How to not cry when getting your *kitten* chewed??

Usually you focus on what they're saying, not how they're saying it. Then you repeat it back to them. Example:

"I can't believe you didn't put the toilet paper back on the &#*$ing toilet paper roll AGAIN!"

"So what you're saying is, it would make you happy if I put the toilet paper on the toilet paper roll proactively, rather than wait for you to do it yourself."

Usually it calms them down. The only time I cry is when I know I've messed up, and during those times, you just get it out in the bathroom on the 5th floor or in the Starbucks bathroom next door.

I sing songs to myself in my head.
Well, actually I change the words to something that makes fun of them in my head.
(e.g. "twinkle twinkle little star, what an annoying twit you are." - although mine are usually much more colorful in lyrics, but you get the point) When you find yourself starting to smile or giggle, bite your lower lip.
Also, never lose eye contact. It lets them know you're listening...and that you aren't intimidated.

I like the end part where they ask if you have any questions or comments. I just let loose a really big grin and say, "Nope!" and walk out. It kinda frustrates them.

I find naturally being a bit** prevents people from chewing your a** off as they are afraid of having theirs handed to them.

Honestly, my tear ducts are hardwired to every emotion. I've learned that tears are apart of my life, but breathing and trying to find the message in the rant? Probably the best thing you can do.
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If it makes you feel better, I know plenty of manly men that tear up when there is a lot of emotion.

Omg i have the same problem! And i can't stand it. Luckily i have a nice boss now who never makes me cry, but would love to be able to control this too.

great advice

Wow, is sure need help with this one two...we need some suggestions from emotional females, not logical men!!

::facepalm::

I'm the most emotional man you'll ever meet in your life. However my emotions don't dictate my gender OR my behavior! Jeez! And they call MEN sexist...

Any suggestions? I hate looking like a weak little girl when I get upset and cry when I get chewed out. I need to be strong and take it like a man! Lol, any suggestions???

This doesn't necessarily work while in the middle of getting chewed out, but find a hobby that gives you personal power (and a way to vent). Doing something that gives you personal power helps boost your self-esteem and makes it easier to deal with people *****ing you out.

If you can, you can also get yourself into a position within the company that makes you fire-proof (or at least fire-resistant), or realizing that you are more valuable to the company than you may have previously given yourself credit for. Doing that brings down the stakes of messing up (messing up, then, likely won't cost you your job), making those meetings more bearable, since you know you'll still have a job when you walk out.

During the meeting? Well, as the old British war posters used to say, "Keep calm and carry on."

why is anbody allowing anyone to shout at them either in the workplace or in their personal lives?

Man up the lot of you.

just sayin'

Oftentimes, the person doing the shouting is also the same person that can fire you. In this economy, a hell-hole of a job is better than no job at all, which means putting up with the jerks. In a company that doesn't value its employees, or knows just how replaceable a given employee is, standing up to a boss, even a bully, can mean not having a job. For a lot of people, losing a job means financial ruin. When the stakes are that high, people don't feel they have a choice but to allow themselves to be doormats. Is it right? No, but it's life.

Also, some of us cry as a reaction to certain stressors, and even "manning up" still results in water works, regardless of how hard we work to suppress them, because it's more a physical/physiological reaction than anything else.

Wow, is sure need help with this one two...we need some suggestions from emotional females, not logical men!!

Wow, seriously? I'm actually quite offended that you just categorized all females as emotional vs men as logical. I'm sorry for you if that is your life, b/c I can assure you that I am QUITE logical.

Wow, is sure need help with this one two...we need some suggestions from emotional females, not logical men!!

Wow, seriously? I'm actually quite offended that you just categorized all females as emotional vs men as logical. I'm sorry for you if that is your life, b/c I can assure you that I am QUITE logical.

indeed.