Dating! EEEK!

Here's my dating story. I was married for a year to someone I lived with for 17 years, then suddenly one day, he left. Not exactly like that, but anyway, he left. A year later I found an old school chum on the internet that I had a big crush on. We exchanged a few pictures online and chatted and I eventually got around to asking him out to dinner. My daughter was only 5 and his comment was, "I'm not ready to be a dad to a little kid again because my own daughter will be18 soon." Hmm, if dinner costs you your second born child, you're probably eating in the wrong place. I made it quite clear to him that she had a dad who was doing a great job and I simply wanted a dinner companion. We set a few ground rules ahead of time, like we ALWAYS went dutch unless the other offered to pay, neither of us could stop by unexpectedly, and, above all, we kept our children out of the relationship. As weeks went by, he said he enjoyed my independence and self assurance. While I enjoyed the time we had together, I knew it was not a long term, let's get married and live happily ever after situation. So I learned a lot about myself, became more confident, and had some good times with him.

My suggestion, take the focus off of him and put it back on you. Think about what YOU are looking for in this relationship. Don't be afraid to set limits and boundaries, don't be afraid to take some chances either. Be confident. Be beautiful. Do take this chance because too many times we sit back and say, when I get thin I'll do blah, blah, blah and then we never do anything. Remember "Life is what's happening while we sit around waiting for something to happen." Loosely quoted. :laugh:

:drinker: Have a great time. :flowerforyou:

I bet he's just as concerned about you accepting him! So, when you start worrying about what he's thinking about you, he's probably wondering what you're thinking about him.........Just try to remember that and have a good time!:flowerforyou:

don't sweat it. Just go out and have a good time. Be yourself. If you talk that much on the phone and texting then he already knows you and wants to go out.

I am/was a single mom for a very long time. My now husband and I met online and we talked for a bit and then went out, had a good time and now we are married. I was so nervous the first date I couldn't believe it but I went and didn't expect to hear from him again and low and behold I did. He just kept coming around. I was always myself.
Have a good time on your date, and don't worry too much (I know it is hard not too )

I know EXACTLY how you feel.......
My fiancee is only a bit taller than me and he is a very very slender man... When I have those "bad" days...I look at myself and feel like such a whale beside him!!
But then he tells me i'm silly for feeling that way and that I'm beautiful... and although sometimes that doesn't help how i'm feeling (cause I'll still feel like i'm a whale..hahaha) but it's nice to know that the relationship is about a bit more than just the physical appearance!!

If its gonna work out, the way you look isn't going to matter! Just go and have fun... be yourself!! if he doesn't like you, he's not worth it!! You deserve the best!!

So how'd it go?

Hey, as a guy I can tell you that we sweat bullets too!
and maybe he thinks you're as "cute" as you think he is!
From your picture, you look like a beautiful lady and I'm sure he will feel the same way.
I'm with songbyrdsweet, if he doesn't, then he isn't worth your time anyway, if he does, then just being exactly who you are is what it's all about. Have a good time and remember that all of those insecurities you are feeling....he's feeling just as many of his own.
Cowboy

This is so exciting!

One story- I know someone who is pretty, blonde, skinny and sexy- and she's been single for a year. Her name is L.

The reason isn't because she isn't attractive enough - she gets lots of attention when she goes out- it's because she is a little mess of self esteem issues, and it's not in the nice quiet way either. She would throw tantrums to get attention, and 'doesn't speak' to people until they get the message that they've 'wronged' her, and she needs constant reassurance from her man and thinks that they all hate her when they say that they are busy (when they actually are!). She's all wound up and unrelaxed and URGH. i really don't like her.

In fact, the first time i saw her, i thought she was beautiful. Then a mutual acquaintance said she couldn't see L's beauty after a while. And yes, i don't see her beauty anymore. her personality SHINES through and it stinks!

The point is, beauty isn't skin deep.

And men (or the men you want) aren't that stupid either!

The good man goes for a good woman, and it really doesn't matter what size she is. The thin one gets rejected if she's a cow, and the large one gets accepted because she is a lovely person.

I hope your date went well.

So????
I hope it all went well for you

G-moo...........

Don't leave us hanging! We are nosy.....dish..........

cm

Good luck! I have to say that after reading this I am happy to not have to live in the dating world anymore. While marriage is not always easy...dating is even harder...until you meet the right guy! It will happen when the right one comes along! Again, good luck to you in your weight loss journey and love!:flowerforyou:

This is good!!!!
He missed meetings to stay and talk. If he didn't like you he would have said he had meetings and left and not to mention he wouldn't have made the second date. He would have just said he would call or something. So don't be so hard on yourself you are a beautiful person. Go out have fun and see where it takes you. :flowerforyou:

Awww! yay, I'm so happy for you. I've been reading along, I'm glad you finally posted about the date! It sounds like he really likes you a lot. Who wouldn't? You're a beautiful and obviously very nice person. I'm glad it worked out so well and hopefully we'll all be hearing wedding bells soon! lol j/k