WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JULY 2021

I'm taking my cousin back to the airport in a bit. She had an eventful trip with the funeral service and hurricane and her mother in the hospital.

Tomorrow I have four hours of Zoom scheduled, including the Writing group. I have an assignment to do for that yet. And then Tuesday my sister is coming with her grandson. He has always been a little diva, nothing gets done when he is around. My mother usually does the shopping for the visit but she seems to be leaving it to me this time. Lots to do. I'm not used to being this busy; it makes me nervous.

Teddy seems a lot better. I skipped his pain pill because he was frisky. I just need to keep my sister's grandson away from him. The kid is nine and I'm told he is getting more mature. But they said that last year and he was a little brat. I really don't like this kid. But there's no sense getting upset ahead of time. Sufficient unto the day are the troubles thereof.

Annie in Delaware

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Good Sunday!
I leave for 24 hours and y'all got chatty! LOL!
Work was good considering I got little done that "needed" to be done. I did manage to get through a pile of papers that needed sorted -trashed and filed as appropriate. Met friends for a meal then headed to Kentucky. I was so full from supper that even my bra hurt sitting on the tummy! I think I was so hungry that I didn't breathe while inhaling food. I ended up taking it off while driving! Felt so freeing! Found no critters under the house- yay! Got rid of spiders. I got to hand feed a cow and she even let me pet her! DH and I sat on the porch with spiked lemonade and just relaxed. It is so peaceful here!

Yesterday was a day of great people. My nephew married a beautiful lady. It was our other nephew's wife's birthday. It was another friend's anniversary. It was Pip's DH's birthday. Popular day!

Gifts- My nephew and his wife sent a thank you note for their gift which was donations to some of their honeymoon experiences. My oldest daughter believes in experiences more than things so I try to use that as my guide. Gift giving is so difficult these days as everyone buys what they want. With the grands all getting older, it is harder to buy things, so experiences work much better.

DH does stock and talk with people on the showroom, but his lack of vision makes helping me out not possible. What I would like from him is more back up. We will see.

Page 28. Need to get some stuffs done, will catch up more in short while.


Kylia currently in Kentucky

Amendment to last line.



Excitement rising to fever pitch!!!!!

Heather UK, who thinks Italy will win.
Xxxxxx

So thinking of getting my hair cut before our trip. Right now its behind my ears. Husband announced because I didnt get it cut yesterday when he offered to take me, then today I can walk there. So out of spite I have announced that I won't get it cut today, because he was being so cheeky! Men! I might do it tomorrow. I have 4 letters to write before we leave on Thursday. I will take a month break from that hobby.
I will need to take some Tupperware so that when I am in a situation where everyone is eating, but I am fasting, I can take my portion and eat it when my window opens. I still want to be in control of the when. The settling for whatever, whenever sets me in a panic. If I can control one thing in my life, its the when regarding eating. The what, I can settle for what I can get at the time. I know for a fact that I don't function well on any sort of fast food, (except Arbys Reuben sandwiches).👍🙃😋. But burgers will just sit in my gut and make me feel miserable. I would rather not eat than eat crappy. If I have learned anything during this intermittent fasting mind shift is that when I eat, its not lots of chemicals, and preservatives. I owe myself respectful, and mindful eating. I run better on foods that energize, and process well.
Rebecca
Nervous about traveling!

Machka9 wrote: »

bananasandoranges wrote: »

Machka9 wrote: »

Regarding weight --

I have developed the knack of maintenance. After decades of up and down, I have maintained my weight for the past couple years! While maintaining is better than gaining, I'd like to lose weight.

But how?

I try to keep the number of calories I consume prior to 6 pm reasonably low. I eat lower calories foods and try to keep the quantity down. Until 6 pm, I'm on track.

Then I come home.

My husband makes dinner and sometimes that's OK, he'll make something fairly low cal but other times it's fairly high cal. I also get some really interesting combinations!! He has no sense of smell or taste because of his brain injury, so it doesn't really matter to him what he puts together ... and he doesn't really understand calories. I have made some attempts to explain but he doesn't seem to get it. I also cannot tell him that I don't want something because it upsets him. And finally, the Australian way of serving food is still weird to me ... the cook serves everything onto each plate rather than putting the food on the table in bowls. So he'll often serve me more than I want ... and if I mention I'd prefer less, that can upset him too.

Then he likes his sweets after and wants me to have them too. I talk to him about eating less and we do for a little while, then the quantity increases again.


So I've tried to eat less earlier in the day, but that just makes me grouchy hungry by the time I get home.
And I've tried to exercise more, but that can be hard to keep up ... I get tired.

I'm not sure what to do.

Machka in Oz

Hi Machka I think you just need to stick your guns.
it's not fair for anyone to be pushed to eat more than they want to because a husband, wife, mother, grandma WANTS you to eat more.

maybe you can say. this is delicious but as I'm smaller I don't have as big a stomach, so I'm happy to save some of this delicious food for tomorrow.
same for desserts.

I think it can be a tricky situation for many couples. I haven't been in a couple for. awhile but in my last couple I did most of the day to day cooking. when I'd cook I'd use like 1 tsp of cooking oil per person max or so. he could use a quarter cup for the 2 for 1 meal of us in his veggie cooking. it was very tasty I'm sure, but... and I think if I asked him to use less oil he didn't like having his style cramped...so I ended continuing doing most of the food prep.

It's really common for people in the same family not to eat exactly the same food and certainly not the same quantities.
You can also ask for it to not be served onto the plate OR serve it onto the plate yourself.

There needs to be a bit of compromise.

All that might work with a person without a brain injury ... unfortunately, it's a bit more tricky with a person with a brain injury.

Making the evening meal is an independence thing for him, and it's his way of telling me he loves me. Also it is really hard to explain things to him. So much misunderstanding and tears.

M in Oz

that sound rough,

maybe only eat dinner ?

Stat for the day-

Housecleaning- 2hrs 29min, 59sec, dust vacuum, laundry, fold n put away clothes, dust sweep, clean patio, fill dog food bucket= 800c