Am I fat?

I have always been curvy...
but when my sister suggested that I get gastric bypass surgery....
I saw that things needed to change

I still view my self as fat.

Wow! Really? I wish I was half as fat as you

Weighing over 300 pounds will get you like that.

I understand what you mean... I don't quite get it too, I've never had a huge image disorder... but I was insecure. I have some friends that are easily 20 pounds lighter and even taller and they view themselves as "fat" and keep talking about losing weight. It irritates me because they are at their goal weight... I love my friend to death, but she depends on the number on the scale, when her boobs are what's causing the problem. Imagine this...5'8" blonde 18 year old, weighing at 130-140...and size D breasts... come on now... FAT?!

I have a friend who suffered with anorexia and bulimia for more than 10 years and for her is was a personal issue which to this day is hard for her to explain. It’s not about judging others or thinking they are fat, it’s more a personal issue of control and in my friends case it was knowing she could be “better” which in her eyes was thinner, but for others it could be an acceptance issue or wanting to be liked. I recon the best thing you can do for your friend it be there to listen, don’t criticize or get defensive, even though you have her best interests at heart, she doesn’t need to feel more alienated.

hmm

You can be a lot worse things than fat. I don't enjoy that people think fat is a negative thing or an insult. BUT, I do consider myself to be fat! I'm not here to get thin, but to get myself back to a point where I feel comfortable and can do more "everyday things" without struggling .:]

i was 178 so no! i dont judge!! ive been there! just cause im down146 doesnt give me the right to criticize others

I was always on the thin side growing up. I didn't know it till I was older and looked back. I never thought about my weight back then. I just accepted my body for what it was. I guess you could say I sorta took it for granted, After 2 kids, I snapped back to a size 4-6 without effort. But the ride was soon to end. I was on anti-depressants for 4 years, and even though I saw the weight coming on, I didn't care! I ignored it. That's part of what those awful pills do- they make you care less (I'll let the professionals explain that better). After a while it hit me that I didn't have much in my closet that fit me anymore. I'd see pics and be shocked at what I looked like! I joked to my Hubby that I had reverse anorexia. I didn't see the girl in the mirror that I saw in pictures. Now when I look at old pics, I kick myself for not doing anything to maintain what I had. BUT, I can't beat myself up forever. I can only move forward, which is exactly what I am doing.

I think I see everyone else pretty much as they are - fat seem fat and skinny look skinny. Doesn't really matter. It's sad when someone gets too thin or too fat, because both are life-threatening, but I don't usually judge other people. I judge myself. I don't know what other people have gone through, I don't now what illnesses they might have or anything else. For all I know, other people have perfectly good and acceptable reasons to look the way they do, so I'm not allowed to judge. But I know me. I know what I'm not doing, what I'm eating, why I eat or don't.. I have all the reasons to be mad at myself. I have mercy for everyone else but me.

Got this from Facebook

I am larger (always has been) than the "National Average"

Had a 34-25-35 figure when I was aged 16-20 but I couldn't see it. Other girls my age of my height and weight looked slim or skinny but I was fat. In my case it was always about my legs - fat, fat, fat. I wanted to physically cut bits off. :noway: I wanted to be better as a person, I wanted to fit in, and I was fixated on the idea that to do that I had to be skinny.

I never saw other people as fat if they weren't *but* if I noticed an "imperfection" in someone else (e.g. a little bit of celulite) I mentally grabbed onto it as a sign that I could be better than that. Rather than it making me feel better about myself it was another tool I used to push myself

Ugh, I hesitated before posting that. It was hard to put that out there for scrutiny. *shudder*

Hesitation or not, I admire your courage in sharing. I understand what you mean about the pills that make you "care less"; it is almost as though they do nothing for that facet of depression. I was clinically depressed for years, but never sought treatment. I saw/knew what was happening to me and I didn't care. I kept doing what I HAD to for other people - working, taking care of the kids, etc., but it was like I was on auto pilot. And if anyone ever suggested I do something for me, I never listened. Always an excuse... no time, too much to do, need to focus on family, or work, or anything but me.

I guess I made it out of the abyss alive, but now I'm not sure what to do with the "light"...

In doesn't matter how much anyone else weighed, I was ALWAYS the fat one.
So in response to your question, no, no you are not fat.

But in response to the logical part of my brain as well, you are NOT fat at all love.
You are also very tall... JEALOUS!

I am recovering from an eating disorder right now. And my lowest weight was 105lbs and i thought i was huge. i was always the biggest [erson in the room... so no other people dont look fat because your mind preceives you asd the fattest person there. even if you clearly arent.