Couples who dont fight.

I have been with my husband 11 years and married for nearly 8. We rarely argue, certainly not in the last few years. I would leave if we argued. I had that in a previous marriage, and I hated it. I am an adult, I can discuss differences in a calm way, i don't need to shout or be shouted at. If I don't agree with my oh or he doesn't agree with me so what? We are capable of doing things together or separately or arriving at a compromise We love and respect each other. He has never raised his voice to me nor his fist, and has never sworn at me or called me a bad name!. I have a healthy happy marriage.

I've been married to my (second) husband for 12.5 years, and we've had actual disagreements less than a dozen times... mostly the first few years, ALL over his daughter! *sigh*

We have different opinions, but we discuss things. We disagree about some things, so we decide how to handle them.

My first marriage was nothing but arguments. Mostly because there was a lot of power/control issues going on. My DH and I do not have control issues - we are a partnership.

Ive had people tell me my marriage is weird and unhealthy because my hubby and i never argue...it really had me worried for a while...but, we are best friends we communicate ALL the time, we have all the love in the world for eachother and genuinely love eachothers company, also, we have been together for nearly 10 years now (since we were 15) so SURELY we must be doing something right!!!!!! everyone is different!!! but i wouldnt replace my good times with hubby for arguements ect just so people dont think we are weird..( it got to the point where i would tell friends we had an arguement just to shut them up!!!!! now i simply dont give a crap, they must be jealous!!! ;D )

A relationship in which you don't fight? Yeah, only if you're Cinderella.
Really, I don't think that could exist because there is a healthy amount of fighting that is going to go on in any relationship, friendship, or even with family. Because no two people are exactly the same, there will always be a time when things will conflict. I actually have been in a relationship were my boyfriend and I didn't fight, because I was too afraid to say what I wanted to say, so now I see fighting (not all-out punching and abuse, but heated discussion and confrontation) as a good thing!

I think there's a difference between having a disagreement and having a verbal fight (i.e. argument). It's totally normal to have never had a fight with your mate while having had several disagreements, IMHO.

This is just my opinion. A good healthy argument never hurt anyone. I think it is vital in a relationship. It helps us learn about each other and grow in our relationship.

We had a fight earlier today, but made up about 10 minutes later. I think how quickly you resolve your issues is a pretty good indicator of the health of the relationship. We're about to hit 3 years, have been living together a little over 1, and are super happy.

mY HUSBAND & I HAVE BEEN together for 8 yrs. I think it is healthy to argue, we rarely argue bc we talk about everything. We have our disagreements.

Hardly ever. People who get up in my business and tell me how my relationship should work, that bugs the crap out of me.

When I told her we fought on occasion you would have thought I'd confessed to being behind 9/11. I think she secretly wanted to sneak me into a battered women's shelter.

You're acting the same way though. I don't appreciate you telling me that it's a red flag to not have fights. Might be true for you, but that doesn't make it true for me. Why can't you just accept that people are all different?

Not sure at one point I announced that all people and couples must be identical, but draw your own conclusion I guess.

I stated my reason for thinking not fighting was a red flag. And I know we are all different-- thats why I asked.

How do you not see what I am saying? You say that ANYONE who doesn't fight, that's a red flag. But that is simply not true. You are just trying to apply your own experience to EVERYONE. This thread is ludicrous. You change your story every time you post something.

FOR SOMEONE WHO NEVER FIGHTS WITH THEIR SPOUSE, YOU SURE DO IRRITATE A LOT OF PEOPLE AROUND HERE!!! HOLY CRAP.

My ex husband and I rarely fought, we kinda muddled through until I had enough. I want to be in a relationship with passion and with passion come a few heated discussions. Its perfectly acceptable to have a disagreement/fight/words/bickering match with your spouse. and its fine the other way as well.

Where is the 'red flag' comment?

I got into a 'tiff' with my SO last night, we were grumpy, we talked and by the end of the evening we were laughing and having fun. This is real life. People don't always get along. My ex and I would have gone to bed angry and we eventually grew apart.

No one has singled you out ER, you did that to yourself. The OP was getting something off her chest, not attacking you or your relationship.

People who don't fight are ignoring issues and not dealing with them.

But you are assuming there are issues. What if two people are just blissfully existing in each others company. I have only ever had maybe 2 arguments with my husband (not including debating current affairs etc but that's just ordinary conversation, not a fight by any means).

I don't think I have a right to judge other peoples' relationships but I think I am the only person with the right to judge my own. I think we are both just very laid back and very suited to each other.

For example, I've watched couples argue over chores - for us, if one of us doesn't do the chore, the other will. We are both busy people and we have a mutual respect for that. It usually works out about even and we never even give it a second thought. Does that make my relationship unhealthy? I've also watched couples argue over going out with friends - we both set aside time to spend together but we both also go out with our own. friends. We don't ask permission in advance and we don't feel the need to apologise for this. Does that make our relationship unhealthy? I've seen couples argue over how they spend their money. We share all of our money (even though we do not get paid the same amount) and we do not always spend equally. We are both sensible with money and we respect each others ability to make decisions about necessary purchases or priorities for our money so we do not have a need to argue about it. Does that make my relationship unhealthy?

I guess all I am saying is that it is very likely that no relationship is exactly like another relationship. You haven't lived my relationship so how can you possibly know that it is unhealthy?

My partner and I barely ever fight, only when we are really stressed out.