Biting my tongue at seeing overweight children

You know what my mom did if I dared throw a tantrum over something like donuts? Spank the crap outta me. Take a wild guess how many tantrums I threw :laugh: Caribbean parents don't play that game at ALL. especially the Jamaicans :bigsmile:

Hey, no way that theory will fly!! My mom spanked me PLENTY, and I have a big round butt...maybe residual traumatic swelling?


Yeah, that'll get CPS repelling down from helicopters on ya here. My husband had the audacity to take my son out of the store when he was throwing a tantrum and we had the sheriff called on us.

Thats just crazy! another example of people seeing a small peice of a whole picture and making harsh judgments!

It's sad too as the CPS system is already over burrdened with real problems.

i was at target and a little girl about 9 asked her mom if she could tell the dr she got new shoes and the mom snapped back "no! Are you stupid?? then he would know why we were late!" and continued yelling at her to hurry up. like it was the kids fault they were late. thats the kind of person who needs the cops called on them! i get frustrated with my daughter but i would NEVER call her stupid.

yup major difference. my mom spanked me if i wanted to act out and really misbehave but there was no one calling me stupid or really abusing me.

i got a swat on the butt when I deserved it and I turned out just fine, well actually my butt is a little flatter

HA! so THATS why i have no booty!!!!

Me too! My mom is gonna get it next time I see her!

Personally, I hate seeing overweight children too. Or overweight anyone for that matter. I know that some people have medical issues as to why they are fat, but not everyone. And we're not talking about them. And also some children have 'baby fat'.

I don't think that any parents should feed their children junk food. As young children, they don't think about what they're eating, and if you give them junk food as a treat, they'll learn that that is the best thing to eat and want it all of the time. My cousin rewards his children with fruit, it's yummy, and they have learned that fruit is seemingly the 'coolest' thing to eat.

It's human nature to judge. And there is an obesity crisis. So your opinions are fair enough. And I agree.

No right at all. When I was young my doctor prescribed me steroids (incorrectly) and my weight balooned. Later on in life i found out that my teachers used to go through my lunch box, tell the canteen staff to not let me eat certain foods and question my mum about what she fed me. I remember one day them forcing me to sit and eat an egg (as it was classed as healthy) until I was sick. I went from being very skinny to very very fat in a short space of time so people felt the need to 'help me'. From then on I was constantly judged and people often made comments. I had low self esteem for years. basically, keep your mouth shut and move on

That is ridiculous. They had no right to do the things they did.

It was very very hurtful and those memories stick with me forever. Even just staring at an overweight kid for too long can have an everlasting damaging affect. We all judge but those judgements are not always right. It has nothing to do with anyone but that family. We live in a society that make negative judgements to make ourselves feel better. Why even bother posting about these negativities.

You know what my mom did if I dared throw a tantrum over something like donuts? Spank the crap outta me. Take a wild guess how many tantrums I threw :laugh: Caribbean parents don't play that game at ALL. especially the Jamaicans :bigsmile:

Hey, no way that theory will fly!! My mom spanked me PLENTY, and I have a big round butt...maybe residual traumatic swelling?


Yeah, that'll get CPS repelling down from helicopters on ya here. My husband had the audacity to take my son out of the store when he was throwing a tantrum and we had the sheriff called on us.

Thats just crazy! another example of people seeing a small peice of a whole picture and making harsh judgments!

It's sad too as the CPS system is already over burrdened with real problems.

i was at target and a little girl about 9 asked her mom if she could tell the dr she got new shoes and the mom snapped back "no! Are you stupid?? then he would know why we were late!" and continued yelling at her to hurry up. like it was the kids fault they were late. thats the kind of person who needs the cops called on them! i get frustrated with my daughter but i would NEVER call her stupid.

yup major difference. my mom spanked me if i wanted to act out and really misbehave but there was no one calling me stupid or really abusing me.

i got a swat on the butt when I deserved it and I turned out just fine, well actually my butt is a little flatter

HA! so THATS why i have no booty!!!!

Me too! My mom is gonna get it next time I see her!
No way that theory works! My mom spanked me plenty & I have a big 'ol butt...residual traumatic swelling?

I have a hard time believing that anybody is calming down a toddler having a tantrum by telling them they are going to provide “healthy” foods when you get home LOL

And side note, on top of all the people saying that they wouldn’t give the child the donut, I would like to also point out those are probably the same people who are giving you nasty dirty looks because you can’t “control” your child.

Have a heart that is full of love and respect for other people. Be it if they are “overweight” or “ugly” whatever doesn’t meet YOUR standards. Being loving and kind isn’t a hot topic around here ive noticed. “Voicing” opinions in rash cruel ways is much more popular..

Also, aren’t most people here for the exact same reasons? Lets us not cast stones at a glass house. We haven’t all been in the shoes of others.

Eloquent and kind! I totally agree.

Exactly!

Ok I am going to throw my serious 2 cents in

Child hood obesity is a serious problem and its sad. It really is up to the parents to show your child how to eat right and be active. That's right kids put down your controllers and get some ****ing fresh air and eat some damn carrots while your at it.

That is something you need to do for your own children! Put your heart and focus on them when you get them and then maybe you won't be sickened to the point of nausea over things you can not control. I am sadden for children who get neglected by their parents no matter if its giving them crappy food every night or if its a child who is beaten but until you live behind their walls its really tough to know what exactly is going on. (Before anyone jumps on me for that last statement I mean that while I was working in social services for every true neglect case there were 20 nosy neighbor cases who think that the kid who has bruises from baseball was beaten)

Also sadly there are many epidemics in this country. Unemployment is at an all time low, more and more people are without health insurance and many people are losing their homes.

Hopefully I don't loose my job, get fat (fatter i mean, hey I am on here for a reason), loose my healthy insurance and my home! Then your glaring eyes would really have something to stare at

I laughed at your ignorance....a lot actually so thanks for that! I probably burned some calories

That's incredibly rude. Hope you feel good about that.

Won't be losing any sleep over it

:noway: How DARE overweight people go out in public! I'm so sorry you had to look at that :sad:

haha

The Nerve. Fat children? Who didn't lock the cage? Where is my torch and pitchfork when I need it?!?!

Has it hit anyone that has read this that they were there for a viewing of "the poitically incorrect" Rudolph? (haha wow) Am I wrong, or isn't that a story about not judging people based on their differences? Sooomebody should've paid more attention...

Maybe something better to take from your horrifying experience: Teach your kids healthy eating habits.

You may want to pay a tutor for their tolerance lessons however.

This had my heart pumping faster than the stair climber....

I am so thankful that you bit your tounge. Those girls I am sure get ENOUGH comments and stares that had you added your comments in a moment of cruelty could have been something they remembered for a long time...all so you could have slept better at night no doubt... now that being said....

I have a ten year old daughter (just turned 10 end of Sept) that is 5'6" and weighs about 164 most of her weight is in her hind end...Her BMI according to her dr is 21 so she is considered NORMAL weight BUT to the tiny and short little 5th graders at her school(which is middle school here) they call her all kinds of Fat names...She got her period at 9 and from that moment on she has had to watch what she puts in her mouth...the rest of my kids all TALL boys can eat whatever they want and still look like straws...

She has the body of a 16 year old girl...curvy or she says a JLO butt....she is active on the Vollyball team and now runs with me...Dr said she is a HEALTHY normal 10 year old but the tallest he has seen in years...

You would never see her stuffing her body with all that food you saw those other precious girls eating but you will see her have an ice cream, eat pizza and have cupcakes at her birthday party...I love my daughter heart and soul...She has endured cruel comments all because she is "different"....She is not obese but gets her self esteem stomped on, on a regular basis...

You have NO IDEA if they were indeed 8 or so as my 10 year old DOES NOT look 10...Her mom may have much of the same issues some of us here at MFP had that in the end brought us to this site...

I forget at times that this site is used as a starvation tool and not just weightloss...

So to the OP...Again,I am so thanful you bit your tounge...You can hurt for them and maybe even pray that a higher power will get them in the right direction to better health before they too have to find a site like this that may have some judgemental comments about big kids eatting too much food and how some of the fit and thinner people almost lost their cookies at the site of them eatting...

******To the others for pointing fingers at the mom's who give their kids donuts or candy during a grocery store visit or in line at a post office as a negotiation tool...SHAME ON YOU!!!

Should we point fingers at you for depriving your kids of those treats all together??? Yay for you for having soldier trained kids but REALLY??? They eventually will break out from under your hard core rules and deprivation and binge on all things junk and sweet...you walk a fine line...

We are on this journey to learn how to have those treats in moderation...if the moms are giving them to the kids in moderation they too are teaching their little ones how it is a treat to have those items...

I think it has something to do with people getting very angry at others for a myriad of things.

Do you like Obama? Then people are going to be very angry at you.
What about your religion? Yep. Guaranteed people will be very angry about whatever you answer there.

You want to make a difference with overweight kids? Be the example. Keep the judgement to thyself. Next up on the judgement block may be you for a number of reasons.

Also the statements being used are inflammatory, derrogative, and highly insulting. There is a difference between "I think that overweight children need to adjust their diet" to "It disgusts me".

Note "you" is a general term, not any one person in particular.

Agreed.