Ready to Say I DO?

I am married, been together almost 6 years. It was the opposite for us! He proposed and wanted to get married, where I was indifferent. In love, but not needing the actual marriage.

I am sure you'll get what you want Happy Holidays!

I have been with my guy for almost 5 years and he is 7 years older then me so I thought that he would have asked me maybe a year or two ago. He gave me a promise ring for Christmas last year, but I have gotten no hints of a ring coming for Christmas so I am not expecting one. I would love if he did though. I know how you feel. I sometimes feel like it is never going to come. My family kept asking him and even me when we are getting married ever since I graduated from college in '09. Hope we both get our wishes soon.

I've been married for 10 years, and I'm still not sure I'm ready.

This going to be blunt because that's what I do ...

Color me skeptical. I am firmly entrenched in the "If he wanted to marry you, he'd have asked already" camp. Your first mistake was moving in with the guy.

If you want to get married, don't move in until you are at very least engaged and in the process of planning the wedding. I can't even count the number of women I know who have been living with their boyfriends for 5+ years and are still waiting desperately for a ring. Some even have the ring (I have one friend who has been "engaged" for 9 years) but can't get the guy to agree to a wedding date, which should tell them something.

You need to send this guy a message that says "If you want to wake up with me every day and go to sleep with me every night, buy me a ring, get down on one knee, and ask me properly to be your wife." If he doesn't want to do that, he's not just opening the door for you to walk out, he's kicking you down the front steps.

Wake up, ladies.

im sorry probably gonna get yelled at for this but i have heard this a lot on here lately. why is he not proposing? after 7 years i would think you would both know if you are the "one". does he want to get married?

I found this to be true in my own life.

You always hear people say that marriage is nothing but a piece of paper and it's what's in your heart that matters, etc. etc. I am very happily married but I always felt that the previous statements were true...

Until last year when my friend passed away at 42 . My friend and her boyfriend were together for more than 12 years. She passed away of a stroke at a bridal shower. (Healthy as a horse, or so it seemed) Her family went crazy. At the funeral her bf was referred to over and over as "her friend", they never even mentioned his name! :noway: His two children were sitting in the front row by him and they were asked to move so that FAMILY could sit there... several of us put a stop to that and they remained seated in their places. They wanted to sell the house out from under him as his name was not on it (he paid the mortgage for those years though). All turned out ok in the end because they found her will. But it taught me that marriage is SOOOO much more than a piece of paper, it's protection for the one that you love:smooched: .

Good luck to you! I hope you get that ring!!!!

This going to be blunt because that's what I do ...

Color me skeptical. I am firmly entrenched in the "If he wanted to marry you, he'd have asked already" camp. Your first mistake was moving in with the guy.

If you want to get married, don't move in until you are at very least engaged and in the process of planning the wedding. I can't even count the number of women I know who have been living with their boyfriends for 5+ years and are still waiting desperately for a ring. Some even have the ring (I have one friend who has been "engaged" for 9 years) but can't get the guy to agree to a wedding date, which should tell them something.

You need to send this guy a message that says "If you want to wake up with me every day and go to sleep with me every night, buy me a ring, get down on one knee, and ask me properly to be your wife." If he doesn't want to do that, he's not just opening the door for you to walk out, he's kicking you down the front steps.

Wake up, ladies.

I 100% agree with this. I might be old school, but no way would I move in with my boyfriend without at least being engaged. Good luck, OP!

is it just me?or a lot of these posts focused in getting a ring? its just a ring, material possesion isnt everything in this world. do you want the ring or the cmmitment, cause its two completly different things. want a ring? buy one? i dont know, ive been with my partner for 7 years, 8 this year, no plans on the table, why ruin something thats great with pressuring them to marry you? all situations are different though

good luck an hope it all pans out how you wanted

Some people just don't think about marriage, and see it as merely a piece of paper. To others, it means the world. You need to figure out if marriage is ever actually something he wants: some guys just don't ever want to be "married" as it means nothing to them. Like me: if you love someone and you're with them... that's enough, without needing the validation of the state.

It depends on the person, though.

My Bf and I have been together 9 1/2 years. We have had the discussion about marriage, and both want to be married. Money has been tight, and he has been saving up for a ring. I have gotten to the point where, the ring itself is not important. I don;t care if its realy or fake, lets just get this show on the road.

I did tell him a couple years ago that he had until our 10 year anniversary. if we weren;t engaged or married by then, then we need to re-evaluate our relationship and where its going. We do not live together, as I told him I would not until we were engaged and planning a wedding.

I hope that you get a ring soon, as i know how it feels to be waiting for something you want.

I'm quite comfortable with my bachelorhoodism. Plus my gf has perfect credit and mine is the worst. So we may never technically get married. But she already had one wedding and marriage, so I'm off the hook.

After one bad break up I nearly got the word NEVER tattooed around my ring finger...

I hear ya. Trust me when I say, not all women are the same. Thankfully!!!!

I'm suprised a certain someone hasn't posted in here yet.

What's great about getting older is our ability to set aside the insecurities in our relationships and just be blunt - you need to have the conversation with him. He needs to know what you feel about marriage and hopefully he reciprocates. You also don't want to pressure him into "popping the question" when he's not ready. That resentment can be a slippery slope in a marriage. I hope you two come to a consensus about the rest of your lives. :bigsmile:

This going to be blunt because that's what I do ...

Color me skeptical. I am firmly entrenched in the "If he wanted to marry you, he'd have asked already" camp. Your first mistake was moving in with the guy.

If you want to get married, don't move in until you are at very least engaged and in the process of planning the wedding. I can't even count the number of women I know who have been living with their boyfriends for 5+ years and are still waiting desperately for a ring. Some even have the ring (I have one friend who has been "engaged" for 9 years) but can't get the guy to agree to a wedding date, which should tell them something.

You need to send this guy a message that says "If you want to wake up with me every day and go to sleep with me every night, buy me a ring, get down on one knee, and ask me properly to be your wife." If he doesn't want to do that, he's not just opening the door for you to walk out, he's kicking you down the front steps.

Wake up, ladies.

The opposite side of this coin is my advice. NEVER, EVER CONSIDER MARRYING SOMEONE YOU'VE NEVER LIVED WITH !!!! I can't stress this enough. Marriage is the single biggest decision that can make or break the rest of your life. DON"T make the wrong choice or get "forced" into marriage b/c you will end up hating both of you for f*ckin this decision up.

Anyone here been with your bf/gf/significant other for an extended period of time and ready for that question?! Will be together with my bf for 7 years in March and I'm dying for a ring... but don't know if it is anywhere in sight for the near future lol..

I proposed to my boyfriend, because quite frankly, I wanted to marry him. He still has the choice of saying no, as any man does, same as a woman has the choice to say no when asked. He said yes. We knew we're going to be together, but I wanted the frilly girl day. And he made his choice that he'd be ok with letting me wear a dress the side of a small Texan city.

Have you talked to him about a ring? Have you talked to him about a life together? I mean, if you haven't expressed your desire to marry him, or file for common law status even, then you don't really know where he stands. I'd say have the talk... and if he wants you for the rest of his life, who says you can't be the big girl and ask him?

Amy