What irks you today?
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My neighbors. 2 of my neighbors (separate families) are/were covid positive for the past 2 weeks. They decided not to isolate. Sending their kids to school and going to work. I don't care where you stand in all this but at least have some respect towards others and stay away. This will get me disagrees but truthfully I don't care. I've seen so many of my family members affected by this because of careless people like that.11
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I disagree. Tell that to all the kids who have been doing online school for the past year that band practice doesn't work via Skype. YouTube offers great tutorials, by the way.
And if he has dementia, then he may not even remember if his caregiver was with him or not. But caregiving services did not stop due to Covid. So if his caregiver stopped coming, it was his/her personal choice. I could drop a client with a two-week notice and for any reason when I was a caregiver.
People have gone without for years. I'm more sympathetic for our military members or other people who have no choice or other alternatives. I hadn't seen my extended family in two years before this summer. It can be a big boohoo sob story or you can find a way that isn't in person.
Someone should help your husband. Caregiver wise, you could reach out and find another via an agency. Band practice does work via Skype. My daughter's best friend went to online school and only participated in band practice via Skype. People do most things they did before this via Skype or FaceTime. Maybe you could contact an agency for help or have a knowledgeable neighbor that could show your husband the ropes and you could write down the steps for him to reference at a later time.
Adding that I see you wrote that Skype doesn't work for "the monthly gathering of people with dementia and their caregivers." Yes, yes it certainly does work via Skype and if it was just once a month to begin with, it definitely should not be a problem to co-ordinate that via Skype.
Noting I said “for my family”
1) My husband is a retired professional bass player. Not some kid in a school band reading his part off a chart.
Large, loud amps, and freestyle jamming together in the moment - not over glitchy wires where only one person can perform at a time.
He literally can’t play at the house, as we don’t have a sound proof studio and it would disturb the neighbors.
2) I was an elected official at the beginning of the pandemic. I definitely don’t want or need lessons in how to Skype or zoom.
We do occasionally “visit” family and friends over Zoom or FaceTime.
Thanks anyhow.
3) I am my husband’s nearly full time caregiver. And dementia isn’t as simple as “absolutely fine” to “ drooling in a chair” with nothing in between. He has lost some things, but he definitely remembers who I am.
4) The monthly gathering of caregivers and their loved ones is called “Dementia Cafe”
It’s meant to be an in-person “normal” meal out, where everyone just socializes over a meal at a restaurant. The focus is on the caregivers stepping back and allowing the people who have dementia to lead the conversation. Slow. Patient. It doesn’t work over Zoom, though. In part because it is very much all about a normal (as much as possible) meal out with friends.
A similar monthly program called Meet Me At The Movies has also been canceled due to the pandemic. And no, it can’t be done over Zoom.
5) My husband is a medically fragile Vietnam veteran. I can’t risk him catching COVID. It will kill him. And it is my opinion that others should wear masks, socially distance, and get vaccinated, in order to help protect people like my husband.
But as long as anti-maskers and COVID deniers are out there spreading their germs like Mardi Gras beads??? He will remain at home. Being cared for by me.
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_sw33tp3a_11 wrote: »My neighbors. 2 of my neighbors (separate families) are/were covid positive for the past 2 weeks. They decided not to isolate. Sending their kids to school and going to work. I don't care where you stand in all this but at least have some respect towards others and stay away. This will get me disagrees but truthfully I don't care. I've seen so many of my family members affected by this because of careless people like that.
I agree with you. If my kids get sick, I keep them home. My toddler is always home with me but even before this mess, I've always kept my older kids home from school if they had sniffles, sneezes, sore throat... And they go nowhere else, either.4 -
MargaretYakoda wrote: »
Noting I said “for my family”
1) My husband is a retired professional bass player. Not some kid in a school band reading his part off a chart.
Large, loud amps, and freestyle jamming together in the moment - not over glitchy wires where only one person can perform at a time.
He literally can’t play at the house, as we don’t have a sound proof studio and it would disturb the neighbors.
2) I was an elected official at the beginning of the pandemic. I definitely don’t want or need lessons in how to Skype or zoom.
We do occasionally “visit” family and friends over Zoom or FaceTime.
Thanks anyhow.
3) I am my husband’s nearly full time caregiver. And dementia isn’t as simple as “absolutely fine” to “ drooling in a chair” with nothing in between. He has lost some things, but he definitely remembers who I am.
4) The monthly gathering of caregivers and their loved ones is called “Dementia Cafe”
It’s meant to be an in-person “normal” meal out, where everyone just socializes over a meal at a restaurant. The focus is on the caregivers stepping back and allowing the people who have dementia to lead the conversation. Slow. Patient. It doesn’t work over Zoom, though. In part because it is very much all about a normal (as much as possible) meal out with friends.
A similar monthly program called Meet Me At The Movies has also been canceled due to the pandemic. And no, it can’t be done over Zoom.
5) My husband is a medically fragile Vietnam veteran. I can’t risk him catching COVID. It will kill him. And it is my opinion that others should wear masks, socially distance, and get vaccinated, in order to help protect people like my husband.
But as long as anti-maskers and COVID deniers are out there spreading their germs like Mardi Gras beads??? He will remain at home. Being cared for by me.
I think that sounds like a great decision, definitely!!!3 -
MargaretYakoda wrote: »
Noting I said “for my family”
1) My husband is a retired professional bass player. Not some kid in a school band reading his part off a chart.
Large, loud amps, and freestyle jamming together in the moment - not over glitchy wires where only one person can perform at a time.
He literally can’t play at the house, as we don’t have a sound proof studio and it would disturb the neighbors.
2) I was an elected official at the beginning of the pandemic. I definitely don’t want or need lessons in how to Skype or zoom.
We do occasionally “visit” family and friends over Zoom or FaceTime.
Thanks anyhow.
3) I am my husband’s nearly full time caregiver. And dementia isn’t as simple as “absolutely fine” to “ drooling in a chair” with nothing in between. He has lost some things, but he definitely remembers who I am.
4) The monthly gathering of caregivers and their loved ones is called “Dementia Cafe”
It’s meant to be an in-person “normal” meal out, where everyone just socializes over a meal at a restaurant. The focus is on the caregivers stepping back and allowing the people who have dementia to lead the conversation. Slow. Patient. It doesn’t work over Zoom, though. In part because it is very much all about a normal (as much as possible) meal out with friends.
A similar monthly program called Meet Me At The Movies has also been canceled due to the pandemic. And no, it can’t be done over Zoom.
5) My husband is a medically fragile Vietnam veteran. I can’t risk him catching COVID. It will kill him. And it is my opinion that others should wear masks, socially distance, and get vaccinated, in order to help protect people like my husband.
But as long as anti-maskers and COVID deniers are out there spreading their germs like Mardi Gras beads??? He will remain at home. Being cared for by me.
For the people who disagree with my post, he’s my husband. So you don’t actually get a say.
LOL.
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What irks me once again is the disagree stalkers.5
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I think that people tend to have a problem deciphering politics from science when it comes to Covid. The science says Covid can be lethal to certain people. It also says children do not fit in that category. It also says that there were virtually no super spreader schools among those that have been open during the pandemic. As a matter of fact schoola are among the safest places in the way of pure numbers of cases. The science has proven lockdowns do not work in stopping the spread. Here in NY when it was really bad those that locked down had the highest rate of Covid cases. This is not my opinion,.....it is science wheteher its convenient for your polotics or not it really doesnt matter.
I also find it alarming how people lose their ability to not see clearly based on poltical ideology. For example, here in the US, if you are pro vaccine, you should thank Donald Trump. He far surpassed any expectations on when a vaccine could be developed, and acquired hundreds of millions doses of it even before it was approved so that the US would be taken care of should they be approved....they of course were, and well we have more vaccine then this country could ever need. But, those who dislike Trump refuse to credit him for putting the US in by far the best Vaccine position in the world. By the time he left office there were a million vaccines a day being administered, including to our current President and Vice president even though political differences made them speak out against a vaccine developed under Trumps watch. Now, they keep on blaming Trump supporters as being anti vax......when they themselves were the biggest proponents of anti vax.....of course only while it served them politically. Now that they are the new administration they are touting the vaccine with fervor. Well thank you for finally coming around.
Now reading all this you may think im a Trump supporter. I am not. I never voted for him actually. But i try to keep bias out of decision the best i can. I am not anti vax, or anti mask or whatever group people tend to politcally pigeonhole. I just know if you get your data and science from CNN, MSNBC, FOX, or any other political leaning news source you are doing yourself a disservice.13 -
"And if he has dementia, then he may not even remember if his caregiver was with him or not. But caregiving services did not stop due to Covid. So if his caregiver stopped coming, it was his/her personal choice. I could drop a client with a two-week notice and for any reason when I was a caregiver."
Oy, going to have to go back to this comment. My BIL had Dementia, and through the last 6-9 months of his life, my sister had helpers in the home a lot. The only reason she refused to put him into a nursing home was because visits were not allowed. So she leaned on caregivers. There were quite a few weeks where caregivers were in short supply/high demand and it all fell to my sister(and me). Home Health and Hospice had too much juggling to do with too little help, to keep up.
Also, just because a person is diagnosed with dementia does not mean they're automatically brainless and mindless. Except for the last 2 weeks of my BIL's life, he knew people's faces, he knew the sound of their voices, he definitely had his favorites of the people who could make it to his side. He knew which caregivers to share hot chocolate with and which ones preferred coffee; hell he even could work the coffee maker himself up until 6 weeks before he died, and that only changed because he fell and never walked again.
So please don't say things like that. It's a cold-hearted generalization at best.9 -
I agree with you. If my kids get sick, I keep them home. My toddler is always home with me but even before this mess, I've always kept my older kids home from school if they had sniffles, sneezes, sore throat... And they go nowhere else, either.
But the day before those sniffles appear, when things aren't feeling quite right and a child may not even say anything about feeling off, temp hasn't risen yet, they don't start a stomach bug until they're at school or daycare(can't tell you how many times I've had to clean puke off a carpet) but a child is still contagious. Many illnesses sneak through due to those types of things. Most children and adults will tolerate it all pretty well. Some won't be so lucky. Even without social media hyping it up(which I agree with to a point which is why I try to stay with the more reliable networks), you're still looking at probable work hours lost, jobs having to get done no matter what, more health bills, people going to work spreading illness more and more, etc., etc. Maybe *you* kept your child/ren home but many many don't. I saw it through my almost 40 years of in-home child care. Everything was teething or allergies. 
Then surprise, everybody had allergies or was teething.
Easier and healthier and more cost efficient to don a mask, hope it helps with the protection of all. Nothing is infallible.
JMO5 -
I’m going to get wet feet on my run 🌧4
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"And if he has dementia, then he may not even remember if his caregiver was with him or not. But caregiving services did not stop due to Covid. So if his caregiver stopped coming, it was his/her personal choice. I could drop a client with a two-week notice and for any reason when I was a caregiver."
Oy, going to have to go back to this comment. My BIL had Dementia, and through the last 6-9 months of his life, my sister had helpers in the home a lot. The only reason she refused to put him into a nursing home was because visits were not allowed. So she leaned on caregivers. There were quite a few weeks where caregivers were in short supply/high demand and it all fell to my sister(and me). Home Health and Hospice had too much juggling to do with too little help, to keep up.
Also, just because a person is diagnosed with dementia does not mean they're automatically brainless and mindless. Except for the last 2 weeks of my BIL's life, he knew people's faces, he knew the sound of their voices, he definitely had his favorites of the people who could make it to his side. He knew which caregivers to share hot chocolate with and which ones preferred coffee; hell he even could work the coffee maker himself up until 6 weeks before he died, and that only changed because he fell and never walked again.
So please don't say things like that. It's a cold-hearted generalization at best.
I know how how dementia and Alzheimer's affect the brain and the differences between the two and I know that dementia affects everyone differently. I'll say whatever I want to, though. I don't care how it comes across to you.4 -
But the day before those sniffles appear, when things aren't feeling quite right and a child may not even say anything about feeling off, temp hasn't risen yet, they don't start a stomach bug until they're at school or daycare(can't tell you how many times I've had to clean puke off a carpet) but a child is still contagious. Many illnesses sneak through due to those types of things. Most children and adults will tolerate it all pretty well. Some won't be so lucky. Even without social media hyping it up(which I agree with to a point which is why I try to stay with the more reliable networks), you're still looking at probable work hours lost, jobs having to get done no matter what, more health bills, people going to work spreading illness more and more, etc., etc. Maybe *you* kept your child/ren home but many many don't. I saw it through my almost 40 years of in-home child care. Everything was teething or allergies. Then surprise, everybody had allergies or was teething.
Easier and healthier and more cost efficient to don a mask, hope it helps with the protection of all. Nothing is infallible.
JMO
Like I said before and I'll say it again and hopefully you'll remember: We do wear masks. Again, we do wear masks. One last time: We do wear masks.3 -
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Glitter irks me. I'm forever sweeping it, wiping, vacuuming it up and it's never gone. My daughter's dance costume is glitter from hat to boots.2
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It appears as if the former Gov of my state has abandoned his dog on his way out of office. You know a person by how they treat animals.8
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Ironwoman1111 wrote: »
That's exactly what I said.0 -
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Sometimes I wish I was better at peopling... at the social "games" that much of society is built on, because I think life could/would be easier/better if I was more engaged with people. This is one of those times.
It irks me that those types of interactions are necessary, and that I'm not better at them, that I have no natural inclination to be that way, and that I still complain about it.7 -
Sometimes I wish I was better at peopling... at the social "games" that much of society is built on, because I think life could/would be easier/better if I was more engaged with people. This is one of those times.
It irks me that those types of interactions are necessary, and that I'm not better at them, that I have no natural inclination to be that way, and that I still complain about it.
Bro, same1 -
OpheliaCooter wrote: »
Bro, same
Sounds like you're introvert. I'm one I struggle sometimes. Its just acting for the most part, this is all generic advice and its sort of a cliche but "fake it until you make it" does work in some situations, not saying pretend to know things you don't know but if you act confident you'll start to actually feel more confident.. it is possible to do this in your own way without looking arrogant. Positive outward appearance and body language works wonders. When I did sales, I had a good crew that helped me. The key things I recall were to REMEMBER THEIR NAME, use it...it makes engagement more personal or feel that way. Also, remember....(generalizing) but people usually like to talk about themselves. Ask them questions, it sorted of makes them feel...desired or important. If you keep asking opened ended questions it opens so many tangential branches to navigate in conversation and keep the conversation going. Also, paraphrase and what they are saying if you don't understand it or just want to clarify it because It shows you're actively listening and you can better empathize with people.7 -
amorfati601070 wrote: »
Sounds like you're introvert. I'm one I struggle sometimes. Its just acting for the most part, this is all generic advice and its sort of a cliche but "fake it until you make it" does work in some situations, not saying pretend to know things you don't know but if you act confident you'll start to actually feel more confident.. it is possible to do this in your own way without looking arrogant. Positive outward appearance and body language works wonders. When I did sales, I had a good crew that helped me. The key things I recall were to REMEMBER THEIR NAME, use it...it makes engagement more personal or feel that way. Also, remember....(generalizing) but people usually like to talk about themselves. Ask them questions, it sorted of makes them feel...desired or important. If you keep asking opened ended questions it opens so many tangential branches to navigate in conversation and keep the conversation going. Also, paraphrase and what they are saying if you don't understand it or just want to clarify it because It shows you're actively listening and you can better empathize with people.
I was just today telling my coworker that I was gonna just start barking at people but this might work too. 🧐🤪4 -
My paper shredder 😤. It keeps getting jammed but I think maybe it's overheating itself from being overworked. Lazy mofo 😑5
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The heat, I’m dying1
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Sometimes I wish I was better at peopling... at the social "games" that much of society is built on, because I think life could/would be easier/better if I was more engaged with people. This is one of those times.
It irks me that those types of interactions are necessary, and that I'm not better at them, that I have no natural inclination to be that way, and that I still complain about it.
I'm such a social misfit, always have been and not likely to change anytime soon. But when I do have to be among the human race, I do find myself faking it a lot, as Amorfati mentioned.. I truly appreciated lockdown for that reason only. I wasn't made to interact and be sociable.
So, you're not the only one to have this affliction.
And don't even mention classes where you're made to present stuff to the group, *shivers* I'm so thankful those horrible nightmares are now in my past. I'll comfortably stay right in my comfort zone TYVM. 2 -
People also irk me today.
Social rules are a black box.
Especially when I see eight or ten others doing the exact same thing but if I do it everyone gets mad at me.
Sigh.
The above is a bit hyperbolic. But still.
People and their mysterious social rules.
Irksome indeed.4 -
No irks today, the sun is back, my flowers are blooming. I’m happy. Life is good!🌸😌💝4
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@Ironwoman1111 wrote: »No irks today, the sun is back, my flowers are blooming. I’m happy. Life is good!🌸😌💝
Hold my beer and watch this..
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