WOMEN AGES 50+FOR MAY 2024
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Tracey - I don't know what she'd be like without her dad there, but we never touched on anything personal. It was all about holidays restaurants etc, and she never asks questions about us. I have a feeling John likes it like that. We feel we can't say much about the grandchildren. I find that kind of shallow conversation boring and tiring. But it was OK. It just reminded me why I prefer them to go out on their own. He then talks to her about being dropped by her latest boyfriend, they drink a lot of wine, wander about without much food, and try to find some live entertainment. She is in her early fifties.
Lanette - I feel as if I've told the story many times before, but perhaps that was before your time here. We met online, in the very early days of online dating. 2003. I had met many, many, men for coffee, or a meal, had dated a few, and got into relationships with a couple. Some men didn't survive a preliminary phone call. So I had no expectations when I turned up in a Covent Garden, London, pub for an after work drink on a Tuesday, with yet another prospect. Normally it was just, "Nope, Next!"
Conversation was easy, humour was flying, we had the same ideas on religion and politics, he had a fascinating long-lost twin story to tell. We risked a meal next door. Still talking! Still laughing! On the way to the tube I asked him if he fancied a nightcap, so we went back to the pub for Lagavulin whisky. We met again the following Friday, and that was it! We were married within 18 months and both retired early to enjoy our lives together and travel. I was 55 at retirement and John was 59. Yes, there were hiccups on the way, aren't there always? Sometimes he annoys the **** out of me, but I think we have a good partnership. There is a lot of laughter in our house. A lot of compromise. Respect. Care. Consideration. And I adore the way he is with the grandchildren. Fun is a big part of who we are.
Going to see the grandchildren today after John picks Bea up. And have birthday cake!
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
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Regarding visitors (@exermom) ... if we had any, they would have to stay in a hotel where we live now because we have no spare rooms ... and they will have to stay in a hotel once we move to our new place because we have no spare rooms.
Both places have 3 relatively small bedrooms which have been designated as our sleeping room, our dressing room and our office.
I am not that keen on house guests.
Regarding conversation ... I often prefer if others talk and I will just listen. But sometimes the conversation dwindles out that way, so I will ask questions to get the other person talking again. People like to talk about themselves so if I ask a question about their job or hobbies, they will chat away and I don't have to say much.
I don't like to get into deep discussions about stuff for a couple reasons: I either have a completely different viewpoint from everyone else or I simply don't care.
M in Oz5 -
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OK, Barbara ... more of the Stairs to Nowhere ...
https://www.flickr.com/photos/machka-bb/with/53705062783
Machka in Oz1 -
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Good morning all. I'm having an extended back holiday. No groups until Thursday afternoon.
Evie: Condolences on your recent losses.
🤗🤗🤗 and 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻 for those who need them. Good morning all
🙋♀️ Miele failte to the newbies.
☘️ Terri
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Hi all
it's been a bank holiday weekend but I have managed to stay on track foodwise.
Thanks to all that asked about my son. His resilience is astounding and I am so proud of him.
We are looking at decorating his room to make study in there more appealing, and he will get a new laptop.
The funds from the planned trip to Turkey will go to that instead!
Welcome to the new people it's such a lovely group and being nosey and interested in people is helping me log on to MFP and log my foods!
Rusty in Yorkshire6 -
Good morning ladies!
I have a lot of errands to catch up on today. Mostly computer stuff, some that needs Dad. And groceries. And a nail trim for little Teddy.
My sister gave Dad a framed picture of my Mom, so he's been crying over it. I'm trying to be patient with his grief. (My mom died last December.)
I'm going to count my blessings instead of being drawn into his depression. We have a lovely safe home, plenty of good food and clothes. I have hundreds of books to read and time to read them. Our irises are blooming. And I have you ladies to keep me company!
Have a great day! May you be happy, healthy, safe and free!
Annie in Delaware
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Somewhat of a rant below:I went to BK today. Evidently, the store manager texted me this morning (I’m not in the habit of checking my texts at 6:00 in the morning) asking if I wanted to come in since they didn’t have any lettuce, no tomatoes, no cheese and only a few onions. I told her I’d do what I could. She asked if I could come back after they got their truck. I told her I had a dentist appt at 12 and couldn’t. Not the truth, but I DO NOT want to get where they run down product so much and then depend on me to come in when their truck comes. BUT I was a nice guy and offered to come in tomorrow (I usually don’t work on Wed). Vince was a manager and he said that she probably realized that they didn’t have anything so it would be helpful to have someone who would do it. I don’t know, to me a lot of things around there aren’t logical. And, besides, failure to plan on their part does not constitute an emergency on my part. It looks like they just barely have enough product until the truck comes, but they don’t have any lettuce. Oh well….. And if the truck is late……. Personally, I think they’re d*** lucky to have an employee who is dependable and shows up. I’ve heard how so many people “call out”. You know, “it’s sunny and I’d rather go to the beach” Personally, I’d rather go exercise tomorrowKylia – neat pictures. Thanks for sharing
Heather – congratulations
M – I remember (when I was a kid) leaving my aunt’s house in PA to go home to NJ. She would pack a cooler for us with sandwiches. Good memories
M - I'm glad you understand. Now just imagine two large dogs and a rambunctious child in your small house in addition to your cat, your husband, and yourself
Michele NC2 -
Tuesday Highlights
- finished reading volume 3a of Royal Commission Recommendations ... on to volume 3b tomorrow.
- got a few good job hunting tips
- climbed 26 flights of 20 stairs up and down
- walked 4.6 km ... 3.8 km at lunch + my usual 0.8 km during commute
Machka in Oz
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It's going to be dry today so I can work in the yard and pull weeds. Yippee.5
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We got the RV move and a lot of DH’s ‘stuff’ that was outside. Need to finish today. Not as bad as I expected. DH was reasonable during the whole thing. I was exhausted as 1 worked 2 hours picking up litter on the day side by the beach. Cinqo de Mayo crowd were messy! I helped moved the RV and some of the other things, then brought both dogs to the vet. Wicket for shots and a re-check on her dry eyes. Of course needs meds for the eyes all the time now. Along with Brownie who needed a third heart medicine. No shots for Brownie but they did manage to cut her nails without getting bit! LOL.
Today is to complete the move, I need to get bloodwork done. I will bring home something for dinner along with a few small things from Walmart. Another busy day. I won’t need to do litter for the Ranger, today as we have the move and bloodwork as excuses, but I can do some later, maybe. I get so tired so easily now. I hate it!! I used to be hyper and always busy. Must have worn my body out!
I feel better emotionally. No sugar yesterday and took MCT oil 3 times yesterday. No cravings and felt full all day. So, will be my new ‘thing’. I didn’t write yesterday, but need to copy/paste into a different format so my daughter and others that don’t have an apple product can review the story we finished and the one I am beginning. @Vickie, if you’d like, I can PM you a copy of the story I’ve started for your input. Or, if enough people on here want to read it, I can post here. It is a Sci-Fi mystery with weird creatures. I started it and was having fun with that too. All you fiction writers on here, do you develop your characters first? Or as the story goes on? I have defined the characters I want in the story but if the story calls for it, will include others.
Have a great day everyone.
RVRita in her new campsite at Bottomless Lakes.6 -
@Machka, I remember those days! Going for a drive and stopping at a roadside picnic table, or simply a pull off on the side of the road and having lunch. We had a station wagon, so the picture could have been my family! I remember once we were driving to a campground somewhere far, and McD. Had just opened here and there. We kids begged my dad to stop at McD, but he refused saying it was too expensive. Then we stopped at a diner and had hamburgers and fries, the exact same thing we would have gotten at McD but more expensive than the fast food place. I was livid, but accepted my fate. I must have been 10 or 12 years old at the time. AH, memories!!
RVRita going to Wendy’s for a salad today. My choice for fast food!! 🛸6 -
And Today is Interesting….
RVRita in Roswell, NM 👽👽🛸5 -
I much prefer to take my own food. You wouldn't see us anywhere near a fast food joint! We might stop for a coffee, and a toilet break, but prefer my own sandwiches by far. Haven't had a burger out in many, many years. Some places on the motorway have an M&S food outlet, where you can buy good snacks and sandwiches. I do eat those.
I had a two hour chat on the phone today with L. She seems to be turning the corner of grief after two and a half years. Getting nearer to decluttering. She has a therapist and does a lot of meditation, including retreats. She is a yoga teacher. Her partner's sudden death hit her hard, but she is loving life again and going on long walks after her hip replacements.
I am at my son's house, waiting for everyone to arrive. He is on a work Zoom. Then cake!!!
Love Heather UK xxxxxx7 -
Heather - I understand what you mean about the conversation, it makes it hard when you can’t be your authentic self and not being able to talk about the grandchildren would be difficult since they are such a huge part of your lives.
I hadn’t heard the story of how you and John met either. How wonderful!
Machka - a radio station here had a question posted yesterday about what a junk drawer must have in it to be a true junk drawer, I noticed on the answer no one said pens that no longer work. 😂
I personally have a very organized junk drawer. The drawers here aren’t very deep and I have very few of them so I have to keep on top of it.
Annie - I can’t imagine that grieving a spouse when being married that long is easy. They say you never really stop grieving those you’ve loved and lost, it just changes over time. I still find myself in tears sometimes thinking about my Dad, he passed in 2012.
You are handling not allowing yourself to become depressed quite well.
Michele - there is probably a lot going on to try to keep costs down at BK. Grocery prices have gone through the roof they don’t want to have a lot of spoilage to throw out. It’s hard managing what needs to be brought in when you don’t know what your customer base may be from day to day.
I wouldn’t come up with an excuse not to go in, I would just say no.
Rita - glad to read the move went well.
It is raining here today, started yesterday afternoon. DH was sent home last night and probably will be tonight too. It’s hard to know what a pay will be when they get cancelled. I wish he would have stayed at the park he didn’t lose hours there.
One of the teachers told me yesterday that she sees a huge difference in one of the girls I’m helping. She passed a test last week and that seems to have given her confidence that she can do it. I mostly just keep her on task, she is a sweet girl.
Only 8 more school days at this school. I’ll miss the people and most of the students. The one teacher that has decided she’s done at the end of the year is still the most difficult. Even the students call her out for not teaching or handling them.
Tracey in Edmonton
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Current present kitchen situation.🙄
My attempt at normal.
New cabinets are pretty though.
Rebecca
Whidbey
Wa
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Husband is going to the commissary to get a sandwich for lunch, and will pick me up some sushi.😁💖
Yesterday my meal was a Rueben. Its weird to not be able to cook for myself though.
Rebecca
Whidbey
Wa4
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