What's on your mind?
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Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »My daughter, I thought we were done with this but she's being bullied again. She showed me messages she recieved and it really breaks my heart. People can be so cruel. Wish I felt better to be a better mom this week. I also wish she could follow my footsteps and leave social media aside a bit.
Ugh. Bullies are awful. I’m sorry, friend.1 -
Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »My daughter, I thought we were done with this but she's being bullied again. She showed me messages she recieved and it really breaks my heart. People can be so cruel. Wish I felt better to be a better mom this week. I also wish she could follow my footsteps and leave social media aside a bit.
This is one of the reasons why I am getting in shape: to be able to deal with the parents of bullies, if it comes to that (and in my neck of the woods...it will).
I’m sorry you are dealing with this. Kids can be so cruel.5 -
What’s on my mind?
Well, how would you feel if your BIL & SIL texted your husband asking him if he was aware that I started another Instagram page? (My husband doesn’t have Instagram)
WTF- how old am I? Why didn’t you come directly to me or include me in the group text.
I would have told ya straight up what , and why!?
Did you have a bad surgery experience... heck no, maybe I’d like to blog, and share so others would like to see what a breast lift and skin removal looks like! My nips- blacked out, my kitty was blobbed out.
That’s what’s on my mind! Why n the F?5 -
Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »My daughter, I thought we were done with this but she's being bullied again. She showed me messages she recieved and it really breaks my heart. People can be so cruel. Wish I felt better to be a better mom this week. I also wish she could follow my footsteps and leave social media aside a bit.
This is one of the reasons why I am getting in shape: to be able to deal with the parents of bullies, if it comes to that (and in my neck of the woods...it will).
I’m sorry you are dealing with this. Kids can be so cruel.
Thanks, hopefully it gets better.
Adults can be cruel too... I've dealt with that in these forums from grown adults 😆1 -
twitchandshout wrote: »Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »My daughter, I thought we were done with this but she's being bullied again. She showed me messages she recieved and it really breaks my heart. People can be so cruel. Wish I felt better to be a better mom this week. I also wish she could follow my footsteps and leave social media aside a bit.
Ugh. Bullies are awful. I’m sorry, friend.Kashmir_314_ wrote: »Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »My daughter, I thought we were done with this but she's being bullied again. She showed me messages she recieved and it really breaks my heart. People can be so cruel. Wish I felt better to be a better mom this week. I also wish she could follow my footsteps and leave social media aside a bit.
My mommy heart aches 💔
My mommy heart has been aching all day, she's had a hard time with this for a few years. It had stopped. I have a really good relationship with my daughter so she tells me mostly everything. She showed me what was happening and it really made me hate social media even more than I already did! She certainly doesn't need that, especially after the last couple of years and everything she's been through.4 -
lisamestiza2021 wrote: »it was 25 years today my mom passed away of ALS. she'd just celebrated her 60th birthday. oddly enough, we were both diagnosed at 55. i will be 60 in november. i can't help but wonder ....
has anyone else had a parent die relatively young, and now you are also sick and wonder if you'll die at the same age they did?
I can understand why your mind would take you places like that, your age, the 25th anniversary of losing her.
To answer your question no, not a parent although my parents having heart attacks at relatively young ages so as I passed those ages as well, I found myself actually looking at every symptom as a possibility, but grandparents dying young, yes.
I feel it's a very normal thing to do and to fear. Our brains can't help but take us to those places sometimes. ALS is another one of those slow life-stealing diseases.
I'm learning to take one day at a time, enjoy it and get out of it what you can. Tomorrow is guaranteed to no one. Keep taking care of yourself and find moments of laughter/love/happiness along the way.
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the wage gap1
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Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »My daughter, I thought we were done with this but she's being bullied again. She showed me messages she recieved and it really breaks my heart. People can be so cruel. Wish I felt better to be a better mom this week. I also wish she could follow my footsteps and leave social media aside a bit.
Somehow I missed this until I started reading your replies.
Watching one of your children hurt, has got to be the biggest heartache of having kids. And because everybody is on social media, it spreads fast and furious and people(most anyways) do not give a fig how the other person feels. So many go right along with it in fear of getting singled out themselves. Now place all that freedom into the hands of teenage girls who know what buttons to push to begin with. We've all seen it in the news, how terrible it's gotten in some instances. It's frustrating, maddening, cruel and heartless. I don't care what institution promotes zero tolerance, IMO it's not possible.
My dd's first true love dumped her and she hurt like you wouldn't believe. Well, then the a-hole got back together with her(despite all our caution and fears of what might happen again). And it did. it was the worst possible couple of years for my dd, end of high school, adjustment into big city college, her 'friends' talking all over social media about her and how overly dramatic she was being. She hung onto that feeble attempt at connection until he found somebody else plastering all over FB of course; She finally figured out she needed to block the jerk and all their jerk friends so she could start recovering and healing, getting on with her life.
All that to tell you that I sincerely hope you can convince her to let go of the negative social media and block the cruel kids. They have a target and probably won't stop. BUT your dd, if she's anything like you, has the wisdom and fortitude to look forward to better times, closer friends, and figuring out her priorities. Kids(and adults too) attack others so they can feel better about themselves; we all know that. As long as she knows she's got you in her corner, she'll stay strong and realize she's her own authentic and good person, someone who will feel more empathy towards others for lots of different reasons. She'll become like Mr. Healthy on MFP, who I remember telling us he used to take the underdogs(quiet/shy ones?) under his wing through school(or something like that) 
As big of a problem as it feels to a young girl, to see and hear terrible words about her, her future has very little to do with her preteen/teenage years. As long as she can sort out the more important matters of heart, family, and health, she'll come out of it (mostly)unscathed.
Rambling now.
But hang in there mom, it's difficult to witness as a mom but also a learning experience for children.
Hugs and thoughts to you5 -
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People without power & water in cold weather4
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twitchandshout wrote: »People without power & water in cold weather
I was just talking about that with my mom yesterday. So sad 💔 they closed the homeless shelter here and every day I worry about where those people are sleeping now. Wish I could help the all!1 -
Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »twitchandshout wrote: »People without power & water in cold weather
I was just talking about that with my mom yesterday. So sad 💔 they closed the homeless shelter here and every day I worry about where those people are sleeping now. Wish I could help the all!
why would they close a homeless shelter in the dead of Winter?
looking to cull the herd?
politicians (by and large) are heartless *kittens*6 -
Is it a normal thing parents do when vacationing to a different country that they leave their toddlers sleeping in the hotel by themselves while they go off and do their own thing at night?
I’d be too paranoid, like what if they wake up trying to find me, roam around and accidentally fall in the pool and drown.. I always think about the worst scenario.
The madeleine McCann story 😒4 -
Is it a normal thing parents do when vacationing to a different country that they leave their toddlers sleeping in the hotel by themselves while they go off and do their own thing at night?
I’d be too paranoid, like what if they wake up trying to find me, roam around and accidentally fall in the pool and drown.. I always think about the worst scenario.
The madeleine McCann story 😒
I would be way too paranoid also, I would be anywhere but especially in another country.2 -
Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »My daughter, I thought we were done with this but she's being bullied again. She showed me messages she recieved and it really breaks my heart. People can be so cruel. Wish I felt better to be a better mom this week. I also wish she could follow my footsteps and leave social media aside a bit.
I'm sorry T. That's difficult for you both. You being there for her and supporting her will mean so much to her. Whenever I told my parents I was being bullied (physically and verbally) they told me to suck it up. So I really admire you for showing her that support and compassion. I hope the bullies get a big dose of karma somewhere along the line, but mostly I hope your daughter doesn't internalise those words and knows her worth. Sending hugs 🤗4 -
ExpressoLove11 wrote: »Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »My daughter, I thought we were done with this but she's being bullied again. She showed me messages she recieved and it really breaks my heart. People can be so cruel. Wish I felt better to be a better mom this week. I also wish she could follow my footsteps and leave social media aside a bit.
I'm sorry T. That's difficult for you both. You being there for her and supporting her will mean so much to her. Whenever I told my parents I was being bullied (physically and verbally) they told me to suck it up. So I really admire you for showing her that support and compassion. I hope the bullies get a big dose of karma somewhere along the line, but mostly I hope your daughter doesn't internalise those words and knows her worth. Sending hugs 🤗
She's at school today and called me on her lunch break and everything seems to be fine. I also called the school this morning so they are aware of what happened. Kids don't realize how much words and actions can hurt. I know for myself, I'm still hurt by things I've been told so I hope it doesn't stick to her too long. I'll continue to be there for her and make her feel the best she can about herself. She has blocked everyone that has bullied her and she does have a good group of friends ❤8 -
I just read somewhere that making kids shovel snow is child abuse according to them🤦♀️😆 I know I had to work my *kitten* off as a kid and never had anything handed to me on a silver platter.2
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Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »ExpressoLove11 wrote: »Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »My daughter, I thought we were done with this but she's being bullied again. She showed me messages she recieved and it really breaks my heart. People can be so cruel. Wish I felt better to be a better mom this week. I also wish she could follow my footsteps and leave social media aside a bit.
I'm sorry T. That's difficult for you both. You being there for her and supporting her will mean so much to her. Whenever I told my parents I was being bullied (physically and verbally) they told me to suck it up. So I really admire you for showing her that support and compassion. I hope the bullies get a big dose of karma somewhere along the line, but mostly I hope your daughter doesn't internalise those words and knows her worth. Sending hugs 🤗
She's at school today and called me on her lunch break and everything seems to be fine. I also called the school this morning so they are aware of what happened. Kids don't realize how much words and actions can hurt. I know for myself, I'm still hurt by things I've been told so I hope it doesn't stick to her too long. I'll continue to be there for her and make her feel the best she can about herself. She has blocked everyone that has bullied her and she does have a good group of friends ❤
It’s been something like 40 years since I was a target of bullying. It can have long-term effects. I’m glad you’re on it. 💕4 -
Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »ExpressoLove11 wrote: »Miss_Chiev0us_ wrote: »My daughter, I thought we were done with this but she's being bullied again. She showed me messages she recieved and it really breaks my heart. People can be so cruel. Wish I felt better to be a better mom this week. I also wish she could follow my footsteps and leave social media aside a bit.
I'm sorry T. That's difficult for you both. You being there for her and supporting her will mean so much to her. Whenever I told my parents I was being bullied (physically and verbally) they told me to suck it up. So I really admire you for showing her that support and compassion. I hope the bullies get a big dose of karma somewhere along the line, but mostly I hope your daughter doesn't internalise those words and knows her worth. Sending hugs 🤗
She's at school today and called me on her lunch break and everything seems to be fine. I also called the school this morning so they are aware of what happened. Kids don't realize how much words and actions can hurt. I know for myself, I'm still hurt by things I've been told so I hope it doesn't stick to her too long. I'll continue to be there for her and make her feel the best she can about herself. She has blocked everyone that has bullied her and she does have a good group of friends ❤
I feel this so acutely. My child has recently come out and changed their name and pronouns, which is hard for many many people to handle. The amount of teasing, mistakes, intentional ignorance, and outright hatred they have endured... It's heartbreaking watching them come home in tears over and over.
The school is trying, the teachers are trying, many friends are trying, but there are many many who are using homophobic slurs, insults, and intentional misuse / mocking.
As a parent, it is so devastating seeing the pain that others can inflict (intentionally or otherwise) on our kids... And feel pretty powerless to help.
Big hugs to you momma, and to your child. Sometimes people really really suck. ❤️8
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