Dating! EEEK!

I'm totally following this string! Love it! I hope the best for you! Keep us posted! Good luck! :flowerforyou:

Before I got divorced I was working out religiously and looked pretty darned good in a pair of jeans. I got a new job (or actually three jobs---single mom sysdrome), made some new friends, bought a house, and went back to school to earn my degree in education. When I started dating, I still had the horrible self esteem issues and the guy I dated was awesome. Come to find out, he had the same kinds of issues. His life was actually on the downhill slide: First he lost his wife and had to raise his infant daughter alone, then he lost his long time girlfriend, then he dated a client that reported him when she got angry and he lost his job, then his house. At the end of the seven months of dating him I walked away with this important lesson:

I GET TO BE WHO I AM, YOU GET TO BE WHO YOU ARE AND IF IT HAPPENS THAT WE ARE IN THE SAME PLACE AT THE SAME TIME AND IT WORKS OUT FOR US TO BE TOGETHER, THEN GOOD. DON'T CHANGE FOR ME AND DON'T ASK ME TO CHANGE FOR YOU.

Anyway, I'm anxious to hear more about how this works out. :flowerforyou:

And now I am pretty much back to my normal sleeping patterns. Not that they are normal really, more Insomniac meets Sleepless In Seatle! :laugh: But I haven't been this keyed up for years and it has really thrown me out of balance, sleepwise. So I'm glad now to be getting more than 10 minutes. I actually got a whole 4 hours last night and 7 the night before.

Oh, and I've lost 5 pounds this week due to stress! I can nearly go down a clothes size!:bigsmile: :bigsmile:

Well, that's all I wanted to say for now, but I will keep you posted on further developments!

(Rerun) --

Don' t forget to eat and sleep. You may need the energy.....

Well I think this site is really neat. I am a 63 year YOUNg woman and cant wait to have a date again. I lost my husband 12 yrs ago and believe me its not fun. Im fun, loving and caring and now just need to find that man out there that wants to meet this lady.

Hello very new to this, I have read the whole thing WOW you all have it going on, If you look at my profile it says I am a female, Well I am all male 41 to be exact and at last take I was still all male. I have been married to the same woman going on 17 yrs. I have lots of kids oldes being 19 youngest being 3.
Coming from a guy I can tell you Don't panick on the not getting back to you, My wife and I text all the time and I being male get into more trouble then not for not responding. I get alot of the hello are you there texts. But in the industry I am in I work with alot of single men, who all in all have lots of GF's and the biggest thing I hear from them is I wish she would stop pestering me, Doesn't she realize I work, I have other friends. My response to them is are you wanting a relationship or a Friend. The unfortunate thing Is most men have one thing on their mind. Especailly the young guys I work with. I lay it on the line with them if you want a relationship then you have to take the pestering along with the not talking to you for one reason or another.
Have you talked to him about what he wants? Do you know what you want with him?
Now my wife is a very attractive women to me, She has gone from a size 3 to an 8-10 and now back to a 4-6. I loved her all thru the times of fluxuation. I have had many friends that were of the larger women and it made no difference to me. If anything I had more good times with them then I did at times with the boney/skinny women as some of you have put it. Thought that was preaty funny.
Be yourself, enjoy yourself. for if you can do that at anytime it doesn't matter what happens in your future you will always be happy. DON'T worry about anyone else you come first. My Grand father always said " good things come to those that wait. and if it is not meant to be then well it wasn't meant to be.
Let him do his thing if he is truely interested then he will answer and call and text you. BUT you on the other hand go and enjoy life HES out there and when your not looking BAM he will be there. ( that is the unknown man in your life.) Oh and word of advice don't let the kids set you up could be scary LOLOLOL. I wish you the best of luck and remember the more you press the further he will go. Also look at his job and evalutate his free time to be able to respond, I know in my job My patients come first for their lives depend on it. Would be sorta hard to say- I know your bleeding to death but hey give me a sec, wife needs to know if I can pick up the kids or not and what time. ( JOKING folks never has happened.) but know ing what he does and time aval. can affect the response time. AND Remember he is male and we as you all know can not multi task- so my wife says.

Best of wishes to you

Lonnie- Denver COLO.

Have you invited him over for a home cooked meal? They say a way to a man's heart is through his stomach If you have any idea what he likes , it would be good to ask him what foods he likes and dislikes. Then you can prepare it to fit your diet. I wish you the very best and happiness and true love.:flowerforyou:

Hi, Coralie!

"Life is what happens when you are waiting for life to happen."

I Totally Agree with Drkimage2 who just posted before me. And THANK YOU, sir, for posting that reply :flowerforyou: Testosterone feedback is appreciated!

Time with your children will pass way too quickly, and soon they will be grown. I say .......(childless :ohwell: ) that they are your first priority. Get out there! Go do what you can afford to do, whether a picnic, or movie-night at home, take the kids for walks, whatever you like. You may have always wanted to take a water-color painting class, or join a book club, or investment club -whatever gives you Passion besides men.

Even when married, people need to have other interests and spend some time away from each other.

Fill your life with interests, you will be soooo interesting, no one will be able to resist.

And give him time. Guys want to be the chasers and are much more laid-back when it comes to communicating.

More +++positive+++ energy comin' at ya! :bigsmile:

~Cheryl

Yikes, Coralie.

First of all, thank God he told you. Please - tell him that you won't date a married man. There is NOTHING good about him being married. The money would be a good thing were it not for that.

Let me just say from experience and many, many tears, and lots of pain: I have been on ALL sides of infidelity. And any emotional attachment will eventually become a kiss, if not more. Then you have crossed a line that can't be un-crossed. Nothing good will come of it. Separation could just mean he's living with her still (or, goes back and forth)......money may stop a divorce from EVER happening.

Save yourself and get out now. If you are waiting for him you may miss the right guy. Be available for the right guy to show up.

If you want to talk off this thread, please message me and I'll give you my email, or we could go to the chats and talk. I have Hotmail messenger if that would work for you.

Many hugs and prayers coming your way :smooched:

~Cheryl

Hi

I see MAJOR red flags regarding his seperation....regardless if he hasn't been with his ex for 3 or 6 yrs....why is he against getting divorced?
Is there still an emotional connection...financial.....before getting involved, I would def want more information

Good luck, kim

Hi. Thanks, I'm guessing it's the money thing. With complicated divorce etc and not wanting her to get any of his money.

And who could blame him? I had none of these problems with my divorce as we had no property or money to split.

I admit that some things bother me a little, like not knowing his last name or the name of his son.

But then if he is a private person, this isn't surprising. Frustrating but not surprising!!

How much can I beleive of what he has told me?? I must admit that trust is a big thing with me. I don't give it very easily.

I've been following this since day one and cheering for you (silently, as I haven't posted) but please listen to Cheryl and others warning of MAJOR RED FLAGS. He's not the one if he's not truly single and also if he's withholding simple information like last name, etc. Something is WAY OFF here.

Please save yourself a lot of grief and heartache -- move on now while it will be so much easier.

You deserve a man that can focus completely on you.

Best of luck -
:flowerforyou:

um, yeah, what alaskagal said. . . lol

honestly though, i agree with her. "the one" shouldn't be that complicated and come with all those concerns right off the bat. i'm sure that you want this to work because it would be great to be with someone fabulous! but i think you are really not treating yourself with enough deserved respect and you are heading down a road for hurt if you continue to pursue anything other than a friendship with him.

there's a difference between being a "private person" and flat out hiding stuff. i hate to say it, but i'm certain it's the second option here. :ohwell: being a private person is not spilling every detail of your life on the first date. hiding stuff is not being willing to share "getting to know you" info like children's names and last names.

i'm sorry to tell you these things. i almost didn't post because i don't want to hurt your feelings or offend you but i decided to post because i wanted you to know what i feel is the truth. it sounds like you are making positive steps forward in your life, overall right now, so please don't take a step backwards. :flowerforyou:

hope that helps and wasn't mean :happy: