WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR FEBRUARY 2021

I tried going to a therapist, thinking a bout of therapy could be good, but I think she's not fantastic;
the 1st time seemed not bad, she seemed nice, and pleasant.
the 2nd time was not impressive, but ok.
3rd time less impressive. I see not so much difference between talking to her and talking to friend on weekend, with whom I have a nice connection. (on the part when I was talking and not listening, there is much more back and forth with friends).

She didn't seem to notice or have issue, about the rather superficial point. When I mentioned that, she said something like "you see, that's your resistance". I'm not convinced. why didn't she try to bring it to something deeper if she thought I was "in my resistance".


also when, during 3rd session, I told about how I got through something really well, in great part due to remarkable help from some other people, she said "you see" as if she had told me that would happen. As if the good result was inevitable. (it wasn't.)

I guess there is a little bit of an unmerited know-it-all position.

also, yesterday she said, "last week you talked about xx" (the subject I spoke about yesterday), I said, well actually I talked about xx.

Also...she doesn't take any notes.

I don't have a strict judgement about that, but who can remember everything at 50+ without notes? If I don't take notes in my classes I can't remember who did what in every class. who can?

When I asked her the 2nd session what her approach and background was, she seemed uneasy (and not precise in her answer).
I knew she had such and such qualifications, but after that therapy people can have lots of different training and approaches.

She's not young so I found her uneasiness with such a basic question not reassuring.
Not that she necessarily has anything to hide.
It's more that, sadly, probably most people in France are not empowered enough as clients to feel comfortable asking such questions (what's your approach?), and so are a bit docile towards medical type professionals.
I think it's changing, but its decades behind the usa in that department. In the usa I find people are very explain-y to clients and they find it so normal that the client/patient ask many questions. Well that's my impression anyway. I have definitely found some (many) in medical or paramedical field in France to be very defensive when a patient/client asks many questions. They are not all that way, thank goodness, and is changing.

I'm not sure if it's a good investment of time and money. I thought my new complimentary insurance covered more of it than the previous one, but I think I might be mistaken. I haven't been able to get a clear answer from the insurance company.

in fact she's ok but seems like a lightweight.

I know that doesn't sound very kind, but I don't know how to say it otherwise.

I like to work with someone who knows him/herself very well and is pretty at ease with him or herself.

I think a good therapist is really hard to find.

actually there is one I found good but she is so unavailable.

Also, the session is to be 30 minutes but she was 20+ minutes late the 2nd session time and about 15 minutes late the 3rd time. It's kind of a drag. I was rushing to be on time each time, and just to wait, systematically.I'm not dramatically against people being late. I figure if they have emergency issues it's better that they deal with them. But for a 10 am appointment systematic lateness, I don't know...

it's not easy to find a good therapist.
actually I found one I found good - she seems not to be lacking confidence, nor to be superficial- but she's only available for about 30 min max 1x a month...

maybe that's preferable...

I don't know...