Nobody has noticed

Fani2003
Fani2003 Posts: 195 Member
edited November 7 in Health and Weight Loss
So I am down 16+ pounds in less than 2 months. I know it has not been that long or that much weight, but I feel drastically different. Better outlook, wearing nicer clothes, happier. Even my hair looks better.

Meanwhile, not one person has said a word. Coworkers, friends, nothing.

In the past, I have lost less weight and had people ask if I had been losing weight. I know I have much more to go, but I would have thought I would have someone notice. Ugh. :(
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  • monkeyfeetx2
    monkeyfeetx2 Posts: 7
    It is hard when people see you on a regular basis to notice. A good friend of mine lost 75 pounds over the course of a year and our other friends didn't really notice!!
  • horsiegall
    horsiegall Posts: 70
    when i started no one noticed till th thirty pound mark i had overgrown the clothes i had , as a heavy person we dress to hide our bodies. Even now I still try to hide myself, its a mind set that is hard to change. keep up the good work it wont be long before your shopping at good will for smaller clothes. i was loosing at a nice rate it was pointless to buy brand new clothes.
  • llpace671
    llpace671 Posts: 3 Member
    I'm so glad you posted this - I am just starting my journey and this is how I feel already. Keep up the great work - 2 months is a relatively short period of time considering the rest of your life - think how you will look and feel in another two months!
  • sbeisel1
    sbeisel1 Posts: 181
    Thats too bad that nobody has spoken up, perhaps they have noticed but dont want to or are afraid to say anything. Pepole can be very self aware and sometimes when a person sees someone losing weight it makes them feel bad about themselves(they may not even be fuly aware) not doing the same and they feel shamed and dont want to say anything nice. Dont worry about what others do or dont think, worry about what you think and feel. Eventually when you keep losing others will have no choice but to comment out of pure admiration! when I started, at 10 lbs not too many noticed, at 15 still some but not too many then 20, a bit more noticed, 25 a few more noticed, I kept kinda hidden in my baggy clothes for the next bit and then at 37lbs lost everyone started commenting, I also started wearing clothes that fit better and ditched the baggy oversized stuff.
  • dls06
    dls06 Posts: 6,774 Member
    As long as you notice. Get yourself a new fitted outfit. :flowerforyou:
  • deadstarsunburn
    deadstarsunburn Posts: 1,337 Member
    Didn't have any notice until about 30 pounds lost and mainly with people who I hadn't seen for a long period of time. But like someone above said as long as you notice =]
  • Pamela259
    Pamela259 Posts: 74 Member
    when i had 40 lb to lose i was losing weight fast no-one was commenting then spring came and i stopped wearing my coat then everyone was like wow how much weight have you lost i had lost 20 lb then.it is nice when people notice i hope they say something soon :0)
  • 1WorkoutAtATime
    1WorkoutAtATime Posts: 719
    the people you see everyday are usually that last to notice, but if you run into someone who hasn't seen you in a while they will notice right away...:flowerforyou:
  • gorgeouss9
    gorgeouss9 Posts: 221
    No one has noticed my progress, either. I guess we need to remember that we're doing this for ourselves and not for others "to notice". Still, it's always nice when someone says SOMETHING nice regarding it. In another way, in the past when I'd lose weight, and people say something (nice), it would actually derail me and make me eat more.. donno why, it just does. So, see it as a blessing. :flowerforyou: And, you look awesome!! Keep doing what you're doing.. for you :heart:
  • caramkoala
    caramkoala Posts: 303 Member
    If they are not noticing now, It'll just make their reaction that much better when they finally do!

    remember you are doing this for you, not them!

    (I am one of those people that doesn't say anything even when i notice, cause I don't like it when people notice mine!)
  • patheticgit
    patheticgit Posts: 31
    Screw them.
    You're doing it for you.
    But keep going and very well done indeed.
    Bravo I say, Bravo!!
  • beckipercy
    beckipercy Posts: 160 Member
    I felt the same for a good while. Not one person (apart from my mum, who is legally obliged to do so!) had said a word, until one day my boss told me how good I looked and a couple of people said "we didn't really want to say anything in case you got offended!"
  • klmnumbers
    klmnumbers Posts: 213 Member
    It'll come. I've lost just over 20 and no one said a word until this week.
  • Hellbent_Heidi
    Hellbent_Heidi Posts: 3,669 Member
    Often people HAVE noticed but are afraid to comment, because they're worried it might come across as rude or inappropriate...especially in the workplace when it comes to vocalizing something about your body.

    I work in a really large office (over 250 people), and one of the HR girls asked me the other day how much I lost, and said a couple of people have made comments that they've noticed I lost a lot., and thought I looked good. I've had a few awkward compliments from some people too...who were clearly trying to word it correctly so as not to offend!

    Anyway..my point is that they probably HAVE noticed, so don't take it personally that they aren't commenting yet.
  • Silverstar46
    Silverstar46 Posts: 187 Member
    I have lost 31lbs and no one has noticed on me either. I can barely tell except in my face it no longer looks like I'm growing an extra set of cheeks. THANK GOD. lol

    A lot of people say it takes 30-50lbs before people will comment and then when they do, be prepared for, "did you do something to your hair?" rather than "Did you lose weight?"

    As long as you continue to lose, forget others. This is for YOU. As long as you know what you're doing, feel proud and be happy!
  • brianblinn
    brianblinn Posts: 70 Member
    I've noticied & you look wonderful. Keep up the awesome work. We're all proud of you. :)
  • cygnetpro
    cygnetpro Posts: 419 Member
    I once had a friend who lost 60 lbs and none of us noticed. I felt awful! Sometimes we lose it in less obvious ways (her face, which was the most visible, really hadn't changed that much, and her clothes hid the rest).

    Also, people may be uncomfortable asking, since by asking it implies that you maybe needed to lose weight in the first place.
  • Articeluvsmemphis
    Articeluvsmemphis Posts: 1,987 Member
    That's weird, because the only people who do notice are the people who are around you all the time. So someone younger will care before an older person. For example, ALL the kids at my church comment on me losing weight, and will ask me questions out loud, they're bold, and I don't mind. While the older people notice but rarely EVER say anything. I know they know because my cousin said this "my dad was right, you did lose a lot of weight" but he's never told me that himself. regardless, weight loss is for you, don't worry or look for compliments, you may not get them.
  • AdAstra47
    AdAstra47 Posts: 823 Member
    How tall are you, and how big were you to start? I didn't really start getting any notice until I had lost over 40 lb. But then again, I'm tall and was over 300 to start. And I continued wearing my old clothes for too long, too, so under the bagginess no one could see the difference. Wasn't until I dug some smaller sizes out of the back of my closet that people started to notice I was getting thinner.
  • mlwatts2
    mlwatts2 Posts: 244 Member
    Have to remember who you are doing this for...YOU!!!! The praise from others feels good but putting on jeans several sizes smaller is better than any compliment someone could pay me!! Keep it up they WILL notice :) Good Luck!!!
  • PinkEarthMama
    PinkEarthMama Posts: 987 Member
    It's hard feeling like no one noticed. Truth be told, though, it is less apparent to people you see every day. YOU notice because a lot of the changes are how you FEEL - you FEEL better, you KNOW the change is there, it is obvious to you because it is your body.

    Be proud of your progress, and keep it up. Eventually people WILL notice.

    ( And no one noticed when I put on THIRTY POUNDS - it just kinda snuck up on me and was there one day! )
  • vim_n_vigor
    vim_n_vigor Posts: 4,089 Member
    Just because they didn't say something, doesn't mean they haven't noticed!
  • patheticgit
    patheticgit Posts: 31
    And to be fair thats why were all here to look after you and make sure you keep going. Don't worry about other people sometimes when your doing well they can try to tempt you.
    So if the've said nothing think of it as a quiet victory.
    And screw them.

    Brilliant news, inspiring and keep going. My weights up and downm like a bloomoin yo yo!!!
    Keep going onwards with your downward weight and succeed!!!
  • jenlarz
    jenlarz Posts: 813 Member
    When I lose-or gain-I do it in proportion. If you are like that I think its much harder to tell b/c you're losing a little bit from everywhere, not a significant loss in 1 area
  • dlaplume2
    dlaplume2 Posts: 1,658 Member
    Hang in there. They will notice, but it's different on everybody. I didn't have anyone say anything unitl about 5 months in and I was down 30lbs. I don't know if they were just holding back to be sure, or if because the weather started getting warmer I was wearing less clothes, so you could see it more.

    It will happen.
  • Karaya41
    Karaya41 Posts: 15
    My dear friend, Do not feel discouraged because of this I understand it is very sad that after all the hard work and the effort you have been put to your goal that no one has even acknowledge the fact you have nicer clothes! but you know like the others here say the most important person that has to know and has to notice is YOU and as long you know you are rocking this and that you feel and look great imagine in two more months!!...
    Make a promise to you that when you hit 20lbs less you are going to pamper yourself..go do girly stuff and get dollied up...that is a gift From YOU to the most important player: YOU..
    People will notice no doubt and sooner than you think someone will come to you and ask you "what is your secret" :happy:
    No worries dearest and Keep it UP !!!! you doing GREAT!
  • smiles4support
    smiles4support Posts: 73
    I've lost around 20ish, but it's more noticeable in the inches as far as clothes and my husband HAS NEVER said a word until recently. That hurt, sure BUT I AM DOING THIS FOR ME NOW & NOT FOR EVERYONE else! GOOD LUCK on your goals u will get there!
  • mroger801
    mroger801 Posts: 91
    People noticed my weight loss in my face because it was one of the first places I lost. What I've noticed is that people say something either when I wear older clothes that are noticeably too big or new clothes that are appropriately fitting. Don't let this get you discouraged because it could be that next pound or two that makes people start noticing. And if nothing else, you're doing this for yourself first! Way to go!
  • CLotfy
    CLotfy Posts: 31
    I'm down about 13lbs since November. The only person who has noticed is my husband...and he really only just said so the other day while we were in bed together. I think clothes hide a lot...and if you haven't bought new clothes for yourself yet then your awesomeness is hiding behind baggy clothes. Does anyone know you're actively trying to lose weight? My best friend and I are two very different sizes, we're doing MFP together, and we congratulate each other on every pound lost. I doubt she physically notices that I lost 1.4lbs last week...but just sharing that with someone and hearing "awesome work" helps.
  • teagin2002
    teagin2002 Posts: 1,900 Member
    We want pics!!! we will notice the difference and tell you all you need to hear :flowerforyou:
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