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Yoshiboobs wrote: »ladyzherra wrote: »What do you feel is the function of suffering in this life?
If I wasn't so miserable it'd be over for you hoes
But really I think it's either random and has no meaning or it's karma from a past life.
it only has meaning, when you assign it meaning.
karma from a past life?
Nah, there's enough karma floating around from this one.3 -
I feel like the forums are too fake sometimes. I’m not sure if this is because the moderators are so quick to censor or put a stop to sensitive topics or because people are afraid to be vulnerable or talk about real things. Stop the self deprecation and be real. That’s how I feel sometimes.
I think you’re probably right. But I know, for me, I tend to keep online stuff positive because real life can suck enough sometimes. I stay out of super heavy stuff and definitely will never ever engage in online debate. If I had to be irl with heavy and deep stuff and then online too....I’d probably stay away. Not to say I don’t want to hear about people’s tragic/serious situations if it helps to have me listen. I’m always down for that.
I’m not saying other people shouldn’t. I just don’t. And I’m not saying you shouldn’t feel that way...just my 2cents about why I usually don’t. If I seem like a silly B around here sometimes it’s because I’m just having fun. ❤️5 -
Motorsheen wrote: »Yoshiboobs wrote: »ladyzherra wrote: »What do you feel is the function of suffering in this life?
If I wasn't so miserable it'd be over for you hoes
But really I think it's either random and has no meaning or it's karma from a past life.
it only has meaning, when you assign it meaning.
karma from a past life?
Nah, there's enough karma floating around from this one.
meaning is the veil humans use to tolerate suffering
anyways now i’m curious what everyone defines as suffering0 -
Motorsheen wrote: »Yoshiboobs wrote: »ladyzherra wrote: »What do you feel is the function of suffering in this life?
If I wasn't so miserable it'd be over for you hoes
But really I think it's either random and has no meaning or it's karma from a past life.
it only has meaning, when you assign it meaning.
karma from a past life?
Nah, there's enough karma floating around from this one.
Probably but I think it's fun sometimes to think about what evil character I was in a past life. But with this theory what is the end? Someone kinda explained it above about just eventually becoming perfect.0 -
Heb 9:27 "It is appointed men once to die, but after this, the judgement." There are no do-overs. There is a right way and a wrong way. Make sure you know it.10
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Mr_Healthy_Habits wrote: »ladyzherra wrote: »What do you feel is the function of suffering in this life?
To help us let go of things not meant for us, and facilitate change...
To make us stronger...
You know the more I think about it the less I know really...
I believe it's nature's way of making us and itself stronger sure... But I guess the question from there becomes...
Why is nature constantly trying to produce a stronger version of itself?
Is it competing with some other nature for universal Supremacy? I guess we may never know...3 -
As I learned last night, deep love is adapting your day so that you can more easily stay up in bed until 2 am or longer to chat with your husband, confidant and best friend of 43 years to assess his memory and dementia progression.
This is my grandparents' current scenario and the silver lining is that my grandmother is learning new things about her husband even now.18 -
As I learned last night, deep love is adapting your day so that you can more easily stay up in bed until 2 am or longer to chat with your husband, confidant and best friend of 43 years to assess his memory and dementia progression.
This is my grandparents' current scenario and the silver lining is that my grandmother is learning new things about her husband even now.
This is precious ❤️2 -
I'm lonely in my marriage. Husband doesn't get it. He keeps me at a distance and gets mad when he doesn't feel loved. My feelings are ignored. When they are noticed he uses them as weapons against me. No dates. Swx like once a month lately unless I push hard for more. I'm sick of being the work horse while he lives the *kitten* dream!! I get zero of my needs met.....I dont even have a good bra!!!! Aaaaahhhhh he is in his *kitten* cycle and I'm over it been like 6 months this time. I keep bringing it up and he just keeps telling me it's all me and my mom.... *kitten* you Dr. Phil check ya self!! I'm about to lose my *kitten*!! We are in the middle of a move and any time we do anything tough in life this is how it is. I'm tired of feeling used. Manipulated and taken advantage of...... sometimes I need a hug and a cuddle but all I get are blankets between us.....23
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My dad passed a little over a year ago. He was assaulted and robbed exactly one month before he died yet the police says there is no evidence that caused his death. It is torture on me everyday to see such a happy loving man go through what he did in the last month of his life. The trial for the assault is next month. And the thought of it constantly keeps me in a dark place. I’m just ready for it to all be over with so the constant reminder isn’t there and maybe I can start healing.
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ladyzherra wrote: »What do you feel is the function of suffering in this life?
I'd say it's to make us stronger. To not take things for granted. Suffering makes us better. It's like a wake up call.
Having cancer has made me so much stronger than I was before. When I think about the person I was before I got sick, it's like I don't know her. I can't even relate to her anymore.9 -
I feel guilty cutting the family short and going to lay down on my bed at 832p... But I'm exhausted8
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Be_theBest_Me wrote: »I'm lonely in my marriage. Husband doesn't get it. He keeps me at a distance and gets mad when he doesn't feel loved. My feelings are ignored. When they are noticed he uses them as weapons against me. No dates. Swx like once a month lately unless I push hard for more. I'm sick of being the work horse while he lives the *kitten* dream!! I get zero of my needs met.....I dont even have a good bra!!!! Aaaaahhhhh he is in his *kitten* cycle and I'm over it been like 6 months this time. I keep bringing it up and he just keeps telling me it's all me and my mom.... *kitten* you Dr. Phil check ya self!! I'm about to lose my *kitten*!! We are in the middle of a move and any time we do anything tough in life this is how it is. I'm tired of feeling used. Manipulated and taken advantage of...... sometimes I need a hug and a cuddle but all I get are blankets between us.....
This was me. Turns out I was dealing with trauma and did not know how to climb out. Perhaps find a good councillor. One that deals with feelings not tools for life.6 -
Life is just such a *kitten* struggle for so many close to me this year. It's hard to look at the bright side sometimes.
Also, hiya to anyone I still know on here. It's been a minute.10 -
I wish I could interact with people and not obsess for hours afterward about what a bad impression I must have made and what a complete idiot I appear to be. Like I’m doing now. I just want to crawl in a hole.12
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aChuisle_moChroi wrote: »I wish I could interact with people and not obsess for hours afterward about what a bad impression I must have made and what a complete idiot I appear to be. Like I’m doing now. I just want to crawl in a hole.
You make neither impression 🤗 you're a good egg
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aChuisle_moChroi wrote: »I wish I could interact with people and not obsess for hours afterward about what a bad impression I must have made and what a complete idiot I appear to be. Like I’m doing now. I just want to crawl in a hole.
You described me to a T. I do the same thing. And if I said something really clueless(as in inadvertently rude or hurtful because sometimes things fly out of my mouth before I can stop them), it can take months for me to forget it.
I think that's why seeing people disagree with me used to make me feel terrible. But hey, now I'm up over 438 and feel like celebrating. Lol
Don't even suggest a mistake I made other than verbally. I'll take it to my grave.
Silly really, isn't it.6 -
slimgirljo15 wrote: »aChuisle_moChroi wrote: »I wish I could interact with people and not obsess for hours afterward about what a bad impression I must have made and what a complete idiot I appear to be. Like I’m doing now. I just want to crawl in a hole.
You make neither impression 🤗 you're a good egg
Awww, thanks, Jo I just have a lot of insecurity in some situations, especially interacting with peers at my job, where I’m an outsider (adjunct faculty). I’m trying to force myself to engage more and it’s hard. I sabotage myself. I’d rather just be the lone teacher. I’m fine. Yesterday was just hellish. I’m lucky I still have my job. 4 -
aChuisle_moChroi wrote: »I wish I could interact with people and not obsess for hours afterward about what a bad impression I must have made and what a complete idiot I appear to be. Like I’m doing now. I just want to crawl in a hole.aChuisle_moChroi wrote: »I wish I could interact with people and not obsess for hours afterward about what a bad impression I must have made and what a complete idiot I appear to be. Like I’m doing now. I just want to crawl in a hole.
You described me to a T. I do the same thing. And if I said something really clueless(as in inadvertently rude or hurtful because sometimes things fly out of my mouth before I can stop them), it can take months for me to forget it. I think that's why seeing people disagree with me used to make me feel terrible. But hey, now I'm up over 438 and feel like celebrating. Lol
Don't even suggest a mistake I made other than verbally. I'll take it to my grave.
Silly really, isn't it.
I tried to tell my parents that I felt very similar to this when I was younger and was told that I was nowhere near important enough to anyone to impact them. Delivery was not the supportive "brush it off" type. More "you're clearly a narcissist if you think you matter to anyone". I went for so long thinking that I inflated my own importance to others. It was like a light bulb turned on when I found info about social anxiety recently and realized that is what's been going on in my head for so long.9 -
Feeling sorry for myself today, not feeling too well lately and now being tested for bowel disease. I should not google because it does no good for my anxiety. Also feeling bad because I know people are a lot worse off. Trying to stay positive.
You have the biggest heart and I've always thought the world of you Tams 💕... Hang in there, hope everything comes back OK 💕2 -
Feeling sorry for myself today, not feeling too well lately and now being tested for bowel disease. I should not google because it does no good for my anxiety. Also feeling bad because I know people are a lot worse off. Trying to stay positive.
When you're dealing with a bunch of symptoms, the path to diagnosis can be fraught especially if you're not feeling supported by friends, family or healthcare team.
Offline, I hope this is the case @tams_89. Online, we got you 🤗2 -
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This thread should be mandatory reading for young adults and recommended reading for all adults.
True life and compassion from all perspectives.6 -
brustmannzwei wrote: »This thread should be mandatory reading for young adults and recommended reading for all adults.
True life and compassion from all perspectives.
I’m really glad it got a foothold. I make a lot of silly, light threads so making this one made me feel particularly vulnerable. I really expected it to drop off after a day or so. I don’t comment in this thread much but I come back and read it often. It helps remind me how human we all are.
I worried it would turn into a contest of who has it the worst, and I’m so glad it hasn’t. I hope anyone feels ‘qualified’ to post here. We all go through our own *kitten*. We all deserve to unload.
This is a hard time of year for me. For no particular reason and for hundreds. I’ve done it medicated and without, but nothing helps as much as feeling like I have people who get it. I’ve been on mfp for years as the goof-off but this year is when I finally felt like i could bare all without fear.
I probably come across as unapproachable and difficult to get to know beyond the jokes, so I’m thankful there are people who push past that undeterred. It honestly has been transformative for me in this last month or so. I’m bad at expressing it but y’all have been my people in ways you’ll never even know.16 -
Feeling sorry for myself today, not feeling too well lately and now being tested for bowel disease. I should not google because it does no good for my anxiety. Also feeling bad because I know people are a lot worse off. Trying to stay positive.
please don't start comparing yourself to other people's situations, even if you deem theirs *worse* than yours. there is no such thing as that! your issues are just as valid. i hope they find a solution for you soon 6 -
brustmannzwei wrote: »This thread should be mandatory reading for young adults and recommended reading for all adults.
True life and compassion from all perspectives.
I’m really glad it got a foothold. I make a lot of silly, light threads so making this one made me feel particularly vulnerable. I really expected it to drop off after a day or so. I don’t comment in this thread much but I come back and read it often. It helps remind me how human we all are.
I worried it would turn into a contest of who has it the worst, and I’m so glad it hasn’t. I hope anyone feels ‘qualified’ to post here. We all go through our own *kitten*. We all deserve to unload.
This is a hard time of year for me. For no particular reason and for hundreds. I’ve done it medicated and without, but nothing helps as much as feeling like I have people who get it. I’ve been on mfp for years as the goof-off but this year is when I finally felt like i could bare all without fear.
I probably come across as unapproachable and difficult to get to know beyond the jokes, so I’m thankful there are people who push past that undeterred. It honestly has been transformative for me in this last month or so. I’m bad at expressing it but y’all have been my people in ways you’ll never even know.
i for one - am very glad you're back 3 -
brustmannzwei wrote: »This thread should be mandatory reading for young adults and recommended reading for all adults.
True life and compassion from all perspectives.
I’m really glad it got a foothold. I make a lot of silly, light threads so making this one made me feel particularly vulnerable. I really expected it to drop off after a day or so. I don’t comment in this thread much but I come back and read it often. It helps remind me how human we all are.
I worried it would turn into a contest of who has it the worst, and I’m so glad it hasn’t. I hope anyone feels ‘qualified’ to post here. We all go through our own *kitten*. We all deserve to unload.
This is a hard time of year for me. For no particular reason and for hundreds. I’ve done it medicated and without, but nothing helps as much as feeling like I have people who get it. I’ve been on mfp for years as the goof-off but this year is when I finally felt like i could bare all without fear.
I probably come across as unapproachable and difficult to get to know beyond the jokes, so I’m thankful there are people who push past that undeterred. It honestly has been transformative for me in this last month or so. I’m bad at expressing it but y’all have been my people in ways you’ll never even know.
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Be_theBest_Me wrote: »I'm lonely in my marriage. Husband doesn't get it. He keeps me at a distance and gets mad when he doesn't feel loved. My feelings are ignored. When they are noticed he uses them as weapons against me. No dates. Swx like once a month lately unless I push hard for more. I'm sick of being the work horse while he lives the *kitten* dream!! I get zero of my needs met.....I dont even have a good bra!!!! Aaaaahhhhh he is in his *kitten* cycle and I'm over it been like 6 months this time. I keep bringing it up and he just keeps telling me it's all me and my mom.... *kitten* you Dr. Phil check ya self!! I'm about to lose my *kitten*!! We are in the middle of a move and any time we do anything tough in life this is how it is. I'm tired of feeling used. Manipulated and taken advantage of...... sometimes I need a hug and a cuddle but all I get are blankets between us.....
This was me. Turns out I was dealing with trauma and did not know how to climb out. Perhaps find a good councillor. One that deals with feelings not tools for life.
You are probably right. PTSD is one of my struggles. There is so much to this situation. This time in my life is so ......what's a good way to explain this like walking on a small path with lava all around ever mistep I get burned. I've been thinking about ALNON meetings again and also about meds and a counselor. When I do think about working on myself it makes me mad!!! Because the two people who are the root of most of my issues wouldn't work on themselves to save their own *kitten*! why do I keep bettering myself for them to tear me down. Reality if fear wasn't a factor id leave both in the dust and go start fresh!!! Promises tether me here like chains!!! Just wish they could see.8
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