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  • ReenieHJReenieHJ Member Posts: 2,837 Member Member Posts: 2,837 Member
    @Christi1979 HUGE hugs to you, what a difficult time for you and your family. :( I'm sorry.
  • tams_89tams_89 Member Posts: 2,001 Member Member Posts: 2,001 Member
    Ellevated wrote: »
    I've read each of the posts on this thread. I'm sending so much love to each of you going through challenges right now. My heart goes out to you and those concerned in each situation.

    2020 started with my niece's funeral. I live a long way from my sister (my niece's mum) and the rest of my family, and as a result of world events haven't been able to visit to help give in-person support for my sister or to unite in our grief. My body is still recovering from the trauma leading up to and of my niece's death, as it was a stressful time.

    It's definitely shaken my core beliefs and will probably take a while to adjust. But as a result I have posted less frequently on my MFP status, as I'm not feeling as 'light and fluffy' as social media often demands, or particularly 'inspiring and motivational', which tended to be what I was posting before.

    Thank you for creating a space here to acknowledge what's going on under the surface for people on their MFP journeys.

    So sorry, sending hugs
  • tams_89tams_89 Member Posts: 2,001 Member Member Posts: 2,001 Member
    I'm afraid of failure. I don't think I have what it takes to be good at anything. As soon as something becomes challenging, I abandon it. I'm 25 and I feel stuck in my life and its been like this for 4 years now. Feels like my life is a complete waste. Nothing ever changes. I'm terrified of making any moves forward because I don't want to fail or be rejected. But being stuck is also causing me anxiety and depression. Just stuck.

    I hate this feeling 😔 I feel like I'm stuck because when the anxiety sets in you are scared to do or change anything to move forward but then the depression takes hold because you can't move forward and it makes the depression worse. 🙈
  • sweet_ermengardesweet_ermengarde Member Posts: 1,277 Member Member Posts: 1,277 Member
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  • Christi1979Christi1979 Member Posts: 31 Member Member Posts: 31 Member
    ReenieHJ wrote: »
    @Christi1979 HUGE hugs to you, what a difficult time for you and your family. :( I'm sorry.

    Thank you. Things have improved so much. That's the thing about difficult times.... you just have to find the strength to push through b/c it does get better.
  • Mr_Healthy_HabitsMr_Healthy_Habits Member Posts: 11,857 Member Member Posts: 11,857 Member
    I keep reading this thread as seriously deep heavy 🙊 stuff
  • sweet_ermengardesweet_ermengarde Member Posts: 1,277 Member Member Posts: 1,277 Member
    I keep reading this thread as seriously deep heavy 🙊 stuff

    I keep reading it to my psychiatrist


    does she say dumb things like my therapist goin on about “are we discussing a real person or one of your apparitions?” 🙄
  • Reckoner69_lmaoReckoner69_lmao Member Posts: 1,000 Member Member Posts: 1,000 Member
    I keep reading this thread as seriously deep heavy 🙊 stuff

    I keep reading it to my psychiatrist


    does she say dumb things like my therapist goin on about “are we discussing a real person or one of your apparitions?” 🙄

    My brain wizard was awesome, I miss her
  • Mr_Healthy_HabitsMr_Healthy_Habits Member Posts: 11,857 Member Member Posts: 11,857 Member
    I keep reading this thread as seriously deep heavy 🙊 stuff

    I keep reading it to my psychiatrist

    Audible.com is my therapist 🤷🏽‍♂️...

    Before enlightenment, chop wood carry water...
    After enlightenment, chop wood carry water...

    Although I know it's just not always that simple tho..
    I'm a notorious thinker... 🤷🏽‍♂️
  • PlentyofProtein00PlentyofProtein00 Member Posts: 1,979 Member Member Posts: 1,979 Member
    I keep reading this thread as seriously deep heavy 🙊 stuff

    I keep reading it to my psychiatrist

    :D
  • MotorsheenMotorsheen Member Posts: 18,782 Member Member Posts: 18,782 Member
    fstrickl wrote: »
    Motorsheen wrote: »
    fstrickl wrote: »
    I am scared that one day I am going to come to not know myself. I am very averse to conflict, I don't have the fight or flight response, I have the freeze response. When in situations of conflict I usually just freeze. It's hard to explain, but I don't put up defences and I also don't take anything being said too seriously. When that happens it also means I don't remember things well because I'm actively trying to be neutral, to just let things glide across my brain like snow over ice. Waiting for it to be over. I don't know why I do this (okay, maybe I do if I think about it). Because I avoid conflict I generally say "yes" to everything. I'm not scared of new things, I actually love new things and I'm not generally not scared of failure. What I'm scared of is what if one day I keep saying "yes" only to realize I should have said "no" for my own happiness and wellbeing? What if it's already happened, but I'm just going merrily along along along and never really know if I am happy or just neutral.

    There's a scene in the movie Carol with Cate Blanchett and Ronney Mara that talks about something similar in Ronney Mara's character. When I heard it, I realised that I absolutely could relate. Cate Blanchett's character asks Ronney Mara (with whom she is having an affair) what she is thinking about and Ronney Mara's character responds:

    "I should have said "No" to you but I never say "No". And it's selfish because... because I just take everything and I don't know anything. And I don't know what I want. How could I when all I ever do is say "Yes" to everything?"

    Along similar lines, I don't like talking about my feelings because I don't know them very well so this is some scary *kitten* for me to post. Really hope no one I actually know is reading this . . . POSTING AND HOPEFULLY NO REGRETS.

    You misspelled 'Defenses'.

    Wanna fight about it ?




    .... and when I say 'fight', I mean thumb-wrestle.

    .

    Well...technically
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    So now we don’t need to fight about it 😜. However, just because I don’t like fighting doesn’t mean a good thumb war can’t come in handy from time to time (see what I did there...)

    DEFENSE

    Also. Vitamin is pronounced V-Eye-Ta-Men
    not: Vit-a-Men

    Let's see, what else?

    Behavior (drop the 'u', it doesn't belong, no more than the added 'e' on 'Center(e)'

    And while we're at it, 'Whilst' isn't a real word.

    Why are the above true? .....because we say so.


    BIGGEST%20MILITARY%20BUDGETS.PNG
  • fstricklfstrickl Member Posts: 739 Member Member Posts: 739 Member
    Motorsheen wrote: »
    fstrickl wrote: »
    Motorsheen wrote: »
    fstrickl wrote: »
    I am scared that one day I am going to come to not know myself. I am very averse to conflict, I don't have the fight or flight response, I have the freeze response. When in situations of conflict I usually just freeze. It's hard to explain, but I don't put up defences and I also don't take anything being said too seriously. When that happens it also means I don't remember things well because I'm actively trying to be neutral, to just let things glide across my brain like snow over ice. Waiting for it to be over. I don't know why I do this (okay, maybe I do if I think about it). Because I avoid conflict I generally say "yes" to everything. I'm not scared of new things, I actually love new things and I'm not generally not scared of failure. What I'm scared of is what if one day I keep saying "yes" only to realize I should have said "no" for my own happiness and wellbeing? What if it's already happened, but I'm just going merrily along along along and never really know if I am happy or just neutral.

    There's a scene in the movie Carol with Cate Blanchett and Ronney Mara that talks about something similar in Ronney Mara's character. When I heard it, I realised that I absolutely could relate. Cate Blanchett's character asks Ronney Mara (with whom she is having an affair) what she is thinking about and Ronney Mara's character responds:

    "I should have said "No" to you but I never say "No". And it's selfish because... because I just take everything and I don't know anything. And I don't know what I want. How could I when all I ever do is say "Yes" to everything?"

    Along similar lines, I don't like talking about my feelings because I don't know them very well so this is some scary *kitten* for me to post. Really hope no one I actually know is reading this . . . POSTING AND HOPEFULLY NO REGRETS.

    You misspelled 'Defenses'.

    Wanna fight about it ?




    .... and when I say 'fight', I mean thumb-wrestle.

    .

    Well...technically
    bkucmm64tddm.jpeg
    9swdufvetaip.jpeg
    So now we don’t need to fight about it 😜. However, just because I don’t like fighting doesn’t mean a good thumb war can’t come in handy from time to time (see what I did there...)

    DEFENSE

    Also. Vitamin is pronounced V-Eye-Ta-Men
    not: Vit-a-Men

    Let's see, what else?

    Behavior (drop the 'u', it doesn't belong, no more than the added 'e' on 'Center(e)'

    And while we're at it, 'Whilst' isn't a real word.

    Why are the above true? .....because we say so.


    BIGGEST%20MILITARY%20BUDGETS.PNG

    Yo look, I come from a confused place. I know how many kilometres it is to Timmy’s, but I don’t know how many centimetres tall I am. I weigh my food in grams but my body in pounds. Celsius makes more sense but only for weather cause if I’m baking WTF is 175C, I set the oven to 350F.

    But your military budget is WAY higher than mine so my defences (😜) would not withstand your attack. So you can spell defence with an “s” and colour without a “u”. I won’t stop you or tell you it’s wrong. 😌
  • jamlochejamloche Member Posts: 88 Member Member Posts: 88 Member
    fstrickl wrote: »
    I am scared that one day I am going to come to not know myself. I am very averse to conflict, I don't have the fight or flight response, I have the freeze response. When in situations of conflict I usually just freeze. It's hard to explain, but I don't put up defences and I also don't take anything being said too seriously. When that happens it also means I don't remember things well because I'm actively trying to be neutral, to just let things glide across my brain like snow over ice. Waiting for it to be over. I don't know why I do this (okay, maybe I do if I think about it). Because I avoid conflict I generally say "yes" to everything. I'm not scared of new things, I actually love new things and I'm not generally not scared of failure. What I'm scared of is what if one day I keep saying "yes" only to realize I should have said "no" for my own happiness and wellbeing? What if it's already happened, but I'm just going merrily along along along and never really know if I am happy or just neutral.

    There's a scene in the movie Carol with Cate Blanchett and Ronney Mara that talks about something similar in Ronney Mara's character. When I heard it, I realised that I absolutely could relate. Cate Blanchett's character asks Ronney Mara (with whom she is having an affair) what she is thinking about and Ronney Mara's character responds:

    "I should have said "No" to you but I never say "No". And it's selfish because... because I just take everything and I don't know anything. And I don't know what I want. How could I when all I ever do is say "Yes" to everything?"

    Along similar lines, I don't like talking about my feelings because I don't know them very well so this is some scary *kitten* for me to post. Really hope no one I actually know is reading this . . . POSTING AND HOPEFULLY NO REGRETS.

    Get out of my head!
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