11 Year old needs help

See if a gym by u offers a Kidz Fitness class! I see kids at my gym all the time doing these types of classes. They seem to have a very good time. They work out and make friends at the same time!

Theater and/or dance classes?

How about you and her start walking together? Could be great bonding time and you could phrase it that YOU need a walking partner.

if she likes theater and not cheerleading support her and as far as what she eats, you bring the food in the house, she can either eat what there or not eat at all.

I have heard that the dancing games on the wii are good for kids and get them up and moving without realizing it. I have a friend with a 4 year old that loves to play Just dance and will try to do the dances with us when we play. It is fun for all!

Hi,

Nice to see your concern.

I am afraid I do not have any good advice here. I have been struggling with one of my daughters (now 15) since about the same age. I have tried so many things with her but nothing seems to work. I find it frustrating that she will say to me that she wants to look better, then choose to binge on anything she can get her hands on. At home we NEVER eat takeaway and have a look at my food diary to see the sort of food we eat each day. We have a very clean diet with the occasional treat.


Similar to your daughter, she lost 3 grandparents in a short period of time and it has bee tough on all of us. I have had her in therapy but she does not use any of the strategies suggested to her. She actually said to me she wishes she could just take a pill to lose weight. When I do get her to actually train with me she loves it and the way it makes her feel but she just cannot seem to motivate herself. I try to get her to train with me whenever I can. but our schedules don't always work.

A classic example of Lydia is netball last year. She assumed she would just make the team without turning up to any training. My husband and I both told her to go to training but she would not listen. She ended up in tears because she did not make the team and instead of learning from it she decided they just did not like her.

As for your daughter, I hope you have better luck than me. I have tried PT's, dieticians, naturopaths and therapists. All I can say is I have tried my best and ultimately, Lydia will be responsible for whatever happens to her.

Interestingly, my eldest daughter loves to run, eats right instictively and generally looks after herself. Lydia gets frustrated by the fact Lauren is in better shape than her but does not see the hard work put in. Both have had the same upbringing so maybe it is hard to battle nature.

Donna

The only thing I would suggest,is what ever you do pls make it FUN for her!! My child (ten years old) is also on ADHD meds and it completely kills the appetite, so I'm having the reverse problem.
I agree with the other suggestion, most gyms now-a-days offer kid membership, maybe this could be a family goal (everyone works out together). My child also swims...this not only helps with weight-lost, but with taming some ADHD actions (a good way to get out energy!!)
My heart goes out to you, I pray that you find support and something that works for your child and your family.

Ceabelle

Since she's into theatre, maybe try getting her into dance as well? The two go hand in hand!
Try getting her involved in the cooking. Teach her about healthy eating. Get creative in the kitchen and make healthy food fun and interesting.

Of course, sometimes preteens can be stubborn and just need to learn on their own. You just have to be the good example.

My mom: Eat your beans
Me age 12: I hate beans
Mom: well you can either eat it for dinner now or for break fast tomorrow
beans for dinner it is.

Practice some discipline. Also for her activity level, have you join a sport, rock climbing, karate, dance, larp, quiddicth anything.

hey everyone! My 11 year old daughter is having such a tough year...

She lost 2 Great Grandmothers over a period of 6 months and had her ADHD medication changed. she is Theater kid NOT a sport kid AT ALL... Cheerleading was the best we could get from her. She has flat feet and is overweight, although not by that much. She seems to be stalled in the height area and I see her watching the other girls her age grow taller and thinner.

My daugher is about 20 lbs overweight. She also has only one friend who is most definintely obese.

I worry constantly about her and dont know where to begin to help her without screwing with her head. Any ideas on how to get her off her butt and moving? she is very solitary and sedintary...and quite happy that way.

She also eats like cr*p... and has since birth (she was a preemie and has always had an aversion to textures) so she does not eat any fruits or veggies AT ALL (except for French Fries)

this child is so beautiful (literally has the face of a model) and can sing like an angel, I just worry that her weight will become more of an issue as she gets older adn I want her to be healthy!

any suggestions would be great

I fight this same battle with my soon to be 11 year old son and I believe the ADHD medicine, as well as hitting that "pre teen" phase leads to the solitary tendencies. I give him an hour every day when he gets home from school to do or be anywhere he wants-but after dinner there is no tv, no video games-we do something as a family..centered around being healthy. When the weather permits we take our bikes to the park, long hikes on week-ends, etc. In the winter we do Wii fit games-even exercises videos-he loves his 1 lb. hand weights! ha ha

My son is a horrible eater and I have to own the fact I let him be that way. I will keep his favorite foods-but they are treats, not an every day item. He wants chocolate chip cookies after his shower at night...he only gets them after eating a healthy dinner.

Good luck:)

I think getting kids moving is the most important aspect, look at WII fit, or Xbox Kinect's Just dance is a great way to get kids to move at home. (Exercising while not really thinking about it.) Look to your local gym, Zumbatomic is a kids/youth Zumba class that a gym my offer in your area.
Getting kids to eat fruits and vegetables is always about setting the right example. If you only eat fruits and veggies then your kids are likely to follow, if there is not junk food in the house its impossible for kids to eat it. Make sure that your daughter understands that French Fries are NOT vegetables. Talk to her about what food is explain what protein, carbohydrates and fats are and how we use them to make energy. I have found that when you explain the process of food to kids they really get excited to choose things that gives them more energy than less.
And finally prepubescent girls physiologically will add some weight before going though puberty, and last a few years after while the body adjust to the hormone changes always focus on positive body images, healthy food choices and exercise and never look at "weight scale"

I think getting kids moving is the most important aspect, look at WII fit, or Xbox Kinect's Just dance is a great way to get kids to move at home. (Exercising while not really thinking about it.) Look to your local gym, Zumbatomic is a kids/youth Zumba class that a gym my offer in your area.
Getting kids to eat fruits and vegetables is always about setting the right example. If you only eat fruits and veggies then your kids are likely to follow, if there is not junk food in the house its impossible for kids to eat it. Make sure that your daughter understands that French Fries are NOT vegetables. Talk to her about what food is explain what protein, carbohydrates and fats are and how we use them to make energy. I have found that when you explain the process of food to kids they really get excited to choose things that gives them more energy than less.

Lol I wrote my response at the same time!! sorry.

great minds think a like

Take her to a dietician.

Honestly, you are the parent. If the options for food were not snacks then she won't eat them. My kids are close to the same age, they work out with me. They do my videos, run. Tony Horton has a series just for kids. What kid turns down a bike ride or a trip to the park? I view my example for my kids as what will lead them to a path of healthy eating. I have one that is a total vegetarian, it's his choice, we don't eat vegetarian but I always have the option for him available so that he can make his own healthy food choices. Instead of cookie, we pack applesauce and fruit in lunches. Instead of juice, we have water. It's all about what's available to them IMO.

Sounds to me like she just needs some help in education, there are websites that teach kids too if she likes being on the right channel. Also use fitness as a reward - if she does X she gets to do X. My kids and I play Just Dance often, we also have Wii Active and Wii Fit.

if she likes theater and not cheerleading support her and as far as what she eats, you bring the food in the house, she can either eat what there or not eat at all.

^what this guy says!