What is the rudest thing someone has ever said about your we

dancer4275
dancer4275 Posts: 149
edited October 5 in Chit-Chat
My teacher has said to my face:

"your thighs and butt are getting bigger/you need to lose weight in your legs and butt."
"you look like a fat cow."

Has anyone ever been insulted like this...this is why I began dieting.
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  • my ex grabbing my stomach saying "i thought you were working out"
  • PeaceLuvVeggies
    PeaceLuvVeggies Posts: 375 Member
    I was called Miss Piggy all throughout middle school. In reference to my nose AND my weight.
  • Lol I don't know where to start guess a girl in school once told me "why would I date a fat *kitten* like you just looking at you makes me wanna puke
  • ajbeans
    ajbeans Posts: 2,857 Member
    My brother-in-law noticed I had put on some weight since starting college. (Which, I might add, was a GOOD thing since I started out underweight at the time.) It was Thanksgiving, and all through the evening he kept mentioning how fat my thighs were, how I shouldn't be wearing those shorts, etc. When dinner was served and I passed on the salad because I couldn't eat raw veggies at the time, he said, "Maybe you should eat some more of that salad and you wouldn't have this problem."

    That was the first time I ever cussed in front of my mom. It was the F word. I felt bad for talking like that in front of my mom, but it had to be said. Loudly. :laugh:

    Then after I had my first child, I had lost all the baby weight and then some and was struggling to keep on weight. A "friend" told me that I looked like a skeleton. I didn't. We're no longer friends.
  • Beezil
    Beezil Posts: 1,677 Member
    I've actually never had people say rude things when I was big - more after I lost weight. :( My neighbor told me my boobs were too small...
  • Never had anything like the above said to me, but my dad said something like "So you're finally doing something" when he found out I had started running.
    He honestly thought that was the best way to show his support, though, and I must say it stings a lot less now.
  • danleamons
    danleamons Posts: 1 Member
    I had a coworker tell me not long ago... "Well Big Dan, I guess you done said F@#$ your diet, huh?"
  • surfrgrl1
    surfrgrl1 Posts: 1,464 Member
    The "ex" saying I was a full dressed Harley, with saddlebags. (I was 5' 5" and at most 130 pounds, ---- don't think so!)
  • A few weeks ago I was at a bar and some rude, drunk Army guy was making comments while I was talking to a friend. Specifically, he said "Your fat *kitten* is blocking the exit. You're a fat f*ckin fire hazard, Shamu."

    Needless to say, he was singing a different tune when I introduced my mug of beer into his crotch with more force than I've ever manage to muster before or after that situation while he was in the fetal position on the floor.
  • sc1572
    sc1572 Posts: 2,309 Member
    I've had a few, but the worst were all dance related:

    Dance company teacher, freshman year of high school-
    She stopped us in the middle of dancing and said "Stephanie, suck in your stomach."

    Dance company member, freshman year of high school-
    "At least I don't look like I'm going to have children."

    Dance team, sophomore year of high school-
    "At least I don't look fat in the leotard like you."

    My sister, sometime in high school when I took an extra donut hole-
    "No wonder you're so fat."

    People are cruel.
  • mandag9008
    mandag9008 Posts: 182 Member
    i think the rudest thing ever said had to come from my husband when he said i was cute but not sexy, and that insttead of real food we needed to invest in slim fast. i was 170 at the time. not to mentiion im stacked uptop. it hurt so bad that i actually stressed out an gained ten lbs.
  • MsQt
    MsQt Posts: 793 Member
    I met with a friend to show him the new me and he said that I needed to stop losing weight because my head was getting big :grumble:
  • NiciS72
    NiciS72 Posts: 1,043 Member
    Getting congratulated on my pregnancy when I wasn't pregnant, had just gained weight from Steroids. I went home and cried to my husband. I never found out who told the lady (who by the way was our nicest sales person EVER) that I was pregnant. I wanted to know, but knew if I did find out I'd be taken away in cuffs as I would have decked them!
  • MindyBlack
    MindyBlack Posts: 954 Member
    I was 12 and my mom was fitting me for dress she was sewing. She saw stretch marks on my breasts and said I had them because I was so damn fat. I was 5'3.5" same height I am now and weighed 120 lbs. I wore a "C" cup by 5th grade so no wonder I had stretch marks.That still makes me cry. My mom and I are not best friends.
  • Oh. I forgot one. There was an anorexic girl in my class and she stood next to me at barre. My teacher said, "you shouldn't be standing next to her." and went on to say "you should look more like her."

    one more....

    "your like a giant."
  • leynak
    leynak Posts: 963 Member
    My grandfather used to say things like "Leyna, doesn't care about her weight." while I was eating- it didn't even have to be bad for you food. Once I was eating a cinnamon roll & he turned to my sister & goes "Looks like your sister is going to have to do a few laps around the park." We lived near a park with a mile & half track around it.

    I wasn't even *that* big I was 5'6" & 145-150lbs. It really made me feel like crap but didn't make me want to stop eating.
  • Fighting4Healthy
    Fighting4Healthy Posts: 336 Member
    "You have a pretty face, you could be model material if you lost weight"--- my mother and a talent agent when I was 15
    "Fat Cow!"---- Some girl in high school
    "your eating cake? You're such a fat *kitten*"--- My ex and daughters sperm donor
    "I don't want to be fat like mom"--- My 6year old daughter talking to her dad (step) when she thought i couldn't hear
    there are plenty more but writing it all will depress me
    "
  • babyworms
    babyworms Posts: 1,304 Member
    One of the women i worked with once said
    "Hosanna, you've gained so much weight! You were looking so good before, but you've put it back on!"

    I try and convince myself that such comments may be appropriate in this woman's particular culture (she was not from Australia), but at the same time i struggled to comprehend how those comments could be appropriate for ANYONE!

    Also, i'm a nurse and work with a lot of elderly people with dementia... they have a way of saying things that are not appropriate, but you can't hold it against them, considering it's usually not the sort of thing they would say were they of sound mind... It still hurts though.
  • gashinshotan
    gashinshotan Posts: 749 Member
    "Those look like size 34 pants" - I was wearing 30
    "Isn't that suit too tight on you"
    "I'm not as fat as him"
  • conversely though, guys...how great is it to have someone point out that you've lost weight?
  • jemachharo
    jemachharo Posts: 144 Member
    I was 12 and my mom was fitting me for dress she was sewing. She saw stretch marks on my breasts and said I had them because I was so damn fat. I was 5'3.5" same height I am now and weighed 120 lbs. I wore a "C" cup by 5th grade so no wonder I had stretch marks.That still makes me cry. My mom and I are not best friends.

    I can relate to this one a bit (not the mom part - I had a great mom), but when I was in 5th grade they marched all of the kids thru the nurses office to me weighed. Most of the 5th graders weighed in the 70s. The nurse made a huge deal about moving the weigh bar to 100 on the scale and said very loudly to the person writing down the weights "WOW, she's 105" all of the kids laughed and called me fatty from that day on. I was 5'6". How on earth is 105 lbs FAT for 5'6"? That's when the emotional eating kicked in and it became a self-fulfilling prophesy.
  • gashinshotan
    gashinshotan Posts: 749 Member
    i don't like it haha - too much attention.
    conversely though, guys...how great is it to have someone point out that you've lost weight?
  • A few weeks ago I was at a bar and some rude, drunk Army guy was making comments while I was talking to a friend. Specifically, he said "Your fat *kitten* is blocking the exit. You're a fat f*ckin fire hazard, Shamu."

    Needless to say, he was singing a different tune when I introduced my mug of beer into his crotch with more force than I've ever manage to muster before or after that situation while he was in the fetal position on the floor.
    You are my hero!!
  • These are making me sad for all of us. :( I have had a few, but none in recent years. I may give off a don't eff with me vibe now, idk. Lol

    I remember being stopped by a guy on a busy street in downtown Osaka, and a guy started chatting me up, some German guy (accent) - foreigners often just talked to each other, so I didn't think anything of it, he was asking me what I was doing that night, etc. As soon as I answered, "oh, I'm meeting my FIANCE (now dh) and we're going for a drink.. ", he said, "oh, is he also very fat?". I told him to go eff himself, and he replied, "oh, you F#*'?". And I walked away. It's funny, because at the time I didn't GET that he was insulting my weight *because* I was taken. He resorted to that because I wasn't going home with him, so he had to bring me down. Up until that moment? Classic pickup. :-P

    I was also teased mercilessly through all of Jr High by this group of boys - they called me a fat cow. Funny thing, I wasn't fat at the time. I was *maybe* a sz 12, clumsy, hadn't grown into my body.. But yep, every fat insult in the book. And I took it all in, believed every word, ate and ate. Silver lining to that story - earlier this year I got an *email* out of the blue from the main offender out of those boys. A sincere, heartfelt apology for making my life hell all of those years ago. I wasn't expecting it, I full on wept in reading it. I forgave him and I had some closure. I was so grateful to get that, I know that not everyone does. :)
  • Minnesnowtagurl
    Minnesnowtagurl Posts: 406 Member
    "...I mean she's even BIGGER than you!!"
  • Vaanja
    Vaanja Posts: 163 Member
    Most of my friends have been gamer geeks, so remarks about fat just didn't exist. The worst i've ever gotten has been from my family, but there were so many nothing in particular stood out except my aunt's 'Shamu' jokes about my black and white striped bikini (I was 9) and my sister's 'innocuous' comment about "Yeah, I don't know where all your weight comes from...everyone else in the family is Thin..." (last week...and utter bull****).
  • dashnigma
    dashnigma Posts: 35 Member
    When I was in High School and was the 6'-5, 150lb nerdy guy and the Marine Recruiter called me up on the stage to talk to me about doing so well on the ASVAB, then started laughing when I walked up and just said "Come on kid, you obviously do not have what it takes to be a Marine." While not the worst thing ever, bothered me a good bit at the time.
  • slimmingdownsteph
    slimmingdownsteph Posts: 201 Member
    My dad was always horrible about my weight...

    "You should lose weight, I'm getting sick of watching you waddle around the house."
    "Aren't you embarrassed with yourself when you look like THAT?"
    "-grabbing love handles after my boyfriend dumped me- You see this? This is why nobody wants to date you."
    "(after I lost my first 20lbs at age 12) That's it? I thought you were trying."
    "You have the potential of being really attractive if your face wasn't so chubby."
    "If I had a dime for the amount of times you opened the fridge we could pay off the house."

    I dealt with this from when i was about 10 years old to age 17, when my dad had his stroke.
    I had to go to therapy over it, and it really messed me up, but I'm trying to view myself more positively.
    I know my dad was sincerely trying to help me... He thought because I was so stubborn (like him), if he told me I couldn't do something I'd work hard to do it. Which in a way worked because I lost 60lbs when I was 12 because of his comments.

    Now that he's not at home (he's in a long-term nursing facility), it's actually hard for me to lose the weight I gained once he had his stroke (from depression and not watching, since nobody made comments to me). I'm not excusing the rude comments he made though, not one bit.
  • lhanks89
    lhanks89 Posts: 90 Member
    My dad used to call me "thunder thighs" and always tell me "a moment on the lips, a lifetime on the hips" which was ironic because he was 300+ lbs.

    In middle school this one kid kept calling me piggy. And according to an ex-friend of mine, one of my co-workers at the pool refered to me as a "whale" when I would swim.
  • slimmingdownsteph
    slimmingdownsteph Posts: 201 Member
    Oh I forgot to add my dad was overweight as well. He was heavy-set and acted like he was thin.
    Yeah, sure, dad.
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