WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR FEBRUARY 2024
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I got a big surprise just now from my DH.
I told the delivery driver it was so pretty! Then he turned it around
Then he left. Imagine my surprise when he came back in with this
I thanked Steve and then he turned around second box
I feel spoiled!
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Making a will is important. Looking at it every few years and updating is important, too, since things change. I've known situations of of spouses or partners tossed out of their homes by adult children because adequate wills were not in place. Our will provides that everything will go to the survivor of the two of us, provisions for bequests to others apply only after the second one dies. My parents had a similar plan. After my father died, my mother updated the will much to the surprise of my father's sister who assumed that she'd get nothing and that my mother would write her out. We don't have much to leave to anyone but having a will allows the person of our choice to get into our house and bank accounts and sell or distribute our stuff with greater ease than would be the case without a will.
Barbie in NW WA
Barbie- that's what I told my neighbor. As long as a Community Property Agreement is in place and recorded in this state, everything goes to the surviving spouse and the Will of the deceased is no longer in force. The surviving spouse can choose to honor the wishes of the deceased as far as bequeathing property or $$ to others, or may need to do things differently as time goes on and circumstances change.
As Lisa mentioned, the cost isn't that much compared to the peace of mind once it's done.
Lanette
SW WA State
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I kind of feel bad....I got him a card and am making bison burgers for him for dinner. We don't generally do much for Valentine's day.
Kylia feeling loved, spoiled, and appreciated in Ohio6 -
Oh, and I now have 3 grands with learner permits!1
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Still no watch. I’m stripping the bed today to thoroughly search there. DH actually helped tackle some of his “saved for later” pile, but not all of it. @Lanette I could buy a new watch so the other one shows up (happens with other stuff often enough!) but at over $500 for the watch I really NEED to find this one.
Results from bloodwork showed most of my electrolytes are still very low. I looked up the reading and found them all to be kidney related. Cardiologist appointment next week to review these result and my BP log (which is still pretty high at 131/101 this morning). So just have to let the docs do their thing. I won’t add anything like Propel or Gatorade unless/until doc says so. I am sticking to my Kidney diet so IDK…. Getting old is not for the timid!
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Still no watch. Since I feel better today, will try to remember and re-enact my steps when I lost it. Has to be in RV according to the
Find My app, so need to try something!!
Going to try to do my squats today. Skipped 2 days now to get back to it!!
RVRita
Did you tuck in a blanket or tuck away towels or something? Something where your arms reach in under a mattress or between towels or clothing?
No to all of those. I parked close to the RV, took stuff out of car, both front and hatch (have stripped the car a couple of times now), put groceries on floor of RV then finished picking up stuff to go in house (checked the area behind the nearest seat, under the table which is sometimes used for storage and everything seems to ‘disappear’ there A few times), bathroom, stripped through. These are the only places I could check. There is two more I can’t get to where my DH stores his ‘save for later’ stuff. I need to go through those as he hasn’t yet. Not his watch so not his problem. 🙄 Can’t do it this morning as I need to get bloodwork this morning which means a 3 hour trek into town and back (1/2 hour to and from, then 2 hours for bloodwork and errands). I need to strip that area down later today.
It is indeed frustrating, especially now that the battery on the watch is dead and my phone no longer can connect to it. The last report showed the low battery level, so I know it can’t be anywhere else but the RV b/c the phone connects by Bluetooth.
Thanks for the suggestions!
RVRita
In the fridge with the groceries?
Thanks @Machka but I thought of that and that particular time, I didn’t buy any refrigerated things, but checked anyway as I gave my DH a bag with canned seltzer in it. I also checked all the plastic grocery bags and the reusable ones I have. Still no good. I have coat peg above the bed where I stash my purse and jackets. That is part of the deep clean/search today. The purse has already been emptied 3 times! 🤷♀️
RVRita
PS, keep the suggestions coming! One may be THE ONE ! 🙄
PSS. Maybe the local Aliens left it in their spaceship after abducting me?? 🤪
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Lanette - they took two phials of blood. Auto immune markers, plus iron, vit d, etc. I didn’t get to sleep until 3 am last night, (very damp here) with more than I should painkillers. Ugh. The nap I surrendered to this afternoon was bliss. Best sleep I've had in ages.
DDIL called in on their way home from her parents to collect the house key we keep. She had forgotten to take hers and my son is in London.
Some lovely new scissors arrived from Amazon. You can never have enough sharp scissors. I've thrown away a few pairs of useless ones. With the craft things the girls do, they have to be sharp.
Lisa - Thinking of you and your reunion.
Could Corey put all the yard art in one specific place and erect a screen around it? Or plant bamboo? I always think one pile looks better than several.
As you have read my book, you know that I too had a horror of looking poor. I used to scrutinise my face to see if I had that pinched poor look. There was a lot of poverty when I was young in the fifties, after the war, and we were just teetering on the edge, taking in lodgers etc. Money was a source of friction between my parents. Unusually for the time, my mother went back to full-time work when my little brother was two and a half.
Lanette - I have a vivid fantasy life too, though mine consists of several properties with different styles. We watch a lot of antique and auction programmes, so we decide if we would have the object in our house, or, which of our properties it would look good in. I have a Manchester industrial loft, a Paris apartment, and a sleek modern penthouse. John has a traditional English country house.
Meanwhile I just declutter our space as I can. John has far too many clothes. They are neatly stored, but he doesn't wear a third of it. At least they are behind doors. I like a very pared down look to the house. His study I leave alone, but it pains me a bit. I do want to get rid of more books. Old travel guides etc. He is fairly tidy, for a man, but doesn't see messy bits. Shelves with random bits on. Ugh!
I can smell the delicious dinner he is cooking. Only two and a half hours to go!
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
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Barbie ~ Wanted to let you know that like you, I write down everything I spend on a paper spread sheet. This came in real handy when my DH wanted to know how much we had spent on lawn care and exterminators at our rental house. Was able to get him the information quickly. But must say that I when I shop at Walmart and the big box stores I do not write down every item that is bought just the amount spent in total.
Wills ~ We have a will that is probably 40 years old. I am pretty sure it will still be OK when one of us passes. Whoever does not go first will be in charge of everything left. I feel really sad about people you have all written about who were left out because there was no will.
Debbie ~ The cats do look sweet all curled up together. My father had several huskies that guarded his restaurant and the family cat curled up with them on cold nights.
Lanette ~ You are lucky to have such nice neighbors and friends. In the neighborhood we have lived in for the last 20+ yrs there is no one we are close to. People around here just don't seem to like being close.
Annie ~ So sorry to hear about your aunt's pneumonia. I sure hope her children will step in and help her husband and her.
Carol in GA
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Got new Hoka Challengers!
I bought my previous ones almost exactly 4 years ago, and they were well worn. It was time.
This time I went with the wide version of my size because of my bunions, and I chose black. I could have gone with a really light blue/white colour scheme, but I don't wear white shoes, especially not running shoes!!
Aside from the blister I got yesterday, my feet are happy again.
Machka in Oz
I also have a tailor bunion on my right foot along with a regular bunion. My left foot, I had the tailor bunion removed but still have a bunion near the big toe. So I looked up the HOKA challengers you have and found they are close to or over $200 American. I think they are worth it if they do last 4 years! I’ve been getting New Balance X-tra wide but they wear out within a year. I put a pair of these in my Save for Later list on Amazon.
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Rita
You probably tried jacket pockets. But if there's a hole in the pocket the watch might be down inside the lining. Just a thought!
No word on my aunt today.
Annie in Delaware3 -
Heather, Pip, and Kylia ~ What wonderful Valentine Day surprises.3
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Today is a busy day!.
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It is indeed frustrating, especially now that the battery on the watch is dead and my phone no longer can connect to it. The last report showed the low battery level, so I know it can’t be anywhere else but the RV b/c the phone connects by Bluetooth.
Thanks for the suggestions!
RVRita
This is indeed frustrating. I have found many misplaced items in the refrigerator. You mentioned groceries. Maybe it fell off when you were putting those away.
Tina in CA
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Happy Valentine's ladies! We don't do anything for the most part. No worries he spoils me on other days.💖👍🏼🙏🤗
Today we are heading to an Asian restaurant for dinner. It has everything from sushi to ramen to rice bowls.
Welcome new members! This is a great band of fierce, funny, fantastic ladies. Some of us have been here since the dawn of time. Well maybe not that long but for me its been since around my husbands liver transplant which was 2014. Even before that! I mentally had you ladies in my back pocket as I drove from the Oregon coast to Portland for his doc appts. We really have been thru it together. Some weight related, and diet discussions sure, but the life that swirls around all that is just as important in my book.💖🤗
Hugs!
Rebecca
Whidbey
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Barbara - An IPP is an “Individualized Program Plan” they are also called IEP “Individualized Education Plan”. They are used for exceptional students or students that don’t learn in a traditional manner.
I’m happy your blues are lifted. They can really bring us down.
Heather - I hope they figure out what’s going on with your legs. Being in pain is so tiring and frustrating.
The antibiotics should kick in soon for John. We won’t be having presents here, either kind. 😉
Pretty cards.
Those are pretty glasses!
Thanks for the reminder about scissors. I need some new ones.
Annie - you are going through a lot with caregiver roles.
That’s quite dangerous for the car to be left running all night. Carbon monoxide can build up in the garage. Maybe you’ll have to check he’s turned it off before you go to bed. I feel for you it’s so difficult treading this path.
Lisa - I totally understand both your and Corey’s side in that dilemma. We grew up poor and my Dad would do the “keep it in case we need it”, my mother wouldn’t throw anything out without Dad’s “permission”. (He probably wouldn’t have cared). He at least kept it tidy. We lived near people with “yard art” and Dad didn’t like the looks of it, and in fairness to him he did use a lot of the stuff he brought home to help fix things for all the community.
Lanette- when we moved here we went from 1200 sq ft to 720 sq ft. One less bedroom and way less closet space! One thing I figured out was how much I didn’t really need. Some things I kept, “in case I needed them”, then I managed to get rid of more after we moved in. Last summer we actually went through two totes that I never even unpacked and got it down to one. I think it’s just something that changes all the time.
I found my kitchen and Christmas and craft stuff was the biggest and hardest things to go through. I was ruthless, but currently have a skillet on Marketplace that I moved and haven’t used since. It’s been 7 years!
My friend that visited last night was talking about wills. When she got married her father’s wedding gift to her was paying off her student loan debt. When her father died she found out that he had actually paid it off with a $5000 inheritance she was willed by her grandfather. I think an executor that will actually do what they are supposed to is key.
My grandmother never did a will. She signed everything over before she passed. She even had her bank account changed to my mother and brother as a joint account, she told my brother that he had received everything and the money in the bank account when she passed was to be split between Mom and I. That’s what he did. I am really dreading my MIL’s passing. It will be a fight for sure and she hasn’t done a will or POA.
Pip - you’re very lucky. I am jealous.
Kylia - that’s a wonderful gift. How cute is that bouquet.
3 at once! That will be nerve wracking for a bit.
Rita - I hope you find your watch. I think Annie had a great idea. I have had that happen before.
I just heard a song that Cletus T. Judd wrote for Toby Keith to the tune of Toby’s song “Don’t Let the Old Man In”. It’s beautiful.
I am at a loss today, I need to go to Costco but I don’t have anything else that “needs” done. I need to figure something out or I end up wasting my day.
Tracey in Edmonton6 -
Hello again..
I went from a house to a condo with less than 800 sq ft,I left alot with Tom and bought stuff used and some new but over the last 7yrs ive collected alot of junk mostly papers.. im turning into my dad..
Will have to turn that around..
How wonderful ,to you lovebirds that got beautiful 💐, and breakfast ,and lovely presents..well deserved one and all..
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Kylia - I only have carpet in one room here. I will probably get rid of it at some point. The next project here I hope is the levelling of one corner, when that’s done I need to do the bathroom and flooring.
What I’ll probably end up doing next is the living room. I have the plan, just need money and time to execute.
Debbie - he could do the laundry himself. I know if he’s like my husband he would go without first though.
I do laundry every Sunday. Usually 2 loads. I wash sheets and towels at some other point during the week.
What does DH buy everyday?
Well I went for my bone density scan today after class. Then my friend who just moved stopped in and we went to Walmart and grabbed junk food for supper.
She brought Jeb with her, as soon as Rodger left for work he got up on the couch with me and had a nap.
Tracey in Edmonton
I would love to replace all the carpets in the house. Our problem isn't the cost, it is the process. Having to remove all the furniture in every room. We have done the living room once, years ago, but it needs it again. We need to do all the bedrooms but those will be such a chore to clean out(especially my sewing room and dh's room-they are little rooms but SO much stuff in them)
We replaced the carpet with lamenent in the hall and have plans to do it in the other hall and kitchen. Maybe this summer(dh said that the past two summers)-had to do the one hall because one of the cats wouldn't stop peeing on it. We even changed the carpet, painting the wood underneath before putting the new carpet in but I guess he could still smell it.
Dh has done his own laundry a couple times-and has complained about it each time. Same with doing dishes. Usually I get laundry done every week, not sure what happened that I skipped it this week. Focusing on all the nebulizer treatments I guess, or just skipped my mind. Doing less pee pads, thankfully so maybe that is part of it too.
Dh shops for groceries for his mom almost daily. Thankfully the new Asian store right in town has most of the things she wants. She always seems to want something.
He also goes to Grocery Outlet-always looking for deals on cat food- Deals on cat stuff is online, in the stores, which ever ones we go in.
We go to Black Friday and Falling Prices now that they are local.
He shops online for his mom and for himself-lately stuff for the 3D printers, including another new one.
Hope he sells a lot at these next two shows.
Is the bone density test just a scan with a machine- I need to ask my doctor again for one for me.
I tried a few years ago but she said I wasn't old enough, even though both parents have/had Osteo.
Dad's was worse than moms. I will be 62 next month so should be able to get one now.
Debbie
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Carol in GA I don't write down each individual item from the grocery store, Costco, or Walmart unless they fit into a special category like clothing or yard supplies or pet food or something with its own category. Everything else is "groceries/household" but because of that I can address all the "stuff" I buy. Just like eating junk food and having to log it in my food diary, buying "junk" at the store requires that I notice it and admit what I'm doing.
I used to do all the laundry until my spine surgery in 2016 when Jake had to do it because I couldn't be on my feet for long enough and we needed clean towels every day and clean sheets every other day. He found out he liked being in charge of "doing" the laundry but not the folding and putting away. Now he does the laundry and I fold and put things away. Nobody every runs out of clean underwear because we own enough for longer than a week. It's a simple solution.
Yesterday Annie, the puppy, chewed up two of Jake's paperback books from the bottom shelf in the bedroom bookcase so we solved the problem by moving all the books from the shelf to another location. We also found out that both the books are available in hardback from the library so the problem is solved.
Barbie in NW WA3 -
Welcome to the new ladies. You have come to a great place for fellowship and support.
Annie--So sorry about your Aunt being ill.
Lisa--Maybe plant some flowers in the boat?? Hope you have a great visit with DS.
Heather--Hope you and John are feeling better today. I have woke up several times a night this week with leg cramps.
Kylia-WOW!! He did good.
DH had my coco clock fixed. He bought it for me 43 years ago when my grand parents passed away. They had one and I had wanted it, but someone else got it. Anyway, glad to have it fixed and hanging on the wall.
Got the results from the CT scan I had yesterday. Said the nodules are stable and that they are several new ones. So they will redo the scan in 6 months. Doctor said not to worry, so doing the best I can with that.
Have church this evening and they are starting a finance class that sounds interesting. So be a late night.Blessings, Vicki GRAND ISLAND, NE8
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