WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JANUARY 2023

cityjaneLondon · January 2023

Barbara - I love Marmite and eat it often. But I don't think anyone eats fish paste any more. When I was a child, it was a regular on our Sunday tea table. I only liked the crab one. In the days before fridges, the pots were tiny. My mother told us dire tales of someone in the newspaper who kept her pot too long and died of ptomaine poisoning. :laugh:

Allie - You are right not to take him if he is blocking you out with headphones. I wouldn't take him to the hairdresser either. The whole situation is so very sad. As Tracey said, it is dangerous. But, they have to work it out for themselves. Can you look after Miles at your place for a while? The more distance, the better.

Pottery this evening. I am looking forward to the actual session, but the weather and the dark etc are not enthusing me. I will drag myself out of the house, however. (I hate going out full stop, and I especially hate going out in the evening in the winter) I will try to get out late afternoon and have a meal out. Maybe Oriental. I have a restaurant in mind.

I also have a phone call scheduled after lunch with an old yoga friend from my previous house. She has just had very bad flu. Plus a lit of problems getting her son resettled in this country with his South Korean wife and twins. The Home Office are being very obstructive.

It is sad for her. They were over last summer, organising everything, but it all went wrong.

Love to all, Heather UK xxxxxxxx

Machka9 · January 2023

cityjaneLondon wrote: »

Barbara - I love Marmite and eat it often. But I don't think anyone eats fish paste any more. When I was a child, it was a regular on our Sunday tea table. I only liked the crab one. In the days before fridges, the pots were tiny. My mother told us dire tales of someone in the newspaper who kept her pot too long and died of ptomaine poisoning. :laugh:

Love to all, Heather UK xxxxxxxx

We have fish paste here. Blech.

Several years ago, I had a Gastroscopy and when I came out of the anaesthetic, I felt so sick and my blood pressure was very low. They had to tilt my bed so that my head was low and work on me to get my BP back up again, plus they had to give me something for nausea.

I had just barely recovered and was finally sitting up when they came by with sandwiches and wanted me to eat. The only kind of sandwiches they had were ...... fish paste!!

I nearly threw up again!!

What a thing to offer a person who has just spent the last hour being sick!

Machka in Oz

Machka9 · January 2023

Katla49 wrote: »

Machka— As a young child my mom took me to Woolworth’s in Salem, OR. We sometimes had lunch at the counter. As time went on it was one of the stores that disappeared. Kresses was another, and JC Penney’s—

Different Woolworths.

Machka9 · January 2023

Snowflake1968 wrote: »

Machka - thanks for the link. It won’t let me open it in Canada though. I’ll have to look at the local stores here.

Looks like this:

Snowflake1968 wrote: »

I love the feel of Sherpa, my eldest daughter cannot handle it at all. Machka - she is the one that was diagnosed with ADHD, apparently the aversion to feel certain things is one of the symptoms.
Tracey in Edmonton

Sensory Processing Disorder is possibly part of ADHD
https://www.healthline.com/health/childrens-health/sensory-issues-in-children#other-conditions

https://www.additudemag.com/sensory-processing-disorder-in-adults/
SPD can complicate everything from getting dressed to eating to grooming — and that’s just the before leaving for work. The following are common triggers for discomfort:

Hair brushing ... putting my hair up can be an issue. It's got to be just right or it drives me nuts.
Tight clothes or coarse fabric ... Yep! Big discomfort!
Loud noises such as fireworks or thunder ... Sometimes.
Bright lights like camera flashes, sunshine, or strobes ... Sometimes.
Strong odors including perfume or scented detergent ... Often.
Swimming in lakes ... if I can float, I'm OK. But I do not like setting my foot down on a lake bottom!
Sticky fingers ... I do not like sticky fingers!! I love having hand sanitiser everywhere so I can get the sticky off
Tags on clothes ... Yep! Big discomfort!
Being touched or hugged ... Yep! Big discomfort!
Wearing shoes ... Often. I prefer being barefoot.
Tart or bitter foods ... it's actually tart or umami (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Umami) food I don't like.

I also eat based on texture ... food has to be the right texture. I've never had oysters because they are entirely the wrong texture.

Self-tests:
https://www.theottoolbox.com/adult-sensory-processing-disorder/

Machka in Oz

TerriRichardson112 · January 2023

It’s bright again but showers are forecast for later. I have to sort out my foliage for the Flower arranging after lunch.

I am planning to go to an art demo after dinner, and I have to do my Latin translation at some time for the class tomorrow morning. So no time for comments this morning.

Virtual (((hugs))) and 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 for those who need them.

🙋‍♀️ Miele failte to the newbies.

☘️ Terri

Machka9 · January 2023

1 Sit in silence for three minutes... it's harder than you think. Does silently working in the garden count? Done! I sat silently for 7 minutes and prayed.

2 List 5 things using each of your senses. Right now? I can see my Christmas decorations, I can hear Christmas songs, I can taste my coffee, I can smell my coffee, and I can feel a comfortable temperature in the room.

3 Let go of at least 5 items in your house. I'm not in a downsizing or reducing mode so I've taken some lunch things to work, I will take an item to be mailed and another to be given to the people at work.

4 What was your favorite Christmas gift? (this year or ever). I can't tell you what my favourite Christmas gift this year is yet. It's a secret.

5 Move for at least 30 minutes today. Absolutely. It's a very rare day that I don't.

6 Share a goal you achieved last year. We completed the longest bicycle ride since my husband's accident and the fastest.

7 Slow down and savor one meal today. Mmmm ... pizza!

8 Who was your favorite teacher. My father. But I've had quite a few good teachers, in addition to him, over the years.

9 Create something today. I finished creating my first work-related project plan today.

10 What is your favorite lyric from a song. Difficult one given that I like so much music. But let's go with: "A thrill of hope the weary world rejoices"

11 Send a card/note to someone today. Do emails count?

12 What are you looking forward to in 2023? Can't tell you that! It's a secret ... same secret as my favourite Christmas gift.

13 Tell a random person they look "good" today
14 Tell us three amazing things that happened recently (you decide what "recently" means...lol)
15 Call or text someone you haven't talked to in at least a week
16 What made you smile today
17 Take a photo of something you're grateful for
18 What material comforts are you most thankful for? You can make your list as long as you like...
19 Write a positive review for a company for goods or services you've received recently
20 Write down five things you like about yourself
21 Pay it forward in some way
22 What do you most desire in your life right now?
23 Go an entire day without complaining
24 What about you makes you special?
25 Spend time with a loved one
26 When was the last time you felt pure joy?
27 Hold the door for a stranger... or a friend
28 What fear have you overcome?
29 Engage in a random act of kindness of your own choice
30 When was the last time you laughed so hard you almost peed?
31 Now try to "meditate" (sit in silence) for ten minutes...

Weird days. Still.
One day I'll tell you all about them.

Machka in Oz

Machka9 · January 2023

kymarai · January 2023

Good Thursday!
Nothing exciting happening in Ohio other than rain and fog in January. I got my hair cut and colored last night. Today I drive to Columbus for an engine training class. Maybe I will learn something!
Been checking my blood pressures as told to do and it is fine. I have printed my results to give to dr tomorrow. I think my only real concern is the pain when exercising in my neck and shoulder, we will see what she says tomorrow. My cholesterol ratio is good regardless of those pesky numbers. BP average for the week is 119/73. So those two things are not a concern.

Machka My youngest grandson is like you. ALWAYS HOT, NO sticky, no scratchy, very texture aware in both food and clothes. Even as a baby he fussed if you put him in blue jeans type things. At 14, he finally bought his first actual pair of jeans. Most of the time he is in compression stuffs under shorts. I thought he was strange, then realized that it is more common than I realized.

Gotta get this day going. Really don't want to go, but it is required and I get to see a friend that I haven't seen since Covid.

Still need to send note to friend/family
12 What are you looking forward to in 2023? Better health and more time with family/friends!

Stay safe in all this weird weather wherever you may be!

Make the best decision you can at the moment and move forward!

Kylia in Ohio

grandmallie · January 2023

Morning ladies
Im here with Miles
Got here early,so Tracy could get Carmine to bus stop,but Carmine still not feeling great so he is staying home. Kyle still home also..
Miles has his 1 yr check up this afternoon I'll go with Tracy and ,Im going to put off my PT for week which is tomorrow afternoon

teklawa1 · January 2023

Kathy, welcome. This group has been a lifeline for me. Make sure to bookmark the group so you can find it easily. I don't post much but I read every morning and feel connected to people here in a wonderful way. I get information and support that help me through my struggles. It's where I can share and not feel judged.

Betsy in NW WA

barbiecat · January 2023

When Jake's son came to live with us as a wild 16 year old, we made a variety of house rules with him including one that said that no one could comment on anyone else's food. As a teenager, he was inclined to have an opinion about everything and as parents were thought we might be unnecessarily critical of things that didn't matter. It was a rule that served us well. I continue to keep my opinions to myself about what others are eating and I appreciate that no one makes negative remarks about the fact that I eat almost exactly the same thing every day.

It was windy last night and Bessie moved from her bed to sleep on the floor next to my bed where she feels safer.

We're off in a minute for our after breakfast walk. Hope everyone has a great day.

Barbie in NW WA

1948CWB · January 2023

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mariamyer · January 2023

Hello everyone. This sounds like a great group to be on and hope to make some great connections. I am back on MFP after being off for quite some time. I had a bad fall, ended up having both hips replaced, gained a bunch of weight back, so here I go again. My word for the year is "FOCUS" I seem to have ups and downs, nothing steady. There are days that I have free time and days that I have more than time allows. It was so easy on the busy days to just skip logging food and doing any exercise. Now I need to focus so I can remember to put my health and strength as a priority. I really would like some friend requests. My name is Maria, 64 active grandmother, originally from Seattle, WA but now live in Chandler, AZ. I love to hike, picked up the game of golf, ride my bike, go shopping, and cook/bake! Happy New Year!

kymarai · January 2023

Thunder, lightening, still dark, and foggy made for an interesting drive and a LONG one! I actually had to drive speed limit or below 😉
The drive started with my water cup falling out of its holder. 20oz of water all over the passenger carpet. Guess it is a good thing it was water and not coffee! I packed berries, cheese and crackers. My DH asked why I was packing lunch. They are suppose to feed us, but often I dont like what they serve, so came prepared.👍

I really am not looking forward to sitting for 5 hours.

Much love,
Kylia currently in Columbus, Ohio

pipcd34 · January 2023

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Vickil57 · January 2023

Tracey--I send cards for birthdays, Anniversaries and different holidays. For the kids under 19 they get a $2 bill. It is funny, but the niece and nephew will send a quick text, but grandkids nothing. But I do it until they are out of high school and then if they do not answer I stop. I also send birthday and anniversaries for church. They have the cards I just address and sign them from our church family.

Debbie--We bought a record player for our granddaughter and one from us last summer from Khols. Was less than $100. Our also have a radio and looks like the old fashion radio's. I enjoy listening to some of our old records and use the radio a lot.

DH decided last evening we needed a bigger TV. We just bought this one around christmas. It is a 42 inch. I told him to do whatever so out to Best Buy he went and came home with a 55 inch. Got it all set up and he is happy. Told him I need to tilt my chair back so I don't feel like I am in the middle of the set. Put the other one in the family room in the basement. He is happy so that is what counts. Now I told him I want to get a cordless stick vacum as tried of pulling the big one out just for a small area.

Well I am caught up again. Just love all you ladies and the sharing. I am really sore and my knees hurt. Know it is because I need to keep at working out. I made it to the gym 4 days last week and yesterday so far this week. Trying to keep better track of what I am eating.
Have a luncheon meeting today for employees that have been here 30 years and longer. I am in the 35 going on 36 year group.

Cold and windy here again. So glad I am inside most the time.
Blessings, Vicki GRAND ISLAND, NE

GodMomKim · January 2023

Hi Gals,

my rambling on getting along with teens:

I have noticed some comments about getting along with teenagers/young teens… so Not a mom or a grandmom, but I am an aunt and a god mom who managed to stay close to the 3 kids from birth on, last night my 25 yo god daughter called and talked for 3 hours… so some of the things I did/do.

I made the decision to commit, I became a god mom first so that was a choice thing and I realized that was a choice to be there for the rest of our lives and to be willing to make them first and only on occasion and also when that was what was needed.

Focus on them, listen really listen do not just hear

Ask them open ended questions, and wait for them to put together answers.

Kids make some weird choices, I don’t judge I ask, so things like tell me about how you made that choice/decision. Often they tell you things that let you know they forgot about some part of the decision making process, so then I ask about that.

Participate in their lives, attend sports events, theater/musical events

Listen to their music, find out what books they are reading (or are needing to read for class) and read them too, then talk about them, I did a ton of books and then had mini book clubs on the phone so they could then write book reports. I never did the report, but would talk about the books with them.

And what is said at Aunt Kim’s stays at Aunt Kim’s so I never report back to parents, the only time I will break that is if they or others are in danger. And I have told them that and put it into action one time, one of the kids was very depressed and I was not sure they would not make a bad decision, so I said you stay on the phone with me all night and get to counseling in the morning or I am calling the parents, grandparents and in this case as the child was out of town I was also calling the closest relation who could get there the quickest. We stayed on the phone, and I was called from the counselors office. The child and I later did agree that one of the parents needed to be told and we did a conference call.

Set ground rules – very basic ones, and repercussions that happen when the rules were broken. Mine were 1. We all pitch in to get things done so we can play 2. Using devices is a group event – so if you are listening to music it is on speaker, if you are talking to a friend it is on speaker and we are all talking to your friends, texts are read out loud and we all get to help write the answer. That rule solved everything related to devices.

And there were 2 repercussions, If everyone won’t pitch in then no one has too and that includes me, so I don’t have to cook, drive or pay as that was part of me pitching in. One time that got pushed so I didn’t make dinner, just sat with a glass of wine on the patio – after 30 min, they got the message and that was that. On devices there was one “nope you can’t participate” and so I picked up my phone called a friend on speaker and told them all about what was going on following the child around, Ben hated that and that solved that. They are 23,25,and 28 now and will still put their device on speaker when they are will me. LOL

Vickie - I was giggling about the TV situation at your house I have a 22 inch tv and am content. I do not have a wall in the living room big enough for a 55" - between doors, windows, and the fireplace....

Smiles Kim in N. California

1948CWB · January 2023

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dlfk202000 · January 2023

Vickil57 wrote: »

Tracey--I send cards for birthdays, Anniversaries and different holidays. For the kids under 19 they get a $2 bill. It is funny, but the niece and nephew will send a quick text, but grandkids nothing. But I do it until they are out of high school and then if they do not answer I stop. I also send birthday and anniversaries for church. They have the cards I just address and sign them from our church family.

Debbie--We bought a record player for our granddaughter and one from us last summer from Khols. Was less than $100. Our also have a radio and looks like the old fashion radio's. I enjoy listening to some of our old records and use the radio a lot.

DH decided last evening we needed a bigger TV. We just bought this one around christmas. It is a 42 inch. I told him to do whatever so out to Best Buy he went and came home with a 55 inch. Got it all set up and he is happy. Told him I need to tilt my chair back so I don't feel like I am in the middle of the set. Put the other one in the family room in the basement. He is happy so that is what counts. Now I told him I want to get a cordless stick vacum as tried of pulling the big one out just for a small area.

Well I am caught up again. Just love all you ladies and the sharing. I am really sore and my knees hurt. Know it is because I need to keep at working out. I made it to the gym 4 days last week and yesterday so far this week. Trying to keep better track of what I am eating.
Have a luncheon meeting today for employees that have been here 30 years and longer. I am in the 35 going on 36 year group.

Cold and windy here again. So glad I am inside most the time.
Blessings, Vicki GRAND ISLAND, NE

I just looked on Amazon- they have a simple record player 1/2 price- just $40. I will have dh look at it and see what he thinks. Her birthday isn't until end of June so I have time to find one and also, make sure she still has the records and make sure she doesn't still have a record player.

My dh is talking about getting a bigger tv too- His was acting up a little so he was going to go get one but it seems to be ok. He has a tv in almost every room. Even a big one in the garage. I used to use that when I was using my treadmill but now he has one of his 3D printers that blocks too much of the screen from the angle of the treadmill(plus treadmill got buried again- need to clear it off again)
He has a line up of cordless vacuums- Three line the hall way right now. Only have one that is in the closet that has a cord. He is always looking to upgrade. One chore I very rarely have to do. He vacuums at least 2-3 times a day. Now that he is cutting WAY back on work (from 100 hrs a month to at most 32 hrs or maybe 0) I think he will be doing it even more.

Today is our only dry day so heading up to make the rounds at Lucky's and Grocery Outlets(two of each). Need to be selective as the freezer is totally full and fridge is almost full. Will see what we get and plan meals around that. Planning on picking up a ham beings we didn't get one at Christmas. If not this week, maybe next week. Hoping for something a little different this trip but I will just wait and see.
Need to pick up cashews I think- want to make cashew chicken- one thing everyone eats.

Debbie
Napa Valley,Ca

a friend from my home town(an hour away) posted that in the last week, they got 13 1/2 inches of rain with another week or rain to come.
Mom doesn't have a rain gauge anymore. Dad always had one and checked it all the time
I used to have one but forgot about it.
May pick one up today, just to see.

edit- I just remembered. We have a record player/cassette player in storage- at least I think it is there. I will check when we take the Christmas stuff up in a couple weeks(after the rain).If it is there, I will take it up the next time I go to mom's and not wait until her birthday.

WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JANUARY 2023

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