Nudity - and your children
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I do think that seeing boobs is one thing, and seeing a wiener is another.
Well I know which one I'll take given the option...0 -
Censor nudity/sex in a trusting/natural/safe environment, it doesn't leave room for children to grow up knowing that they don't have to look like the ads (as human bodies pretty much don't look like that), that boobs, butts, nips, genitals are in all sorts of shapes and sizes and everyone has them and they don't need to be sexualized, feared, nor ashamed. Women's bodies in particular are extreme sexed up in society, as if having appeal (particularly to hetero men) is the only purpose of females. I'll never understand the opposition to breast feeding in public, for example. Imo, a child being exposed to nudity in a non-sexual environment may well grow up more respectful of fellow humans.
It's your house and your rules, and if they have children, same applies to them.
I don't have kids, but I suspect it'll be very similar to you and your son if I ever do.0 -
im trying to cover up more because i have a 8,6,year old boys,,,,but the whole bathroom thing is soooo true,,,,:yawn: ,0
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At his age, making a big deal about it is only going to peek his curiosity. I think there is nothing wrong with it. Now, you will want to set some boundaries the closer he gets to puberty, but for now, not a big deal.0
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I think at five years old, that's probably fine. I think as the child gets older, you could be more modest. I know I didn't want to see my parents naked as a child, I thought it was GROSS... I remember seeing my thirty year old cousin naked in the shower and thinking her boobs were gross and wondering WHY she wanted me to come into the bathroom (to grab her kid out of the shower) and I was about 9. I think to each their own. I know in my house nakedness was very taboo and now I'm very weird about nudity because of it. It messed me up and I don't want that for my children...but I don't think I'll just be careless about it. I figure, if it happens, it happens, but I'm not sure how far I would go with allowing them to see me naked.
I think what you've mentioned is just fine, though.
I don't think I have a clue where you stand after reading this
But you totally made me giggle 0 -
You have honestly put me a bit at ease, so thank you.... Parenting is not easy *LOL*0
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single mom with (almost) 5y.o. daughter...sometimes she still takes showers with me. Most the time doors aren't closed all the way for the same reasons you stated.
My best friend and I use to talk to her mom when she'd take baths and she'd just cover herself with a towel and we never thought twice about it.
Rare times I take a bath, my daughter is usually playing with barbies in the bathroom talking to me.
I think it's harmless up until a certain age...being that I have a girl, she'll prolly always see her mom half naked hahaha
I shower with my best friend. She's not a child, but some people think it's strange that we shower together, and we see nothing wrong with it.0 -
on the same subject , sort of, how about going out for a meal at the local pub today and a woman was breastfeeding her baby while we ate, surely she could have sat in a corner, but no, right in the middle of everyone, even my wife said she could have made an effort to protect herself from all the ogling young men
:noway:
Heaven forbid a woman feeds her child in a safe, entirely natural, healthy way.
So sorry that seeing a breast used for its biological purpose unnerves you so.0 -
single mom with (almost) 5y.o. daughter...sometimes she still takes showers with me. Most the time doors aren't closed all the way for the same reasons you stated.
My best friend and I use to talk to her mom when she'd take baths and she'd just cover herself with a towel and we never thought twice about it.
Rare times I take a bath, my daughter is usually playing with barbies in the bathroom talking to me.
I think it's harmless up until a certain age...being that I have a girl, she'll prolly always see her mom half naked hahaha
I shower with my best friend. She's not a child, but some people think it's strange that we shower together, and we see nothing wrong with it.
Nothing wrong with it if you were in a relationship, but just showering with a bestie... what would be the point?0 -
I saw that on Cinemax last night!I shower with my best friend. She's not a child, but some people think it's strange that we shower together, and we see nothing wrong with it.0 -
As long as they understand the privacy and respect another persons body must receive I would say it is up to each household to determine and decide.
I can see where making the human body a taboo or being completely open about can cause problems so neither is inherently right or wrong.
How any given parent teaches and raises their children is what makes the difference.
A word of caution though as schools do go on "fishing" expeditions so take into account what may have always been innocent could be twisted around.
Double standard but still true,this would apply to men with daughters a lot more then moms and sons.0 -
I'm not overly paranoid about it.... Our naked bodies are..."natural" :laugh: I do teach my kiddos to be modest so, I teach that by example... I don't run to cover up like something is horrible or nasty or bad... But I do try to be mindful of my parts that may be showing and how it is viewed by my kiddos...
When my son at age 4 ASKED me to see my "Boo Boo's" I knew it was time to be a little more "modest" around him with the breasticals :bigsmile:
I'm not as conservative around my daughter... She's a girl...she's going to have them... I figure, if she grows up seeing her mama's "REAL" body (to a certain extent) she will know what a "REAL" woman's body looks like and maybe that will help her when it comes to the ever daunting body image issue... I don't FLAUNT around the house in the nude, though (only when it's just me and the Mr.)
I HATE when parents treat bodies and their parts like they are something dirty... I even got on to my son for calling his penis his "bad spot"... I told him there isn't anything "BAD" about it... There are too many "nicknames" that people assign to body parts that have kiddos growing up thinking the human body is something nasty or dirty... I think that causes more issues than people realize!! I believe in being open with your kiddos and let them know that our bodies are a wonderful creatiion (yes, I said "creation" - bite me) As they grow, we can teach what is appropriate and what is not by our actions and responses...
Ok...that's my schpill0 -
Just don't feed him any pizza!
haha your comments always amuse me0 -
You have honestly put me a bit at ease, so thank you.... Parenting is not easy *LOL*
It's not and don't pay much attention to anyone who wants to tell you what you "should be doing". In my experience most of those parents are raising future serial killers any way.0 -
Water conservation. Duh!
Nothing wrong with it if you were in a relationship, but just showering with a bestie... what would be the point?I shower with my best friend. She's not a child, but some people think it's strange that we shower together, and we see nothing wrong with it.0 -
ok some people are mentioning that it is fine until a certain age
so what is the age?
how do you determine that?0 -
I guess it is how you are raised, I am raised in a free country, were nudity is no taboo, since I am living in the USA it seems to be something dirty, though it is natural. I was getting undressed in front of my parents my whole life and nobody ever saw anything wrong with it, they are my parents and other way around I am their daughter, no closer family ties than that. My parents don't see anything wrong when I see them naked and why should they?
In my opinion their wouldn't be so many creeps out there when something natural would be treated as something natural and not make it seem dirty.0 -
I shower with my best friend. She's not a child, but some people think it's strange that we shower together, and we see nothing wrong with it.
Yeah... then there's that...0 -
I don't think it is a big deal. As parents, we decide what is best for our own children. Our son is also 5 and we don't let him see us naked any longer. We have talked to him numerous times about the body and everyone has "private" parts and boys and girls parts are different and so on. We are trying to teach him a little about privacy and that his private parts are for him only. Everyone is different. Growing up I NEVER saw my parents naked and I have no hang-ups about nudity. When it comes to parenting, I think MOST parents can make an intelligent decision based on their child's actions and questions.0
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Good god...America is such a puritanical society. What is wrong with nudity and the human body? We were all born that way...
The only reason why being naked or being naked around your kids is perceived as wrong is because we've been taught that way. Why not teach your children that their bodies are a good thing, that being naked can be natural. Your kids will let you know when it is time for more modesty, and when they don't feel personaly comfortable.0 -
Its the same at my house. I have two girls - 10 and 3 and a son who's 6. I rarely get a shower or use the restroom alone. They're always popping in and out for something. They see stuff. They've been known to ask questions and so they get age appropriate answers. No one feels gross about it. My oldest is starting to get more private on her own which is also totally fine.0
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So, you were raised somewhere were everyone was cool with folks walking around naked in public? Really? No taboos around nudity at all?I guess it is how you are raised, I am raised in a free country, were nudity is no taboo, since I am living in the USA it seems to be something dirty, though it is natural. I was getting undressed in front of my parents my whole life and nobody ever saw anything wrong with it, they are my parents and other way around I am their daughter, no closer family ties than that. My parents don't see anything wrong when I see them naked and why should they?
In my opinion their wouldn't be so many creeps out there when something natural would be treated as something natural and not make it seem dirty.
Also, because most communities in the United States have laws preventing public nudity -- according to the wishes of the majority of the population -- it's not a "free country"?0 -
ok some people are mentioning that it is fine until a certain age
so what is the age?
how do you determine that?
I figure a kid will not just barge into a bathroom or bedroom where their parents are nude if they're beginning to shy up. (Most likely related to awareness of human sexuality).
So, whatever that age may be, I imagine.0 -
Good god...America is such a puritanical society. What is wrong with nudity and the human body? We were all born that way...
The only reason why being naked or being naked around your kids is perceived as wrong is because we've been taught that way. Why not teach your children that their bodies are a good thing, that being naked can be natural. Your kids will let you know when it is time for more modesty, and when they don't feel personaly comfortable.
Forget about the American Puritans. The MFPuritans will be reporting this harmless thread as fast as their little fingers can click.
Some people just aren't happy unless they're running to tell on someone else.0 -
I grew up in a house where is was no big deal, my mother was extremely open about it and my dad wasn't (which I think was good). But we had a house with one bathroom, so everyone saw each other in the mornings, and when I go back, it is the same. I don't care- none of us do. When my sister and I were born, we came out naked, so it really is no big deal. I live with my fiance now, and it is exactly the same- I am not embarrassed of my body and frankly, I don't care that I saw my mothers breasts/body growing up. She is a beautiful woman who went through childbirth twice and it is nothing to be ashamed of. That said- I'm glad my dads clothes were ALWAYS on.0
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My mom still walks around naked in my presence...no problemo. My dad, on the other hand, Never. Never never. He's much more prudish/modest/shy/whatever adjective you prefer.0
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With kids, especially that age, it's only weird of you make it weird. If you act like it's no big deal than it won't be. Once they hit puberty though, that's when I think different ground rules should be set.0
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I see nothing wrong with it0
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Can I just say it amazes me the taboo america has on nudity and sex period. Moving to Europe has really helped me see how backwards the states has some things lol... took my 8 year old to Paris Disney... we go to the swimming pool in our resort... go to the showers and you will see women of all ages completly naked just sitting and hanging around... so natural. I see nothing wrong with it... cept maybe the hygine of it lol.. If my german friend that works on the gym says its funny when she uses the sauna at the american gym cause she can feel how tense people are around her... she goes to the german sauna where she can actually relax.0
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Another good reason to sell your kids on the black market.
Speaking of which.. I'm all out of Caucasion/Asian half breed children to sell. Any volunteers to help me make some more?
We'll split the profits 60/40. :flowerforyou:0
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