Email to the ex-husband
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He will produce it as evidence at court, and courts don't care about tone or sarcasm, they care about exactly what you wrote. If you wrote you're going to misuse the funds, they will take it as such and it will not end well for you.
Just as an aside. Not sure what it's like in the good ole US of A, but here in Canada, I can guarantee that if someone brought a letter like that into court, the letter bringer, would get a good old scolding from the judge. Judges don't care about ex's petty little gripes and snipes and *****es and whatever. They only care about what's best for the children. If the recipient of said money wants to spend the payors money on pedicures and date nights, the judge doesn't give one freaking **** as long as the children are being cared for with a roof over their heads and food on the table and love in their hearts.
Hopefully the judge would also give a damn the the dude isn't paying child support that was previously court ordered.0 -
Did we have a date friday night? That sounds familiar.I'd like to give 50% of you a damn sedative and a swift kick to the shins...
Yes, and where the f*** are my flowers??0 -
Ok.. I have to say you're all doing it WRONG!
Step 1. Get your freaky deaky on.
Step 2. Poop out a kid.
Step 3. Sell kid into slave labor
Step 4. Profit$0 -
He will produce it as evidence at court, and courts don't care about tone or sarcasm, they care about exactly what you wrote. If you wrote you're going to misuse the funds, they will take it as such and it will not end well for you.
Just as an aside. Not sure what it's like in the good ole US of A, but here in Canada, I can guarantee that if someone brought a letter like that into court, the letter bringer, would get a good old scolding from the judge. Judges don't care about ex's petty little gripes and snipes and *****es and whatever. They only care about what's best for the children. If the recipient of said money wants to spend the payors money on pedicures and date nights, the judge doesn't give one freaking **** as long as the children are being cared for with a roof over their heads and food on the table and love in their hearts.
Same in the US. Each state sets a percentage of income (in New York, for example, it's 17% or net pay) that the noncustodial parent has to pay. No negotiating. And the judge doesn't care what that money's used for.
For me, I have a full time job and get child support. From the total of that money, I pay rent, utilities, keep my car on the road, buy food, clothing, cleaning supplies and other necessities, plus I'm paying off credit card bills that built up during the EIGHT YEARS I didn't see a dime for the sperm donor.
Whatever's left over is mine to do with as I please. My daughter has everything she needs and quite a few things she doesn't. So, tell me I'm not using that support the "right way."
And, by the way, when she turns 18 and starts college, my support money will probably stop. She still will need financial support, but it will come from me from there on.0 -
Only money I received from my ex in child support was what little his girlfriends would pay to keep him out of jail. I was working a minimum wage job and supporting five children on my own.0
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No secret why he left....Dear Ex-husband (I called him something a little more R rated but this is a PG-13 site):
I would like to discuss with you your non-payment of child support/alimony. I have decided that I want to start dating again, and I could really use the extra money. While I have been able to manage fine without you meeting your financial obligations, if you were to start paying me regularly it would free up money to pay for things like babysitters, dinner with my friends, and drinks. I know that you know that I never paid for a drink in my life (thanks guys!), but it is nice to actually offer to pay, and to do that I really need to have money in my wallet. Extra money would also allow me to get my hair done, mani/pedi's, and of course bikini-waxing, because you never know what might happen.
It would actually benefit (I was going to say behoove but I know you don't know what that means) you to meet your responsibilites because a sexually satisfied ex-wife is a happy ex-wife! That means when you blow-off your son's game again or forget to call the kids for weeks, I will be less likely to b*tch you out about it. Ultimately, by paying alimony now so I can date, it means that you won't have to pay it later. I am sure you will ask what I mean by that, it means I will hopefully be remarried.
I trust that I will be receiving a check from you in the very near future.
Sincerely,
Ex-wife0 -
move to Iowa - peeps that are past due on child support get their tax returns withheld, and can't renew their driver's license without bringing it current!
Many states already do this. In my situation the state won't suspend his license until he owes over a certain dollar amount. Something like 20,000 (??). What's the point then? It's not like he can pull that amount of money to get current.
I gave up on child support/alimony a loooong time ago. I receive $24/week (when he's working), but I'm happy to work more hours, shop @ the Salvation Army, clip coupons, etc...
Ya wanna know why? Because I don't have to deal with his *kitten*! LOL0 -
When did paying for your children become an option?
When the father decided to not work or file taxes. Mine got away with this.0 -
No secret why he left....Dear Ex-husband (I called him something a little more R rated but this is a PG-13 site):
I would like to discuss with you your non-payment of child support/alimony. I have decided that I want to start dating again, and I could really use the extra money. While I have been able to manage fine without you meeting your financial obligations, if you were to start paying me regularly it would free up money to pay for things like babysitters, dinner with my friends, and drinks. I know that you know that I never paid for a drink in my life (thanks guys!), but it is nice to actually offer to pay, and to do that I really need to have money in my wallet. Extra money would also allow me to get my hair done, mani/pedi's, and of course bikini-waxing, because you never know what might happen.
It would actually benefit (I was going to say behoove but I know you don't know what that means) you to meet your responsibilites because a sexually satisfied ex-wife is a happy ex-wife! That means when you blow-off your son's game again or forget to call the kids for weeks, I will be less likely to b*tch you out about it. Ultimately, by paying alimony now so I can date, it means that you won't have to pay it later. I am sure you will ask what I mean by that, it means I will hopefully be remarried.
I trust that I will be receiving a check from you in the very near future.
Sincerely,
Ex-wife
Ahhh wouldn't be a good thread without a comment from you. :flowerforyou:0 -
No secret why he left....Dear Ex-husband (I called him something a little more R rated but this is a PG-13 site):
I would like to discuss with you your non-payment of child support/alimony. I have decided that I want to start dating again, and I could really use the extra money. While I have been able to manage fine without you meeting your financial obligations, if you were to start paying me regularly it would free up money to pay for things like babysitters, dinner with my friends, and drinks. I know that you know that I never paid for a drink in my life (thanks guys!), but it is nice to actually offer to pay, and to do that I really need to have money in my wallet. Extra money would also allow me to get my hair done, mani/pedi's, and of course bikini-waxing, because you never know what might happen.
It would actually benefit (I was going to say behoove but I know you don't know what that means) you to meet your responsibilites because a sexually satisfied ex-wife is a happy ex-wife! That means when you blow-off your son's game again or forget to call the kids for weeks, I will be less likely to b*tch you out about it. Ultimately, by paying alimony now so I can date, it means that you won't have to pay it later. I am sure you will ask what I mean by that, it means I will hopefully be remarried.
I trust that I will be receiving a check from you in the very near future.
Sincerely,
Ex-wife
You know what they say when you assume? You look like an *kitten*. Isn't that how it goes?
I left him dear.0 -
Love it!0
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There's no way in hell I'd give you money so you can have money to date...wth LOL...seriously? That's called abusing the system. It's created to support the CHILD not the mothers entertainment. Unreal.0
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All i read is a frustrated mom! You're just venting. Too many ****en saints on this site.0
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There's no way in hell I'd give you money so you can have money to date...wth LOL...seriously? That's called abusing the system. It's created to support the CHILD not the mothers entertainment. Unreal.
Maybe you should read the entire post before you comment? Mmmkthx.0 -
As a father who has always paid child support to an x wife who spends the $$ on herself I find this to be in poor taste. It is really sad when people feel they should be supported by someone else. Child support is to support the child, not party with friends.0
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Dear Ex-husband (I called him something a little more R rated but this is a PG-13 site):
I would like to discuss with you your non-payment of child support/alimony. I have decided that I want to start dating again, and I could really use the extra money. While I have been able to manage fine without you meeting your financial obligations, if you were to start paying me regularly it would free up money to pay for things like babysitters, dinner with my friends, and drinks. I know that you know that I never paid for a drink in my life (thanks guys!), but it is nice to actually offer to pay, and to do that I really need to have money in my wallet. Extra money would also allow me to get my hair done, mani/pedi's, and of course bikini-waxing, because you never know what might happen.
It would actually benefit (I was going to say behoove but I know you don't know what that means) you to meet your responsibilites because a sexually satisfied ex-wife is a happy ex-wife! That means when you blow-off your son's game again or forget to call the kids for weeks, I will be less likely to b*tch you out about it. Ultimately, by paying alimony now so I can date, it means that you won't have to pay it later. I am sure you will ask what I mean by that, it means I will hopefully be remarried.
I trust that I will be receiving a check from you in the very near future.
Sincerely,
Ex-wife
While I do have a sense of humor, I hope you don't really send that sort of stuff. It seems a bit immature doesn't it? (Meant with all due respect). There is a reason why he's your ex hun. He doesn't need to know that stuff- seems like you're just throwing it in his face.0 -
Very poor taste.0
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I'm not quite sure I would even know what to do with that $40 a month he was supposed to pay.
We got along with out it, we got along without him. 0 -
As a father who has always paid child support to an x wife who spends the $$ on herself I find this to be in poor taste. It is really sad when people feel they should be supported by someone else. Child support is to support the child, not party with friends.
While I somewhat agree, it does include alimony in her statement.0 -
As a father who has always paid child support to an x wife who spends the $$ on herself I find this to be in poor taste. It is really sad when people feel they should be supported by someone else. Child support is to support the child, not party with friends.
Again, read my comments and then maybe you wouldn't jump to a wrong conclusion?0 -
Turn him into the state to collect.0
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I like what you've written.... as a single mom to a little girl whose father doesn't pay child support, I understand where you are coming from.
However, "child support" is supposed to be money that supports the child. I probably would have spun my letter in that direction rather than in the "look at me, I want to date" direction. I feel like that will cause an argument... regardless of how you REALLY want to use the money, it's meant to "support" the "child".
I agree, child support IS supposed to be for the child(ren); however, MY funds are tied up in paying HIS portion of financial obligation for OUR children. If he was paying his child support then MY funds would be freed up to do with as I please. 0 -
I totally get it! You spend all your money paying rent/mortage,groceries, bills, gas, and just plain supporting your child..... while this "father" gets to spend his cash on his own needs and wants. PAY ME MY MONEY!!! I always put my child's needs first. I dont get "free time", I dont get the option to say I am too busy to spend time with my child, nor have the option to take or pick up from daycare!I also dont get to say well I'm not feeling well, I dont feel like being a parent today...... The least a "man" can do that does not participate in their child's life is to PAY ME MY MONEY! As long as I put my child first, whatever I use that money is what I use that money for!! More power to us single parents!0
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FunnyGirl dont even explain yourself! it's obvious that you were being sarcastic and just getting stuff off of your chest! **** happens and unfortunately we moms are left with our beautiful babies to care for all on our own while our dumbass fathers go on with their lives! our lives change drastically and although this happens to a thousands of mothers a year very little support and understanding is out there for us!
For those fathers who are in fact present fathers and not "peek a boo" fathers they know as well that a few dollars here and there doesnt mean anything if you are not spending quality time with your children.
Funny Girl you are not alone and your humor is just that humor! and those that can't take a ****en joke move on to another message board where your opinion somewhat matters...... comment on someone's *kitten* or drastic weightloss.......0 -
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As a father who has always paid child support to an x wife who spends the $$ on herself I find this to be in poor taste. It is really sad when people feel they should be supported by someone else. Child support is to support the child, not party with friends.
I applaud the fact that as a Non-Custodial parent, you are taking care of your child(rens) financial needs. I agree that child support is to support the child(ren). Please also understand that support includes rent, utilities, food, gas in the car getting them to and from school, activities, doctors, doctor visit co-pays etc.
If your child(ren) is going without the things he/she needs despite your payment of child support then I would definitely find this to be concerning and try to take action. If your paying your child support opens up "her" money to spend on herself then that's great for her!0 -
As a father who has always paid child support to an x wife who spends the $$ on herself I find this to be in poor taste. It is really sad when people feel they should be supported by someone else. Child support is to support the child, not party with friends.
I applaud the fact that as a Non-Custodial parent, you are taking care of your child(rens) financial needs. I agree that child support is to support the child(ren). Please also understand that support includes rent, utilities, food, gas in the car getting them to and from school, activities, doctors, doctor visit co-pays etc.
If your child(ren) is going without the things he/she needs despite your payment of child support then I would definitely find this to be concerning and try to take action. If your paying your child support opens up "her" money to spend on herself then that's great for her!
My X is re-married and a stay home mom with several kids by her new husband. She drives a mercedes and lives in a half million dollar home. I continue to pay child support. The money I give her easily takes care of any needs/wants my child has and I am an active parent who spends considerable more money and time with my son above child support and visitation.
My X still complains that she wants more money. I tell her to get a damn job!
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:laugh: The poster of this message DIDN"T write it! This is an OLD joke email meant to make people laugh. I would hope all of us here on MFP are smart enough to realize that.:laugh:
No, I actually wrote it. All by myself. I smart like that.
Yeah, so smart, what with all of your grammatical errors. I've seen this before, you didn't write it.0 -
Sucky situation. But why are you offended by the OP who is clearly not in your wife's cushy situation?As a father who has always paid child support to an x wife who spends the $$ on herself I find this to be in poor taste. It is really sad when people feel they should be supported by someone else. Child support is to support the child, not party with friends.
I applaud the fact that as a Non-Custodial parent, you are taking care of your child(rens) financial needs. I agree that child support is to support the child(ren). Please also understand that support includes rent, utilities, food, gas in the car getting them to and from school, activities, doctors, doctor visit co-pays etc.
If your child(ren) is going without the things he/she needs despite your payment of child support then I would definitely find this to be concerning and try to take action. If your paying your child support opens up "her" money to spend on herself then that's great for her!
My X is re-married and a stay home mom with several kids by her new husband. She drives a mercedes and lives in a half million dollar home. I continue to pay child support. The money I give her easily takes care of any needs/wants my child has and I am an active parent who spends considerable more money and time with my son above child support and visitation.
My X still complains that she wants more money. I tell her to get a damn job!0 -
If you did actually send this to your ex-husband. **edited by moderator**
If he gets taken to court, he can say this is why he didn't pay child support & they will believe him; they wont take into account that it was a joke.0
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