Less Alcohol - FEBRUARY 2021 - One Day At A Time
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Day 12 AF is here. Husband is on day 4. Still shocked he's doing this effortlessly. No insomnia, bad dreams, nausea, lack of appetite, headache, and all the miserableness I went through, yet he always drank more than I! Go figure.
Happy Friday to you all. Time to set the right intention for the day and plan some fun.7 -
Did somebody say it's the weekend?
Take a look at that word. Switch the spelling a little and you have WEAKend. That could be an underlying pull for the subconscious to stray away from the good intentions you have in place for keep'n your drink'n under control.
Stay focused.9 -
lisamestiza2021 wrote: »
i remember going to buy liquor when i was living on my own and sliding into this abyss. a chilling video.
i don't drink like this anymore, and this video reminds me to not go back...
my best wishes to you all on this journey... xo
That was such a moving video. Self destruction. The things we do not consider going on behind closed doors in someone elses life.
And your own horrific encounter when you were young. You are a strong woman!! Even though stories like yours are tough to read for many, they definitely need to be told.
Thank you for sharing your very personal story and thank you for your strength.
🤗
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Last night we recieved an unexpected call to meet up with another couple for dinner out. Wasn't planning on it, but we made an effort to brave the cold and have a nice visit.
Our waitress remembered my husband and I from last week. As my husband began to order his drink, the waitressss had a phenomenal memory. She finished his ordering sentence, and then asked if I wanted another needem martini like last week?
I was really shocked she remembered, and I don't know why, but kind of embarrassed because I had no desire for alcohol yesterday. My female friends eyes got huge when the waitress asked me that.( Like maybe I was sneaking out of town to drink when I always have mocktails in town with them.)
I found it not a good time to try to explain this to my friend and told her I would fill her in another time.
Had a non alcoholic beer which I found horrible and a waste of $5.00. Oh, at least my grilled blackened haddock was out of this world and made up for the slightly awkward moment.11 -
Last night we recieved an unexpected call to meet up with another couple for dinner out. Wasn't planning on it, but we made an effort to brave the cold and have a nice visit.
Our waitress remembered my husband and I from last week. As my husband began to order his drink, the waitressss had a phenomenal memory. She finished his ordering sentence, and then asked if I wanted another needem martini like last week?
I was really shocked she remembered, and I don't know why, but kind of embarrassed because I had no desire for alcohol yesterday. My female friends eyes got huge when the waitress asked me that.( Like maybe I was sneaking out of town to drink when I always have mocktails in town with them.)
I found it not a good time to try to explain this to my friend and told her I would fill her in another time.
Had a non alcoholic beer which I found horrible and a waste of $5.00. Oh, at least my grilled blackened haddock was out of this world and made up for the slightly awkward moment.
That's kinda funny in retrospect. Pity about the beer but the Haddock sounds great.
I've got to ask though. What's a Needem Martini?
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Stockholm_Andy wrote: »I am on a 2 hour zoom meeting with a Finnish lawyer and an American lawyer discussing a 29 page licence agreement.
We are on page 17 and they've just agreed they need another 2 hour call.
They are mostly arguing about hypothetical disagreements....
If I stay AF tonight I'll make myself a badge
Oh good Lord!!!!! I feel this post! If you can stay AF after that you deserve the Olympic gold!4 -
chocolate_owl wrote: »Feb 1-7: 6.5 drinks
Feb 8: AF
Feb 9: AF
Feb 10: AF
So... I am generally not doing well. I've taken one step forward and two steps back in surgery recovery, I'm miserably hungry, I'm getting about 4 hours of sleep a night, and I'm so cold all the time. And then there's little things, like I'm playing one of those dumb interior design games and no one likes my designs, which ends up spiraling into EVERYONE HATES ME because I'm too tired to be rational about it. I had to step back from here for a few days because I was feeling...not good enough? I drank as much in a week as @MissMay will drink in a month, so even though it's a moderate amount, very much in line with my goals, and a number my doctor would be fine with, I felt guilty. AND I SHOULDN'T! And I don't think I'm the only one who sees other people racking up a ton of AF days and wondering if they're failing somehow... So for myself and for those people, you're not failing. You're doing just fine.
More positively: I don't think Husband took me seriously last week when I told him I had exactly a year to lose 45 lbs. We had another talk about it Monday night after I was whinging about being so frikkin hungry, and he admitted he's really unhappy with his weight and worried about his health, so he's back on the wagon with my for now. 3 consecutive days AF so far. I very much wanted a glass of red wine last night, but since he wasn't drinking, I stuck to tea. He's going to have to blink first
Oh man, being in pain and not sleeping well puts a person in a bad place! Hugs to you! Hope you recover well and quickly!3 -
@chocolate_owl you should not feel guilty in the least. There aren't two people in here with the same exact goals for cutting back. It is not how many AF days you aquire or chalk up consecutively.
Its each persons own path, own rate of drinking less by days or glasses. Must be hard to have surgery pain and want to not drink during it.
I Feel bad you are going through that. But dont hide out. Your story is worth reading no matter how slow it is going at this time. Your NOT failing.
THIS!!!!!!! Thank you @CMB44512 for saying so eloquently what I wanted to say!3 -
lisamestiza2021 wrote: »Fit_Happens_2021 wrote: »@lisamestiza2021 Darn girl! ... that made me cry
Anything filmed in Britain hits home harder with me, because... well it is home, but in this video, she looks so much like my family member who has just climbed out of that pit and is trying to rebuild her life right now.
Thank you for sharing xx
the first time i saw it ,it made me cry too and triggered me big time. i was sexually assaulted at 17 and i was drunk at the time. it should have stopped me from drinking forever, but didn't/
i hope your family member succeeds ...xx
* and on a lighter note - massive attack is incredible...i agree
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I’m so sorry to hear you had to go through that. No one deserves to be violated. Hugs to you!2 -
globalhiker wrote: »Day 12 AF is here. Husband is on day 4. Still shocked he's doing this effortlessly. No insomnia, bad dreams, nausea, lack of appetite, headache, and all the miserableness I went through, yet he always drank more than I! Go figure.
Happy Friday to you all. Time to set the right intention for the day and plan some fun.
Its just as unfair as our hubbies deciding to lose weight and boom, they drop 15 pounds in a week without even trying. Meanwhile we scratch and claw to lose even half a pound. Haha! Well, glad to hear he’s having an easier time of it!3 -
I really wanted a drink when I came home from work. , so substituted seltzer / cranberry instead. For the first time it didn’t really satisfy the craving. So, my husband made me an Old Fashioned and it was delicious. Really wanted a second one, but my husband said you don’t need it! Glad to have had his support because he knew I really wanted my weeknights to be AF. So, back to a wine glass of seltzer/cran.
Now the question is why did I want a drink so badly? I didn’t have a bad day at work, it was just a long time on my feet and they were achy. Still trying to figure this one out.5 -
Stockholm_Andy wrote: »I've got to ask though. What's a Needem Martini?
Oh crap....my NOOK has a possessed auto spell check feature.
It was a Needham martini last week. Needham, like the coconut and chocolate candy confection.
Not sure if these are all the correct ingredients, if not it is close.
coconut rum
Godiva chocolate liqueur
RumChata
Chocolate syrup (room temperature), to garnish
Shredded coconut, to garnish
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Stockholm_Andy wrote: »I've got to ask though. What's a Needem Martini?
Oh crap....my NOOK has a possessed auto spell check feature.
It was a Needham martini last week. Needham, like the coconut and chocolate candy confection.
Not sure if these are all the correct ingredients, if not it is close.
coconut rum
Godiva chocolate liqueur
RumChata
Chocolate syrup (room temperature), to garnish
Shredded coconut, to garnish
i could bathe in that. but it would be a waste decadent! 4 -
thank you all who reached out. i very much appreciate your support and i'm glad to be here. hearing everyone's stories is helping. that said - my husband ordered some things online that we will pick up tomorrow. mine is an italian pinot grigio. and that is all for another month *crossing fingers* he'll have beer which i'm not fond of so there's no worries of me getting into THAT
happy friday to you all - and enjoy your weekend!
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I had wine last night, it was planned, but supposed to be 2 and I had 3.
Nursing a headache now, my headache is always over my left eye and forehead up to the top of my head.
Does anyone else get a headache in a certain spot after drinking?
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My goal was to do a dry February. I did unfortunately slip up for game day; however, I felt TERRIBLE and was reminded (yet again) that drinking really doesn't even make me feel good anymore. I feel fairly confident that the rest of this month will be spent DRY! Looking forward to the support on this thread 8
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I was AF again last night and it was as difficult as I anticipated. This weekend will be the challenge as we always always always have drunk on Fri-Sat and most times Sunday night, however we chose to have our 1 time per week drink on Tuesday...fingers, toes and will power crossed.
I have been using diet tonic water and a few drops of bitters (thank you @MissMay in my 'whiskey' glass. With the bite of the tonic water and bitters I fool my head into looking at the 'drink' and feel content.
The stories here are so amazing and inspirational. I have no earth shattering revelations, which I am ok with. I am just so thankful to have found this support group who are kind, non-judgemental, and can relate to the everyday, hour and minute struggle. You all offer unconditional support. Again for the 100th time, thank you8 -
Fit_Happens_2021 wrote: »I had wine last night, it was planned, but supposed to be 2 and I had 3.
Nursing a headache now, my headache is always over my left eye and forehead up to the top of my head.
Does anyone else get a headache in a certain spot after drinking?
I used to get a similar headache if I drank red wine, even a litte bit, but pain was behind my eye. I think it's the sulfites. Doesn't happen when I drink Italian whites, or when I stop drinking. Feel better 6 -
Almost done with my "mindfulness/motivation" workbook. This weekend my task is to replace any negative thought that pops up with a positive one immediately. I am supposed to record this after. This list is going to be LONG! I suppose I have to re-train my brain and this is the start.
Another workbook exercise is recording the number of cravings, including time, place and duration.
I will predict 20 negative thoughts and 4 craving episodes. Will be interesting to know Monday in reality what that frequency is...
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