Your man cook and do dishes?

mindfulmunching
mindfulmunching Posts: 62 Member
edited October 4 in Chit-Chat
So do your husbands take part in the cooking and dishes in your house or is that a job that falls on the woman? How do you balance the workload? Tricky as a newlywed to demand help. Just wondering.....
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  • GorillaNJ
    GorillaNJ Posts: 4,024 Member
    Marriage is all about teamwork I do part of the dishes... the making them dirty part she does the cleaning part. :wink:

    and i do cook.. most nights.
  • netchik
    netchik Posts: 587 Member
    Demand? No. Ask? Definately. Mine has helped from day 1; if i cook, he cleans. If he is home and I work late he might even do both!
  • horsepullerlovesme
    horsepullerlovesme Posts: 228 Member
    my hubby helps with it all kids chore food gorgery shopping he is a big part of it all.......i am blessed...n he is amazing :flowerforyou:
  • pnieuw
    pnieuw Posts: 473
    I have been married for 20 years...

    When we both were working, and before kids, we split it pretty evenly. I like cooking so I did that more often, and my wife doesn't mind dishes. Now that my wife is a SAHM, she does pretty much all the cooking and dishes during the week, and I do a lot of the weekend cooking, though dishes still fall on her.

    We do have a dishwasher for the majority of the dishes, I will say....
  • jjclem07
    jjclem07 Posts: 127 Member
    Husband & I share the workload. If it is my day off I clean and cook, if it is his day off..he cleans and cooks. If it is the weekend we both pitch in. We both work, we both make the mess..we both should clean.
  • jrich1
    jrich1 Posts: 2,408 Member
    I cook and do dishes.
  • chef970
    chef970 Posts: 196 Member
    I cook, clean, laundry, dishes & vaccum...we are 50/50. :happy:
  • sgibney78
    sgibney78 Posts: 19
    I cook and grocery shop and he does the dishes (which is basically putting them in the dishwasher). Once he complained and I let him go to the grocery store with my list of 37 things I needed for the week. Then I turned my cell off, let him figure out where the goats cheese and white distilled vinegar is himself. He’s never complained since.
  • MrsCon40
    MrsCon40 Posts: 2,351 Member
    He does! But I prefer to cook (so I know how to log) and I prefer to make The Child do the dishes (no freeloaders in my house!)
  • lorig_2000
    lorig_2000 Posts: 106 Member
    My hubby of 30 years does all that and more. He even cleans litterboxes. Only thing I can't get him to do is dust but who cares when he does everything else. I work full time and when we got married I told him that I expected him to help around the house. He used to insist on me doing his ironing....until I deliberately put a double crease in his pants. Now he does his own! :)

    Actually his Mom raised him right!
  • ber3023
    ber3023 Posts: 146 Member
    My husband does less around the house than my kids do! After almost 12yrs of marriage, I've just learned to accept he'll never change that. He'll cook, but who knows what I'll be eating, and definitely wouldn't be something I could figure out how to log and I'll definitely be doing the cleanup.
  • jlm962
    jlm962 Posts: 64
    My husband cleans quite a bit. I almost always cook, and he normally does dishes while I take care of our kids. But sometimes he plays with the kids and I clean the kitchen. :) Talk about it! I know couples who found out 10 years into their marriage that one of them likes dishes and one hates them, and the other loves vacuuming and the other hates it!
  • jessicanottingham
    jessicanottingham Posts: 22 Member
    I'm lucky enough to have a man that does both! We have an unspoken agreement that we've upheld for the last 3 years...if one of us does the cooking, the other does the dishes and cleanup. It's a great way to compromise and express your gratitude for the cook!
  • kapeluza
    kapeluza Posts: 3,434 Member
    Yes, my husband is VERY helpful in house chores. He is truly wonderful.
  • unmitigatedbadassery
    unmitigatedbadassery Posts: 653 Member
    I cook and clean up EVERY night. I enjoy it and it makes me feel good to provide solid meals for my family.
  • Sabresgal63
    Sabresgal63 Posts: 641 Member
    My husband helps cook, clean, take care of the children and everything else I need help with:bigsmile:
  • tammietifanie
    tammietifanie Posts: 1,496 Member
    I do the cooking and cleaning only because he's in the military and he's gone 12-14 hours a day but once he gets out we plan to split it 50/50. So if i cook he would help with dishes and then of course when he cooks I will do the dishes... You need to ask him to help you out it shouldn't ALWAYS fall on the women to do the cooking and cleaning!
  • AmberMarie09
    AmberMarie09 Posts: 70 Member
    I am not married but i live with my bf and our daughter.. i usually cook and then he cleans.. when he has a hard day at work i let him relax and i clean.
  • kagenw
    kagenw Posts: 260 Member
    We both share the cooking in our house which usually works out because when she doesn't want to cook I usually do and the other way around. As far as the dishes go, I rarely do them, but that's mostly due to my back pain.
  • deeharley
    deeharley Posts: 1,208 Member
    Don't demand - ask. Or tell him, "You know, if you help with the dishes and laundry, then I'll have more energy for other things." :laugh:
  • Iamfit4life
    Iamfit4life Posts: 3,095 Member
    When we're together
    if I cook he'll TRY and do the dishes. I usually do them as I go so he doesn't have much

    If he cooks I do them


    That's the deal.
  • mrshuerta11
    mrshuerta11 Posts: 12
    I'm a newlywed too :) First: Congrats!! Yes my hubby is amazing!! He knows that I'm not a fan of cooking or dishes so he does A LOT of it. I do lots of other things. We have a beautiful balance.
  • chelekaz
    chelekaz Posts: 847 Member
    Because when we got married we both worked outside of the home, we both chipped in ... sometimes he does more, sometimes me.. all depends on our schedules. Even now that I have a home office and don't need to commute to work, he is such a big help. I work 40+ hours so when I am really busy he just pushes up his sleeves and does what needs to be done.

    The most important thing is to communicate what you both would like... and find a compromise in that! Good luck.
  • bestrodeo
    bestrodeo Posts: 139 Member
    I have a great man, he works his job 4am till 2pm 6 days aweek, comes home to cook AND clean if needed.. He washes his own clothes, does dishes (not a dish washer) he cleans better than most women I know.. Our house is a team without teamwork it will fall apart.. He even gives bathes, puts the kids to bed and changes diapers...
  • bry_all01
    bry_all01 Posts: 3,100 Member
    we both cook, but he is more like a freaking MasterChef, so if it were possible, I'd opt for him to do all of our cooking... it just depends on who has what going on in our house.
  • docturtle
    docturtle Posts: 156 Member
    My husband has done most of the cooking throughout our 20-year relationship. I would do most of the dishes, since he did the cooking, but if I was working and he wasn't, he would do both. Now that he has a broken arm, I'm doing both. I'm not much of a cook, but I'm learning.
  • macpatti
    macpatti Posts: 4,280 Member
    I do all the cooking and the laundry, but he does pretty much everything else.
  • kharrington23
    kharrington23 Posts: 11 Member
    Demand? No. Ask? Definately. Mine has helped from day 1; if i cook, he cleans. If he is home and I work late he might even do both!

    ^^^ This. My husband always helps with the cooking and the cleaning. He can't cook much, but if he knows how to do it he'll get it started for me!
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    Not married, but lived together many a year. He cleans and cooks. Generally, he does his own cooking and I do mine, though. I'm vegetarian and he doesn't know what to do with that. Plus, he likes things like mac and cheese out of a box and that makes me want to puke. lol

    But I don't have to nag him about dishes and stuff. He just sees it needs to be done and does it. Or sometimes, I'll start to do them and he'll tell me to leave them and he'll do them in the morning or something. Sometimes I do them. Sometimes my daughter does.

    Some men don't think to offer, though. Just ask. If he's a jerk about it, then he's a jerk. But my guess is, he just hasn't thought about it and will be happy to if reminded.
  • timadotcom
    timadotcom Posts: 653 Member
    I am married to a Chef - thus why I am a MFP addict. It's great not have to think about what to cook or how to cook, but it stinks because everything he makes tastes like i'm sitting in a restaraunt.

    Dishes are always on me and so is the cleaning, not that I mind because i'm a neat freak :bigsmile:
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