LESS Alcohol ~ JUNE 2024 ~ One Day at A Time

MissMay
MissMay Posts: 3,783 Member
Do you want to drink LESS? Completely stop or just cut back?

Cutting back can mean ONE less drink a day, week or month. Or deciding to drink on only weekends or at special occasions.

On the flip side, maybe you could use this nudge to finally get to that completely sober point and be all in-alcohol free.

Join us in drinking LESS (whatever that means for you) as we continue to support and learn from each other.





■ LESS ALCOHOL RESOURCE & GENERAL INFORMATION LIST ■

USING THIS THREAD:
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•Join us at any time.
•Set your own goal - this thread is about drinking less and you decide what that means to you.
•There are no scheduled check-ins - post as often or as little as you want or need.
•AF is an acronym for Alcohol Free. For others commonly used on this site see - https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1069278/acronyms-and-terms-for-new-mfp-members-v-6/p1
•To follow this thread easily, bookmark it by clicking on the star at the top right of this thread.
•Remember that we are here for you and care about you. Check in with us when you have time and let us know what you need!

TIPS & OBSERVATIONS FROM OUR USERS:
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•Getting Started or Starting Over.
•Some people find it easier to set small attainable goals at the beginning to help boost confidence.
•If you have been drinking daily the first days will be some of the hardest and drinking again will feel like a cure but it delays the relief that only time can provide.
•There will always be a reason to delay the start/restart of your journey.
•For those ready to commit to being alcohol-free permanently, the videos on YouTube by Craig Beck will help. He also has a program you can join.
•You may experience mood swings and anxiety during your first two weeks. It is suggested you try and focus on the benefits of your goal.
•Cravings are said to last only 6 minutes, so find something to distract you like arming yourself with alternatives: tea, mock-tails, activities, etc.
•You may find that filling the time you drink with other activities like exercise or hobbies can be a helpful distraction.
•If you find them tempting try and avoid events/outings that will have drinking for a time.
•Don't let pride or shame keep you from asking for the help you need.
•Sometimes talking it out or posting your thoughts/feelings/struggles may help you work things out for yourself.
•It is okay that you don't always have all the answers.
•Some days will be easier than others.
•You may have initial/increased sugar cravings.
•You should never take a day that you have lived up to your goals for granted.
•Celebrate the smaller victories too. Less alcohol is still less alcohol even if your goal was zero at that moment.
•Once you begin sticking to your goals for one day to many days you should believe you are capable of the same and more because you are.
•Failure is not giving in and drinking. Failure is to stop trying to accomplish your goals.
•Annie Grace (This Naked Mind author) has a free program on her website (https://www.alcoholexperiment.com/) called the 30 day experiment which can be joined anonymously.

Life with Less Alcohol:
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•It can be helpful to educate yourself with books and web research (Some suggested books and links listed below).
•There is no benefit to comparing yourself to others because this is a personal journey.
•You may often feel conflicted. You will know that there are numerous real benefits to sticking to your goal while at the same time think that alcohol is an important part of stress relief, relaxation, celebration, etc.
•You may feel punished by not drinking or drinking less but that feeling usually fades with time.
•Sometimes drinking less or quitting will strain friendships that centered around alcohol.
•Having a list of reasons to stick to your goals handy for yourself can be helpful. Some lists have included remembering how bad it feels to have a hangover, excess/unwanted calories, having a racing heart during the night, sleeplessness, anxiety, and depression.
•It is a good idea to have a plan for how you might deal with various tempting scenarios before engaging in a social situation.
•Self-Reflection is an important part of the journey. Once we figure out why we drink we can hopefully use that information to form new habits and make better and more mindful decisions.
•Sometimes doing something nice for yourself like a little reward for a success makes the journey easier.
•You will see many helpful suggestions and ideas that work for some people. However, finding what tactics work for you may involve some trial and error.
•It is not uncommon for certain activities that were once combined with alcohol to trigger temptation. Many have said that outdoor activities in warmer weather made alcohol very tempting.
•Many that have spent time with no alcohol after drinking again realized that it doesn't enhance experiences like they once believed it did. Some have said they no longer like the taste.
•Don't forget how sticking to your goal has made your life better and remember it to motivate you again if you fall off your path.
•If you begin drinking daily again whether planned like a vacation or unplanned you may once again face a struggle to get it under control.
•For some people it is easier to not drink than it is to moderate drinking. Others have found moderating impossible.

Reported Benefits of Less or No Drinking: (Results may be incremental, and/or they may vary)
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•Improved sleep after 2,4,7,10,& 60 days
•Improved skin/complexion after 10 days
•Improved ease in weight loss. Not only from the savings of alcohol calories but some report making poor food choices after drinking.
•Increased energy after as few as 2 days
•Increase in other fun activities. Some have found that daily drinking became their main recreational activity and their world was decreased in size.
•Increased productivity
•Reduction of high blood pressure
•Lower resting heart rate
•Less Acid Re-flux
•Significant financial savings
•More creativity
•More productivity
•Better relationships with family

When Alcohol Is Used for Avoidance:
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•We drink to ease the stress of the working day, to avoid it.
•We drink to avoid anxiety in social situations.
•We drink to avoid making decisions about not drinking.
•The Takeaway on Avoidance, our problems don't go away if we avoid them. We need to learn to face them.
•Having a clear head makes our problems seem much smaller.
•Having a clear head makes problems easier to solve.

How to Be Kind to "Tomorrow You":
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•Instead of lumbering with guilt, headaches, and poor nutrition hangovers in the morning, Think of think how nice it would be not to feel that way tomorrow.
•Worry about "me" and don't let "tomorrow Me" feel awful.
•Instead of thinking alcohol is something nice to have *now*, think of *NOT drinking* as something nice we can do for the person we are when we awaken in the morning.
•Do you bank calories for a festive occasion? (Handy tactic) We can bank a good mood for when we wake up.
•We need to have sympathy for "Tomorrow You" and be kind to her/him.
•Don't look at a day without alcohol as a punishment for being bad or having no willpower.
•Not drinking is a lovely, sympathetic gesture towards the person we are now, and whom we will wake up as.
•You’d be kind to a stranger. Be kind to "Tomorrow You".

LINKS:
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•General Information/Blog Sites:
https://thesoberschool.com/
https://thisnakedmind.com/blog/
https://alcoholmastery.com/blog/

•Sobriety Blog:
http://mummywasasecretdrinker.blogspot.com/

•The Thirty Day Experiment:
https://www.alcoholexperiment.com/

•Ten Things That Helped Me Quit Booze:
https://unpickledblog.com/2017/01/04/replacement-behaviours-ten-things-that-helped-me-kick-booze/?wref=tp

•The Neuroscience Behind How We Make Decisions:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-athletes-way/201505/the-neuroscience-making-decision

•Summary of Book on Addiction:
https://drgabormate.com/book/in-the-realm-of-hungry-ghosts/

•Article on the Difference Between Being an Alcoholic and Really Liking to Drink:
https://www.self.com/story/alcoholic-or-just-really-like-to-drink

•To the Mom questioning her drinking habits:
http://www.scarymommy.com/questioning-drinking-habits/

•Guided Meditations:
http://marc.ucla.edu/mindful-meditations

ALTERNATIVE DRINKS:
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•Overnight Cold Brew Iced Tea:
https://www.splendidtable.org/story/you-can-cold-brew-iced-tea-while-you-sleep

•Mocktail Recipes:
https://www.allrecipes.com/recipes/1822/drinks/mocktails/
https://www.foodandwine.com/cocktails-spirits/mocktails
https://www.townandcountrymag.com/leisure/drinks/how-to/g785/best-mocktail-recipes/

APPS:
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•Daybreak iOS link. A Deakin University study of hundreds of health apps found that Daybreak is one of only four that have proven effective and provide quality assistance.
•Dry Days by AlcoChange iOS is for those who want to cut down or cut out the booze throughout the year, while seeing the impact it has on your health and wallet.
•nomo - Sobriety Clocks iOS - In addition to an alcohol clock and monetary savings this app lets you check in and do a sobriety exercise if you're tempted and connect with accountability partners.
•Sobriety Counter - Stop Drinking (Sobriety Counter - EasyQuit pro version) Android- Provides health stats, money saved, games to distract you, motivational tips, and several other features

BOOKS:
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•Quit Like a Woman: The Radical Choice to Not Drink in a Culture Obsessed with Alcohol
by Holly Whitaker
•The Naked Mind by Annie Grace
•Alcohol Lied to Me by Craig Beck
•Rational Recovery by Jack Trimpey
•The Unexpected Joy of Being Sober by Catherine Gray
•The Liars Club, Cherry, and Lit by Mary Karr (3 different publications)
•Kick the Drink...Easily by Jason Vale
•Drinking: A Love Story by Caroline Knapp
•Being Sober: A Step-by-Step Guide to Getting To, Getting Through, and Living in Recovery by Harry Haroutunian
•The Easy, Illustrated Way to Quit Drinking by Alan Carr
•Alcohol Explained by William Porter


Credit and thanks to the MFP Less Alcohol One Day at a Time participants
For their willingness to share their insights and resourcefulness in finding this information
~Established 2017~
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Replies

  • 62Vic
    62Vic Posts: 2 Member
    Hello from the land of Oz.
    I'm in!
    Goal for June is not to drink during the week, Sunday night to Friday.
  • tmbg1
    tmbg1 Posts: 1,452 Member
    Hi all - May was neither my best nor my worst month:
    15 - AF
    12 - A
    4 - LA
  • SparkSpringtime69
    SparkSpringtime69 Posts: 1,232 Member
    Goal for June:

    AF: 15
    A: 15
  • Michieb125
    Michieb125 Posts: 871 Member
    Glad to be back for month #17 with my LA friends!
    By choosing LA I have lost 10 lbs. and have a goal of 6 more by the end of 2024.
    My goals are always to improve my overall health with LA.

    I post stats most days, usually the following morning.
    Reviewing my calendar for May, I see I had more wine days in a row than I planned for. This is counterintuitive to my personal goals. Need a reset! My June goal is to get back to planned A (wine) days instead of whenever the time strikes me. FOMO played into some of those past choices.

    Let’s do this thing!

    June goals:

    AF days: 15
    A days: 15 (includes LA wine = lo calorie and low alcohol content)
  • SparkSpringtime69
    SparkSpringtime69 Posts: 1,232 Member
    June:
    AF: 1
    A: 0
  • SparkSpringtime69
    SparkSpringtime69 Posts: 1,232 Member
    AF = 1
    A = 0

    I totally suspect my A days to be high this month due to the stresses I’m about to endure (there will be much to endure). My goal is that on those A days I limit myself to only 1-2 glasses of wine and try to only drink if I was able to exercise that day. Let’s see how I do.

    Isn't it interesting how we automatically turn to A when faced with stressful times? I like your idea of attaching a healthy goal to the wine allowance, it could offset the calories a little and will give you a satisfying feeling that you did something healthful for yourself.
  • doccnm
    doccnm Posts: 21 Member
    Michieb125 wrote: »
    Glad to be back for month #17 with my LA friends!
    By choosing LA I have lost 10 lbs. and have a goal of 6 more by the end of 2024.
    My goals are always to improve my overall health with LA.

    I post stats most days, usually the following morning.
    Reviewing my calendar for May, I see I had more wine days in a row than I planned for. This is counterintuitive to my personal goals. Need a reset! My June goal is to get back to planned A (wine) days instead of whenever the time strikes me. FOMO played into some of those past choices.

    Let’s do this thing!

    June goals:

    AF days: 15
    A days: 15 (includes LA wine = lo calorie and low alcohol content)

    Your weight loss is very inspirational!
  • doccnm
    doccnm Posts: 21 Member
    I am in for June. My goal is AF Sunday - Friday with 1 beer allowed for Saturday. The beer I drink is 9% so I believe it really equals 2 beers. I also may move my allowance day to Thursday depending on what is planned for the week. We often go out on Thursdays and I would rather have my beer then.
    I have been walking 3 miles/day consistently and lifting heavy 4x/week. I also play golf (but use a cart most of the time due to the heat).
    I am motivated by everyone on this page.
  • tmbg1
    tmbg1 Posts: 1,452 Member
    1 - AF
    1 - A
  • Michieb125
    Michieb125 Posts: 871 Member
    Happy Monday and welcome June!

    During the month of May, I imbibed on a few new low calorie wines and found a few favs. Did like some of the recommendations others have made here too. The issue for me is staying to my limit of two glasses with these as they are between 5-8% content.
    I am going to count any LA wine as an A day to switch things up as I want hit my AF goal this time! May was a bust.
    Logging and claiming today and tomorrow as AF and will be back on Wednesday morning to report. Have two very early commitments in the next two days which helps 😊

    June goals:
    AF days: 15
    A days: 15 (includes LA wine = lo calorie and low alcohol content)

    Actual:
    AF - 2
    A - 2
  • 2timesacharmmfp
    2timesacharmmfp Posts: 79 Member
    In for June. May was a mess (LA speaking - it was a blast but that was the problem!)

    Goals are 12-15 AF
    Staying on target drink wise (daily drink count in my Reframe app) 75%
  • tmbg1
    tmbg1 Posts: 1,452 Member
    2 AF
    1 A
  • finnelljennifer
    finnelljennifer Posts: 4 Member
    LA is less or low?
  • finnelljennifer
    finnelljennifer Posts: 4 Member
    Pardon me, I saw the LESS in the thread 🫶. That’s great! I’m in.
  • forestdweller1
    forestdweller1 Posts: 418 Member
    @finnelljennifer ....LA means "Less Alcohol" in general for those of us who have been wandering about here for a while...LA is also a new thing since some of us have adopted the "newish" Low Alcohol wines like Kim Crawford. Whatever gets you to your personal goal of sobriety and health.
    Thank you @MissMay for another month to track our accountability.
    Eldest Daughter returns to Louisiana in 2 weeks so my vow to not drink while she's here expires soon. She'll be back through in July for a short stay in Maine. Should I continue to avoid the "Demon Rum" until this Fall, or just do a short quit ????????? So little Chianti, so much charcuterie....
    Eldest Daughter's Darling Husband intends to retire in 4 years and build a home on Little Deer Isle. This includes a tiny home in the woods for Moi & Catpuccino. Unrequested, he's just a totally awesome person. It's within sight of the beach, and I can have a wood stove & a warm Cat, so, what's not to love ??
    @NonnieDoiron ...good for you on the 0A for this month. So many challenges...keep strong.
  • tmbg1
    tmbg1 Posts: 1,452 Member
    3 AF
    1 A