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KickassAmazon76 wrote: »KosmosKitten wrote: »I still don't really fit in anywhere.. or into any groups of people. Kind of bums me out, honestly. It just leaves me feeling... "other" for lack of better terminology.
You are not alone in your "other"ness.
I never really feel like I fit in. Even with social gatherings full of people I love and care for... I always feel like I'm on the outside trying to say / do the right thing. It's crazy, because other people don't see that about me, but it is so very real.
Getting an invite to a gathering fills me with dread. I don't want to go, to see people, to feel that way. And at the same time, I don't like feeling lonely.
Are you sure you and I aren't the same person? Oh, wait.. I can't lift like an absolute champ. 😂
You've described it (and me by association) pretty well. And usually, if I force myself to go to the gatherings, I have a good time (most of the time), but it leaves me feeling really, really drained. Like my "people battery" has run out of juice. Alone time replenishes the "juice", but I feel like I require a lot more of it (alone time) than maybe most people I know?
I know that has to do with being introverted, but still.. kinda sucks when you want to be personable, reach out and do things with people, but feel that the very core of your being rejects that idea entirely. It does lead you to feeling a bit like a freak, honestly.2 -
It's interesting you say this. My oldest is 16 and she is neurodivergent. She hasn't been officially diagnosed (in progress), but we believe she has both ADHD and is autistic / has Tourettes.
She has uncontrollable tics, which often cause her to jump, cringe, hit herself, or almost hit herself. Sometimes these are accompanied by sounds, clicks or pops.
If I were in her shoes, i would have felt that I had to do everything in my power to suppress them.
Must. Assimilate. Right?
But for her, when I talk about getting her help to manage / control / minimze the tics, she gets upset with me because "this is who I am. Why should I have to change? To make other people feel more comfortable? Nah, they just need to realize there is nothing wrong with me. I'm just different and different isn't bad."
Note: I don't think she is broken, or needs fixing, or even needs to suppress her stims. I just want her to have as smooth a life as possible.
I wish I was as comfortable in my skin as she seems to be in hers. I am so proud of her.
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Completely unrelated, but aww.. bowling ball grouchy face no longer looks like bowling ball grouchy face.
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KickassAmazon76 wrote: »It's interesting you say this. My oldest is 16 and she is neurodivergent. She hasn't been officially diagnosed (in progress), but we believe she has both ADHD and is autistic / has Tourettes.
She has uncontrollable tics, which often cause her to jump, cringe, hit herself, or almost hit herself. Sometimes these are accompanied by sounds, clicks or pops.
If I were in her shoes, i would have felt that I had to do everything in my power to suppress them.
Must. Assimilate. Right?
But for her, when I talk about getting her help to manage / control / minimze the tics, she gets upset with me because "this is who I am. Why should I have to change? To make other people feel more comfortable? Nah, they just need to realize there is nothing wrong with me. I'm just different and different isn't bad."
Note: I don't think she is broken, or needs fixing, or even needs to suppress her stims. I just want her to have as smooth a life as possible.
I wish I was as comfortable in my skin as she seems to be in hers. I am so proud of her.
This is fair. She shouldn't have to change if it's not bothering her nor affecting her negatively. Good on her!
For me, personally, the only time I "change" is when personal well-being is taking such a hit due to mental health struggles that I have to actively seek help, either by reaching out and talking to someone I know (which I dread), or talking to a complete stranger (and paying them), which oddly, I dread a lot less.
It's not changing, either, when I think about it since I fundamentally cannot alter my brain chemistry to be "not-depressed" and "not-anxious". It just helps figuring things out without my own personal biases getting in the way. Same with talking to folks here: I get different strategies, viewpoints and anecdotes to draw information from and find a solution.3 -
Well.. took me 5 mins to work out how to delete something. Now to see how to add a gif. 🙄
And where have the emoji gone? 😐
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Emoji's. Bottom left in the box when typing a reply.
Phew! Figured something out (which you probably already have. 😛 (Ooooo more tongue ones.)
(I hate change.)
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Eewwwww I didn’t know they were gonna change the whole thing! Change is BAD! 😤😤😤😤😤😤😤😤🤠
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I see it now 😉
I don't like it at all 😫 Maybe its because I'm on a mobile that it all looks crazy.
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Nope looks crazy on a desk top also 😫😫
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I clicked on recent discussions down the bottom in the quick links and it says there are none. Thats not right.. 😠
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They trying hard to kill the fun and chat..
Even it's flagged as follow.. it will not list on discussion list.. 🙄
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They trying hard to kill the fun and chat..
Even it's flagged as follow.. it will not list on discussion list.. 🙄
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Wait wut? Can't see on Android web...
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Me too! All those hugs you’ve given me 🥰
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Yep.. mine looks the same.. neither does chit chat.
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Are they making this so difficult for us social users of Fun and Games and Chit Chat cause they are trying to get rid of us? 😫🥺
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Heading that way.. 🙄
Some of us use them to pass time.. most forum I've been on have an area just to chill with others ("water cooler").
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I hope not. This is my social life!
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Let's stage a protest rally 😠 Hell no, we won't go.
Mfp has been my only escape and helped keep what sanity I had left. 😬
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it Was fun to be back for a minute but, like, bye 😂
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That should make them stand up and take notice.. make em tremble in their boots 🤣😂
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I don't see anything on my PC either... 😐️
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How are you seeing who does the reactions; what am I missing?
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Hmmm, wondering if going through chewy.com for all my dogs' meds and food would be cheaper. I pay much more for their needs than my own and it's getting awfully expensive.
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Click on your pic top right...
It's hidden there 😏
More steps to do what you want it to do.. joy
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I wonder if I'd care more about being/doing better if I felt like my efforts would pay off. Seems like it, but am I just making excuses for being lazy and not caring?
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Got it! Thank you! Now I’ll be able to respond more quickly to requests for Canadian rioters. 🤗
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