WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR AUGUST 2024
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Good Monday!
Annie Trickle charger....put the positive clamp on positive post, negative clamp on negative post, then plug in the charger. I too am terrified of batteries, but we have trickle chargers on most vehicles. You've got this!
"Love you" -My DH was not demonstrative when we met. I am. Over time, he has learned to hold my hand, kiss me just because, and several times a day we just tell each other "I love you".
"Hunger" and "food"- I too have hypoglycemia. I am not generally hungry in the morning. I get rumbly in the tummy around 1030. If left up to me I would only eat between 1030-230. DH is breakfast, lunch, dinner, and snacks. If we are busy, I forgot to eat which leads ti hangry, faint feelings, funky vision. When I am eating and thinking of what I am eating, I will stop when satisfied. If I have gotten past the healthy hunger, I tend to overeat. My DH is clean plater and routine. I like variety. I did ask him if I didn't feed him enough for dinner the other night as he was snacking like crazy! He said he just needed something salty. I really need to get back to planning meals. Most of my family salivate at food, I just eat because I have to most of the time. I do good if I eat, suck if I snack.
Tracey I hope your first day is GREAT!
Rebecca It happens to the best of us. Hugs! My DH is good for two days nursing, then expects things to go back to normal.
Yesterday we put boards up in attic. I got to use circular saw! Covered in sawdust but proud of project. Also cleaned two bathrooms.
So started second book on leadership from my sister and already stuck on chapter one assignment. "What is your purpose?" "What are your values?"
I am struggling as no one has ever asked me these things. This morning I thought maybe my purpose is to help people know they are seen and heard. Sometimes it is in hug form, sometimes just listening, sometimes a compliment. I am not as eloquent as many of you, but maybe that statement is perfect. Will think on it more. I value integrity, learning, and independence. It is a start I reckon, even as simple as it is.
Gotta get my day going!
Love, health, and peace to all!
Kylia in Ohio6 -
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I'm pleased with my dahlia arrangement. The new pink ones were too perfect to put the three together. I retrieved my old red ones from the garage and used the tattier bud ones and one full one to bring the unreal quality down. Turned out much better.
My new vase is perfect for them.
Love Heather UK xxxxxx
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Heather - Love the dahlias!
Rebecca, darlin' - Just all the hugs in the world. These manly men's whole worlds wobble when we aren't on an even keel (ha! Navy joke.🤪). Thinking about you both.
Kylia - Simple is almost always better. Extra words have a habit of taking meaning and shredding it beyond recognition. You're on the right track. Trust your instincts.
Just squirreling all over the place, going from one distraction to the next. I think I'll go down to Walmart and get that over with. Try to settle to one thing when I get back.
Later,
Love,
Lisa5 -
Well, I decided to do the mature thing and buy a size bigger pair of jeans for horseback riding. Maybe that will help with the shortness of breath. It would be an easier fix than medical trouble. Discouraging but not the worst thing.
Thank you Kylia. When I'm being rational, it's not hard. Red to red. I will get it done soon!
Annie in Delaware
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Tracey ~ Can't wait to hear how your day at the new job goes. Hope all goes well and lots of hugs.
Annie ~ Hugs for you too! I finally had to order a larger band width bra because of my weight increase. Hope you will be happy with the new pants.
Carol in GA3 -
Diet: When I got married, I weighed 114 lbs at 5'2". My husband commented that perhaps I should eat only 1/2 sandwich at lunch and that got me into years of starving myself. I had never dieted before and I kept this up with vigorous exercise until I was in my 40's. When 50 hit, we left a church that we had been heavily involved in and I think the sadness and disappointment from that led to the beginning of finally not following a strict diet and of course menopause didn't help. I now weigh between 170-175. I am conscious of what I eat and at the moment know that I need to get away from my beloved carbs and wine in the evening. I am pretty sure that as my knee gets better I will be more mindful of what I eat. Time will tell.
Carol in GA8 -
Snowflake1968 wrote: »Terri - I feel blessed that my girls do things with me too. So many don’t do anything with their parents.
Heather - I bet you feel better having your hair done even if it was a pain to do.
Annie - a lady on another group I’m on has to trick her dog if she’s going out. They are so funny those dogs.
Lisa - Lauryn, the Grands and I love going to yard sales. We give the kids their own money and let them buy whatever they want. It’s always interesting, Jonah one time bought motorcycle stands to build something with. I ended up selling them for more than we paid I think. Michaela redecorated her room last year for about $5 it was the end of the day and the people just gave her everything else that went with the pillow she bought. She ended up with curtains and a rug.
My all time favourite child find at a yard sale was Chase, he was only 4 and he bought an old fashioned egg beater, the kind you stood up in a bowl and turned the beaters with a little handle. He paid $0.25 for it. I tried to discourage him because I thought he wanted it as a toy. Turns out his Mom was decorating her kitchen with antique kitchen gadgets and he bought it for her.
I was looking up the cheat code for shake n bake the other day. I think I’m going to make some and put it in a jar.
On hunger - I can overeat very easily and a lot of my eating is from boredom. It’s why I like to stay busy. I followed a way of eating one time that helped me learn the hunger signals and the feeling full signals. For me, I feel a pain in the upper portion of my stomach when I’m hungry. If I get to the dizzy and nauseous stage I’ve really waited too long to eat.
I should try that way of eating again, it really did help me.
Machka - I’m so happy for you, setting it all up and getting things where you want them is one of my favourite parts of moving.
Kim - It’s awful what parents do to their children. Qualifiers for love just isn’t right.
Lanette - I’m excited too, I haven’t had a tour, I don’t know what my office will be like, nothing! I have decided to take a notebook and a lovely pen Rodger made with me tomorrow and then decide what I might need or want for my office once I see what’s what and also know a bit more about how my days will go.
Good advice about cars not sitting. They need to be moved regularly.
Michele - I’m curious how much peaches are there? They are incredibly pricy here.
Why did you take the pepperoni off of the pizza?
Rebecca - those days sure do take a toll. I agree with the reset thing. I too don’t think that I would be well taken care of by Rodger if it’s my memory for sure. I think that’s why God took my Dad so early, he wouldn’t have done well with my Mom at all.
I went through my clothes today, everything still fits but I do need some shirts. Maybe I’ll grab a couple this week. I have lots of pants. I have a few things in a bag to donate.
I then relaxed most of the day. I did talk to my MIL and SIL today and at least dusted and swept.
I’ll miss checking in with you all in the morning. Have a great day!
Tracey in Edmonton
Awe, Tracy, God has a good plan for us all, and especially for your Dad, hugs!
I need to tell husband today while we head into the gym that when he's talking about this or that, the radio needs to be off. Usually its a talk show, and my brain can't distinguish between voices and I end up not listening to anyone.🙄
Rebecca
Whidbey
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Anniesquats100 wrote: »Good morning beautiful ladies!
Tracey thinking of you and your fresh start today!
Rebecca hugs for you. As we all live longer there will be more of us looking for care. It is truly scary. I try to face it calmly when I have to think about it.
Both my parents have had Alzheimer's, and my daughter is gone. Someday I will likely be alone with dementia, despite spending years of my life as a caregiver. Or maybe they will find a cure. I just try not to let the fear of being alone diminish my current life. No sense being miserable now over something that might not happen the way we expect.
I have to go to the DMV again. (Department of motor vehicles) I was worried about how to get my dad to go with me, and almost gave up last night. This morning he just saw it on the calendar and asked when he had to be ready. So I guess we are going after all. I was just borrowing trouble. This afternoon I have to drag him to my Dr appt. I think it will be okay if I take him out to lunch first.
I had a little shortness of breath and a cough. I'm thinking the shortness of breath is from tight pants. But I'm also afraid of heart trouble. And I'm afraid they will want a bunch of tests that will require a sitter and take up my free time. Again, I have to relax and not worry ahead of time.
Remember that Bobby McFerrin song? Don't worry, be happy! Hard for a skeptic like me, but I try. My happy place is reading my books. I ordered a new author, Rachel Grant. Yay!
Have a marvelous day my friends! May you be happy, healthy, safe and free!
Annie in Delaware
Hugs friend! We do the best we can with what we've got, its all we can do. My father had dementia/Lewy Bodies Disease, and it was a hard journey. I lived in CA and he was in OR so I didn't get up to visit his facility but once or twice a year. I was raising the boys so it was financially difficult. But no regrets, and I tried my best supporting my sisters who dealt with him on a more personal level.
Rebecca
Whidbey
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Good Monday!
Annie Trickle charger....put the positive clamp on positive post, negative clamp on negative post, then plug in the charger. I too am terrified of batteries, but we have trickle chargers on most vehicles. You've got this!
"Love you" -My DH was not demonstrative when we met. I am. Over time, he has learned to hold my hand, kiss me just because, and several times a day we just tell each other "I love you".
"Hunger" and "food"- I too have hypoglycemia. I am not generally hungry in the morning. I get rumbly in the tummy around 1030. If left up to me I would only eat between 1030-230. DH is breakfast, lunch, dinner, and snacks. If we are busy, I forgot to eat which leads ti hangry, faint feelings, funky vision. When I am eating and thinking of what I am eating, I will stop when satisfied. If I have gotten past the healthy hunger, I tend to overeat. My DH is clean plater and routine. I like variety. I did ask him if I didn't feed him enough for dinner the other night as he was snacking like crazy! He said he just needed something salty. I really need to get back to planning meals. Most of my family salivate at food, I just eat because I have to most of the time. I do good if I eat, suck if I snack.
Tracey I hope your first day is GREAT!
Rebecca It happens to the best of us. Hugs! My DH is good for two days nursing, then expects things to go back to normal.
Yesterday we put boards up in attic. I got to use circular saw! Covered in sawdust but proud of project. Also cleaned two bathrooms.
So started second book on leadership from my sister and already stuck on chapter one assignment. "What is your purpose?" "What are your values?"
I am struggling as no one has ever asked me these things. This morning I thought maybe my purpose is to help people know they are seen and heard. Sometimes it is in hug form, sometimes just listening, sometimes a compliment. I am not as eloquent as many of you, but maybe that statement is perfect. Will think on it more. I value integrity, learning, and independence. It is a start I reckon, even as simple as it is.
Gotta get my day going!
Love, health, and peace to all!
Kylia in Ohio
I tell my husband that I will be an awful patient when or if I am in any pain. I just have no tolerance for it. So there better be lots of drugs so I can safely sail past the pain. For my sake AND his.👍🏼😁
Rebecca
Whidbey
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With my current diet I am more even. I don't have the highs and lows that my old diet created. I know it is because the way I eat now does not create the insulin spikes. My blood pressure has dropped from 140/90 to 122/75. Unfortunately many processed foods add sugar and our cookie and cake recipes are loaded with sugar and sometimes processed oils. Starches without adequate fiber can also spike insulin. Too much insulin in the blood creates all kinds of health issues. Fatty liver is one of them...think waist over 35 inches for women being one of them.
I have told this story before about my dad and Tang (an instant breakfast drink loaded with sugar). He worked for a company that had a doctor on site. When going to see him they took his blood pressure which was high. At that time they gave diuretics to control it. He took them and then went back and it was still high, so they wanted to up the dose. He realized that it was the drinking of his tea loaded with Tang that caused his blood pressure to be high. He was angry that they asked him nothing about his lifestyle or what he was eating. His blood pressure returned to normal once he gave up his Tang. His disgust at doctors did remain.3 -
Carol I believe being mindful of what you are eating now will improve your knee.
I have also told the story about my sister who died at 59 of cancer that tomorrow was when she would start to take care of herself. She didn't get her tomorrow! Today is the day to start! She so wanted a new body... She did not get it was her job to create that new body because you only get one! Your body is your home. How do you want to take care of it? I want to take care of mine with love! So I ask myself do these foods respect and treat my body with love or do they support someone else's agenda? Fortunately many of the foods that love me taste great!
Protect the liver (from too much insulin) and feed the gut (with fiber).3 -
Hunger I like many, have destroyed my hunger triggers. As a child, I was given sugary things to calm me down from crying or as rewards or for any reason to occupy me. Hence, my sugar addiction. Then as a teen, I had 1 meal a day and that was skimpy, to lose weight and join the ‘twiggy’ generation. I am large boned so never got to where I felt like I was skinny. Then married someone who demanded I be skinny so lived on slim fast and small dinners, even when pregnant. DH at that time always had to have ice cream, chips, and other snacks around. Even when we divorced and I changed to not having those things and providing fruit instead, he told the children’s advocate I didn’t have any snacks for the kids! She asked me why, I told her what I had, and she asked him what he thought I should have and she smirked, said ahhuh, and we went on. I don’t want to expand, maybe someday…. Then I would gain and lose and was on some sort of diet all the time. I would lose then gain it right back. Now, I schedule my eating times like Heather and measure. I need to continue that the rest of my life. I gain weight way to easily to do it any other way. Fruit and a protein (nuts, cheese) for snacks and desert. Lots of veggies for biggest meal and small amount of meat and grains (potatoes, bread, etc) yogurt, fruit, cheese and protein for supper.
Speaking of food, my dinner yesterday was a cheeseburger, lean with gravy and some kind of ground pork under biscuits to mimic port pie (?) and a large salad. No desert. Had home made snack mix and half an apple for a snack, then supper was yogurt on a cinnamon biscuit (DH is on a biscuit trend). Too many carbs in my opinion but, I don’t want to insult my ‘chef’! Breakfast was oatmeal, 1/2 banana, 1T peanut butter and 1T butter.
RVRita in Roswell
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another morning- trying to catch up here.
Yesterday, right after church I went over to MIl's house-Dh had spent the night there because when we went over Saturday afternoon, she complained about her knee. We went home, he got a knee brace and took it back- a few hours later he tells me he is staying there because she can barely walk. She kept him up all night, talking about stupid stuff,even when he told her he was trying to sleep.
In the morning he said she couldn't stand or take even one step.
So- I got there, he drove up to our storage unit 40min away, while I stayed with her, to get the wheel chair. While he was gone, I took the dog out to pee and I can hear her shuffling across the floor.
When he is back we take her to Kaiser because he can't do another night of having to carry her to the commode chair and be up all night- Spent 5 hrs at Kaiser-ran all kinds of tests.First they thought it might be a broken hip, which we were hoping for because then she would be in the hospital then rehab for a few weeks and give him a break. They couldn't find anything. She got mad at dh because he wasn't getting her discharged fast enough(they were doing the paperwork, not him) Get her home and five minutes later, she is walking, barely shuffling, across the floor multiple times. Even so, dh stayed again.
I will head over there after I have my tea, walk the dog, bring him back here to give him a bath then take him back. Hopefully dh will come home. They asked at Kaiser if she could move in with us- Hell NO-
We will hire help to be with her- but at $40 an hour it is going to add up quick
Ok, time to catch up on everyones weekend.
Debbie
Napa Valley,Ca6 -
Debbie: Is there any way y'all could move her to assisted living? You might have to sell her house to do so but at least you and husband might have some peace.
Carol in GA4 -
Hi Gals,
So I am back tracking to a previous discussion… Saying I Love you….
I grew up with my dad saying “love you” at bed time or some other times, but he was a typical guy of those times who was more likely to tell me via actions then words.
But my mom said more but ALWAYS with a qualifier. “I’ll love you if…..” “I love you when…..” “I love you more if…..” I was loved for things that made her life easier, reflected better on her, brought honor to the family.
I would love to hear it meant just because, and if I was around folks who said it a lot, my reaction would probably be a mixture of envy and awe.
I tell the god kids/nephew every time I talk to them, I say it to close friends, I occasionally say it to my mom, but her response is usually I love you for…… when I saw her on Monday it was I love you for vacuuming….. some how it takes the joy and sense of caring away…
Thinking of you all,
Kim in N. California
I heard it from both parents and still hear it from my mom every time I see or talk to her. The very last words from my dad(I had no idea that would be the last time I saw or heard his voice) was "I love you bunches" and we had a nice long hug.
I have heard it twice in the last four YEARS from dh-when talking to me but I hear him say it constantly when he is talking to the cats.
I read it in my texts from former hubby.
I say it to my son and occasionally he will say it back- He does make sure to give me a hug when ever he is leaving the house.
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Kim -- I'm so sorry about your mom's abuse. Parents, more than anyone else, should love their children unconditionally. I think you're amazing, and we all love you here.
Rebecca -- hugs to you. I'm sorry you're feeling vulnerable. And you have me worried. Are you anticipating needing assistance soon?
I'm sad to hear of the disordered eating patterns so many of us were raised with or developed. It's a long going topic of conversation in this house. As we identify unhealthy patterns, my husband and I discuss it and share with the kids when appropriate.
Striking the balance between food as fuel, which it is, and food for enjoyment, which it can also be, can be difficult.
Take care, everyone!
Flea
Willamette Valley OR
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Tracey: We paid over $400 dollars to have our table re-finished. You should be real proud of yourself. The table looks great! I hope the job goes well today!
Rebecca: Like Machka, I think diabetes when wounds don't heal. Or something with poor circulation. Maybe not enough protein.
Barbie: It is wonderful people are helping out with driving Jake to medical appointments!
RVRita: Yes, The August heat is getting to me! It always does by this time. I am ready to have more of my day outside!
Michele: I have not been in a pool in a couple of years. I use to to do laps of the breast stroke. Then the gym started requiring reservations and pool time became hard to get. Maybe I will get back to it!
Heather: Great on getting your roots done. I am pretty bad about mine! They just don't bother me that much! Hope you see the children this week! I love the faux dahlias!
Machka: What a pain to have tinnitus. I am glad you can control it most of the time! It will take a while to unpack! Do you have the beds put together? I remember when we moved into this house we had mattresses on the floor!
Colleen: Welcome
Kim: My parents were never much for saying I love you. My mother does say it now. Interesting about your Mom. I wonder where she picked up the habit of adding a specific item to the I love you statement.
Grandmallie: I love the picture of Miles in the grown up chair. I still remember his little chair pulled up to the door or window so he could watch the grass being cut. My how he has grown!
I only went back 5 pages and hope I didn't miss anything new or very important! I don't know if I told you I had COVID for the second time but seem to be okay from it. My son's house is pending now and I don't know any further details than this. I found a couple of ladies to walk with on Tuesdays and Thursday and am looking forward to this. They walk faster than me. I was pretty stiff last Friday after walking with them on Thursday. And they are 10 years older! I went to a discussion on The Book of Delights which was okay...not wonderful...but okay. I am going to try and do the book club affiliated with this new independent book store. Will see how that goes. I have a wedding the end of October up in MA and would like to lose 5 pounds. Will see how this goes!
Best,
Rosemarie from Georgia
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