WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JUNE 2022
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We are moored!
DH and I went to the gym this morning. He is in fine fettle. Sea flat.
We are visiting a small volcanic island just to the south of Iceland. Can't dock, so we have to get into the tender boat. For the step test we just had to prove we could step across a certain distance they had marked with tape. Our excursion has been changed to the afternoon so we have ordered early lunch in our room from our butler.
We will be taking a guided walk around the small harbour town and seeing the new lava fields from 1973. Plus the museum. Right now it's raining, but I think it's a shower.
DH soon forgets about his bad days. The weather was rather bad for this time of year. 'High' is a grade above 'Rough'.
Hoping for a better journey home, further west. We are going round Iceland clockwise. 🇮🇸
This map shows the original itinerary, but we are doing it in reverse order.....we left from Portsmouth, not Dover, so went to the east of Britain instead.
Much love, Heather xxxxxxxx7 -
Heather- glad your having a good time and Johnny id feeling better..
I just got a text from Rachel she woke up with a fever so she wont be coming today.
Which is fine..
It will get done eventually.3 -
Pip, 20 years! Congratulations and Happy Anniversary!4
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Pip - Hope you have an amazing 20 years anniversary!
Quiet morning. Just chillin' and looking forward to this afternoon. Reading up on Iceland and its legends and history.
Love Heather xxxxxxxx5 -
Tracey - so glad you had some real fun last weekend. I'm jealous of the baby cuddle.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx0 -
Greetings, my dear hearts, hope everyone is as well as possible...
Coming out of an allergy overload, I guess, or possibly just a light summer cold. Could not get my brain to work at all the last couple days... but woke up feeling relatively normal this morning, so hey, there's that.
Daughter stuff:Worried about my daughter. I might have said already, but she sent me a text yesterday saying she "passed out, tested positive [for covid] and was put on isolation for five days." My DH showed me her FB post. They also chucked her out of the class because she was the only positive test. Told her if even one other person had tested positive, they would have put the whole class into a Zoom-type remote learning. She's pretty upset, because missing this class will set her promotion back for another cycle, and if she doesn't make rank, they may put not allow her to re-enlist, and she's right at that part of her career where she's poised to do so.
The Army has infinite wisdom, but I've never found where they hid it because they certainly don't use it. She was in that physical classroom with the whole troop, and because she was in it, they've all been exposed; she was just the first one to come up with symptoms. At least one positive test would come up if they just did a random sampling of those 140+ people, but they won't try that, because it's not in the Army manual. Pretty sure she's mad at us because we told her to do the right thing--but not sure she could live with herself if someone in that room with unstated risk factors died because she went back to class.
Sometimes you can't win - but in my experience, those are also the turning points that lead you to something you didn't even expect. My DH signed up for delayed enlistment in the Army right out of high school, but in that six months delay period, he broke his collar bone and injured his right shoulder permanently, so they kicked him out of the program. This is when he met our daughter, who was a few months old, fell in love with her, married her mother, and adopted our beautiful girl. Easy to say that "this too shall pass," but hard to think of it that way when you're young and in the middle of the drama.
Egg is walking back and forth between my keyboard and monitor like it's a fashion runway, giving me the stink eye each time she passes, in hopes of being petted at some point. I'm going to make one last cup of coffee before I get going this morning and actually accomplish something, which I haven't done for days because I felt like ca-ca.
Did I mention I went back to coffee a few weeks ago? I feel as if I'm lucid for the first time in months. And still sleeping well, so there's that, too. If it affects my sleep, I'll drop it again, but for the first time, I know what my mother went through.
I stayed with Mama for about a month after her first angioplasty, and in the awkward officiousness that youth brings, told her I was putting her on a heart-healthy diet, which meant no caffeine. She participated, reluctantly, but she did what I asked. After about a week, she looked at me over a heart-healthy breakfast and said "Shoot me." I said, "What?" and she said she would rather croak over right then than spend another day without coffee. I guess I get that honestly, then. I miss her sometimes.
More later,
Love y'all,
Lisa in AR11 -
Pip Happy anniversary!3
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Tracey ~ Love the photos of your trip to the fair. It sounds like you had a wonderful weekend. You and Michaela look so much alike.
Flea ~ I understand how you must be feeling about your mom’s situation. In a way, we were very lucky that my in-laws both passed away the same night. Father-in-law had a heart attack and mother-in-law had one trying to help him. It was a very sad time. At our age, it is a bit stressful to think that one of us will go first and what will the other do?
Pip ~ Happy 20th Anniversary!
Lisa ~ So sorry to hear about your daughter getting put out of the class for something she couldn’t help. That stinks!
I too love my coffee and am so glad my DH has made it every morning when I get up.
Carol in GA5 -
Hello all! It’ll take some time to read through but I will!!
I’m Leslie, 57 and happily married to John my hubby of 33 years in September. We are retired and live in northwest Arkansas atop a large hill in the foothills of the Boston Mountains.
My parents (80) recently moved in with us along with my only sibling who has learning disabilities. It’s not easy I can tell you but we’ll make it work until we can get them into their own place. (Likely a year +) I have three kiddos 25, 27 and 29. All but one live near / with. The oldest is still in Texas where we lived most of our adult lives.
Have a dog, two cats (one indoor one out) and my happy place is sitting out on our covered porch watching all the nature that passes through!
Would love more friends so feel free to add! I’m online in the mornings and evenings steadily and intermittently throughout the day.7 -
Happy anniversary Pip and Kirby!
You looks stunning, Heather!
Wonderful pics, Tracey! Sweet baby! Miscarriage is so hard and bittersweet, because babies are all around. Especially when you are your daughter's age and all of your friends are starting families. Hugs to her Not easy.
Day four with better eating. I will not weigh in until Monday. I can do this.
Starting today off with sliver removal. Four year old arrived with a sliver in his finger. Pretty sure my magnifying glass will make it into my gratitude journal. As I get older, I am finding that I rely on them. I have one in my kitchen, one in DH's office, and an assortment in my childcare science area. lol
Have a great Thursday all! ttfn xoxoxo KJ (Kelly)7 -
Lisa- that stinks about your daughter here is hoping all of it works out...
Pip- Happiest of Anniversaries to you and Kirby ...you both are just the cutest...
I got a text from my don that he was at Disneyland before 9 am and was having a blast.. today is Vidcon .. so he will be at the Anaheim coliseum for that and meet the girls he went out to meet..
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Pip - Happy 20th to you and Kirby! Here's to 20 more
Lisa - your post about your daughter made me think back of all of the "tragedies" job wise we went through. And how they contributed to us then making choices that gave us a good life. The wisdom of getting older I guess. Agree on the coffee!!
Kylia and Lisa - you would have been proud of me on the mower yesterday! Mainly wanted to get the longer grass and soon to bloom dandelions clipped. Still have an hour or so in the back to do today. The heat wave coming this weekend should slow down the grass growth a lot.
Tracey - you and your daughter look like sisters! So glad you were able to spend fun time with them. Crossing fingers better job for you is right around the corner.
Next door neighbors and I are still pondering who/how will be get our mowers sharpened and serviced after the mowing season is done this fall. Last time, 2 years ago, it was $600 and they performed some "service" that I questioned. I'm going to read the manual and see what its all about. I have a spare fuel filter here, can change if necessary. Maybe neighbor across the street can help. He's been a gem.
Getting ready to head out for a walk with my walking buddy, probably will be more of a mosey since my toe is a little achey, but we can catch up.
Make it a fabulous day!
Lanette
SW WA State where it's 41 degrees now.6 -
Annie - no advice for what you're dealing with, as anyone with a lick of sense knows I'm not fit to be a caretaker. Just so pleased to see your progress, and so impressed with your ability to stick to it.
Pip - Happy 20th to you and Kirby!
Heather - I thought the outfit was just wonderful and so pleased the seas have calmed for you and Johnny.
Ginny - Hope the test results are good.
Flea - Many good thoughts whooshing your way, as Barbara says.
Kay - Same for you, my dear. Thinking of you.
Tracey - Everyone looks like they're having tons of fun.
Barbara - Well done for Joe not bringing the junk food home! On the weight loss thing, Corey did exactly what I thought he would. He swapped to light beer and lost 12 pounds. It's so unfair.
Of course, he works a very physical job, and with temperatures wandering around the 100 mark for a couple of weeks, he's probably sweated off most of it.
Allie - Hope all turns out well, and that Dan meets the girl of his dreams while he's in California.
I know that wasn't everyone I wanted to reply to, but I need to snag the dark clothes out of the dryer, and grab the whites in the washer and take them out to the clothesline. The sun's just coming over the trees now.
Love y'all,
Lisa in AR River Valley
ETA: Just got off the phone with Kels, and she's so sick. Love that girl, and wish I could fly to San Antonio, but couldn't see her if I did. Friends have brought her some over-the-counter meds to help her feel better, and had food delivered to her--because the ever-sympathetic Army gave her nothing to help ameliorate her symptoms, just a box of MREs and told her to stay in the room for five days starting today. For the uninitiated, MREs are "meals ready to eat," once known as C-rations, and they're really pretty awful on the whole.6 -
Flea- forgot to mention how sorry I am to hear about your mom. My mom passed in March of 1993 from non-hodgkins lymphoma. My father passed away in November of 1993 from a heart dissection (when the aorta tears from the heart wall). Those six months without her were so hard on him. Losing our life partners is hard no matter who goes first. On the other hand, when my paternal grandfather died (in his 80s), after an initial grieving period, my grandmother actually seemed at peace and was much more social and adventurous.6
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Pip — Happy 20th Anniversary for you and Kirby. ❤️1
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LeslieAWagner wrote: »Hello all! It’ll take some time to read through but I will!! I’m Leslie, 57 and happily married to John my hubby of 33 years in September. We are retired and live in northwest Arkansas atop a large hill in the foothills of the Boston Mountains.
My parents (80) recently moved in with us along with my only sibling who has learning disabilities. It’s not easy I can tell you but we’ll make it work until we can get them into their own place. (Likely a year +) I have three kiddos 25, 27 and 29. All but one live near / with. The oldest is still in Texas where we lived most of our adult lives.
Have a dog, two cats (one indoor one out) and my happy place is sitting out on our covered porch watching all the nature that passes through!
Would love more friends so feel free to add! I’m online in the mornings and evenings steadily and intermittently throughout the day.
Hi Leslie!2 -
Debbie- - In 2017 I invited my MIL to move in with us. We were in Tennessee at the time. I was still working and hubby was retired. It worked out for us. My husband has always been the ‘stay at home’ Dad / cook / cleaner while my kids were young and I have been the corporate bread winner. We agreed she could no longer live alone at 82. She and I got along ‘ok’ but I wasn’t home and didn’t have to really put up with her. Fast forward to a year and a half ago and things changed. We live in Arkansas, hubby is remodeling homes and I was her caretaker as I had retired. Caretaking is certainly not for everyone. I did my level best but as her non tremor Parkinson’s started getting worse it became even more of a challenge. She would sometimes ‘freeze’ and not be able to move. This would mean she would end up on the ground. I have a weak core and had a Devil of a time getting her back up. She finally agreed to start using a walker and on weaker days a wheelchair. I called a service in to have her evaluated (paid through Humana) and they came in weekly to give her exercises. It got to be too much and my hubby (nice big strong guy!) had to stay home more and more because only he could lift her. We were going to hire in to have more of a caretaker to get John back to work and me to being able to leave the house. They told us if she sits or falls on the ground they are not allowed to pick her up due to a risk of injury and they would have to call 911. We made the decision to place her in an assisted living facility close to us and even procured a room but we all caught Covid. Covid with her Parkinson’s idid her in. We’d gone two years without it ever getting her. We were all so careful. It was sad. This was only this year February. She was used to living alone, always having her own way and would only eat certain things. She wasn’t happy because of her lack of mobility and looking back on it all, I wish we would have sought assisted living sooner so that more of her needs would have been met. I did it all, some bathroom cleanup, sick, shower assists, cook (She was a little thing 99 pounds 4’ 10 but she constantly ate and snacked! Never gained a pound!) She had insurance for long term care but she had always vehemently dismissed the idea. I wish my hubby had taken a firmer stance back then.
I know that’s a lot to read but my hope is that you can work to get her care outside of you and your home because it wears a great deal on the caretaker and you lose your ability to live your own life. I did it for a year and a half and for the last year she should have been in professional care.6 -
Allie--That is a pretty low blood count. Please be careful and don't let them put you off.
Pip--Happy Anniversary!!
Heather--Glad DH is feeling better. Hope the rest of your trip is calm seas.
Lisa--Glad you are feeling better.Sorry to hear about DD, but hopefully it will work out better in the long run.
Welcome Leslie--This is a great place for friendship and support.
Tracey--Sounds like a great weekend and love the pictures.
Going to be a long day as have an dept meeting at 5. So have to get notes ready and decide what we need to talk about.
Blessings, Vicki GRAND ISLAND, NE 3 -
(((Leslie))) You and your husband were good to his mother!
Carol in GA1 -
So 2 people in my office have COVID.
There are 7 people in my office.
We're all double or triple vaxed, of course, and one has already had COVID a couple months ago (not one of the ones with it now).
Although I'm what they're calling a "social contact", and don't have strict restrictions, I'm working from home tomorrow.
Did a RAT when I got home today ... negative. I may do another one tomorrow depending on how I feel.
Machka in Oz7 -
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The thread must have been really busy yesterday because I tried several times and no luck. ‘
Happy Anniversary Pip.
Welcome Leslie. Glad you joined us.
The pictures with long sleeves and jackets make me jealous. We have had over 100 for days and no rain at all. Some of my hardiest flowers are burning up.
Katie sorry for your loss.
KJ - I have really missed you all. It was just a fluke that I looked at MFP and saw a message from Barbara (thank you Barbara). My eyes are not good but I recently had a procedure that allowed more light to hit the retina. Seems like I was playing card games on the computer and I could/should have been posting. 😍
The discussion of taking care of elderly parents made me realize, I am elderly as I will be 83 in a few days. We are doing well and hope to stay on our d2 acres on the river as long as possible.I think I need to take notes because I had several comments I wanted to make but had an interruption and can’t remember. Comes with age.
Heather- your cruise looks amazing. We have booked one to the Greek Isles next year. Always the optimist I am.
Stay well and sty cool of you are in TX
SueBDew in TX8 -
Machka good luck with your Covid exposure. Hopefully it comes to nothing. You already have so much on your plate!
Annie in Delaware1 -
spent the night over there again- didn't get much sleep the first half the night- she got up to use the bathroom twice(I have to help her) and up a few other times, acting like she was going to get up. After that, I was so tired I fell asleep and didn't hear her get up until after she was done using her commode chair(woke up to see her shuffling back to her recliner and another time woke up hearing her washing something in the kitchen, water was running a long time another time she said something about feeding the dog- didn't get up, stayed awake just long enough for her to get back in her chair.
Came home to grab a shower and before I even had half a cup of tea, dh called. She had decided to get up and look to make sure her pocket book was in her purse and fell, he couldn't get her up. Rushed back over(thankfully it is just about 10 min at most to get there)got her up and told him I would sit and make sure she didn't get up so he could grab a nap for a few hours. Him, having his pity party said no, he would just sit at the kitchen table, mumbling about not knowing what he is going to do tonight- he has a 4 hr shift. Was hoping to leave her alone just for those hours-1AM-5AM or something like that. I told him, I will come back at 11 tonight and stay with her BUT he HAS to call and set up help and that I already asked the daycare grandma for some referrals- I know he doesn't want to do it but we have to. He sat quiet for a few minutes and told me to just go home. I have to be back there in a few hours to help with her dr appointment to get her regular cast and now, back again tonight and maybe the next night-
If we can get someone even three 8hr shifts at night each week, we can work around it but I can't do 5 nights a week with her. I am not much help if I am so exhausted that I either loose my patience with her or sleep through her calling for help and then I still have my daycare girl 4 days a week.
He needs to let go of some control and let people help him and stop trying to do it all on his own so he can say, oh poor me, doing this all on my own... I don't want to hear it because there are options.
Tomorrow morning marks 2 weeks since her first fall and a week since we took her after her second fall.
sorry for the vent= if I knew how to put things in a spoiler I would(but too tired right now to even try and figure it out.
Debbie
Napa Valley,CA10 -
Tracey I go to a functional medicine doctor. They do tests and treat differently than conventional medical professionals. They primarily deal with the root cause of an issue rather than just treating the symptoms. I really like this method. It has gotten rid of my diabetes and liver issues.
RvRita6 -
Flea- forgot to mention how sorry I am to hear about your mom. My mom passed in March of 1993 from non-hodgkins lymphoma. My father passed away in November of 1993 from a heart dissection (when the aorta tears from the heart wall). Those six months without her were so hard on him. Losing our life partners is hard no matter who goes first. On the other hand, when my paternal grandfather died (in his 80s), after an initial grieving period, my grandmother actually seemed at peace and was much more social and adventurous.
My mom is the same way. When my dad died they were 72, she remarried and when he died 5 years after her marriage, she went back to my father’s last name and got an apartment for the elderly. She is 86 had a stroke in her 70’s but still drives, lives alone, and now has flown to Ky from Ct alone twice! Something she never would have done before. Just shows that people are different and react differently to grief and being alone.
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LeslieAWagner wrote: »Debbie- - In 2017 I invited my MIL to move in with us. We were in Tennessee at the time. I was still working and hubby was retired. It worked out for us. My husband has always been the ‘stay at home’ Dad / cook / cleaner while my kids were young and I have been the corporate bread winner. We agreed she could no longer live alone at 82. She and I got along ‘ok’ but I wasn’t home and didn’t have to really put up with her. Fast forward to a year and a half ago and things changed. We live in Arkansas, hubby is remodeling homes and I was her caretaker as I had retired. Caretaking is certainly not for everyone. I did my level best but as her non tremor Parkinson’s started getting worse it became even more of a challenge. She would sometimes ‘freeze’ and not be able to move. This would mean she would end up on the ground. I have a weak core and had a Devil of a time getting her back up. She finally agreed to start using a walker and on weaker days a wheelchair. I called a service in to have her evaluated (paid through Humana) and they came in weekly to give her exercises. It got to be too much and my hubby (nice big strong guy!) had to stay home more and more because only he could lift her. We were going to hire in to have more of a caretaker to get John back to work and me to being able to leave the house. They told us if she sits or falls on the ground they are not allowed to pick her up due to a risk of injury and they would have to call 911. We made the decision to place her in an assisted living facility close to us and even procured a room but we all caught Covid. Covid with her Parkinson’s idid her in. We’d gone two years without it ever getting her. We were all so careful. It was sad. This was only this year February. She was used to living alone, always having her own way and would only eat certain things. She wasn’t happy because of her lack of mobility and looking back on it all, I wish we would have sought assisted living sooner so that more of her needs would have been met. I did it all, some bathroom cleanup, sick, shower assists, cook (She was a little thing 99 pounds 4’ 10 but she constantly ate and snacked! Never gained a pound!) She had insurance for long term care but she had always vehemently dismissed the idea. I wish my hubby had taken a firmer stance back then.
I know that’s a lot to read but my hope is that you can work to get her care outside of you and your home because it wears a great deal on the caretaker and you lose your ability to live your own life. I did it for a year and a half and for the last year she should have been in professional care.
thanks for posting- a little back story- MIL doesn't like my husband(her only surviving son-her favorite died 10 yrs ago in a car accident-the next day, looked dh straight in the face and said "Wrong son died, huhh) and she really doesn't like me, even after 33 yrs. She is a very mean/bitter/angry/self centered person that I did my best to stay totally away from as much as possible over the years. Our son doesn't go over to see her much because of how she is and even more so now beings she said his girlfriend, who is nothing but sweet and polite, is not allowed in her house. I was told the same thing when he and I were dating- she has made things really rough- she even took him out of her will because he did marry me when she didn't want him to.
She has no friends because of how she is.
She is 87
She fell two weeks ago and fractured bones in her wrist and hand, a couple days later fell again- hit her head and also her ribs-broke three ribs. Took her in and also found a bad UTI. The UTI is causing a lot of hallucinations/bad dreams/etc.
My dh is still working, as am I plus being with her. There is no way in **** she will ever live with us. I would leave first. I am ready to put her in a home now.
She has some money so it can be used for her care. Not a lot but enough. I put my foot down when dh said he would pay for the care out of our account and get the money back when she dies- NOPE
Well, wasn't really short explanation but that is the shorter version.
Debbie5 -
Made him a cake, ordered Chinese food (I could only eat about a third). Got leftovers!
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Debbie PipHappy Anniversary 2
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Kay ... I am so very saddened to hear of your loss. Praying for you and your family as you remember and celebrate a life well lived. Hugs my friend.
Beth5
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