At Goal & Successfully Maintaining. So Why Am I Doing This All Over Again?
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We did a grocery shop today, before BL heads out. Interesting experience. Both of us turning packages over, walking away from most.
Me, because I’m on a mission to increase protein, and am label-looking in lame hopes of finding a magic bullet.
Him, because he’s in the learning stage, and the more nutrition labels you familiarize yourself with, the better your chances of success.
I call that the Wow Stage. As in, “Wow! That (insert thing I used to eat by the bag full) has how many calories?!”
I still experience that, btw. I had a handful of Dunkin Munchkins last weekend, and nearly fell off the sofa when I went to log those suckers. My record Wow moment, though, was logging some wings I ate at a party catered by Hooters. Ye Gods.
He’s still doing well. Declined dessert tonight because he opted to eat his whole half of the homemade pizza. He’s hanging in there, and also picking up some additional steps walking our new dog, Bean.
BTW, he’s making suggestions for the grocery list these days. 😱 That NEVER happened before!
After months of turning his nose up at my wraps, he has decided CarbSmart tortillas are the greatest thing since, uh, sliced bread. 45 calories for a generous sized flour tortilla, and I defy you to taste any difference between it and a “regular” flour tortilla.
So when the package of CarbSmarts dwindles down, he reminds me. He also got mad Kraft discontinued their very good low fat Mayo, and sat down and researched a replacement. I’m ordering some Walden Farms to try at his request, since I need to replenish their honey mustard and honey balsamic dressings anyway, and we can only find them online. BTW, their chocolate syrup is pretty darn good, and he likes their ketchup and pancake syrup. Almost all their products are zero calorie.
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FYI - I found that CarbSmarts spiked my blood glucose suspiciously high, to the point that I wrote to the company about it. I don’t trust their package info. Has your husband been testing after eating them? It may just be a me thing, but take the stated nutritional info with a grain of salt.1
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rheddmobile wrote: »FYI - I found that CarbSmarts spiked my blood glucose suspiciously high, to the point that I wrote to the company about it. I don’t trust their package info. Has your husband been testing after eating them? It may just be a me thing, but take the stated nutritional info with a grain of salt.
He doesn’t check his levels daily. Lets his doctor check his A1C. He says he hasn’t noticed any issues, though, and he has been eating a couple a day.
I do often wonder about labeling, though. I love a particular brand of chicken sausage that was listed at 60 calories each for a couple years and suddenly jumped to 110. And it puzzles me how plain fat free cottage cheese can be 60/serving at one store and 90 at the next for same ingredients and serving size/grams. Ditto fat free yogurt and fat free half and half. There’s a 20% range between brands.4 -
NSV!!!!
BL was in such a rush, he forgot to weigh in before he left, but he did proudly show me he was wearing some jeans he hasn’t gotten into for a while. He preened when I told him,
”Those are baggy!”
What’s an NSV?
NSV = Non Scale Victory
Sometimes, when your weight’s not moving like you think it should, and you’re frustrated as all get out, other changes remind you that progress is still happening. Those are the NSVs.
Clothes getting looser, moving down a belt buckle hole, even shoes fitting looser.
The NSV thread is hands down the best thread on MFP. I’ve read every single post. When I was feeling low, it was great to celebrate and identify with other users’ NSVs. I can’t tell you how many times this thread had kept me motivated and hanging in there when I seriously felt like quitting
https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1275030/whats-your-most-recent-nsv/p116 -
Thanks @springlering62 for this thread. I've really enjoyed reading through the journey and all the thoughtful advice.
Congrats to your hubby on the NSV! I recently was able to get into some pants that were unwearable 3 months ago. It's a good feeling.4 -
rheddmobile wrote: »FYI - I found that CarbSmarts spiked my blood glucose suspiciously high, to the point that I wrote to the company about it. I don’t trust their package info. Has your husband been testing after eating them? It may just be a me thing, but take the stated nutritional info with a grain of salt.
I realized today we are actually eating the La Banderita Carb Counter tortillas. Changed over when our local Lidl began carrying them dirt cheap. Been very happy with them
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Absolutely love this thread! You an your husband are amazing!2
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I just posted this on another thread and thought I’d share it here. The other OP was concerned because she and her husband have different calorie requirements. Anyway, FWIW, this is how we are coping with a large calorie difference in our household.
I’ve been doing MFP for three years and have been in maintenance for about one. I’m highly active.
My husband started four or five weeks ago and is probably between sedentary and mildly active.
I get about 700 more calories per day than he does. We’re both retired, so spend a lot of time in the house together.
I make a large batch of pancakes for breakfast, enough to eat for two or three days. He simply portions out fewer than me. I like low fat Greek cream cheese and zero cal syrup on mine. He just does the syrup.
Lunch, he’s a deli meat and chips kind of guy, and makes his own reasonable calorie lunch. I generally make massive salads with a ton of meat on the top. I’ve offered, but he side-eyes me and says he can’t even imagine eating something that large without literally busting a gut. There’s no “food jealousy” over my salad. He’s totally disinterested.
I do a lot of snacking in the afternoon when he isn’t around, so it won’t bother or tempt him.
If I think he’s running low (after seeing what he had for lunch and knowing what my dinner plan is), I might offer him his favorite chocolate smoothie. I give him half, and then go back and add an ingredient or two he doesn’t care for in the other half for myself. He’s happy, I’m happy.
Dinner is the same for both of us, although I will generally have a much larger portion of meat than him, and a larger side salad.
If for some reason I’m not home to make dinner for him, it’s deli sandwich again, or a trip to Cookout for the under 600 calorie “Cookout Tray” special.
Dessert is usually the same for both of us, although again, my serving will usually be larger than his unless he has a lot of calories left over.
So for us, it works pretty well eating the same foods, but just adjusting portions to our needs, and doing the heavy snacking either out of his sight, or having it be something he’s totally disinterested in (he’d rather lick the floor than have cottage cheese and fruit. His loss. More for me. )
I struggled with it the first few weeks because I felt bad for him, and because I was used to giving him the “man’s share”, but I’ve come to terms with it, and he’s been awfully good about it himself. He’s very invested in losing some weight.
What I thought might turn into a push me pull you has actually worked out really well. I guess we’re “adulting” our way through this. 😉11 -
Thanks for reminding me about that NSV thread! When I was losing I had it bookmarked and always enjoyed the positive posts, especially on those days that I was struggling. I haven't looked at it for a few years and just took a peek at it now. Yep, it's still the same and I've bookmarked it again3
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👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻 Just checked BL’s food diary on the sly. He’s doing very very well on his trip. Looks like he’s really trying to choose nutritious choices while eating on the fly- with other guys. Small fries, green beans, eggs, grits, roast beef. Poor guy. One corn muffin. I almost feel sorry for him. My BL loves him some cornbread.
Me? I celebrated some quality Me Time with a package of chocolate chip cookie dough. Old Me rears her head occasionally, and ever since I accidentally discovered dough with a hit of ground salt…… “do not eat raw dough” warnings not withstanding……
It’s all gone now. *burp*
Back to some nutritious choices myself, but it was fun derailing for a couple of days. Derailing is fine when it’s a conscious choice and you’ve built up enough habits that “getting back on the wagon” is a (dare I say it?) piece of cake versus a battle of will.
Anyway, this new dog will walk it off me in a matter of no time. I don’t understand how a dog with six inch legs can pound pavement for miles a day, and go berserk with joy at the thought of yet another walk.
That’s how WE should be about exercise.17 -
springlering62 wrote: »...
Anyway, this new dog will walk it off me in a matter of no time. I don’t understand how a dog with six inch legs can pound pavement for miles a day, and go berserk with joy at the thought of yet another walk.
That’s how WE should be about exercise.
Love that thought! Brought a needed smile to my face. Thank you for the observation.
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BL is back from his reenactment week. He made a real effort to continue logging and to make good choices.
He even looks smaller than when he left.
So why haven’t I nagged him to climb up on the scale?
1.) salty, carby fast foods need a few days to flush. Even with the best available choices, either can cause weight to temporarily appear higher
2.) a very stressful and long drive home (stress compounded by a convertible top that refused to go back up and impending rain). Stress and travel can both lead to temporary water weight gain
3.) Unfamiliar activity. These bad boys not only had to prep a large park for thousands of spectators and reinactors, they had 33 cannons (yep, you read that right) to move - and fire- during reenactment battles. Cannons are not feathers, shall we say. So DOMs (temporary muscle soreness and fatigue) may be in play, too. Your very intelligent body retains water and sends to sore spots for healing.
4.) Fatigue and lack of sleep can also cause temporary water gain. BL is a homebody and doesn’t sleep well without a cat stretched acrost his legs.
We’ll give it a few days and then get him to weigh in.
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Consider the humble rotisserie chicken.
120-170 calories per three ounces (cooked!) depending on your source. A protein goldmine.
Wonderful on its own, but, oh, the leftovers!!!!!
Top a salad, in wraps, chicken salad, BBQ chicken sandwiches. Then plop that carcass into some yummy homemade (and super low cal) chicken soup and let the remaining meat fall right off the bone. Or add it to a 12 bean dried soup mix with a bottle of puréed tomatoes and some liquid smoke.
Save a bite for your four legged friend and revel in Love Eyes. (And then try not to trip over them when they Velcro themselves to you hoping for more.)
And if you’re lucky enough to find a Mexican rotisserie chicken place nearby, well, Winner Winner Chicken Dinner for realz!!!!!
BTW, maybe we’re just lucky, but our Mexican chicken rotisserie has killer potato salad and cole slaw. And the dude with the hatchet is free entertainment. I miss the old school ‘Q places that would chop it up in front of you. And had cornbread with cracklings. (It’s sooo easy to wander to my happy place when thinking about food…..)8 -
BL weighed in this morning and is all *kitten*-a-hoop that he’s down 4 more, for a total of 15 pounds. That’s roughly a pound and a half a week thus far.
“But I ate all fast food and camp food last week. I didn’t think I’d be down this week.”
Yes, but you did it mindfully, made good choices, and kept track. See how that works, folks? 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻
One of our daughters will be very pleased when we update her. Our other gets angry and hostile and doesn’t want to hear about it. Neither one has a weight issue, but talk of weight “triggers” that one. (Talk of anything pretty much triggers her, unfortunately. And btw, don’t use the word “trigger”because that triggers her. And to think, I never heard of the word til she sprung it on me. 🙄)
I think of her as keeping us in mental aspic. She sees us very seldom, living on the other side of the country, and doesn’t want her parents to change from what’s in her memory. She finds it very distressing that we have lives outside of her box for some reason. I guess that’s her comfort zone and I get it. And it can be an unholy shock to see someone who was obese last time you saw them, and isn’t any more. I’m just sorta sad she can’t celebrate our better health with us.
There’s some fascinating stories on MFP about how friends, family, others have reacted to users’ weight loss.
And how users themselves have reacted to that reaction.
https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10735982/things-people-say-when-you-lose-weight/p16 -
Lmao that MFP filters archaic terms involving roosters as profanity.3
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Ha Ha - I read the phrase "kitten-a-hoop" without registering it as a MFP correction, I just assumed it was a strange Americanism that I didn't know about. (I'm a Brit, but my American DIL and I frequently have conversations about the differences in language)3
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haha... I kept trying to replace kitten with various cuss words and none of them seemed correct. Thanks for clarifying! lol
I love hearing about your husband's progress! Sorry about your daughter's reaction.2 -
BL dragged out a sweatshirt. “Got a chill”, he said apologetically. “Can’t seem to shake it.”
And so it begins. The cold!!! The bone numbing cold! Also known as WLAF. Weight Loss *kitten* Freeze.
Yes. It’s a real thing.
That sensation, from the inside out, that you will never, ever be warm enough again. That, while you’ve slimmed down, the world will never notice because of the extra layers you’re piling on. When socks become your best friend. When you seriously consider wearing gloves to bed. When you catch your SO jealously eyeing your fleece bathrobe.
Fire up the kettle for some hot tea. This may be with you for a few seasons, and still crop up unexpectedly later on.
Get in the habit of carrying a sweater to restaurants, meetings etc.
Stock up on bubble bath for those nights only a hot bath will save you.
The best supposition ‘round these parts is that you’ve lost a layer of insulation. Your metabolism has changed. Something’s up. Many people here report experiencing WLAF.
On the NSV side, it’s proof you’re progressing. And maybe all those shivers burn calories?13 -
Once again, copying from another thread since applicable here. OP there is concerned about his SO’s reaction to his decision to lose weight.
My husband was a bit insecure with my weight loss at first. I just made an effort to stay my same old pig headed sharp tongued bitchy self so that the only thing that changed was my shape.
He did ask to come to the gym one day, just to see what I did with my trainer. My gym is a small, hard core metal gym with serious big-muscles competitive lifters (I’m one of the few there not in that class), and my trainer is an older woman. Once he saw that his nearly 60 year old wife wasn’t surrounded by admirers (I love this man!!!!) and that her trainer was screaming at her to complete sets, he relaxed.
I never pressured him to go with me or eat what I ate, although, since I did the cooking, he had to either come along for that part of the ride or make other arrangements. But since I cooked the same old stuff and just ate smaller portions, he didn’t really notice.
After a while, he began bragging to others about my loss.
And a couple of months ago, he decided to join MFP himself and has already lost a few pounds. Again, on his own, no pressure or nagging from me.
I’ve tried to be supportive as possible in his efforts, although ^^^see bitchy tongue, above.
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Let’s go OT and talk about MFP friends for a minute..
I’m getting a lot of friend requests, presumably because of this thread. (Which I sincerely appreciate y’all reading, since BL refuses to.)
Friends can be great. They can be motivating. Some are wonderful at pulling you along for the ride. Some are breathtakingly entertaining, but I’m only “calling it as I see it”, (and you know who you are).
Friends can be mindnumbing. Friends can be rather anonymously vaguely threatening, particularly to a female. Sorry, I’m old school and besides, I listen to true crime podcasts on my many walks. Those things will make you pretty darn paranoid.
Bad things about friend: pornbots trying to share foreign URLs with you. Users harvesting friends for various reasons- and this applies to gals as well as guys. In this current world, some use MFP as Tinder-Lite. Others are using it to scam you with cyber-currency ripoffs, lonely hearts scams, or worse, to get you to provide email address so they can take you offline. KNOW who you’re giving your email address to.
Friends (again guys and gals) showing sooo much skin in their feeds. Again, I’m a different generation. There’s some users I just grit my teeth and like Playboy readers of old, I read their posts and ignore the photos, because young flaunters sometimes have great info to share, and I know they’re legit users, and am happy for their success.
Want to make friends?
#1 complaint here on the boards: No profile pic. Put in a profile pic so folks know who they’re dealing with. Even if it’s a picture of your insane dog or crazy cat, it shows intent and that you’re (probably) not a bot.
#2 complaint: porny profile pic. I know you’re proud of your pecs, your killer thighs, or your awesome cleavage, but if you really want help and motivation, some potential friends (me) are probably going to assume something else. Btw @AnnPT77 and @sijomial get passes for their profile pics. I find good biceps and shoulders very motivating, plus you can easily search their posting history to see that they’re legit and involved.
#3 complaint : you haven’t taken the time to fill out your profile page. Or if you have, it includes your porn link. Tell us a little about yourself.
#4 your feed is private. Ummmmm you want to be friends yet everything about you is locked up so I can’t see? Honey, that creeps me TF out. I get it that you’re overweight (been there, 100 pounds worth so I have street cred) and don’t want to share certain things but go into your privacy settings and unblock a few crumbs.
red flags:
* profile pic
* new account with a lot of numbers or “MFP” as part of the user ID
*old ID with no activity until the past couple weeks and that’s only X number of days logged in and suddenly harvesting friends
*accounts a couple weeks old with 0 pounds lost. Sure, we all had to start somewhere, or are restarting, but most accounts will have small fluctuations within the first weeks of enthusiasm , as well as indications of diary closed, or exercises accomplished. I often find many of the other red flags associated with 0 pounds lost.
* accounts that send you generic PMs like hey, good morning, or hello dear, especially if they do it several times. Those are copy and paste messages to engage you before hitting you with whatever scam they’re involved in.
I’ve covered everything I can think of. Your suggestions?
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