retired and WOW, I love that job. Working around my own place, helping my daughter, doing volunteer work (that includes construction), playing in a band. It's amazing. I would have loved to be a professional musician and vocalist, but with a family to feed, clothe, house and provide for, I just couldn't take that risk.12
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What do you feel is the function of suffering in this life?2
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ladyzherra wrote: »What do you feel is the function of suffering in this life?
perspective
and gratitude8 -
ladyzherra wrote: »What do you feel is the function of suffering in this life?
To help us let go of things not meant for us, and facilitate change...
To make us stronger...4 -
ladyzherra wrote: »What do you feel is the function of suffering in this life?
balance5 -
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ladyzherra wrote: »What do you feel is the function of suffering in this life?
like stones in a tumbler.
you go in rough and imperfectly formed.
you spin around get banged up get smashed against the chaos
in the end you either shatter
or you come out perfected5 -
ladyzherra wrote: »What do you feel is the function of suffering in this life?
Today I don't think there is a point - it just is.
I may think something else tomorrow.2 -
i’ve been trying to stay super busy and i guess been successful at it but its not really helping all that much but i’m not sure what else to do7
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ladyzherra wrote: »What do you feel is the function of suffering in this life?
Recognizing the "good times"3 -
ladyzherra wrote: »What do you feel is the function of suffering in this life?
Recognizing the "good times"
yes.. without the bad times you won't recognise and appreciate the good2 -
I feel like the forums are too fake sometimes. I’m not sure if this is because the moderators are so quick to censor or put a stop to sensitive topics or because people are afraid to be vulnerable or talk about real things. Stop the self deprecation and be real. That’s how I feel sometimes.5
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ladyzherra wrote: »What do you feel is the function of suffering in this life?
Every experience in life is for the soul to grow, over many lifetimes. The sufferings one endures in this life will be different than those in the next, as well as the positive emotions.
Sufferings and joys allow souls to become richer and more nuanced. The soul's aim is to experience all that exists - the infinity of life, until it is omniscient and omnipotent, like God. Then it becomes one with God.
After that, it can create worlds.
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If you show your face you strike a balance between oversharing and reeling it back in for your career and resume. Mmm hmm.
Six degrees of separation is now two. The world is shrinking. 1 -
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ladyzherra wrote: »What do you feel is the function of suffering in this life?
Its the foundation for peace and succes.1 -
I feel like the forums are too fake sometimes. I’m not sure if this is because the moderators are so quick to censor or put a stop to sensitive topics or because people are afraid to be vulnerable or talk about real things. Stop the self deprecation and be real. That’s how I feel sometimes.
My self-deprecation isn't a schtick but a daily practice of balancing self-acceptance with a touch of veritable surprise, a dose of delight and what I hope is received as a gallon of genuine grace (for others as well as myself).8 -
ladyzherra wrote: »What do you feel is the function of suffering in this life?
Best function I've found is gratitude and appreciation of the good. But my own personal jury is still out on whether it's a good balance.
Especially for some people who seem to get a world of suffering thrown at them while some sit high in their shiny thrones and keep on prospering.
All I can say is 'D@mN you Eve, put the apple down!!'4 -
Honestly?ladyzherra wrote: »What do you feel is the function of suffering in this life?
I don't think things life events serve a function. I think they just happen and we have to deal with them, good or bad.
We like to imagine there's more behind them, usually after the fact, because that's how our brains are wired: we don't deal well with randomness.6 -
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KickTheSky wrote: »ladyzherra wrote: »What do you feel is the function of suffering in this life?
Best function I've found is gratitude and appreciation of the good. But my own personal jury is still out on whether it's a good balance. Especially for some people who seem to get a world of suffering thrown at them while some sit high in their shiny thrones and keep on prospering.
All I can say is 'D@mN you Eve, put the apple down!!'
What if the balance wasn't with one person but rather everyone? Maybe the people that have it wonderful are balanced by the people with horrible lives.
Well then, the old saying goes "It isn't fair!" because it truly isn't.
I hate it when a cloud seems to follow certain people around.
And I don't believe in the saying 'God gives us only as much as we can handle'. My sister is a case in point. I have no idea how she hasn't crumpled into a heap by now. 3 -
I am always wearing a mask. A happy mask. Always smiling.
I am seriously battling with binge eating and depression10 -
Versicolour wrote: »I am always wearing a mask. A happy mask. Always smiling.
I am seriously battling with binge eating and depression
I hope you have the professional supports you need in place for your health and...I'm glad you have THIS place to safely share smiley moments and *kitten* moments1 -
Versicolour wrote: »I am always wearing a mask. A happy mask. Always smiling.
I am seriously battling with binge eating and depression
I hope you have the professional supports you need in place for your health and...I'm glad you have THIS place to safely share smiley moments and *kitten* moments
No. Unfortunately I don't have any professional support. But as useless as this is for controlling the binging, I am glad to have it as an emotional outlet and some form of company in my lonely moments5 -
ladyzherra wrote: »What do you feel is the function of suffering in this life?
If I wasn't so miserable it'd be over for you hoes
But really I think it's either random and has no meaning or it's karma from a past life.6
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