WOMEN AGES 50+FOR MAY 2024
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☘️ Terri1 -
No, I haven’t fallen off the face of the earth! Did Aging Backwards DVD and then took the water aerobics class on Wed. That night we met Jess and Colby at Cracker Barrel where we got Shadow since she needed to go to the vet for an ultrasound the next day. Vince took her for the ultrasound.
Vince found 4 of the kittens. 2 bonded each other and another set bonded. All are males. I know he has his heart set on adopting these cats. We will have to wait a few weeks because they aren’t old enough for shots, etc.
Been raining a lot lately. And hard
M – why does your husband want to put the floor down and then paint? Have you mentioned to him that if it was reversed, any dropped paint would be covered?
Welcome everyone new!
Monique – hope your foot is better soon
Food “pickeness” – despise artificial sweeteners, don’t care for the yolk of a hard boiled egg, but the yolk in a fried egg (sunny side up or scrambled ) is fine, don’t like nuts IN things (brownies, cookies, cake) but love nuts, I don’t care for my food in sauces, I want to taste the vegetable not the butter/oil/sauce
Debbie – adorable kittens
Can’t have an underwire bra. It digs into my ribs and is VERY uncomfortable. And because I’m small chested, I need padding.
Vince refuses to have any apple products. He wants to have control over a lot of things (like the registry) and apple doesn’t let you do a lot
Tracey – Michaela looks so….lovely. Did someone make that vest she’s wearing?
BK is now getting its lettuce prewashed in bags. I understand that it is better looking for the customer, but it also is cutting down on my hours. I might ask them if I can cook the bacon. But first, I want to talk to the gal who used to do it to see how much time it took and what all is involved.
Barbara – woo hoo on the “steps”
Vince had an infection under one toenail and today the podiatrist removed the nail (it’ll grow back in a few months) and cleaned the infection. He’s supposed to stay off his feet as much as possible.
Jess should be here tomorrow to get Shadow. I think I’ll make mini brownies for the gal who runs our bowling whose birthday is Monday
Margaret – you are doing so good
Heather – so excited for you. Jasper is so precious looking
Annie DE – HUGS
Carol – hope they find help for you dh soon
Lately, I’ve been itching. At first I thought maybe I developed a sensitivity to sauerkraut, but now I’m thinking that it’s the chlorine in the pool when I take the water aerobics. I do rinse off after the class, but maybe I need to actually wash the chlorine off. I’m going to try doing that. Also, put moisturizer on my skin.
Michele NC4 -
About being a picky eater. When I was about nine years old, my family drove from the west coast to the east coast and I ordered a tuna sandwich for every meal including breakfast. Later I was more adventurous and would try new things especially when traveling. Now my eating is better defined by the limited things I choose to eat. I rarely eat in restaurants and don't eat at other people's houses so I'm not faced with food I don't want to eat. There are a few restaurants we go to (or pick up take out) and I get exactly the same thing every time at each restaurant. Interestingly, I read the whole menu, then order exactly what I ordered before. I never get up and wonder what I'll eat, because I already know. It makes grocery shopping easier because it's the same stuff all the time. Jake eats a greater variety but he adds his own food to the order and has a lot of the day to eat what he wants.
I saw a cartoon year ago of a dog looking happily at the food in her bowl and thinking "Oh boy, dog food again". I have the same feeling with the food I prepare for myself "Oh boy, Barbie chow again !"
Rebecca, we did a kitchen remodel a few years ago that involved being without a stove for about two weeks and our meals were whatever could be cooked in the microwave with the coffee pot and hot water kettle available, as well. After that, I am always grateful for my stove even if all I do is scramble eggs.
I got my teeth cleaned and the hygienist found a few spots that looked like the dentist needed to see them so I have to go back next week. My teeth have done me well for over 70 years so want to take good care of them.
Barbie in NW WA
Yep, I know my body has physically taken a toll from this kitchen remodel! Eating fast food, even if it was a sandwich from Arbeys, it all has made my joints achy. I also know I have inhaled chemicals even though they were careful. I think because I have no sense of smell, the chemicals kind of took its toll on my sinuses. I am still trying to rid myself from all the glue removal agents from last week.
I also have no energy. Paying attention to what I eat these days, and drinking a lot of water. Also taking ACV every afternoon with some sparkling flavored water. It's been helping my digestive system at night.
Rebecca
Whidbey
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Stats for the day-
Short walk w/family- 1hr22min 24sec, 1.34ap, 74ahr, 90ahr, 2.67mi= 347c
Starve app = 327c
Short walk- 48.57min, 1.68mi= 211c
Strava app= 207c
Total cal 558
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Heather, Finley Jasper is such a cutie! Congrats!💖👶
Rebecca
Whidbey
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Well, I made those brownies. I have never in my entire life had such terrible brownies. Even tho I sprayed the pan, they stuck like nobody's business. I for the first time ever threw out batter and some of the brownies.
I decided to make this "tunnel of fudge" cake that I know turns out. Just hope Vince doesn't have problems taking it out of the pan. He's usually up later than I am so I've asked him to do it for me.
Michele NC4 -
Margaret, Your healthy routine is an inspiration for me. Thank you for sharing it.
Carol, Best wishes to you and your hubby. Hope they find a solution soon.
Jake saw the cancer doctor today and was told that he doesn't need any treatment yet. The doctor is an hour's drive away with the possibility of a bridge closure and odd traffic so he left pretty early. He napped for two hours after breakfast and then left and didn't get home until 4 PM. It was a long day for Annie and me. She didn't like that he was gone and wanted lots of attention. We took some walks, played in the yard, and sat on the couch together and watched TV. Now she is asleep in one of her dog beds. I can't imagine what it would be like with four kittens.
Barbie in NW WA5 -
Seems like an active group
I need accountability for my food intake. And I’ve not found an actively posting group.
I exercise daily. No issue there.
Okay if i join in?
I didn’t spend much time reading the back pages of posts. Guessing though that you’d welcome me to join in.
Sherry in TN
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Anniesquats100 wrote: »Well, the saga of my Dad continues. Yesterday he drove to a jeweler maybe three miles from the house where he has lived over twenty years. He couldn't find his car afterwards, and was found wandering over by city hall a mile away. I hear he didn't know where he was. A stranger gave him a ride home. So I come home and we go look for the car, find it and bring it home.
So today the police came to the door for a welfare check requested by the kind stranger who brought him home. They wanted my name and number in case it happens again.
So Dad is "wandering." It's time to take his car keys and stop him from going out walking alone.
I guess my choice is either to take this as a wakeup call or to wait for a serious accident or mugging or such to happen. I can take his keys, ( I think) but I can't prevent him from leaving the house without 24/7 surveillance. And lots of confrontation. I just heard the front door.
Annie in Delaware
Chances are he has stronger memories of his childhood locations than he does of his current situation, so he's goes to find things from his childhood.
My grandfather did that too. If the doors of the house were locked (so he couldn't go outside), he'd put on his hat and sit upright on the sofa, and when my grandmother came into the room, he'd ask when they were going home. Because the house they lived in wasn't the home of his younger self. Eventually, it got too much for my grandmother, and she had to put him into a dementia place.
When my husband started talking and moving about after his accident, he would ask me questions about places that confused me at first ... like when did they pave the paths in this park? When did they move that business? etc. The paths in the park had been paved before I moved here and the business had been there for a decade or more. But for a while his world was that of his childhood and it wasn't meshing well with the current world.
The thing is, it's not his fault.
He needs protection.
Can you set up a security camera at the door?
What about a motion senser that makes a noise when he gets to the door?
Motion senser lights outside the door ... and maybe inside.
A chain on the door high up ... especially if he decides he wants to leave at night.
Now that this has happened, and the police have been notified, can you talk to his doctor about removing his driver's licence. Then have a sit down talk with the doctor, your father, and your sister about selling his car?
M in Oz
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SherryRueter wrote: »Seems like an active group
I need accountability for my food intake. And I’ve not found an actively posting group.
I exercise daily. No issue there.
Okay if i join in?
I didn’t spend much time reading the back pages of posts. Guessing though that you’d welcome me to join in.
Sherry in TN
Hey Sherry from TN, welcome, from the cool shores of Whidbey Island in Washington State! We are a chatty bunch, don't feel like you have to connect with us all, just check in now and then. Many of us have been friends for years so we're all up into each others business! (ok that sounded odd, but you get what I mean).😁. Many of us chat about more than food because ours lives dictate our food choices sometimes. We are great cheerleaders to help you!
Rebecca
Whidbey
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Lisa you and a couple of other friends alerted me right away so I was able to hopefully put a stop to the hacker. Thank you!3
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Annie - I’m so terribly sorry your dad is going downhill so fast. Are there any agencies you can call for some guidance. It’s going to be rough keeping him in but I think necessary now. It’s such a shame that you are in a position where you need to become the parent instead of the child. It’s so difficult, but it’s to keep him safe and well.
Painful times for you and him, hugs to you.
Carol - my supper was disappointing and incredibly too expensive. Neither of us finished our meal, not because of the taste but the size. I didn’t like my burger, but ate it because I knew Rodger wanted me to enjoy it. I just won’t go back there.
Hopefully they figure out what’s going on with your husband soon.
Michele - that was Aspen on the picture, I bought the poncho for her at the farmers market. I lady was selling her knitted and crocheted items.
I could not imagine having to be responsible for one pet nevermind four!
Barbie - I bet the news from Jake’s appointment was a relief.
I did some scrapbooking today, will do some more tomorrow, but I need to go get some pictures printed first.
I’m off to bed.
Tracey in Edmonton
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Usual Saturday local shops trip, Stiil trying to sort my phone out.
Annie: Your dad’s deterioration is so sad. You have a hard time ahead. 🫶
Barbie: Good news about Jake.
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☘️ Terri
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Good morning ladies.
Thank you Lisa, Michele, Heather, Machka, Tracey and Terri for your kind words about my dad.
When I heard the door, he left and drove back to his physical therapy thinking he had another appointment because he read the wrong day on the calendar. But he had just finished there two hours ago.
Machka, there are bells on the doors just hanging on the doorknobs so I do hear him. And we have a doctor appointment Monday. I'm hoping they can help convince him to stop driving.
I went over to talk to my aunt and she thinks we should put him in a home for memory care. I'm naturally reluctant both because he couldn't go on his long walks and because of the risk of having to sell the house to pay for it. But the wandering problem will only get worse in the fall when he wants to go out in the dark. It's a safe town, and his balance is better from all the PT. But I wonder how often he gets lost and doesn't tell me.
Such a worry. When his PT is over, he will go back to wanting to go out for ice cream every day. He takes his picture of Mom and shows it to strangers. He needs more social activity than I do. So sad, because he used to be a physicist and was usually the smartest person in every room, but so humble. Now he gets so confused.
So I hid my Mom's old car key. And the doctor will help make the decision about driving. And the issue of memory care is something to look into for the fall. Everything changes!
Heather that baby is a cutie!
Carol, good luck with your husband.
Rita and Allie, you both are doing great!
Lisa, fingers crossed for the injections working. Thinking about you!
May you all have a great day, and my you be happy, healthy, safe and free!
Annie in Delaware4 -
Anniesquats100 wrote: »Good morning ladies.
Thank you Lisa, Michele, Heather, Machka, Tracey and Terri for your kind words about my dad.
When I heard the door, he left and drove back to his physical therapy thinking he had another appointment because he read the wrong day on the calendar. But he had just finished there two hours ago.
Machka, there are bells on the doors just hanging on the doorknobs so I do hear him. And we have a doctor appointment Monday. I'm hoping they can help convince him to stop driving.
I went over to talk to my aunt and she thinks we should put him in a home for memory care. I'm naturally reluctant both because he couldn't go on his long walks and because of the risk of having to sell the house to pay for it. But the wandering problem will only get worse in the fall when he wants to go out in the dark. It's a safe town, and his balance is better from all the PT. But I wonder how often he gets lost and doesn't tell me.
Annie in Delaware
It is very difficult.
If he goes into a memory care home, you may be able to take him for long walks. Meanwhile, it wouldn't be a bad idea to go on long walks with him now.
And yes, it is possible he may have to sell the house.
It might be a good idea to talk to your sister, cousins etc. and to weigh up your options.
M in Oz
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Margaret - good info, and good job! You and I are on the same track. Amazing what cutting out sugar, processed foods and white starches will do.
Rita - I keep reading that some doctors feel diabetes patients are destined to stay on drugs. Seems like that isn't always the case though. You have done so well, I don't blame you for questioning the need for Jardiance. Keep up the good work.
Tracey - I feel so fortunate having lived and worked in this community for many years. Reminds me of CHEERS - :"we want to go where everybody knows our name". Most of my gal friends I've known for years and years, former co-workers that I have some things in common with. It's fun to learn more about them. And share some war stories, lol. Sorry your dinner out with Rodger was a disappointment.
I was shocked at the cost of lunch yesterday with my friends. A cup of soup and small salad - $17. The restaurant is run by a good friend of R, one of my lunch buddies so that's OK, I'm glad to give her pal the business. Many eating places have closed in the past few years.
But the cafe I went to with M on Thursday - a "half" chicken Caesar salad was $12 and big enough for lunch and supper.
Barbie - great news for Jake.
Heather - glad Finley has made his appearance. What a cutie, happy to hear all is going well for him and his mom.
Lisa- good for you speaking to the neighbors about burning plastics, hope they take it to heart. How did the interview go for Patrick?
Annie - (((hugs))) sending strength to you as you deal with your dad. Does your sister have any ideas? Seems like he has deteriorated sharply since she last saw him.
Diabetes Prevention Program thoughts... I've been pondering why this year-long program has been so successful for many people. It occurs to me that it shares James Clear's ideas about "habit stacking".
I'm used to weight-loss programs that hit participants with a big list of changes from the get-go: Drastically reduce calories. Drink gallons of water. Start walking 3 miles per day. Get in 20 minutes of strength training every other day. I'm exaggerating but not by much. We put ourselves through overwhelming expectations; no wonder it often becomes a struggle. At least it was for me.
It appears this program starts us off gradually with lifestyle changes, such as upping activity. Making that into a habit. Then we'll move on to another area, diet, sleep, social connections. Healing in many areas, not just getting blood sugar or weight under control.
Kind of exciting, isn't it?
On that note, time to close and let the chickens out for their morning walk.
Make it a great weekend.
Lanette
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Sherry from TN - Welcome! As Rebecca said, lots of support here, and the simple accountability of those who send a DM to Lanette every week on their progress, whether backward, forward or sideways... Drop into any conversation where you feel comfortable.
Annie - It's already nearly June, and fall is not far away. If your father is genuinely in need of that social atmosphere, he would almost never be alone in a memory care facility, there would be others to talk to, and to show pictures of your mom to. Just a thought. You can do this.
Heather - Congratulations on another nephew entering the world!
Just dropped in quick before I do my yoga. Shoved the menfolk out the door a few minutes ago. My DBIL was charming and happy in that same way my husband is, but they stayed up late catching up, and kind of staggered out the door this morning. He already worked with Corey for a couple hours yesterday, and they'll both put in a couple hours this morning. I re-worked his résumé for him, which was the last thing he needed to bring with him.
He and Corey will make the four-hour drive over tomorrow and pack his camper/trailer up and drag it back. He's in better financial shape than I thought, and honestly, better mental and physical shape than I've ever seen him. So pleased that my disaster premonitions were so far off the mark. He's looking at houses to buy already, and the fact that he's already got a job the moment he shows up here will go a long way to making that happen. He has money in the bank for a big down payment, as well, and says he's looking forward to living here. It will be nice to have family close.
Anyway, time to get some exercise and then get some breakfast in me. Have a happy day, my dears,
Love from Arkansas,
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Annie ... your aunt is giving you good advice. Your dad doesn't tell you when he gets lost because he doesn't know he was lost or remember that he was lost. I understand that the house issue is a big problem. You need to call your sister and get the advice of elder care specialists in your area. Visit some memory care places and talk to the financial offices. They understand your concerns and can guide you.
I completely understand where you are right now and it hurts and it sucks.
My mom It's long.My mom spent Wednesday night in the ER after being unable to hold her weight in the shower requiring 3 aides to lower her to the floor to avoid a fall. Through a series of errors/miscommunication, I was unable to be with her (I was in the waiting area) and the doctors giving her care never communicated with me. I did have the pleasure of hearing the man high on drugs, hallucinating and vomiting, scream for over an hour in ER waiting ... great way to initiate the cochlear implant. I left in the early morning hours when I was told I would not get to see her to catch a few hours sleep with the assumption she would be admitted and I would see her in the morning. Instead, Thursday morning she was discharged. Somehow, they thought she was capable of making her own medical decisions and she refused to stay for PT evaluation and rehab. A look at her paperwork (or how about talk to the family) would have told them I am her proxy and she has dementia. Without my knowledge or her assisted living facility's knowledge, they ordered her a wheelchair van and sent her back to the assisted living facility ... in a hospital gown. Once at the assisted living facility, she was unable to even transfer out of the transport chair back into her own chair. Took 3 men from the kitchen. The assisted living facility called for another ambulance and back she went to the ER. (The assisted living facility my mom is in is only licensed for 1 person assist. They have no lift equipment). They didn't have her hearing aids so I had to get into the ambulance to put one of them in --- the other was crushed the day before. What was I thinking?? My knees can't support climbing into an ambulance and getting out I wrenched my knee. Sheesh. While my mom was definitely confused on Thursday morning, by evening she had a full-blown sundowners event. Heartbreaking. She has now been admitted to the hospital under "observation" and will be moved to rehab on Monday once we (the hospital) find one that has a bed. Insurance won't cover the rehab because it's "observation" and not "inpatient." She's healthy, but weak, so insurance won't cover? What a messed up system. Yesterday (Friday) the hospital was unable to awaken her to even take her morning medications. At noon I managed to awaken her for her pills, but she went back to sleep. Then at 1:30 they came in with her lunch. She hadn't eaten since Wednesday. I awakened her again and said time to eat. She ate every bite, said it was delicious and promptly went back to sleep! The hospital was going to start her on Trazadone last night for the sundowners. I'm hoping for a better day today. Sadly, this is the beginning of the end for my mom. While we're all saying, let's do rehab and see if you can get back to assisted living, the truth is she requires a higher level of care now. Most likely a nursing home. And Annie ... they're going to take every penny my mom has. I had to give financials yesterday ... and I was asked if she still had her house (which we sold in 2022).
My food choices have been atrocious, I'm dehydrated and having muscle spasms at night ...
Beth near Buffalo13 -
(((Beth))) (((Annie))) Decisions are lousy and lousy. Went through this with DH mom.
One up side to DH is I did not have to put him in a hospital or a home. Hard enough without that extra burden. Please do what you can to take care of you at this time even if you only have five minutes to take it!!! I know eating the best diet I could during the last few days with DH helped me handle it better than resorting to high starch and processed foods. My church wanted to have others bring me meals I declined because I wanted to make sure what I was eating was the best for me and DH. He was able to eat until the night before his death. He did lose his ability to talk.
The friend mentioned taking to lunch on her birthday is now in hospice and they move her to the nursing home section of the place she leaves in. They had just moved to assistant living. They did pay for long term health care assistance. Not sure how that works with Hospice. I don't think she is going to live long. Three cancers lung, pancreatic, and one other and congestive heart failure. I just pray she doesn't linger long. It is her children I worry about especially the daughter who did most of her extra care this past year.
Went with a friend to a delightful concert last night. Unfortunately night ended with her bringing up our common friend which is the one in hospice. Her daughter had called me when I was out to tell me about her move to the nursing home. I am about to return the call.5
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