Singles???

Recently single (as of maybe a week ago). Have been doing this for myself the entire time, and when asked (I say asked but I think he was more telling me then asking) to give up fitness, diet and choose him over my full time job, I told him to take a hike. A) I plan to work for a living not feed off of other peoples tax money (not saying that there's anything wrong with that before I offend someone just I think there's something really wrong with it when I have no disabilities that make it acceptable other then laziness, and that's not acceptable) and I have been getting fit for myself and when asked to give that up for a "healthy" relationship, no thank you, no relationship is healthy if I have to give up on myself and focus entirely on someone else. I'm not babysitting anyone.

Single...not because of how I look (not being arrogant just saying lol) but because I have a serious problem. I always, always wait for the perfect girl...and three months ago I thought I met her..I was careful, I was worried what she thought of me, if she wanted me too...and a few days ago I was honest with her and learned that she didn't want much more than what we already have, that she doesn't want a serious relationship or anything, and being not an idiot I understood that meant "I like you, but not that much, and not enough to be serious but I'll still get with you"...so the girl I had put so much thought, effort, and time into basically told me I'm not worth her time (I don't blame her for being honest, she is still amazing in my eyes)

Sorry for venting, but I had to get that out to somebody, I feel like my head is going to explode. Being a guy it's tough to get personal with your friends without their opinion of you changing..I just don't know what the **** to do with that now, do I continue pursuing the girl I honestly like so much and can't stop thinking about with the highest potential status being "getting with her" and maybe prove to her otherwise, or do I be honest with her and tell her I want more and basically end it...and let her go..

Im sorry you had to go through that. It sucks, I know. Its like you are a very nice guy and she is a very nice woman. The problem is, alot of times, nice guys end up in the friend zone and once in, your screwed. If a woman wants more then you will know she wants a relationship, ask any bad boy. They will tell you that if she is into you, you will know it and wont have to wonder. Keep your head up and move to the next. She is either into you or not, it cant be forced. Just be careful, I know some might get mad by my post but there are alot and I mean alot of good women (It seems the church girls are the worst or maybe its just in the South) that only chase bad boys. You dont want to be the first guy she dates after one either. Plus, keep in mind, you ar young. Women today want to settle down in their late 20s and early 30s now.