Gym starers -thoughts? feelings? outrage?

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  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    would love to look good enough for people to stare!

    Well, I can only see your face, but I think you're quite lovely.

    Even as a straight woman, I sometimes find myself staring at other women who are beautiful (face, body, whatever).
  • Shanna_Inc86
    Shanna_Inc86 Posts: 781 Member
    I don't use a gym but I get my fair share of starers. They stare while I'm shopping (sometimes follow me too), while I'm out at lunch, at the library, on my walks. It's only fun when the person staring me down is attractive. That's not the case most of the time.

    Edited...

    Since I'm being called out for this quite publicly... it is no more...

    So what exactly are they staring at, sorry Im not seeing it.
    :noway: They are probably staring at the beautiful woman that is near them at the store, on lunch, at the library, or out walking. But I suppose some people just can't find the beauty in other women. *shrug*

    I was being facetious. Her post came off as a tad arrogant hence my reply.

    Um, because she's beautiful....its not arrogance if it's fact
  • silvergurl518
    silvergurl518 Posts: 4,123 Member
    by the way, i look at everyone. male and female. only if they're attractive. also, if they look ridiculous or are just plain, um, unblessed in the looks department, then i'll look too. because that's fun. sometimes i stare at something or someone and can't look away...it's like my OCD. i just lock and then i try to look away and then it's like a freaking moth to a lightbulb. can't. look. away.
  • flausa
    flausa Posts: 534 Member
    There are mirrors every-freakin'-where in the gym. How do you not end up staring at someone at some point?
  • TankGirl71
    TankGirl71 Posts: 241 Member
    I get a few glances from time to time, but probably because of the 60# dumbbells I'm grabbing. The ones who outright stare are in their 60's and totally inappropriate. I usually wear old t shirts and soccer shorts - and it's funny when they assume I "play for the other team." There's a few guys there I can't help but peek at....they have bodies like Michelangelo's David. I try to be brief and discreet when sampling the eye candy.
  • knipperhd
    knipperhd Posts: 8
    At 5:30 in the morning I am lucky to have my eyes open when I get on the treadmill some days
  • afwg1979
    afwg1979 Posts: 170 Member
    I look but don't stare. I actually like to see the different exercises people are doing. All cardio equipment faces the machines and free weights so I'm looking that way anyway. I have never given a nod or wink but I will smile if you look at me! Lol!

    ^ -- What he said. I also notice other members' body changes; for example, last night, I noticed a particular female who finally shedded the super baggy clothes to show off her progress -- she has definitely shrunk! These types of observations are fuel for me to keep going.

    Fitness centers are public places -- we all know that when we sign up, so it's unrealistic to expect people to wear blinders. I once had a woman who gauged her workout against my machine's readouts: Her aim was to exceed my stats. It was a bit annoying, but I took the attitude, "Go for it, it's your heart attack, not mine." (I'm so not competitive.)

    Regarding those that stare, ignore them. This is one of those "Don't sweat the small stuff" issues.
  • RyanDanielle5101
    RyanDanielle5101 Posts: 533
    I don't use a gym but I get my fair share of starers. They stare while I'm shopping (sometimes follow me too), while I'm out at lunch, at the library, on my walks. It's only fun when the person staring me down is attractive. That's not the case most of the time.

    Edited...

    Since I'm being called out for this quite publicly... it is no more...

    So what exactly are they staring at, sorry Im not seeing it.

    Mal is absolutely gorgeous!!!!

    hatersgonnahate.gif

    Nuff said
  • justle
    justle Posts: 275 Member
    It is hard not to notice really attractive women at the gym... but what I like to do now is watch the guys checking her out as she walks buy. MUCH more fun then just getting an eyeful for myself.

    Us guys are much less slick then we think! LOL


    i admit to watching the guys watch the girls its one way i entertain myself at the gym :)
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    I think a lot of times, people are looking and we don't know it, anyway. When I run in my neighborhood, I go through an office complex. It's a circle and a pretty steep hill, so great for the glutes, legs and endurance. I've been doing that route off and on for a couple years.

    When I was down to my lowest weight since starting Weight Watchers (I've regained some, but that's another story), I was walking through there and a woman waiting for a bus after work told me she'd been watching me and guessed almost exactly how much weight I'd lost, told me I was doing great and to keep it up. :-)
  • Heaven71
    Heaven71 Posts: 706 Member
    I don't like being checked out at the gym, at all, just because I feel like I look icky but at the mall or out and about. Please do, I could use the boost, just don't get creepy!
  • LilMizDetermined
    LilMizDetermined Posts: 174 Member
    I don't mind being admire for my hard work.... but admire from afar and for a BRIEF period of time. Chances are if you are being gross, you are not going to get anything besides a dirty look from me (maybe even the finger if needed).
  • _gwen
    _gwen Posts: 501 Member
    I don't mind a second look or a whistle, but when it feels like harassment, it is. I'd consider the guy watching my *kitten* when I'm on the bike harassment. What other creepy thing is he willing to do? Take pictures? Stalk me?

    Go find a trainer or staff and explain the situation. They should be motivated to make the gym a safe and friendly place for everyone. The creep isn't doing this to just you.
  • Kityngirl
    Kityngirl Posts: 14,304 Member
    Mine was meant to be sarcastic, not arrogant. There's a difference.

    Hey if she feels that everyone she comes into contact with is giving her the stare then good for her. It's nice to be confident. I wish I had that much confidence.

    Believe it or not, some people notice others staring at them because they do not have confidence and it makes them uncomfortable.

    And Mal is completely hot, I know I would totally stare is she was around me..... :love:
  • KatieJane83
    KatieJane83 Posts: 2,002 Member
    meh, what are you gonna do? Snatch the eyes out of their heads? As long as no one is playing grabby hands or being nasty about it to my face then who cares.

    Yup, this! I'm a live and let live kind of person. If they're not hurting/threatening me then I don't care. But, it is annoying when someone comes up and starts talking when I'm in the MIDDLE of a routine. At least have the courtesy to wait til I'm done!

    I do think I get some extra stares because I'm often in the free weights area, where unfortunately many women fear to tread!

    And personally, I'm not a starer, but I have to say some quality people-watching is part of what keeps me entertained when I'm at the gym busting my *kitten*!
  • LoriBarefoot
    LoriBarefoot Posts: 218 Member
    Hot or Not all staring is flattering to me. However, I'm a nervous wreck 75% of the time so my treadmill was the best investment I ever made!! No gym staring for me!
  • nnylee
    nnylee Posts: 811 Member
    I am okay with people looking. But when they tell me crap like, "Ay mami, lookin' good, you should teach me some Japanese sometime!"

    I'm not your mami AND I'm not Japanese.

    Sheesh!
  • BerryH
    BerryH Posts: 4,698 Member
    I can only get guys to stare by wearing my "I'm slow, I know, get over it" vest.
  • MaximalLife
    MaximalLife Posts: 2,447 Member
    I have lost 70 lbs, so I notice this now.
    Before, I was so fat and ugly and since losing the weight, I GET AND LOVE THE ATTENTION!

    People treat me differently.
    Being fit means we can contrast the way others related to us then vs now.

    There is a bias.
    Beauty gets VIP allowances while non-beauty gets what it gets.
    Fair?
    No, but get this; the world is not a fair place.

    Enjoy the attention - Use it!
  • cgrout78
    cgrout78 Posts: 1,628 Member
    no one stares at me at the gym. I must not be hot enough..yet another blow to my fragile self esteem.
  • trixirn
    trixirn Posts: 130 Member
    If I was someone using poor form, I would want someone to tell me so or I will think I am doing it correctly and continue to do it that way.
  • mo_is_here
    mo_is_here Posts: 95
    I emailed Mal and apologized for my comments re: her post and my response.

    And you are all right, she IS gorgeous!
  • _binary_jester_
    _binary_jester_ Posts: 2,132 Member
    I emailed Mal and apologized for my comments re: her post and my response.
    Today we have learned the interweb is a serious business.
  • swedishwillow
    swedishwillow Posts: 88 Member
    Im hoping, that maybe one day - just one- Ill get those stares so I can validate through something else other than the clothing I wear or how much sweat I can produce how much hardwork, dedication ability it took for me to get to my goal!

    at the moment Im still reeling from the fact that the EX is one of those starers and it drove me batty (that shouldve been a warning sign) LOL
  • pkdreilly
    pkdreilly Posts: 13
    I don't think there is anything wrong with an occasional glance or a look. What boggles my mind, is the guys that have stood behind my treadmill while I was running and just sit there and watched me run. What they don't seem to realize is the huge plate glass windows in front of me, are basically like mirrors, so I can see what you are doing!

    Lol!!!

    Men must think i stare, because i take my glasses off in the gym to avoid steamage and cant see clearly more than 6ft, lol. I guess i also screw my face up a little, i get bored, and look around a lot....my bad.....all the beefys in my gym are always flexing in front of mirrors and stuff!! Kinda attracts attention!!! (or a screwed up face glance at least lmao!!!)
  • DeeJayTJ
    DeeJayTJ Posts: 355 Member
    i watch as people do their weights or workouts wrong and wish i could help them.

    but i dont creeper stare..sure i notice all the hot girls in the place lol

    ive had creepy people stare at me before and it makes me un easy, or noticed someone watching me jog but whatever. maybe i inspire them for all i know.
  • jennifer2977
    jennifer2977 Posts: 156
    This thread is seriously cracking me up! But really, it's almost like gyms set up the equipment to encourage staring..at mine, the treadmills are directly behind the ellipticals and stair steppers. It's almost like you can't help but stare. LOL
  • sdrawkcabynot
    sdrawkcabynot Posts: 462 Member
    I watch people do weights and sometimes watch if they do something differently on machines than what I normally do. I get stares, but convinced it is because I am 6'4. You can't miss me!

    I think girls have a thing for tall guys. To bad they are not my thing. lol. But I do find it very flattering and makes me feel good.
  • KatieJane83
    KatieJane83 Posts: 2,002 Member
    If I was someone using poor form, I would want someone to tell me so or I will think I am doing it correctly and continue to do it that way.

    This actually was helpful to me the other day. A guy in the free weight area gave me a tip about widening my grip on my incline bench press. That kind of interaction I can definitely appreciate.
  • NiciS72
    NiciS72 Posts: 1,043 Member
    I absolutely LOVE to people watch at the gym. I watch EVERYONE. I'm inspired by those that are not in shape working/sweating their A$$es off to get into shape. I crack up at the people that hop around to all the machines barely spending 30 seconds at each one and not putting in any real effort. I'm sure they stare at me as I #1 wear my makeup from the day to the gym #2 wear cute workout clothes (I want to feel good) and #3 I breath hard/grunt while doing weights!

    Honestly, I am flattered no matter the sex/hotness of the person staring. To me it means I'm getting to where I want to be in my physical fitness. Either that or I'm making a total fool of myself at the gym! :laugh:

    Edit: I get a total kick out of the muscle heads staring at me when I'm in the free weight section doing my physical therapy exercises with the barbie bells. The looks on their faces is PRICELESS!:noway:
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