decided I dont want to die

LH,
Congrats on making your first step on your lifestyle change! Best of luck and don't give up!!!

Wow, so sorry to hear about your troubles!

You've made a huge step in the right direction! New habits take weeks to make, so it's one day at a time. Make better choices, move more, and before you know it you're weight begins to melt away.

Good luck to you!

What and awesome decision YOU have made for your life. Let's start a new life right here right now. We can do this! remember good days are to come. Just look at how good this one is! I stated my journey on the first of Feb. I've had some good days, some great days and yes because i'm breathing i have not so good days (i don't like to use the word bad as it is not an inspiring word) So here is to You and to all of us on this great journey to better days! Congratulations!

Good for you making the first step towards getting healthy. And that is awesome that you lost a good amount of weight already. You are on your way to your goal. Keep your head up! :happy:

well good that noone wants to die!

You've committed to making a change. That is HUGE! Stick around, make some friends, and don't give up Just think, you are closer to your goal than you were when you stepped on that scale.

I wish you the best of luck on your journey. You can do it. It's mind over matter. One day at a time. I have struggled with my weight for the past 6 years so I understand your frustration. Keep your head up and if you fall off the wagon, jump right back on.

Welcome to MFP! You CAN do this!

Don't "diet" - make lifestyle changes. You have to live healthy, eat healthy, and think healthy if you want to end up healthy. And you have a long, hard journey ahead of you. But that doesn't mean you can't do it! You've taken the first step, and an 8lb loss is great! Keep it going & good luck!

You sir, can do this. It will be hard, but man, will you feel good when you get their! Remember to celebrate every pound you lose. Look at yourself and say, "I'm doing it!".

Feel free to add me as a friend, I like to encourage!

You are definitely in the right place. There are so many nice, positive people here to encourage you on your journey. You just have to take it a day at a time. We may slip up some days, but just don't give up. I recommend joining one of the message board groups that do weekly weigh ins. I did, and its really helped to keep me accountable. Good luck on your journey.

Way to go, taking the first step!!

Check out Ed's thread for some huge encouragement:
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/478850-updated-omg-i-did-it-32-months-301-lbs-lost-part-2

I'm sure with all the love and support from everyone on MFP you will get there...please add me as a friend if you like, I would love to support you on your journey

Congratulations on taking your first step toward saving your life! I too have tried sooo many different diets and I too have never once had any long term success. Diets are really not for long term success… if they were no one would buy into them as the promoter of the diet wouldn’t be able to advertise “Lose 10lbs in one week!” or whatever other crap slogan they chose.

As previous post mentioned, slow and steady is the race for good overall health. This is going to be a marathon for you longhaul64… not a sprint, but you absolutely can do it! One reason many diets don’t work is they are not sustainable for long term as I have mentioned. Eating healthy isn’t always easy but it should not be dreadful either. If you got to that weight you have instilled in your brain, the same way I did, the strong desire for “good” food. And the more the better! Not healthy food... but good tasting, high fat, high sugar food. If you try to just stop cold turkey and put the brakes 100% on that your body and mind will resist to the high heavens!

I could go on for hours, but to hit my point and let others weigh in I will say ONE thing that has helped me stay disciplined with a healthy diet is having one cheat day each week. I am less likely to reach for an entire bag of chips or sit on the couch to watch The Biggest Loser while I down a 1400 calorie pint of delicious Ben & Jerry’s ice cream if I know I have a day coming where I can indulge.

Do not misinterpret what I am saying. I am NOT saying pick a day to have 10,000 calories! Myfitnesspal helps you to determine how many calories you need a day to sustain your weight. To lose two pounds a week (recommended maximum healthy weight loss) you need a calorie deficiency of 1,000 calories per day. Granted at a higher weight you are likely to see greater loses in the start of your lifestyle change. As side note it is much better to burn off the extra calorieswith any form of excersise as to not attempt to starve yourself as that will actually slow down your progress. So I have one day a week that I will double that calorie intake to help not only satisfy my craving for yumminess but some research shows that it will actually help “reset” your metabolism as your body gets used to your daily caloric intake. I still try to eat 90% good stuff, just a lot more of it and I pick one thing, like my ever so delicious Ben & Jerry’s, and man it taste so much better than it ever did before as I go a whole week of trying to avoid anything with high fructose corn syrup!!

Lastly, the number one thing that has helped me stay focused, on track and disciplined with my diet and exercise is prayer and asked God for help when needed! God loves you brother and so do I!!
Take care and I will be praying for our continued success!

So glad you stopped here @ mfp. You can do this. It won't be fast or easy. But.... this is a great place for support & questions & answers. We are pulling for you! !!!

:flowerforyou: You can do this! I wish you the best on your journey. Believe in yourself.