Does your half/wife/partner supports you?

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  • raevynn
    raevynn Posts: 666 Member
    Oh Yes... in fact, he's here on MFP, too, and is losing weight as well.

    He gets up in the mornings and makes my juice / smoothie, packs my lunch, calls out the grams while I log it, and usually makes dinner, as well, though I'm usually the one finding the recipe.

    He walks with me, cheers me on, and complements me constantly! :happy:

    He's my hero.
  • Bigmomma0u812
    Bigmomma0u812 Posts: 118
    Absolutely not. I know that men and women are hard wired differently but my husband should be the poster child of how not to act and what not to say for all men. His compliments are always insulting somehow, he belittles and watches what I buy and how much I eat of it and when I eat it. He implies that I eat all the time (which I kinda do since I eat 3 meals a day and snacks). He's been onto me to lose weight telling me how fat I am for a few years now but refuses to compliment me for losing (not that I want his compliments now). I have a very supportive sister though and that's all I need.
  • cfergy
    cfergy Posts: 67 Member
    Not really. He doesn't understand what it's like to have a weight issue. He is very picky about food, doesn't eat any vegetables except corn. He eats a lot of fast food and used to ask me to even stop and pick something up for him on my way home. I put a stop to that. He tried in the beginning to go to the gym with me, but it didn't last long. (Honestly, I'd rather go by myself anyway)
    I know the weight I carried bothered him, but he doesn't seem to realize how hard it is to take it off.
    I think he is impatient with the process.
    I am doing this for ME not him and have told him that his support would be great, but overall I am respsonsible and can do it with or without him.....besides, I have MFP. :wink:
  • nihummel
    nihummel Posts: 21 Member
    My fiance is supportive...most of the time! Due to my schedule I go to workout class after work and don't get home until almost 8pm every night. I have workout class 6 days a week so we've been spending less time together and also planning a wedding on top of that! he always has supper ready when I get home and always tells me how great I'm starting to look. However, he gets frustrated by my calorie counting and thinks its crazy. Sometimes he offers me food when when he is well aware I shouldn't eat it. That is frustrating sometimes but I don't think he does it intentionally!
  • MrsObundles
    MrsObundles Posts: 138 Member
    Yes he does! He works out and eats healthy along with me. He is so supportive and constantly challenging me. I love that being healthy is something that we can do together. He is supportive of everything I do and I am so blessed.
  • danger_kitteh
    danger_kitteh Posts: 301 Member
    All the way and then some. He's digging the happier healthier me.
  • 3dogsrunning
    3dogsrunning Posts: 27,167 Member
    Absolutely supportive, he encourages me in everything. He drove an hour and half aftera 12 hour backshift to watch me run my first triathlon even though he knew he didn't have to (I loved him being there but I know what backshift is like) He runs races with me because I love to do them and we enjoy doing things together, he has even done triathlons with me (I beat him in one, he beat me in the next, we still need to get in the tie breaker). When some people in my group were going to a triathlon training camp, he encouraged me to go even though I felt it was out of my league. He encouraged me to train for my first fitness competition (currently in training for) and believes in me way more than I do. He eats what I have to for my training diet, which isn't easy for him because he loves junk food, he has totally cut it out of his diet too. I have to be constantly cooking to prep for my work shifts and he does a ton of cooking for us. When we have the time off together he comes to the gym with me. He is there when I am frustrated, hungry, craving, whatever.
    I am sure I missed some stuff, but for sure I would be no where near where I am without him.
  • brookepenni
    brookepenni Posts: 787 Member
    More than anyone! He does zumba with me, tries new exercises. Buys me workout DVD's. Goes to skyzone aerobics. Makes healthy dinners for me. I'm so lucky!

    Ive got one of these too! He does Zumba with me because I enjoy it and I do spin with him as a thank you. Every day he tells me how proud he is of me, and how hot I look. He cooks dinner and makes it as healthy as it can be, and always asks me what I want. He gets up extra early to roll me some rice paper rolls for lunch (and makes me a coffee at the same time lol). He encourages me and gives me motivation when I really cant be bothered and he relaxes and unwinds with me when I need it. I think I'm extremely lucky :)

    (oh and he's also on here... I wonder if he'll read this!)
  • DaniellePF
    DaniellePF Posts: 308 Member
    Yep. Couldn't have done this without him :heart:
  • annabellj
    annabellj Posts: 1,337 Member
    Absolutely not. I know that men and women are hard wired differently but my husband should be the poster child of how not to act and what not to say for all men. His compliments are always insulting somehow, he belittles and watches what I buy and how much I eat of it and when I eat it. He implies that I eat all the time (which I kinda do since I eat 3 meals a day and snacks). He's been onto me to lose weight telling me how fat I am for a few years now but refuses to compliment me for losing (not that I want his compliments now). I have a very supportive sister though and that's all I need.
    boy i think i would be looking for a new one if mine treated me like this! he loves me fat or thin, supportive or not, but never says anything if i gain or never says i need to lose. i bug him though!
  • blkmale67
    blkmale67 Posts: 61 Member
    Yes she does, matter of fact she is also a MFP member and we are doing it together.
  • ansonrinesmith
    ansonrinesmith Posts: 741 Member
    Always! She even comes out to all my races!
  • anawhatsme
    anawhatsme Posts: 261 Member
    absolutely.
    he supports me in all areas of my life, more than anyone ever has - probably more than anyone ever could.
    i'm lucky to have him.
  • pdworkman
    pdworkman Posts: 1,342 Member
    I'm sad to see all of the people whose spouses don't support them. My hubby is sometimes concerned when I am going on a long run or if I've had a problem lately when out running. And sometimes he complains when I am doing an evening workout because he feels guilty for not doing the same. But he compliments me, he is interested in what I have to say about my workouts or achievements. He doesn't complain about what I cook. He took up running shortly after I did, and it's a lot harder for him, so I really support his effort too. He is a lot slower than I am, but we run together for an hour or two on the weekend.

    Pam
  • fitnfun1
    fitnfun1 Posts: 234 Member
    Sometimes yes, sometimes no. He can be a bad influence on me for eating habits. However, I do know it is ultimately up to me to say no and be good with my eating.
  • GrandmaJackie
    GrandmaJackie Posts: 36,982 Member
    Yessssssss! All the way hereI I WOULD NOT be where I am today without him! Even when I COOK TWO differeny meals but I DON'T force what I EAT ON HIM! When I EAT new things its ok with himI Hes the reason I AM HERE. Actually, my grandson is also! :smile:
  • Gemini_1980
    Gemini_1980 Posts: 349 Member
    Very much so:bigsmile: could not have done this without him:love:
  • HSingMomto7Kids
    HSingMomto7Kids Posts: 345 Member
    Yes, all the way! It's a change for the entire family for life!!
  • vs1023
    vs1023 Posts: 417 Member
    Yup totally!! I'm hoping when life is a bit easier he will join me in this journey.
  • Mads1997
    Mads1997 Posts: 1,494 Member
    Yep 100%, He saw his wife exercising and losing weight and he jumped on the wagon too. He lost about 10 kg.
  • ilike2moveit
    ilike2moveit Posts: 776 Member
    My husband is wonderful. Anytime I decide to diet or just eat healthier my husband will diet and encourage us eating healthier. He will also exercise with me. He is always very supportive and encouraging.
  • Debbe2
    Debbe2 Posts: 2,071 Member
    Very supportive! Could only do this with his support and encouragement. With that said I don't like competetion when I exercise so I prefer to do my exercise alone. But no problem there because he isn't one to go exercise instead he's much more likely to weed the garden or do a project around the house and be active that way. I'm grateful for his support!
  • queennahs
    queennahs Posts: 33 Member
    Yes.

    Sometimes I like that he supports me, like when he says, "Wow honey, you're getting more compact and toned." or, "Look at those arm muscles!" or "Your bum looks lifted." or "You're doing really well. I think your tummy has gone down."

    Other times when he's being supportive I don't like it, like when he says, "Honey, should you really be eating that?" (As I wander out of the kitchen with a big bowl of ice cream) or "Did you do your exercise this morning, bunny? I didn't feel you get up early to go do it." (After I have slept in for days in a row and justified doing so with a whole heap of 'reasonable reasons'.)

    Hehehe... I think you get my drift. He's got the totally supportive thing covered. :)
  • NinjaMonkey201
    NinjaMonkey201 Posts: 123
    Absolutely, 100%. So does our 22 month old son. Sounds weird, I know. But he'd rather eat fruits and veggies (that he steals from me) rather than cookies or candy.
    I also have great support from my dad, mom-in-law, dad-in-law, and sis-in-law.

    The only people I don't get support from are my sister and mother.
  • thelovelyLIZ
    thelovelyLIZ Posts: 1,227 Member
    My boyfriend is supportive. He's actually been jumping on the bandwagon. He had been talking for several years about how he wanted to start working out again, but he never did, but now he comes to the gym with me on his days off. We're living together now as well, so we obviously share meals, usually at least dinner, so he eats my healthy cooking and enjoys it. He's even commented how fried food just no longer really tastes good to him either, and just today he mentioned how he was craving vegetables. He even told me (very proudly) the other day how he hadn't had a soda all day, he'd just had black coffee and tea for his caffeine.

    We've both lost weight in the four months we've been living together (which is also when I started actively trying again to lose weight). I've lost about 15 pounds. He doesn't know how much he's lost, but I can see a visible difference.
  • JPDad
    JPDad Posts: 147
    My wife supports me. She is the reason I am on this journey. She also does most of the cooking during the week, so I really don't have a choice.
  • CrystalMarie253
    CrystalMarie253 Posts: 128
    My husband not only joined MFP after I did, he started running on his own, working out, and he eats everything I eat too. If he buys "bad" foods, he hides it from me. If I don't know it's in the house I won't eat it so this is good! LOL! By no means did my husband need to lose any weight, but he's lost 15 lbs and toned up and he looks so good w/o a shirt on now! Yum! :love: LOL!
  • ls_66
    ls_66 Posts: 395 Member
    Well the problem with my wife is that she needs to loose some weight but I can't get her to either help me with grocery shopping for healthy food or join me.... she is a total addict for refined sugars..... Do I give up or.????
  • onefourone
    onefourone Posts: 212 Member
    Nope she doesn't
  • Hayesgang
    Hayesgang Posts: 624
    Well the problem with my wife is that she needs to loose some weight but I can't get her to either help me with grocery shopping for healthy food or join me.... she is a total addict for refined sugars..... Do I give up or.????


    This isn't about her - this about you!

    If you decide to give this up because of "her", that could lead to resentment - don't use her as an excuse to quit. You buy your food and let her have what she wants, you may have to do your own cooking for awhile until she realizes you are serious. Have a heart to heart with her and tell her YOUR goals and let her know it would be great to know she supports you (doesn't have to join you tho).
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