WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR MARCH 2023

kevrit · March 2023

Have to bring Wicket to the Vet this morning. Catch up more later. Finished PG. 21

March, 2023 Action for happiness.org

Word of the year: Appreciate : today I appreciate sleep.

Exercise goals added
Yoga 10 mins 3 times a week 2/15-(100%,100%)
Walk 7,000 every day 4/31– (84%,86%,)
Arm weights twice a week 2/10 (100%, 60%hurt my elbow,)
Meditation: daily. 4/31 (82%(started Feb))

1. cut back drinking and limit to 2 days a week. 4/8–(100%,100%)
2. Average 7,000 steps a week. 9484, (7,700,100%-9851,100%)
3. Update budget every 2 weeks 1/2 —(100%,100%)
4. Contact close family every week (4x) 6/15 —(100%,100%)
5. Contact Donat and sibs once a month (8x)24/64–(100%,100%)
6. Weigh less last day of month compared to first until I reach 140. Start at 178.6,176,174.2—(100%,100%)
7. Develop a journaling practice by aiming to journal at least 5 days a week. 4/20– -(100%,88%)
8. Read 12 books at least this year. 8/12 (100%,100%)
9. Pay off credit card debt by January 2024 by making monthly payments to NDR——3/12—(100%.100%,100%)
10. Continue building emergency fund at SLFCU (min$25 a month)$25+$25+$71(100%,100%,100)
Decided that if I do more than stated I will not grade higher than 100% 2/5/23

January Met —100%
February met —-90%
March met met
April met
May met
June met
July met — met
August met
September met
October met —
November met—
December met—

1. Set an intention to live with awareness and kindness. I intend to live with more awareness and kindness every day.
2. Notice three things you find beautiful in the outside world. The blue water of Lea Lake, Snow on the mountains at a distance, walking a nature trail. All at Bottomless Lakes State Park.
3. Start today by appreciating your body and that you are alive. I am healthy and above ground. I can walk,talk,hear, see, taste, and smell (mostly). I appreciate that I alive and have a healthy body.
4. Notice how you speak to yourself and choose to use kind words. I will try…
5. Bring to mind people you care about and send love to them. I sent texts to my long distance friends to send them love.

6. Have a ‘no plans’ day and notice how that feels. Most days are like that for me. So much less stress!
7. Take three calm breaths at regular intervals during your day. Sounds like a plan.

8. Eat mindfully. Appreciate the taste, texture and email of your food.
9. Take a full breath in and out before you reply to others.
10. Get outside and notice how the weather feels on your face.
11. Stay fully present while drinking your cup of tea or coffee.
12. Listen deeply to someone and really hear what they are saying.
13. Pause to watch the sky or clouds for a few minutes today.
14. Find ways to enjoy any chores or tasks that you do.
15. Stop. Breathe. Notice. Repeat regularly.
16. Get really absorbed with an interesting or creative activity.
17. Look around and spot three thing you find unusual or pleasant.
18. If you find yourself rushing, make an effort to slow down.
19. Appreciate nature around you wherever you are.
20. Focus on what makes you and others happy today.
21. Listen to a piece of music without doing anything else.
22. Notice something that is going well, even if today feels difficult.
23. Tune into your feelings, without judging or trying to change them.
24. Appreciate your hands and all the things they enable you to do.
25. Focus your attention on the good things you take for granted.
26. Choose too spend less times looking at screens today.
27. Cultivate a feeling of loving-kindness towards others today.
28. Notice when you are tired and take a break as soon as possible.
29. Choose a different route today and see what you notice.
30. Mentally scan your body and notice what you are feeling.
31. Discover the joy in the simple things of life.

Barbie's Happiness Commandments

Be Barbie
Lighten up
Do it now
Dance more
Choose strategy over willpower
Cultivate an attitude of gratitude
Come from a place of love
Stay in the moment
Act the way you want to feel
Don't let the perfect be the enemy of the good
Don't expect praise or recognition
It is what it is
Don't take things personally
Treat yourself like a toddler
What's fun for other people may not be fun for you, and vice versa
You can choose what you do, but you can't choose what you like
Be kind, no exceptions
Ask always, how could my life be better with less?

RVRita

1948CWB · March 2023

My grandson turned 13 today! Can't believe how the years have flown by! We are going to his favorite Japanese restaurant tonight where most of the family will eat Sushi and my DH and I will order other things.

Rosemarie ~ Continued hugs for you and you move through this time!

Carol in GA

fanncy0626 · March 2023

Rosemarie so sorry that you are feeling that your friends and family do not care about your needs at this time. Sometimes those closest to us do not know how to express feelings of grief to those in need. Especially those closest to them. We are all here for you!

💕 Mary from Arizona/Minnesota

exermom · March 2023

Did Jari Love Extremely Ripped DVD. The plan for tomorrow is to do a DVD by Joyce Vidral. After exercise went to WalMart to get Vince his ice cream and his bananas.

Kylia – HUGS and more HUGS. Good Thoughts for the tests

katla – you never left us...but I’m so glad pip helped you

Barbara – I should have made myself clearer. I’m sure they peel the broccoli stalks before they freeze them.

Betsy – so glad you had such a good time. Tell us more about it

Rosemarie – yes, what Heather said

Michele who is off to the pool

grandmallie · March 2023

Well as I type ,,my dear friend in Florida is probably in transition, another friend flew down to be with her who is a wonderful sage yoga guru and sear. And I know Mary is in great hands.. ugh,with all this death around me and most of it of people my age it makes me feel how so very blessed I have been thus far.. I have a sleeping baby on my shoulder
Tracy has me watching montisorri videos so we can go this route of teaching. I didn't know I was getting into this all over again..
I would still liketo be able to plan trips and things to do

laurieangel64 · March 2023

Hi. I just did my 1st post but put it in the wrong place. (I’m tech illiterate 😳) if you feel so inclined could you please look for and read “ 59 years young newbie “

margaretturk · March 2023

Rosemarie I hear what you are saying you want your grief to be honored by your friends. Friends often do not know what to say When we lost our son they would tell me their own stories or offer a book for me to read. In hind sight I wish I said I am sorry for your loss; right now I am grieving and need to hear your story at another time. I found I was placed in situations where I was comforting them. I know they just wanted to make it better. So now when someone passes I tell the person this is your grief and however you need to grieve is okay. I try to include a story about their loved one of how they touched my life. I touch base with them and let them lead the conversation. I also know I will not send them a Peace Lily.

After a few weeks I found my own book that helped me It is Okay to not be Okay. I also remember reading when I was depressed some day you will enjoy the geraniums (insert flower of your choice) again. Others tend to want you to be Okay often too soon.

Allie I taught in public school for 25 years so I do understand why parents want to home school. If Tracey decided to do it she needs to take total responsibility. I respect those who are willing to take on this job. It is not always easy to teach your own child because of the layer you are the parent, and it is hard to be objective. Power struggles can make it hard both as a classroom teacher or home school teacher. That is why it is important to find others who are home schooling to find support and ideas.

Your job is to be the grandma not his school teacher. The best thing you can do for him is read to him and listen to him. Play with him and as others said let learning be fun cook with him, take him to parks, museums. Giving him experiences and love is the best way to prepare him for whatever school setting he ends up learning in. He needs a grandma not another teacher.

Margaret

1948CWB · March 2023

Allie ~ Barbie and Margaret are right. And, as others have commented, Miles can learn a lot without the home schooling idea. I can remember when my son was a toddler and we went to the store, he would point to everything and say "What's that." That was a huge learning experience in itself. From what you have told us, Tracy and her husband are constantly taking Miles places and exposing him to new things. Each of these is a learning experience. You have been such a wonderful grandmother and will continue to be I know. It's not fair for Tracy to put this on you.

Laurie ~ Welcome and keep coming back! We are a great group of ladies who support each other in so many ways.

Rosemarie ~ From bits of what you have mentioned, I think you must live close to Macon GA. I do know that there are horses on the campus of Weslyan U. as my sister-in-law used to go there to ride. Everyone is here to support you as you go through this sorrowful time. Please continue to let us know how you are doing. Hugs.

Carol in GA

pipcd34 · March 2023

Wow! Good morning!

bwcetc · March 2023

margaretturk wrote: »

Rosemarie ..... I also know I will not send them a Peace Lily.
Margaret

This just made me laugh out loud as it is so true ... I have a huge one that I'm still nursing 2 years later!!

Rosemarie ... I lost a son two years ago and while the circumstances are much different than yours, I had been his caregiver for much of his life. I am interested in all that you're going through. You are supported here.

Allie ... I agree with the others ... be his grandma; not his homeschool teacher ...

Beth

KetoneKaren · March 2023

Rosemarie2972 wrote: »

I am only up to page 20!

Grandmallie: The Atlanta Airport is the last place I want to be...But I am headed there!

Machka: Glad you are back jogging

Heather: Love your art

Nanerkay: Glad you enjoyed the movie

Michele: Glad you saw your college friend

Katla: That's terrific! That you know the people who are buying your house!

Ginny: Glad you are mostly feeling better

Lanette: Hope you were able to get a walk in

I have done many tasks by phone, but have gotten little exercise. I plan to go to the college with horses and a pond now and walk. Then I plan to go to the food bank and drop off my husband's liquid food. The food bank said they wanted this. This afternoon I will head to a local B&B and enjoy the spartan, cleanliness of the room I chose. I have been to this room before. The clutter of the house is beyond my physical ability to clean it right now. The ALS Association will come get the hoyer lyft. The yard man took the bed. He is going to take it for metal scrap. A friend will have breakfast with me tomorrow at the B&B.

The friend that has gone a little crazy on me wishes me well. But I am not going to text her for a couple of weeks. This is almost a second loss. But she is not interested in these small details I am posting about. She could care less about the details of the Celebration of Life ceremony. Doesn't ask anything about my high school friends that are coming to visit me....she is just very self centered. My family does not care about the details either. They have their own lives to lead.

I do appreciate the well wishes I have received here! And if people skim over this post rather than fully reading it, I totally understand!

I hope you all have a wonderful day!
Best,
Rosemarie from Georgia

cityjaneLondon wrote: »

Rosemarie - I am totally interested in every little bit of your life as you go through all this. I'm hearing you and I'm sure many others are listening too. Just tell us. We care. We care and we support you.

Lots and lots of love, Heather UK xxxxxxxx

Ditto this. I want to hear every detail you care to share. We aren’t going anywhere. Here for you, Rosemarie.

Karen in Virginia

barbiecat · March 2023

Katla, You sound so much happier and more relaxed now that you have your MFP identity fixed. I know you never left but seeing your name and Schooner's picture is even better.

Mary, there is a clear peanut taste in my recipe. It is a lot like the one Karen posted by not quite as many spices.

Ginny, I don't like dark meat chicken or turkey except in slow cooker recipes. I tried substituting white meat once and didn't like it.

My doctor visit yesterday went great. We agreed that I would continue Fosomax for one more year beyond the usual five year protocol since my bone density was improving and see what a bone density test next January says. Nothing troubling on lab work and heart and lungs fine. I'll see her again in a year.

Today I go for a regular dental check up. I hate hands in my mouth, but I like the dentist so it will be fine.

Like Machka, I see food as a regular part of my life, not entertainment or recreation so I don't spend a lot of time thinking about it and making plans.

I eat breakfast while reading and responding to MFP and some other sites on the computer so I have to put my spoon down while I use the mouse or keyboard. I eat my supper while riding the exercise bike and watching TV so my eating is slowed by my attention being captured by what I'm watching. Since I prepare only the planned single portion for myself, there is no change that I will mindlessly overeat since when the bowl is empty, the meal is over.

Kylia, sorry to hear of your troubling medical test results. We live in an age of miraculous medical procedures. My husband is alive and doing well almost 20 years after a scary test result and excellent medical care. Hang in there.

Karen, loved your recipe. Mine is similar but fewer ingredients and starts with raw chicken and sauce ingredients in the slow cooker and six hours later it is delicious.

Rosemary, one of the great things about this thread is that you can share all the details of everything. There will be people who will listen and respond making this a safe place. I need to know what you are going through because some day that will be where I am in my life.

Barbie in NW WA

Betsy, Welcome back from your exciting trip. I'm sure you and Ella will be ecstatic to see each other.

1948CWB · March 2023

Barbie ~ Please post your recipe. Karen's looks good but it does have a lot of things I would have to go out and buy.

Question: Is there a place on line to buy women's petite sized capris or pants. I am so frustrated trying to find something that fits my size 16 body.

Carol in GA

Katla49 · March 2023

I love this group and look forward to dropping in frequently. There is an amazing amount of wisdom & kindness here.

It is 1:15 pm here in Illinois, and I’m sitting in DH’s room watching him sleep. 💖

Our furniture and other well-loved items are headed this way in a big truck. I’m looking forward to sitting in my favorite blue leather chairs while I watch TV. One chair is for me and another for DH or a guest. I’ll be able to spend time with family members and have found a local group of nice friends.

I don’t know how long it will take our things to arrive from Oregon. I can’t wait to see them. 😊

okiewoman510 · March 2023

grandmallie wrote: »

Tracy has me watching montisorri videos so we can go this route of teaching. I didn't know I was getting into this all over again..
I would still liketo be able to plan trips and things to do

Then say NO! It is not your job or your responsibility to take care of or educate your grandson. You have generously put taking care of Miles ahead of your own desires. Tracy and her husband made the decision to have another child. It is their responsibility to provide for him. Not yours.

Okie in the TX Hill Country

grandmallie · March 2023

Rosemarie- you can chuckle when you get to the Atlanta Airport, at my grandpa's saying...he sure was a hoot.. also liked to put them back lol
Both my grandfather's were alcoholic..
But I never saw him drunk around us..
Now my mom on the other hand 🤪
With Miles,I do alot of reading,and singing.. ha ha do you remember the Witch doctor song? I have him singing ooo eee oooo aaaa ting tang waalla bing bang.of course he gets the first part down.... i showed him the video and he was hysterical.
He still feels miserable, but he is also cutting more teeth.

Joy1580vb · March 2023

1948CWB wrote: »

Barbie ~ Please post your recipe. Karen's looks good but it does have a lot of things I would have to go out and buy.

Question: Is there a place on line to buy women's petite sized capris or pants. I am so frustrated trying to find something that fits my size 16 body.

Carol in GA

Have you tried Chicos? I order petite sizes from them online and they have a very nice selection. Bit pricey but well made clothing line. I'm from Canada....love reading through the comments on this group.

pipcd34 · March 2023

Stat for the day-

Windy walk w/family- 2hrs 7min 2sec, 93ahr, 115mhr, 212elev, 2.88ap, 6.19mi= 614c
Strava app = 758c

minicooper452 · March 2023

Welcome newbies and returnees! (((hugs))) to those who need them.

Margaret, you are SO right! "Others tend to want you to be Okay often too soon." We found the same thing when Shawn died. I really hate the phrase "new normal" too. Please, the last thing we wanted was this to become normal. We were fighting for our lives right then. Just let us do us. We'll get around to figuring out the rest... someday. So, I'm really interested in the peace lily story though... there has to be a story there. I love mine. It's still blooming. In fact, it's blooming right now and reminds me of Shawn and the wonderful people who gave it to us.

Rosemarie, we're all so very interested in every aspect of your journey. We're here for you.

7. Take three calm breaths at regular intervals during your day... didn't have to worry about this too much today, it was a fairly peaceful day, thank God.
Love and Blessings, Carla, in MN

Anniesquats100 · March 2023

I got my new stationary bike Yay! My dad helped me put it together. We didn't get the straps onto the pedals, but that's minor. It's quiet and sturdy and just a lovely thing. I hope to do ten minutes on it later tonight before my dumbbells.

Annie in Delaware

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