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MiNinaLisa wrote: »A month ago the doctors told me my husband had a stroke. Two days later they tell me it wasn't a stroke, it's a large brain tumor. Three weeks ago they removed the brain tumor (he's healing up well!) and then told us it was malignant but not brain cancer. After a whole bunch of test they have narrowed it down to a neuroendocrine cancer that has metastasized to several areas. I have been caring for him and trying to keep up with my job (who knew I could do so much work from the hospital?).
But sometimes I need to take off my Super Woman cape and I can come here and look at pretty pictures and funny memes or read witty, funny or interesting conversations. It's my break from what I'm up against. I was surprised to read in this thread that other people use it as a break too. Makes me feel less alone in my thoughts.
i hear you so loudly on this. when something obscure health wise arises out of nowhere ,and an initial diagnosis is made, that is alone enough to deal with. then upon further testing more serious maladies rear their ugly head, it's a complete faceplant. i'm so sorry that you and your husband are going through this. i also had a rare condition occur in a very fast timeline and through months of tests, was eventually diagnosed with stage four lymphoma. i have a great medical team supporting me and i hope your husband does also also. if you ever need to vent or would like a new friend - please feel free to add me. my thoughts and vibes go out to you and your husband/family
Super huge hugs to you and thank you! You are right, it all happened so fast I still don't have my bearings.
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_DisasterDoll_ wrote: »sweet_ermengarde wrote: »y’all ever think back to something you’ve done like some old memory just floats through your brain randomly and u are just horrified with some *kitten* u did, or the person u used to be ?
this happens to me and like i will literally start walking away from where’ve i am, like i think i can physically get away from the memory, or i will even accidentally say out loud “no” like i can stop my former self
So much yes. And I will obsess over it and be anxious/humiliated/ragey all over again and start thinking about how the people who “witnessed” said event prolly also think about it and how pathetic/embarrassing/etc. I was and then will want to crawl in a hole and die.
you don't have to do that. you can start forgiving yourself right now. we've ALL of us had moments like that. i've had more than i care to remember, and i've forgiven myself for all my *kitten* things i've done. because it's life and we did what we did at that particular moment. change starts from within. i beat myself up for so many things i did, i apologized to who i had to yet still i felt guilt. within the past few years my life changed drastically and realized i had to let a lot of *kitten* go. you can do this. everyone can. don't wait as long as i did, please. 8 -
sweet_ermengarde wrote: »y’all ever think back to something you’ve done like some old memory just floats through your brain randomly and u are just horrified with some *kitten* u did, or the person u used to be ?
this happens to me and like i will literally start walking away from where’ve i am, like i think i can physically get away from the memory, or i will even accidentally say out loud “no” like i can stop my former self
Probably every day and especially when I’m trying to sleep.ButterIsGood wrote: »I'm afraid of failure. I don't think I have what it takes to be good at anything. As soon as something becomes challenging, I abandon it. I'm 25 and I feel stuck in my life and its been like this for 4 years now. Feels like my life is a complete waste. Nothing ever changes. I'm terrified of making any moves forward because I don't want to fail or be rejected. But being stuck is also causing me anxiety and depression. Just stuck.
I relate, reminds me of a children’s story about a tree with leaves that represented paths in life. The person just sits under the tree until all the leaves “opportunities “ are gone because they have a time limit. I think the moral is to not wait and make a choice while the choice is available.5 -
ElTriste1973 wrote: »Social media helps us present ourselves to the world without the struggles, defects, inadequacies and vulnerability of real life. As humans we need to show that vulnerability to others . That is what makes us humans and why we develop strong ties with others. I am grateful for all the stories shared in this thread.
verdad, hombre.2 -
@ButterisGood That yayhoo did a number on your head. None of that is true. You're stunning and beautiful but beyond that you've got a sweetness and goodness that's going to carry you forward into the rest of your life.
I think you're wonderful and the sky is not the limit for you. There's infinity. It goes on forever.
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Diatonic12 wrote: »@ButterisGood That yayhoo did a number on your head. None of that is true. You're stunning and beautiful but beyond that you've got a sweetness and goodness that's going to carry you forward into the rest of your life.
I think you're wonderful and the sky is not the limit for you. There's infinity. It goes on forever.
Thank you. I've been trying to slowly get unstuck in this phase in my life. Just need to be okay with failure if it happens2 -
sweet_ermengarde wrote: »y’all ever think back to something you’ve done like some old memory just floats through your brain randomly and u are just horrified with some *kitten* u did, or the person u used to be ?
this happens to me and like i will literally start walking away from where’ve i am, like i think i can physically get away from the memory, or i will even accidentally say out loud “no” like i can stop my former self
Yikes, I find myself doing that way too often. Thinking back to mistakes I made in my life, which is silly really, because it's not like we can change the past.
Too many negative emotions and time wasted on it. I always felt, no matter what happened, I was the one responsible; it must've been my fault(like I always acted alone??), must be my guilty conscience. Sometimes those thoughts will wake me up in the middle of the night and I become obsessed by them. 5 -
ButterIsGood wrote: »I'm afraid of failure. I don't think I have what it takes to be good at anything. As soon as something becomes challenging, I abandon it. I'm 25 and I feel stuck in my life and its been like this for 4 years now. Feels like my life is a complete waste. Nothing ever changes. I'm terrified of making any moves forward because I don't want to fail or be rejected. But being stuck is also causing me anxiety and depression. Just stuck.
Take a small step out of your comfort zone and learn to love yourself, laugh a lot and live your life! Just one small step at a time and pretty soon the successes will multiple and your confidence levels will allow you to try new things more often. YOU can do this. We all fail sometimes. We all learn from our mistakes. AND we all feel stuck at times. Just keep moving forward, whether it's by inches or a mile, each day.
I tend to stay in the house, in my comfortable little cocoon, where I feel safe and cannot make mistakes or be a failure at anything. Then I look out at the world passing me by and realize all that I'm missing. So please, take 1 step out of your comfort zone and soon you'll feel as if you can do it more freely. I have a 29 yo dd who always holds her head high and appears to be the epitome of confidence. I asked her once how she got all the confidence in our family( no one else seems to have it 
). She told me she acts the part. Maybe pretending will get you to the feeling real part.
Don't let anyone else define who you want to be; that is for you to find for yourself. And enjoy life along the way.
Many years ago, I got to a point in my life where I really didn't care what happened to me. My dear friend talked me into flying to Florida for a week. Everything in me said no. But they bought me a ticket anyways and I went(my dd age 13 at the time had been invited so it made it a bit easier). I had never flown due to being afraid. Then my dear friend insisted we go parasailing; okay being terribly afraid of heights and water, I again said no. But she got me up there somehow. It was amazing and I'll always remember the experience. Just last summer of 2019, my dd and her bf convinced me to fly to Iceland with them. Again, my brain was screaming nononono, but I went and am glad I did. Lots of mistakes along the way and feeling like a buffoon but it was so worth it.
So take that step outside of your comfort zone.
Just one more thing.....Nature helps. Honestly. Who can climb to the top of a mountain, or sit on the edge of an ocean and not be in awe of our world? It is truly be
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@Christi1979 HUGE hugs to you, what a difficult time for you and your family. I'm sorry. 2
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ButterIsGood wrote: »I'm afraid of failure. I don't think I have what it takes to be good at anything. As soon as something becomes challenging, I abandon it. I'm 25 and I feel stuck in my life and its been like this for 4 years now. Feels like my life is a complete waste. Nothing ever changes. I'm terrified of making any moves forward because I don't want to fail or be rejected. But being stuck is also causing me anxiety and depression. Just stuck.
I felt the same for much of my career. Graduated university with an honours degree feeling like I didn't know anything remotely useful. Accepted the first full-time job offered and it took me years to actually feel competent (although, looking back, I was competent, I just didn't see it). It wasn't really my ideal job but applying for something different was scary (rejection!), as was learning a new role and feeling less-than-competent all over again. 32 years later I'm still with the same employer.
Eventually I got promoted to a very different position and found my niche. I love what I do. I love what I do so much that I'm still doing it even though I could have retired two years ago. Challenges are fun and engaging, they're something to stretch my abilities and master. I'm considered an expert in my field and the top performer in my role provincially (not that this is measured very often, it's not a competitive field).
I think the trick is to find something you like so much that you WANT to tackle the challenging parts, because that means you can continue to do what you enjoy, and do it better.5 -
@Christi1979 HUGE hugs to you, what a difficult time for you and your family. I'm sorry.
Thank you. Things have improved so much. That's the thing about difficult times.... you just have to find the strength to push through b/c it does get better.4 -
I keep reading this thread as seriously deep heavy 🙊 stuff2
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Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »I keep reading this thread as seriously deep heavy 🙊 stuff
I keep reading it to my psychiatrist6 -
_DisasterDoll_ wrote: »Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »I keep reading this thread as seriously deep heavy 🙊 stuff
I keep reading it to my psychiatrist
does she say dumb things like my therapist goin on about “are we discussing a real person or one of your apparitions?” 🙄
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sweet_ermengarde wrote: »_DisasterDoll_ wrote: »Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »I keep reading this thread as seriously deep heavy 🙊 stuff
I keep reading it to my psychiatrist
does she say dumb things like my therapist goin on about “are we discussing a real person or one of your apparitions?” 🙄
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_DisasterDoll_ wrote: »Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »I keep reading this thread as seriously deep heavy 🙊 stuff
I keep reading it to my psychiatrist
Audible.com is my therapist 🤷🏽♂️...
Before enlightenment, chop wood carry water...
After enlightenment, chop wood carry water...
Although I know it's just not always that simple tho..
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_DisasterDoll_ wrote: »Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »I keep reading this thread as seriously deep heavy 🙊 stuff
I keep reading it to my psychiatrist
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I am scared that one day I am going to come to not know myself. I am very averse to conflict, I don't have the fight or flight response, I have the freeze response. When in situations of conflict I usually just freeze. It's hard to explain, but I don't put up defences and I also don't take anything being said too seriously. When that happens it also means I don't remember things well because I'm actively trying to be neutral, to just let things glide across my brain like snow over ice. Waiting for it to be over. I don't know why I do this (okay, maybe I do if I think about it). Because I avoid conflict I generally say "yes" to everything. I'm not scared of new things, I actually love new things and I'm not generally not scared of failure. What I'm scared of is what if one day I keep saying "yes" only to realize I should have said "no" for my own happiness and wellbeing? What if it's already happened, but I'm just going merrily along along along and never really know if I am happy or just neutral.
There's a scene in the movie Carol with Cate Blanchett and Ronney Mara that talks about something similar in Ronney Mara's character. When I heard it, I realised that I absolutely could relate. Cate Blanchett's character asks Ronney Mara (with whom she is having an affair) what she is thinking about and Ronney Mara's character responds:
"I should have said "No" to you but I never say "No". And it's selfish because... because I just take everything and I don't know anything. And I don't know what I want. How could I when all I ever do is say "Yes" to everything?"
Along similar lines, I don't like talking about my feelings because I don't know them very well so this is some scary *kitten* for me to post. Really hope no one I actually know is reading this . . . POSTING AND HOPEFULLY NO REGRETS.9 -
I am scared that one day I am going to come to not know myself. I am very averse to conflict, I don't have the fight or flight response, I have the freeze response. When in situations of conflict I usually just freeze. It's hard to explain, but I don't put up defences and I also don't take anything being said too seriously. When that happens it also means I don't remember things well because I'm actively trying to be neutral, to just let things glide across my brain like snow over ice. Waiting for it to be over. I don't know why I do this (okay, maybe I do if I think about it). Because I avoid conflict I generally say "yes" to everything. I'm not scared of new things, I actually love new things and I'm not generally not scared of failure. What I'm scared of is what if one day I keep saying "yes" only to realize I should have said "no" for my own happiness and wellbeing? What if it's already happened, but I'm just going merrily along along along and never really know if I am happy or just neutral.
There's a scene in the movie Carol with Cate Blanchett and Ronney Mara that talks about something similar in Ronney Mara's character. When I heard it, I realised that I absolutely could relate. Cate Blanchett's character asks Ronney Mara (with whom she is having an affair) what she is thinking about and Ronney Mara's character responds:
"I should have said "No" to you but I never say "No". And it's selfish because... because I just take everything and I don't know anything. And I don't know what I want. How could I when all I ever do is say "Yes" to everything?"
Along similar lines, I don't like talking about my feelings because I don't know them very well so this is some scary *kitten* for me to post. Really hope no one I actually know is reading this . . . POSTING AND HOPEFULLY NO REGRETS.
You misspelled 'Defenses'.
Wanna fight about it ?
.... and when I say 'fight', I mean thumb-wrestle.
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I just need to put this in the universe because holding onto it is making my heart heavy..
Trying to find a person that I can ride and die with in a culture that's all about frivolous encounters and hookups is a special kind of hell. I know my value and what I expect from people and I'm not willing to budge on any of it.. I'd rather be alone than to accept garbage. It's to the point where id rather give up than to keep looking..14 -
RockingWithLJ wrote: »I just need to put this in the universe because holding onto it is making my heart heavy..
Trying to find a person that I can ride and die with in a culture that's all about frivolous encounters and hookups is a special kind of hell. I know my value and what I expect from people and I'm not willing to budge on any of it.. I'd rather be alone than to accept garbage. It's to the point where id rather give up than to keep looking..
It's always felt like that, even way back when I was in that time of my life. It takes so much trial and error, a thick skin, and a huge amount of luck.
I firmly believe in that cliche of there being someone for everyone. Both my dds met someone serious through online dating. One of my dds has stayed with the guy for many years; you wouldn't believe how good they match and seem to get along. Who knows what their future holds.
My other dd was in her relationship for several years, it worked until it didn't.
It wasn't either of their first serious relationships.
I went through several 'loves'(or so I thought) before I got married. I'm still married but it's all changed between us now. Relationships evolve over time. We're more like house mates than anything.
You definitely don't need to accept anything just to be with someone. You need to find what you love in life, whether it's hiking, running, skiing, movies, beer/wine tastings, church, volunteering, etc. and you'll meet friends with similar tastes. If it grows, great. If not, you'll have good friends.
It might feel impossible finding someone honest, kind, loving, and all the positive qualities most of us look for, but when you least expect it......
Good luck!!! Find yourself first.
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Motorsheen wrote: »I am scared that one day I am going to come to not know myself. I am very averse to conflict, I don't have the fight or flight response, I have the freeze response. When in situations of conflict I usually just freeze. It's hard to explain, but I don't put up defences and I also don't take anything being said too seriously. When that happens it also means I don't remember things well because I'm actively trying to be neutral, to just let things glide across my brain like snow over ice. Waiting for it to be over. I don't know why I do this (okay, maybe I do if I think about it). Because I avoid conflict I generally say "yes" to everything. I'm not scared of new things, I actually love new things and I'm not generally not scared of failure. What I'm scared of is what if one day I keep saying "yes" only to realize I should have said "no" for my own happiness and wellbeing? What if it's already happened, but I'm just going merrily along along along and never really know if I am happy or just neutral.
There's a scene in the movie Carol with Cate Blanchett and Ronney Mara that talks about something similar in Ronney Mara's character. When I heard it, I realised that I absolutely could relate. Cate Blanchett's character asks Ronney Mara (with whom she is having an affair) what she is thinking about and Ronney Mara's character responds:
"I should have said "No" to you but I never say "No". And it's selfish because... because I just take everything and I don't know anything. And I don't know what I want. How could I when all I ever do is say "Yes" to everything?"
Along similar lines, I don't like talking about my feelings because I don't know them very well so this is some scary *kitten* for me to post. Really hope no one I actually know is reading this . . . POSTING AND HOPEFULLY NO REGRETS.
You misspelled 'Defenses'.
Wanna fight about it ?
.... and when I say 'fight', I mean thumb-wrestle.
.
Well...technically
So now we don’t need to fight about it 😜. However, just because I don’t like fighting doesn’t mean a good thumb war can’t come in handy from time to time (see what I did there...)8 -
Motorsheen wrote: »I am scared that one day I am going to come to not know myself. I am very averse to conflict, I don't have the fight or flight response, I have the freeze response. When in situations of conflict I usually just freeze. It's hard to explain, but I don't put up defences and I also don't take anything being said too seriously. When that happens it also means I don't remember things well because I'm actively trying to be neutral, to just let things glide across my brain like snow over ice. Waiting for it to be over. I don't know why I do this (okay, maybe I do if I think about it). Because I avoid conflict I generally say "yes" to everything. I'm not scared of new things, I actually love new things and I'm not generally not scared of failure. What I'm scared of is what if one day I keep saying "yes" only to realize I should have said "no" for my own happiness and wellbeing? What if it's already happened, but I'm just going merrily along along along and never really know if I am happy or just neutral.
There's a scene in the movie Carol with Cate Blanchett and Ronney Mara that talks about something similar in Ronney Mara's character. When I heard it, I realised that I absolutely could relate. Cate Blanchett's character asks Ronney Mara (with whom she is having an affair) what she is thinking about and Ronney Mara's character responds:
"I should have said "No" to you but I never say "No". And it's selfish because... because I just take everything and I don't know anything. And I don't know what I want. How could I when all I ever do is say "Yes" to everything?"
Along similar lines, I don't like talking about my feelings because I don't know them very well so this is some scary *kitten* for me to post. Really hope no one I actually know is reading this . . . POSTING AND HOPEFULLY NO REGRETS.
You misspelled 'Defenses'.
Wanna fight about it ?
.... and when I say 'fight', I mean thumb-wrestle.
.
Well...technically
So now we don’t need to fight about it 😜. However, just because I don’t like fighting doesn’t mean a good thumb war can’t come in handy from time to time (see what I did there...)
DEFENSE
Also. Vitamin is pronounced V-Eye-Ta-Men
not: Vit-a-Men
Let's see, what else?
Behavior (drop the 'u', it doesn't belong, no more than the added 'e' on 'Center(e)'
And while we're at it, 'Whilst' isn't a real word.
Why are the above true? .....because we say so.
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Motorsheen wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »I am scared that one day I am going to come to not know myself. I am very averse to conflict, I don't have the fight or flight response, I have the freeze response. When in situations of conflict I usually just freeze. It's hard to explain, but I don't put up defences and I also don't take anything being said too seriously. When that happens it also means I don't remember things well because I'm actively trying to be neutral, to just let things glide across my brain like snow over ice. Waiting for it to be over. I don't know why I do this (okay, maybe I do if I think about it). Because I avoid conflict I generally say "yes" to everything. I'm not scared of new things, I actually love new things and I'm not generally not scared of failure. What I'm scared of is what if one day I keep saying "yes" only to realize I should have said "no" for my own happiness and wellbeing? What if it's already happened, but I'm just going merrily along along along and never really know if I am happy or just neutral.
There's a scene in the movie Carol with Cate Blanchett and Ronney Mara that talks about something similar in Ronney Mara's character. When I heard it, I realised that I absolutely could relate. Cate Blanchett's character asks Ronney Mara (with whom she is having an affair) what she is thinking about and Ronney Mara's character responds:
"I should have said "No" to you but I never say "No". And it's selfish because... because I just take everything and I don't know anything. And I don't know what I want. How could I when all I ever do is say "Yes" to everything?"
Along similar lines, I don't like talking about my feelings because I don't know them very well so this is some scary *kitten* for me to post. Really hope no one I actually know is reading this . . . POSTING AND HOPEFULLY NO REGRETS.
You misspelled 'Defenses'.
Wanna fight about it ?
.... and when I say 'fight', I mean thumb-wrestle.
.
Well...technically
So now we don’t need to fight about it 😜. However, just because I don’t like fighting doesn’t mean a good thumb war can’t come in handy from time to time (see what I did there...)
DEFENSE
Also. Vitamin is pronounced V-Eye-Ta-Men
not: Vit-a-Men
Let's see, what else?
Behavior (drop the 'u', it doesn't belong, no more than the added 'e' on 'Center(e)'
And while we're at it, 'Whilst' isn't a real word.
Why are the above true? .....because we say so.
Yo look, I come from a confused place. I know how many kilometres it is to Timmy’s, but I don’t know how many centimetres tall I am. I weigh my food in grams but my body in pounds. Celsius makes more sense but only for weather cause if I’m baking WTF is 175C, I set the oven to 350F.
But your military budget is WAY higher than mine so my defences (😜) would not withstand your attack. So you can spell defence with an “s” and colour without a “u”. I won’t stop you or tell you it’s wrong. 😌4 -
I am scared that one day I am going to come to not know myself. I am very averse to conflict, I don't have the fight or flight response, I have the freeze response. When in situations of conflict I usually just freeze. It's hard to explain, but I don't put up defences and I also don't take anything being said too seriously. When that happens it also means I don't remember things well because I'm actively trying to be neutral, to just let things glide across my brain like snow over ice. Waiting for it to be over. I don't know why I do this (okay, maybe I do if I think about it). Because I avoid conflict I generally say "yes" to everything. I'm not scared of new things, I actually love new things and I'm not generally not scared of failure. What I'm scared of is what if one day I keep saying "yes" only to realize I should have said "no" for my own happiness and wellbeing? What if it's already happened, but I'm just going merrily along along along and never really know if I am happy or just neutral.
There's a scene in the movie Carol with Cate Blanchett and Ronney Mara that talks about something similar in Ronney Mara's character. When I heard it, I realised that I absolutely could relate. Cate Blanchett's character asks Ronney Mara (with whom she is having an affair) what she is thinking about and Ronney Mara's character responds:
"I should have said "No" to you but I never say "No". And it's selfish because... because I just take everything and I don't know anything. And I don't know what I want. How could I when all I ever do is say "Yes" to everything?"
Along similar lines, I don't like talking about my feelings because I don't know them very well so this is some scary *kitten* for me to post. Really hope no one I actually know is reading this . . . POSTING AND HOPEFULLY NO REGRETS.
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Motorsheen wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »I am scared that one day I am going to come to not know myself. I am very averse to conflict, I don't have the fight or flight response, I have the freeze response. When in situations of conflict I usually just freeze. It's hard to explain, but I don't put up defences and I also don't take anything being said too seriously. When that happens it also means I don't remember things well because I'm actively trying to be neutral, to just let things glide across my brain like snow over ice. Waiting for it to be over. I don't know why I do this (okay, maybe I do if I think about it). Because I avoid conflict I generally say "yes" to everything. I'm not scared of new things, I actually love new things and I'm not generally not scared of failure. What I'm scared of is what if one day I keep saying "yes" only to realize I should have said "no" for my own happiness and wellbeing? What if it's already happened, but I'm just going merrily along along along and never really know if I am happy or just neutral.
There's a scene in the movie Carol with Cate Blanchett and Ronney Mara that talks about something similar in Ronney Mara's character. When I heard it, I realised that I absolutely could relate. Cate Blanchett's character asks Ronney Mara (with whom she is having an affair) what she is thinking about and Ronney Mara's character responds:
"I should have said "No" to you but I never say "No". And it's selfish because... because I just take everything and I don't know anything. And I don't know what I want. How could I when all I ever do is say "Yes" to everything?"
Along similar lines, I don't like talking about my feelings because I don't know them very well so this is some scary *kitten* for me to post. Really hope no one I actually know is reading this . . . POSTING AND HOPEFULLY NO REGRETS.
You misspelled 'Defenses'.
Wanna fight about it ?
.... and when I say 'fight', I mean thumb-wrestle.
.
Well...technically
So now we don’t need to fight about it 😜. However, just because I don’t like fighting doesn’t mean a good thumb war can’t come in handy from time to time (see what I did there...)
DEFENSE
Also. Vitamin is pronounced V-Eye-Ta-Men
not: Vit-a-Men
Let's see, what else?
Behavior (drop the 'u', it doesn't belong, no more than the added 'e' on 'Center(e)'
And while we're at it, 'Whilst' isn't a real word.
Why are the above true? .....because we say so.
Now see? It's reasons like this that we're currently fighting over aluminum (pronounced by some as..."Ah-loo-MIN-ee-um" but that's another ball of wax...pronounced by some as "Wh-azk-its").
Let's all drive to the border and air hug it out.2 -
Motorsheen wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »I am scared that one day I am going to come to not know myself. I am very averse to conflict, I don't have the fight or flight response, I have the freeze response. When in situations of conflict I usually just freeze. It's hard to explain, but I don't put up defences and I also don't take anything being said too seriously. When that happens it also means I don't remember things well because I'm actively trying to be neutral, to just let things glide across my brain like snow over ice. Waiting for it to be over. I don't know why I do this (okay, maybe I do if I think about it). Because I avoid conflict I generally say "yes" to everything. I'm not scared of new things, I actually love new things and I'm not generally not scared of failure. What I'm scared of is what if one day I keep saying "yes" only to realize I should have said "no" for my own happiness and wellbeing? What if it's already happened, but I'm just going merrily along along along and never really know if I am happy or just neutral.
There's a scene in the movie Carol with Cate Blanchett and Ronney Mara that talks about something similar in Ronney Mara's character. When I heard it, I realised that I absolutely could relate. Cate Blanchett's character asks Ronney Mara (with whom she is having an affair) what she is thinking about and Ronney Mara's character responds:
"I should have said "No" to you but I never say "No". And it's selfish because... because I just take everything and I don't know anything. And I don't know what I want. How could I when all I ever do is say "Yes" to everything?"
Along similar lines, I don't like talking about my feelings because I don't know them very well so this is some scary *kitten* for me to post. Really hope no one I actually know is reading this . . . POSTING AND HOPEFULLY NO REGRETS.
You misspelled 'Defenses'.
Wanna fight about it ?
.... and when I say 'fight', I mean thumb-wrestle.
.
Well...technically
So now we don’t need to fight about it 😜. However, just because I don’t like fighting doesn’t mean a good thumb war can’t come in handy from time to time (see what I did there...)
DEFENSE
Also. Vitamin is pronounced V-Eye-Ta-Men
not: Vit-a-Men
Let's see, what else?
Behavior (drop the 'u', it doesn't belong, no more than the added 'e' on 'Center(e)'
And while we're at it, 'Whilst' isn't a real word.
Why are the above true? .....because we say so.
Now see? It's reasons like this that we're currently fighting over aluminum (pronounced by some as..."Ah-loo-MIN-ee-um" but that's another ball of wax...pronounced by some as "Wh-azk-its").
Let's all drive to the border and air hug it out.
These air hugs..... do they include 'air reach-arounds' ??3 -
We've been doing air hugs for months and it's getting old. Can't we cheat just once?
And I honestly don't mind the disagree-ers but clearly some people push the button because they lack a sense of humour. Oh is that with a 2nd u or without?3 -
i quit this one job i had and its for the best, bc i like teaching way better and its less stressful but *kitten* *kitten* *kitten* i can hear the voices in my head of my family telling me i’m throwing away opportunities and yelling about me about my potential
we dont even talk anymore and they still haunting me9
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