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  • AutumnsPassage
    AutumnsPassage Posts: 33 Member
    Great topic! For me personally I'm not ready to post any pictures of myself as my wieght has taken an extreme toll on my self-esteem. Currently I avoid mirrors and cameras like the plague, I don't even leave my house anymore because of how ashamed I feel. I'm completely disgusted with myself and don't want anyone to look t me... it's horrible... I've been playing with the idea of taking full body photos once a week to document my progress and possibly sharing them when I'm more confident and closer to my goal weight. Although I'm new I've been reading the forums which have been really inspiring but I'm just not ready to share photos. I'm hoping one day I'll gain the confidense to hold my head high and share my success and even failures.
  • galegetsthin
    galegetsthin Posts: 1,340 Member
    Ok........ for some people it is shyness or fear. For me, that would give me such a vulnerability and panic to let anyone see me like that. I have comparison photos on my computer, I just cannot bring myself to post me next to so many people who seem so physically great to me. I have a severe dysmorphic view of myself and even though I am down to 174, in pictures, I still see me at 340. Sharing the image I see in the mirror would nearly cripple me with anxiety. There is one pic of me about 20 lbs ago, one at 260, and one at 300 on my page, but I cannot make it my profile where it is open for people to judge or possibly hurt me with.
  • Brian001
    Brian001 Posts: 89
    I never once said you had to put your pictures up. I was simply posing a challenge to those who might have been afraid or on the fence about it. For the one who made the comment about seeing women naked, if i wanted to do that i could log onto a porn site much easier. I made a challenge, some agreed some didn't. I understand that there is a difference between negativity and disagreeing and for those that disagreed i'm not calling it negativity. I was pointing out that there was some, not that all that disagreed were in it. Constructive criticism is fine and its going to happen. But for those of you who think im some horn dog looking for the next kick out of my day go right ahead. Just saying, going to these kind of lengths, and constantly posting nothing but positive posts to those who thought my post was helpful, would not have been worth it.
  • Alexstrasza
    Alexstrasza Posts: 619 Member
    This is a ploy to see boobies. Do not do it

    Somehow I doubt that.

    If he really wanted to see boobies there are PLENTY of free porn video sites out there. I know of like 3 of them off the top of my head.


    OP, I think you're awesome for posting that. I for one think it's a true statement. I have always used face pictures (lol I almost typed facial) because I didn't want to show my body. It wasn't until recently I said "screw it!" and put up a full body shot on here and on my facebook.
  • Brian001
    Brian001 Posts: 89
    This is a ploy to see boobies. Do not do it

    Somehow I doubt that.

    If he really wanted to see boobies there are PLENTY of free porn video sites out there. I know of like 3 of them off the top of my head.


    OP, I think you're awesome for posting that. I for one think it's a true statement. I have always used face pictures (lol I almost typed facial) because I didn't want to show my body. It wasn't until recently I said "screw it!" and put up a full body shot on here and on my facebook.

    Thanks so much =D i said it in the post before hand about the porn thing and i guess no one was really thinking that. I just thought it would be a better motivation for people to see before pictures and have that as their push to a harder and more diligent workout.
  • galegetsthin
    galegetsthin Posts: 1,340 Member
    I never once said you had to put your pictures up. I was simply posing a challenge to those who might have been afraid or on the fence about it. For the one who made the comment about seeing women naked, if i wanted to do that i could log onto a porn site much easier. I made a challenge, some agreed some didn't. I understand that there is a difference between negativity and disagreeing and for those that disagreed i'm not calling it negativity. I was pointing out that there was some, not that all that disagreed were in it. Constructive criticism is fine and its going to happen. But for those of you who think im some horn dog looking for the next kick out of my day go right ahead. Just saying, going to these kind of lengths, and constantly posting nothing but positive posts to those who thought my post was helpful, would not have been worth it.


    I thank you for it, really. It is a truth I need to hear. I don't see myself realistically, and perhaps being so exposed (not nekkid) emotionally could, through evaluations of my peers, help me see what I know I should see and not what I currently do.
  • HorrorChix89
    HorrorChix89 Posts: 1,229 Member
    I honestly don't think any of the "You just want nudes" are serious posts. 85% of posts on this forum are made just to get a reaction or a good laugh. I don't take anyone on the internet seriously
  • galegetsthin
    galegetsthin Posts: 1,340 Member
    I honestly don't think any of the "You just want nudes" are serious posts. 85% of posts on this forum are made just to get a reaction or a good laugh. I don't take anyone on the internet seriously



    But I was really hoping for the camsite!!!!!! You weren't being serious, were you? ;)
  • speedyf
    speedyf Posts: 1,571 Member
    Thanks for the sincere and kind post OP.

    I've been on this site for over 3 years. There's always going to be SOMEONE who finds something offensive or negative, even if it's a kind gesture.

    ^this. Nothing wrong about your post. I personally have pics on my computer, but those are for my eyes only.

    I do have other pics on my profile with full body pic. Thanks for you honesty. I'll think about this... maybe I'll put a full body pic as my main profile pic.
  • determinedbutlazy
    determinedbutlazy Posts: 1,941 Member
    I think men are more keen to have "from the waist up" shots because they build definition in their chests and abdominal areas and can show it off.
    If I showed off my chest and abdominal area I would be showing off the two bits of my body I hate the most, even after months of dedicated dieting and exercise.
    So, no thanks, I'll stick to my back shot.
    A good sweat stain is better than any other picture I have on my profile :)
  • HorrorChix89
    HorrorChix89 Posts: 1,229 Member
    I honestly don't think any of the "You just want nudes" are serious posts. 85% of posts on this forum are made just to get a reaction or a good laugh. I don't take anyone on the internet seriously



    But I was really hoping for the camsite!!!!!! You weren't being serious, were you? ;)
    Oh I am on a cam site lol. I do shows one week out of every month. Just not so sure people would actually be interested in seeing "that" side of me :blushing:
  • snookumss
    snookumss Posts: 1,451 Member
    Wow. People over-reacted to a well-meaning post. :)
  • tjradd73
    tjradd73 Posts: 3,495 Member
    I think people have diff photos for diff reasons...some like head shots cuz they are embarrassed by their body, some like head shots cuz they think they have great eyes or a great smile! some wanna post a headshot so their MFPals can "see them face to face" (more personal), and some post a headshot cuz that's what they have on their computers!

    On the other hand.. women and men both tend to have very obscured views of their own body...whether anorexic or obese...that's why they are here!!! I say post what you are comfy with...and once you are more comfy with your own body then by all means...show off your progress!!! It was well earned and the positive comments will be well deserved!!:bigsmile:
  • godricshollow
    godricshollow Posts: 274 Member
    There was a post similar to this made by a girl and nobody seemed to be offended over it. But I don't know, I say live and let live. I don't care if someone has nothing but head shots, I don't care if someone has nothing but pictures of their abs because at the end of the day, it's just a picture and I am here to become healthy and make friendhsips, not worry about what someone has in their little square pixel. :flowerforyou:
  • psiren28
    psiren28 Posts: 530 Member
    I hope the world one day realizes the difference between an offensive post and one simply meant out of a kind gesture.

    I hope the world one day realizes the difference between negativity and disagreeing with someone.

    ^^^^ This

    It's not negativity, some people (myself included) think its a bizarre conclusion to come to. As I said previously, I understand that you (OP) meant well in your post. I wasn't offended, I just found it a strange way to interpret a head shot.
    Faces are how we recognise people so faces are what most people show on a profile pic.
    I haven't seen much negativity on this thread, just people agreeing or disagreeing with the idea :/
  • JodieLBradbury
    JodieLBradbury Posts: 38 Member
    Not sure how much further this post is going to go but despite the fact that there is so much negativity i still want this to continue. I never once said it was just because people were not happy with their bodies so thats why they dont have body pics. I said this was one of the reasons, and the reason for why i made this post. If your not happy with it i understand, i needed to get my point across and it was made. I wanted to be a help but for some people it was offensive. And for those of you who were, then this post was not for you and your input on the subject is fine, but also not needed. There are those out there who have this going for them and as you can see many were helped by this subject. I hope the world one day realizes the difference between an offensive post and one simply meant out of a kind gesture.

    I hope the world one day realises the difference between your and you're.

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