Here is what a competitive Bikini model winner looks like

I appreciate you saying this but you can't really have an opinion on what being in my arms feels like compared to what someone else who has more fat... unless you've been romantically involved with someone like that.

I could say "I can't imagine being held by a fat person, all that fat rolling around me and that fat squishing against me as I held her - thats revolting". See what i'm getting at?

Like you say tho, in terms of personal preference, absolutely - there isn't a right answer. All I ask is people think a little more about the feelings of others and what they'd like commented against them and people who are similar. I'd rightly get kicked off the site if I mean about people who are holding excess fat because its simply rude and not required.

Thank you for taking the time to post tho in response to mine without turning it into a slanging match :drinker:

But I have been involved with a man who was in about the same shape you are. Even though it is my own insecurities, I felt this way. I felt like the ugly duckling that he was taking pity on. I was told as much by my parents and "friends" too. Unfortunately he was not the best example to go by. He became controlling of what I ate and physically forced me to throw up when I ate something he deemed innapropriate. I am the one that broke it off..... because I didnt feel like I "fit" with him. I may not feel that way one day in the future when I don't hate myself so much, I hope I CAN get there. Again, I was not trying to be hurtful in any way. I remember a particular hurt that may or may not ever mend.

OMG, sweetie. Now THAT mentality is AWFUL! I'm sorry you had to endure that. No one should. If someone wants to eat right and get healthy (or beyod, etc) they should not force others to go along with them. That is not right at all.

What does one have to do in order to get legs like that?? What is the routine she follows?

Only said to the haters...I don't have that type of determination or dedication, good for her. Wish I did though.

This wasn't a post to say this is what you should look like. This was to praise someone who worked hard and was dedicated to her sport. Then the haters come out, it has nothing to do with you. Change the channel if it offends you.

That didnt offend me. This was a tangent conversation, I know that I shouldnt look like that. (because I dont feel it is right for me) If you will, please look at my initial post. I said that while I do not strive to look like that, I am completely enamored by her dedication to the sport she has chosen. And really, yeah, she looks badass! She has to have SO much determination and dedication to be that successful!

Only said to the haters...I don't have that type of determination or dedication, good for her. Wish I did though.

my only beef with all of this is the damned implants. I'm really disappointed that the fitness community would be all praising what we can accomplish by the sweat of our own brow, except ladies have to get the boobs.

I think it's a fitness fail.

Not the girl- obviously she worked hard.

But the scene.

Maybe i'm wrong to think that when we are talking about body builders and fitness, we are talking about people who did it naturally? Or are we looking at people who took steroids, got lypo, implants, and that's how they got there?

I am pro lifting for women, btw. I'm actually REALLY into it.

I'm just totally disappointed that even in this world of praising health and the great accomplishments of mankind, we are still apparently requiring/expecting/or just plain normalizing the idea that for a strong fit woman to be sexy, she has to have fake boobs.

I'm with you. I'm not against fake boobs and what not, but for me personally, I'm keeping mine. This is a pic from my 1st ever competition, so please don't judge so harshly, but it is all natural me.

my only beef with all of this is the damned implants. I'm really disappointed that the fitness community would be all praising what we can accomplish by the sweat of our own brow, except ladies have to get the boobs.

I think it's a fitness fail.

Not the girl- obviously she worked hard.

But the scene.

Maybe i'm wrong to think that when we are talking about body builders and fitness, we are talking about people who did it naturally? Or are we looking at people who took steroids, got lypo, implants, and that's how they got there?

I am pro lifting for women, btw. I'm actually REALLY into it.

I'm just totally disappointed that even in this world of praising health and the great accomplishments of mankind, we are still apparently requiring/expecting/or just plain normalizing the idea that for a strong fit woman to be sexy, she has to have fake boobs.

I'm with you. I'm not against fake boobs and what not, but for me personally, I'm keeping mine. This is a pic from my 1st ever competition, so please don't judge so harshly, but it is all natural me.

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judge harshly????

My harshest comment is: HUBBA HUBBA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thank you!
You are a goddess and give me hope!

I think you look fantastic and you have boobies!!!!!!!!!!

you put a big smile on my face and my girls thank you for giving them hope that they will survive my mission to have a six pack!

xoxoxox

my only beef with all of this is the damned implants. I'm really disappointed that the fitness community would be all praising what we can accomplish by the sweat of our own brow, except ladies have to get the boobs.

I think it's a fitness fail.

Not the girl- obviously she worked hard.

But the scene.

Maybe i'm wrong to think that when we are talking about body builders and fitness, we are talking about people who did it naturally? Or are we looking at people who took steroids, got lypo, implants, and that's how they got there?

I am pro lifting for women, btw. I'm actually REALLY into it.

I'm just totally disappointed that even in this world of praising health and the great accomplishments of mankind, we are still apparently requiring/expecting/or just plain normalizing the idea that for a strong fit woman to be sexy, she has to have fake boobs.

I'm with you. I'm not against fake boobs and what not, but for me personally, I'm keeping mine. This is a pic from my 1st ever competition, so please don't judge so harshly, but it is all natural me.

my only beef with all of this is the damned implants. I'm really disappointed that the fitness community would be all praising what we can accomplish by the sweat of our own brow, except ladies have to get the boobs.

I think it's a fitness fail.

Not the girl- obviously she worked hard.

But the scene.



UM. Wow. I can only dream of looking like that. Amazing.
Maybe i'm wrong to think that when we are talking about body builders and fitness, we are talking about people who did it naturally? Or are we looking at people who took steroids, got lypo, implants, and that's how they got there?

I am pro lifting for women, btw. I'm actually REALLY into it.

I'm just totally disappointed that even in this world of praising health and the great accomplishments of mankind, we are still apparently requiring/expecting/or just plain normalizing the idea that for a strong fit woman to be sexy, she has to have fake boobs.

I'm with you. I'm not against fake boobs and what not, but for me personally, I'm keeping mine. This is a pic from my 1st ever competition, so please don't judge so harshly, but it is all natural me.