OT: Falling For A Boy Makes You Crazzzy!

Sounds like too much drama for me- I don't have time for stuff like that-

Ok but I do have a question the Mike guy did you say that you have been talking to him for a couple of weeks? and if so your husband is cool with that?

My husband would flip his lid-

I say we all meet at this club next weekend and have some hummus and club soda and rock the house!

I am sorry you had a scare. That's never good.
It's nice to see you are evaluating some in your life....

I guess I am struggling.... are you married or are you not?
One second you are "gushing" over some boy....
Then mentioning a husband....
Then mentioning separation....
Then back to being married....

19 with 3 kiddos... that's a lot to take on and as many above mentioned should be the center of your life, not particularly "having your own fun." Making it to their events is very important and admirable....but there is more to parenting then that, which I am sure you know.

Then again, I don't know your situation... or where you are coming from.
So, I am sure you will do what is best for your family.... cause some things are more important then ourselves.

Good luck, be safe...
:flowerforyou:

my husbands amazing
i never doubt that

hes really patient and understanding
so we would be seperated and he still treats me as if we arnt
we still hang out...i didnt move out or anything
we still shared a bed and did the zoo and park and picnics with the kids
nothign changed our home life...nothing changed...cept i was allowed to do what i wanted...
and he made me get work....but i ended up qutting my jobs

i need to be home with the kids
and the go go dancing pays ALOT
its 15$ an hour plus any tips we make
also i take an hour during the night and walk around and do photos and shots and ect
and make good tips doing that

i work friday and sat 10pm-2am
if i feel like it
thats the hours im allowed to be there
but its up to me if i want to come or not

Ahhh... well... your husband seems practically saintly... if not extremely tolerant.
Okay....saintly would be pushing it. :laugh:

Sounds like too much drama for me- I don't have time for stuff like that-

Ok but I do have a question the Mike guy did you say that you have been talking to him for a couple of weeks? and if so your husband is cool with that?

My husband would flip his lid-

we were....or are seperated (gunna talk about it later tonight)
so i was seeing like 4 or 5 guys during that time

My husband doesn't play and he would be damned if he was hanging out with someone that I talked to regardless if we were seperated hell even divorced it would have to be alot longer until he accepted something like that- Same goes for me it all comes down to respect.

I mean no disrespect to you- but just reading your post and lookin at your profile and you talking about your new confidence you need to be careful- when it comes to everything men,partying, and life in general- You already have 3 babies at a young age im sure you don't want to get prego right away-You don't want to get a bad reputation.You are now a role model if you don't want your kids doing it when they get older then you shouldn't do it either you need to lead by example--

Anything I could add would seem caustic or rude....I wish the best for your children though.

in my honest opinion it sounds like a "REBOUND"-

as far as you becoming seperated because you wanted to be single I don't know your situation by any means but "The grass is always greener on the other side until you get there"

Marriage isn't easy it is isn't meant to be easy but to have that commitment with someone-

If your not into love and all the gushy things then why did you get married? (it isn't my business its a retorical question)

just because he hasn't come at you like other guys doesn't mean he isn't trying to get in your pants some guys play the game differently then others--

I must put a spin.........I think you are being completley immature personally and that your husband will eventually lock the door and turn the porch lights off if you keep bouncing back and forth. Is it really fair to do this to him, your kids and yourself? Your young, but just because someone makes your tummy feel funny and then turns out to be a loser does not mean you should be bouncing back to your husband everytime, it sounds like you are looking for a free pass to be dishonest and disloyal and then when you find that it wasn't so great you expect your husband to let you come back......when will this end?

I noticed in your porfile, you mention alot about your self centeredness, and your views are much the same as most your age. Adult life has not sunk in yet.......you mention about being kind and being kind to people, but I don't really think by what you are saying here that you are being kind to anyone....including yourself.

I am not gonna sugar coat it, you have put it out here for all of us to read and comment on.

The grass may be greener on the otherside.....................but it too needs to be mowed......

Good luck.:flowerforyou:

in my honest opinion it sounds like a "REBOUND"-

as far as you becoming seperated because you wanted to be single I don't know your situation by any means but "The grass is always greener on the other side until you get there"

Marriage isn't easy it is isn't meant to be easy but to have that commitment with someone-

If your not into love and all the gushy things then why did you get married? (it isn't my business its a retorical question)

just because he hasn't come at you like other guys doesn't mean he isn't trying to get in your pants some guys play the game differently then others--

I must put a spin.........I think you are being completley immature personally and that your husband will eventually lock the door and turn the porch lights off if you keep bouncing back and forth. Is it really fair to do this to him, your kids and yourself? Your young, but just because someone makes your tummy feel funny and then turns out to be a loser does not mean you should be bouncing back to your husband everytime, it sounds like you are looking for a free pass to be dishonest and disloyal and then when you find that it wasn't so great you expect your husband to let you come back......when will this end?

I noticed in your porfile, you mention alot about your self centeredness, and your views are much the same as most your age. Adult life has not sunk in yet.......you mention about being kind and being kind to people, but I don't really think by what you are saying here that you are being kind to anyone....including yourself.

I am not gonna sugar coat it, you have put it out here for all of us to read and comment on.

The grass may be greener on the otherside.....................but it too needs to be mowed......

Good luck.:flowerforyou:

good point-- it all comes down to growing up- hopefully she will realize before she messes up a good thing-

BeGorgeous, i am not going to cut you any slack-just because you are "young." You don't get to play that card and forget your values, and the important things in life. I think its an excuse. You made a commitment, marriage and children aren't something you take lightly... don't make me go all dr. phil on you here!!!! PRIORITIZE

Hang in there-best wishes to you and your family:flowerforyou:

You are 19, therefore I expect nothing else. You're still a child and will act like one until you fully realize your responsibilities and how influential your actions are.

Now I must disagree-- Some now I say that lightly young mothers step up to the plate and mature faster due to responsibilities-

But yes she is young- and hopefully will become a grown up before it is too late- considering she has children looking up to her.

She also doesnt need to do the whole getting seperated not getting seperated thing because marriage isn't highschool also it isn't healthy for the kids to see that it is very confusing and kids are alot smarter than they think--


This is exactly why I don't think people should get married at a young age let alone have kids- Because alot more is going to change from 19-25 and more--

America's divorce rate is so damn high because people forget about the commitment of marriage and see divorce as an easy out--

This is exactly why I don't think people should get married at a young age let alone have kids- Because alot more is going to change from 19-25 and more--

I can see your viewpoint, although I must respectfully disagree - not everyone that gets married under 25 looks at it so flippantly. Myself and the friends I have that are around my age and married take our commitment very seriously, and I know I speak for them, too, when I say we would sacrifice anything for our families. Not everyone my age is too immature for marriage, although I agree that there are people who definitely are. It bothers me, too, to see people that blatantly disregard the sanctity of marriage and look at it as 'playing house', a game to end whenever you want, and to be picked up again whenever you feel like it.

My $.02.

:flowerforyou:

I agree with you. I am young (22) and married and fully admit I have a lot to learn. I'll probably still have a lot to learn when I'm 50. But my husband and I take marriage very seriously. It's kind of funny because we never had to have an at-length discussion about our values regarding marriage. Whenever it was brought up, we both pretty much said "when I get married, divorce is not an option." Meaning, we see marriage as a permanent choice, and that it is not a decision to be taken lightly. On the other hand, I have a 19 year old sister who believes you can just get divorced if you end up not wanting to be with the person anymore. :grumble: She is ridiculous and people in my age group who think that way are embarrassing to me.

Like in most cases, you can't make a blanket statement about an entire group of people. There are probably 19 year olds who can handle being married with children. They might not have been ready for it, but they stood up and took responsibility and realized it couldn't be "me, me, me" anymore. The original poster has a very young wishy-washy personality. I think these types of threads will continue to happen and everyone will respond with disgust, but it's not going to change this girl.

She is ridiculous and people in my age group who think that way are embarrassing to me.

Preach on, sista!!
*high fives*
Am also 22, btw.. lol.. 86 is a fine vintage!

Whoo! 86!

Can you believe 23 is approaching? Kinda weird...haha.

No.. *sigh*.. 22 went by so fast! I think it's just been an eventful year. :laugh:

What month is your birthday? Mine's Sept.

August! End of August...the 20th. I see you're in NC as well! I'm over here on the coast though. Trying to break into the wedding photography business here. I would love to photograph a wedding in the mountains though. How gorgeous would that be.

hmm.. don't think my pictures are working.. *sigh*