WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JUNE 2022
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Pip ~ That cake looks delicious!2
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Ok, I was 12 pages behind and there's no way I can comment (or remember everything I wanted to comment on).
Karen in VA ... There sure isn't a one size fits all answer to dealing with depression, is there? I do not have clinical depression and I've never taken medication for down times. I deal with the circumstances in my life by talking/screaming/pleading/crying/laughing/and every other means of expression you can think of ... with God. We don't talk about religion here, so I'll leave it at that ... you know where I'm going with it. I don't know all the circumstances of your life, nor the answer for your "fog" ... but I do believe that, in part, you're grieving. Everything you mentioned had a component of loss to it. Loss of home, memories, plans, dreams...and you're Swedish Death Cleaning ... which just makes you focus on your own passing. I know a lot about loss. Each day I have to make a conscious decision to LIVE with the grief ... with hope, with joy, with peace. You've been given great advice ... some of which I needed to hear again as well. I'm praying for you as you find the answers that are best for you.
Flea ... so much going on in your world. My parents just gave me durable POA for their health care. The advanced health care directives ... living will... written by their attorney was pretty stark and we spent time clarifying. We have very specific guidelines as to what DNR means to them, but ultimately, I have been given their permission to make the final decision. I hope I never have to use it. I hope you don't either.
Debbie ... your MIL has definitely made her own life difficult. Hoping you and your husband can find help soon!
Lanette ... I am so impressed with your strength and good humor and your ability to "carry on." I also think you must be an old hippie! Mushrooms!!
Lisa ... sorry your daughter has Covid and all the problems that may come as a result. Honestly, our government in every form seems to have its collective head in an unmentionable place. My husband and I spent time in the Social Security Office today ... oh my
Barbara ... you asked about vistas. The heavens and all their glory ... whether it be clouds gathering before a storm or blue skies ... sunrises and sunsets ... all of it centers me.
Karen in VA ... I just thought of something that my son's therapist used to suggest ... "grounding." You can look it up, but it's basically the idea of putting our bare feet to the earth. Interesting results.
It's been busy in my corner of the world. We're ok.
Beth near Buffalo
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Pip — HAPPY ANNIVERSARY! I hope you and Kirby enjoy every minute. ❤️1
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Worked today. Work tomorrow and then the soup kitchen. We’ll go to the movies tonight. Now that I think of it, Vince did mention something about wanting to see the hockey game. Bet that’s the real reason we didn’t go last night. Oh well...no biggie
Went in the pool (what else is new) while Vince powerwashed part of the driveway. He doesn’t like the heat (unlike me) but this he doesn’t have a problem with since you get wet.
Lisa – I’m so sorry about your daughter. The right thing was to tell them, but still…. As far as I am concerned, you can keep the coffee. But don’t throw out the tea. I think the last time I had any coffee was about 6 years ago at a Marriott hotel so you know it wasn’t a cheapo brand. But to me, it was so bitter I didn’t even drink it. Probably some of that is because I hadn’t had any in about 2 or 3 years. But don’t take my tea!!!!!!
Leslie – welcome!
Yesterday after my walk around the block, I walked up the walkway to the house and looked at the new plants. I almost fell over, there were places where the landscape fabric was totally exposed. I bet any amount of money the deer (or whatever creature) was hunting for the moisture from when I watered the plants the night before and that’s what did it. So I just covered up the landscape fabric with mulch. I know that the landscape fabric we have will disintegrate if you leave it in the sunlight.
Pip – Now you have me craving chocolate cake. Thanks <hmmmf> Love ya.
Well, off to the movies
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Pip: — Happy 20th Anniversary for you and Kirby. ❤️
Lisa .Sorry to hear about DD, Hoping it works out better in the long run. Glad you are feeling better
☘️ Terri2 -
Stat for the day-
Walk w/family- 1hr 52min 35sec, 43elev, 88ahr, 114mhr, 2.84ap, 5.53mi= 494c
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Done:6/22: Move: 1 set pt, 1.25 hrs line dancing, 45 mins march in place watching Westminster, steps: 6543
Fuel: protein=49 g sugar=86 g fruit=3 vegs=4
Live: Joe, readings, called Curry Health about invoice, reconciled Visa and checking accounts, Farmers’ Market. wt 138.5
Heather glad your slippy shoes help with the turns. Really glad DH is starting to feel a little better.
Debbie what Vicki and Michele said.
Allie what Debbie said. glad your nephrologist is taking your condition seriously. Fingers X’d for clear answers and good path forward Monday.
Annie “…peppy talking…”?
Barbie alas, I would not find waiting on hold for customer service a peaceful way to spend the afternoon. I’d try breading, distractions, but ultimately would succumb to annoyance.
Tracey would you explain Michaela’s cheering method? Heart breaks for your daughter, but thankful she can hold her friend’s baby with a big smile.
Flea ((hugs))
Pip Happy 20th anniversary. Kirby is a lucky guy!
Lisa SMH. Not to wish anyone ill, but hope some more symptoms and positive results show up so the class can reconvene via Zoom with your DD reinstated as leader. 12 lbs? NOT fair! And MREs are NOT comfort food for the sick. :sick:
Leslie your happy place sounds like our picnic table meadow. Please don’t be offended, many here don’t do the “friend” think but keep contact in this thread.
Kelly Magnifying glass in gratitude journal, now why didn’t I think of that?
Lanette our dandelions are already blooming, hope we can get ‘em whacked before they set seed…
Machka silver linings, you get to work from home Are you in the new, less chatty job yet?
Suebdew oh boy Greek Isles! Can’t wait to enjoy your cruise vicariously too!
Debbie, imho, the next time she falls and dh can’t get her up, call 911.
Rita is there a functional medicine registry of practitioners? Not that there would be in our rural area but maybe along I5…
Beth “grounding” thanks!
Katla every time a humming bird stops by our feeder, I think of you and your DH. Whooshing comfort, strength, peace and love to you both.
After line dancing 3 days in a row, taking it easy today, just dogs to powerline and a little yard puttering.
Lighter, lovelies!
Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
2022: Be still and listen.
June: Move more, fuel better, live NOW.
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Just a quick sharing on the subject of DNRs and living wills. If you have lost a parent, or feel you may soon, this may well be a trigger. Please don't read it if you think it will. This regards my mother's death in 1999, so the echoes are quieter now.My mother did not have a DNR in place, nor a living will. The three brothers and sister who were there the day she had the stroke all turned to me to decide. The doctor said her only chance was surgery to try to stop the brain bleed, but without instructions from her, we had to make that decision. So I said "Do it," because if there was any chance, she deserved to live.
My only aunt, Mama's sister, called the waiting room in the hospital and asked to talk to me. She said she would never forgive me for letting them do the surgery, as I had sentenced my mother to live like a vegetable for the rest of her life. I just handed the phone to a sibling and walked outside to cry some more.
When they brought Mama back from surgery, the doc came in and said they couldn't stop the bleeding. But he offered us an unexpected option. He said to let her make the choice. He said to stop the support, and if she took one unassisted breath, just one, they would go to whatever lengths it took to save her life. But if she didn't, it would mean that she was tired, and ready to go. I looked at all the siblings, and then nodded to him. "Yes."
Her poor battered heart continued to beat for four more hours. It seemed more grandkids arrived every ten minutes. There was family three deep around her bed, holding each other, holding her hands, praying, sobbing, and, in the end, silent when her heart finally stopped.
I said all that to say this. If there is any possibility of doing so, get the wishes of the people you love before it comes to this. Make sure you have your own wishes known and in a place where your family knows where to get them. Those answers I had to give are branded on my soul, indelible. My aunt still doesn't speak to me--you're welcome to ask me if I care. Don't get me wrong - I don't have any resentment or heartache for having to give those answers. I just know that my entire family would have felt better if the decisions were hers and not mine.
Again, my apologies if this hurt. It's important.
Love y'all,
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Yes ,Lisa very important to have.. my dad only did one a few days before he died because he had Colon cancer,my MIL no one but her could make the decision and she made the decision to go through it and the next 6 weeks were dialysis and a living hell.. all because her 3 boys and My FIL wouldn't help make a decision..
And believe me for 20 yrs i tried to have a talk with my dad to no avail until the last minute.
Myself when my 20 yr old cousin was on life support and the family had to make a decision to turn it off and i was one of the ones to watch and my son was 18 months old. I filled one out right away..
No way was i going to lay that on my family members..
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LisaInArkansas wrote: »Just a quick sharing on the subject of DNRs and living wills. If you have lost a parent, or feel you may soon, this may well be a trigger. Please don't read it if you think it will. This regards my mother's death in 1999, so the echoes are quieter now.My mother did not have a DNR in place, nor a living will. The three brothers and sister who were there the day she had the stroke all turned to me to decide. The doctor said her only chance was surgery to try to stop the brain bleed, but without instructions from her, we had to make that decision. So I said "Do it," because if there was any chance, she deserved to live.
Again, my apologies if this hurt. It's important.
Love y'all,
Lisa in AR
I had to make that decision for my husband 4 years ago ... and several subsequent decisions.
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I did my dumbbells! Yay!
Still fighting fleas on poor Teddy. Tonight I gave him the Capstar again which knocks out the adults but only lasts a day or two. Saturday I can finally give him the Frontline Gold which is what the vet recommended. Then I start the laundry and vacuuming again. Sigh.
Barbara I do a Leslie Sansone beginner one mile video on YouTube. She is quite energetic and excitable, and sometimes her "peppy talking" is a bit much after the peaceful yoga. But I like the simple low impact exercises and the cues are good and it suits my knee, and it really is cheerful once I'm ready for it.
Annie in Delaware
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Barbara - Good to know! Thank you for letting me know.0
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Barbara— Thank you for your kind words. The little Hummingbirds are doing ok. We had high water in the Columbia River. Our home was safe and dry but the birds seemed to struggle a bit. River levels have come down & the birds are doing better.3
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Lisa - “this too shall pass” is hard as an older person to think of when going through something.
Hope they end up going online.
We had a discussion at work today about not understanding how someone can or can’t do something. Then when we have a similar thing we understand. Our analogy was cosleeping with children.
Carol - that must have been devastating for their children. I can’t imagine losing both the same day.
Kelly - my daughter had the procedure to get pregnant the day this little one was born. It is bittersweet for her I’m sure. Her friend suffered a miscarriage a couple of years ago so she understands and is letting my daughter have whatever times she wants. She just said to her the other day when DD wanted to continue wearing her, “if she gets hungry, phone a friend”. 🙂
Lanette - I’ll post a pic of myself with both of my girls. Our eldest looks even more like me.
Debbie - I hope DH listens and gets some help.
Barbara - Michaela is 6 and doesn’t really understand hockey or cheering for a team. She told me her favourite team is the Penguins, because they are cute. When they aren’t playing she cheers for the Oilers because they are her brother’s favourite team. When they went out she is cheering for the Avalanche because they are her Dad’s favourite. Really she just supports her family more than the teams. LOL
Annie - I used to do Leslie Sansone in the winter. I need to get back to her.
I had ceramics tonight. I am working on this piece for my BF. I am struggling with it. I don’t think I’m allowed to curse while working on it though.
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One of my nearby vistas ...
Machka in Oz8 -
Beach Walk ...
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Happy anniversary Pip and Kirby.
Everyone take care, Sue in WA2 -
Morning ladies
Alfie being extra clingy this morning... i have to watch Miles today and Alfie wants to go..
Running errands this afternoon and then home for the weekend..
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Good morning ladies!
I lost half a pound last week so I'm back at 165.8, where I was two weeks ago. I lost two weeks of progress by eating food I bought when my cousin was here. If I lose two weeks at every special occasion, no wonder this weight loss overall is so stagnant. Hmm.
Lisa hope for the best for your daughter. DoD works in mysterious ways.
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Beth, Thank you...and the "grounding" sounds interesting, I'll google it.
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Anniesquats100 wrote: »... DoD works in mysterious ways.
Annie in Delaware
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Machka silver linings, you get to work from home Are you in the new, less chatty job yet?
Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
2022: Be still and listen.
June: Move more, fuel better, live NOW.
It was really nice to work from home today. No buses! I got the same amount done as I would have if I had been in the office ... without the noise, language, etc. Although, I must qualify that the 2 remaining people in the office are pretty good.
I was able to go for a walk to the beach and back at lunch. That was great.
Then after work, because I'm just a social contact and not a close contact, we went to a play (with masks on). We love going to plays at this particular theatre but have only been to a couple in recent years. It's all local people - they rarely have companies coming through from the mainland. This play was a variation on an Agatha Christie.
When I got the tickets, I decided to get us memberships to this Theatre. We're hoping to go to a couple more plays in coming months.
I'd love to start going to the Symphony again, but it is really expensive now.
I have not started my second position yet ... not officially. I have been over for a meet and greet and a meeting and have talked via email several times in the past few months. I start in July in one building but they're planning to move "soon". I was hoping they might have made the move already but nope, not yet. Although I did see lights on in the place they're moving, so maybe they're working on it.
M in Oz
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