Ladies? Does Size Matter?

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  • bellevie23
    bellevie23 Posts: 208 Member
    1. Would you date/marry a guy who weighed less than you? What would be the biggest discrepancy in size you would go/allow?

    Although we are divorcing, my husband is 170 right now 9% body fat (trying to get to 7%) at 5'10, I am 190 (2 months post partum) with a lot more body fat %, I am 5'8. I would not date/marry a guy that was skin and bones simply because I dont find that attractive. I don't mind if a guy weighs less than me, I wouldnt prefer it, but someone has to have the babies, I drew the short straw. I dont prefer a guy who has no 'meat' on the flip side, I am a little more considerate of dating someone who is heavier, but that to, in moderation. If there is one thing I realized being active duty army was looks are deceiving. You would see some 300 lb guy that looked 'fat' be able to out do a 180 lb guy who looked ripped repeatedly. I look for that, if someone can't help be a protector for my family, my kids, I find fault in that. "Act the part, not look the part" so to speak. :)

    2. Would you date/marry a guy who was shorter than you? What would be the biggest discrepancy in height you would go/allow?
    Ehhhh...I haven't used it as a no-go, I tried once, didn't feel right with him, my ex was 5'7-5'8 so we were the same height, but I mean it wasnt like I didnt think about it, but no one is perfect, if someone finds their 'perfect to the T' person out there, they should be lucky, because to me you take the good qualities with the bad. If you love brown eyes and tall guys and end up with a brown eyed short guy, so be it LOL. I don't think I would go any less than a couple inches shorter than me, but considering I dont make a point to look for shorter guys, I doubt I will ever end up with one, but you never know. On the flip side I dont want some 6'7 dude either lol. Goes both ways for me.
  • Kristy0728
    Kristy0728 Posts: 63
    1. My husband weighed less than me for a long time. Didnt change anything... I have only weighed less than him the last couple of years.

    2. I am only 5'5, I could not date someone shorter than me... but hubby is only 5'8 - not considered tall for a man.
  • Lifting_chick
    Lifting_chick Posts: 275 Member
    No to both questions......I just can't be with a man that I feel like I need to protect him lol
  • TeutonicKnight
    TeutonicKnight Posts: 367 Member
    FOR THE RECORD:

    I did go on a date with a volleyball player in college who was 6'6" and I was 5'2" (still growing when I was 18) at the time. She was the first girl I made out with and I knew then I was WAY outta my league! She bruised my hips and we didn't even have sex! I felt like a rag doll and let's just say we only made out one other time after that. :P
  • Bikini27
    Bikini27 Posts: 1,290 Member
    What a world we'd live in if the actual quality of a person mattered more than their height, weight, and other social pressures.

    Quality, no. But attraction plays a huge role in a relationship.
  • trud72
    trud72 Posts: 1,912 Member
    1.totally i have married
    2.he is the same height as me but i wear heals and hes not! so yep! :blushing:

    love is love! it's on the inside dude!
  • La_Amazona
    La_Amazona Posts: 4,855 Member
    1) Yes I would... I suppose. I don't ask guys what they weigh when I'm dating them. The last guy I dated apparently was 20-30 lbs more, 6'. The new guy I'm dating now is actually lighter than me :grumble: about 10lbs and he's 6'2. He's a lean one!! It doesn't bother me that much.. now I probably wouldn't date a guy that weighed 50lbs less than me.

    2) I'm a tall girl at 5'9. I prefer guys that are at least 6ft that way I can wear heels comfortably w/o feeling like a giant. I did date a guy that was around 5'6 or so and though I was into him, I wasn't into his height.
  • La_Amazona
    La_Amazona Posts: 4,855 Member
    FOR THE RECORD:

    I did go on a date with a volleyball player in college who was 6'6" and I was 5'2" (still growing when I was 18) at the time. She was the first girl I made out with and I knew then I was WAY outta my league! She bruised my hips and we didn't even have sex! I felt like a rag doll and let's just say we only made out one other time after that. :P

    Yowzas!! Bruised hips huh? I've had bruised shoulders but not my hips lol.
  • amyy902
    amyy902 Posts: 290 Member
    1. no because he'd be like 90lbs and thats just not normal!
    2. no because i want to be able to wear heels and not make him feel like a shorty pie.
  • Faintgreeneyes
    Faintgreeneyes Posts: 729 Member
    1. Would you date/marry a guy who weighed less than you? What would be the biggest discrepancy in size you would go/allow?

    I did date guys who weighed less than I did, it bothered me, but not enough to not date them- just wouldn't let them pick me up! As far as discrepancy in size-I wouldn't want them to weigh any less than I do now.

    2. Would you date/marry a guy who was shorter than you? What would be the biggest discrepancy in height you would go/allow?

    Here is the thing about shortness- I am on the taller side (5'7) I didn't have an issue dating shorter guys, as long as they were confident. I have found that the men I have been around that are shorter, always make a big deal about my height, and that is a turn off. I don't want to be with someone whose not confident in themselves. I also tend to be attracted to larger, taller men... around 6'5 or so :)
  • darylinny
    darylinny Posts: 146
    Weight was never an issue for me, if they had a great personality, treated me well and made me laugh...height however is another story!! I'm a height-ist so sue me! Standing 5' 11" (and enjoy wearing 4" platforms every now and then) I prefer to look up at my man.
  • dumbcowboyhat
    dumbcowboyhat Posts: 10 Member
    Neither of these things matter to me. Skinny guys, chubby guys, short guys, tall guys... they can all be sexy!
  • ThePhoenixRose
    ThePhoenixRose Posts: 1,978 Member
    Doesn't matter to me. Neither height nor weight. I'm 6' tall and i've dated guys from 5'4 to 6'5. We're all the same height laying down! :wink: I'm married to a guy who is the exact same height as me. I've weighed more than a few guys i've dated too. it really doesn't matter.
  • havingitall
    havingitall Posts: 3,728 Member
    I am 5' 10" and so is my husband. I wear flats all the time but I am fine with it. My ex- husband was 6'2"...I still wore flats.

    I weigh more than my husband ....but he still loves me and thinks I'm sexy.....

    It's not the size...it's the person.... as I always say...packaging doesn't matter, it's the gift inside
  • EmilyMarieMo
    EmilyMarieMo Posts: 67 Member
    My husband is 5'8. I'm 5'3. Since I am on the short side already, I think I would probably not want the guy to be any less than 5'6-5'5 at the very shortest. I never had issues with guys being shorter than me growing up, but now I do think I would maybe have an issue having to look down to a man.

    As far as weight goes, I was more than 50 lbs bigger than my hubs when we married but only maybe 25-30 lbs bigger when we met. Right now I am probably about 65 lbs bigger than him, but my goal is to get to the same size or smaller than him. It doesn't bother me that he's smaller than me, and it doesn't bother him that I'm bigger than him.... but if I were to just kept getting fatter and fatter, then he would start to have issues with my weight, and I wouldn't blame him. I don't want him to become some big fat guy, but I don't mind him having some love handles!

    I WANT to look better for him privately and publicly. He's not a super thin (just an average size man about size 33' waist), so we don't too stange with each other as a couple as far as body size goes.
  • pornstarzombie
    pornstarzombie Posts: 297
    1) I've dated men that weighed less than me, and I'm okay with it as long as he's not a twig I feel like I'm going to break.

    2) I am 6'. I just CANNOT date someone shorter than me. I can date at my height, I will let maybe an inch slide if you're a great guy, but otherwise...I just can't. And I love wearing heels. Hiiigggh heels.
  • BriskaPacojame
    BriskaPacojame Posts: 195 Member
    1. Ex-husband now current boyfriend (lol, we love each other) when we first got together I was probably 40 pounds heavier than him, now it's about 100 (yikes). Even when I get to my goal weight I'll still be like 25 pounds heavier. But he loves me either way, and the feeling is mutual.

    2. He's my height too (between 5'7" and 5'8"). Well wait, sometimes he's half an inch taller, some days I'm taller (depending on gravity that day ;) lol).
  • lmoore9107
    lmoore9107 Posts: 38 Member
    1. Would you date/marry a guy who weighed less than you? What would be the biggest discrepancy in size you would go/allow?

    I have. He probably weighed 20lbs less than me. He was tall and lanky.



    2. Would you date/marry a guy who was shorter than you? What would be the biggest discrepancy in height you would go/allow?

    I have he was shorter than me by like 2inches.
  • MissSaraSunshine
    MissSaraSunshine Posts: 52
    My husband weighs about 30 pounds less than I do, but he is also a lot more physically fit.

    I would probably date someone shorter than me if I really was into them. Although it would probably be a turn off at first ;)
  • SeasideOasis
    SeasideOasis Posts: 1,057 Member
    1 Answer: Yes - I would. Currently, my boyfriend and I are only a mere 10 pounds away from one another (he is still heavier - but full of muscle...I need to step up my game). If a guy is smaller than me, thats ok. However, I am only 5'0 - so this doesnt happen frequently.

    2 Answer: Oh - well read answer one. I dont think I have ever met anyone that is shorter than me - outside of children.

    I do stand firmly on "its about how someone treats you."
  • woman1961
    woman1961 Posts: 23
    to me size shouldnt matter they should accept you the way you are everyone is different and god made us that way for a reason if we were all the same the world would be a very boring place to live
  • felice03
    felice03 Posts: 2,644 Member
    I would not say never to either of these questions, but probably not to both of them....

    I like tall guys...and only being 5'5" it doesnt take much to be taller than me. Weight...maybe? but again, I like a little beef on my man.
  • LavaDoll
    LavaDoll Posts: 595 Member
    REAL LOVE transcends height / weight measurements.
  • bellevie23
    bellevie23 Posts: 208 Member
    1. No... unless he was Adam Levine...then yes!

    Second this:love:
  • juliesummers
    juliesummers Posts: 738 Member
    1. Would you date/marry a guy who weighed less than you? What would be the biggest discrepancy in size you would go/allow?

    2. Would you date/marry a guy who was shorter than you? What would be the biggest discrepancy in height you would go/allow?


    I definitely wouldn't let either be a huge deal breaker if I loved them, but neither would be my preference.


    The slimmest guy I've dated was about 5'9" and 125/130 lbs. He looked way thinner than me (at 5'6" and 110ish), but didn't weigh less. We could share clothes though, which was fun.

    I think all the guys I've had serious relationships with were between 5'9" and 6'1", and that just happens to be my aesthetic preference as well, but not a necessity.
  • okerachel
    okerachel Posts: 45 Member
    We are a generally short family. My brother tips the ruler at a whopping 5'4" and he's 31 so I think there probably isn't a growth spurt in his future. His wife is taller than him by about an inch :) She wore flats at their wedding so she wouldn't dwarf him, I thought it was sweet. My husband is 6' and athletic. It used to bother me a little but mostly because I felt guilty for hating exercise. Now that I can keep up with him better we have both lost weight, him 20 and me 12. Height is a non-issue honestly but I do like a guy I can see as strong. A weight difference would bother me more but I know it would be me feeling guilty for not having enough respect for myself rather than me being angry at him for being able to pack away massive amounts of food with little to not ill-effects.
  • IMYarnCraz33
    IMYarnCraz33 Posts: 1,016 Member
    Women of this board, I have 2 questions that I want answered, please. :)

    1. Would you date/marry a guy who weighed less than you? What would be the biggest discrepancy in size you would go/allow?

    2. Would you date/marry a guy who was shorter than you? What would be the biggest discrepancy in height you would go/allow?

    1) I have dated/married a guy that weighs less than me.

    2) I did marry a guy that's shorter than me. (by about 2 or 3") =]
  • robin52077
    robin52077 Posts: 4,383 Member
    any man lighter than me would probably be unhealthy (108), so no...

    likewise, it is rare to find a man shorter than me (5'2"), so it has never happened in my lifetime, but I would not be OPPOSED if I met a great guy that was only 5'1" for example...

    I guess I would date anyone 5'0" to 6'4", and 120-280, as long as they were height/weight proportionate, and not unhealthy.

    That said, if you are a *kitten*, it doesn't matter how perfect you look, you aren't getting any of my time. Conversely, if you are the most awesome, sweetest, funniest guy I have ever met, all those numbers I just quoted may fly out the window....
  • SafireBleu
    SafireBleu Posts: 881 Member
    1. Weight does not matter to me
    2. Height isn't a huge issue but I am 5'7" and would only date within 2-3 inches of my height.

    The men I married, I have been married twice, are both taller and heavier than me though.
  • garnet1483
    garnet1483 Posts: 249 Member
    I've dated guys who were both significantly shorter and significantly lighter than me...it wasn't really an issue, but at the time I wasn't so big, and they weren't so small that we looked cartoonish together. I'm currently married to a man who's significantly taller and significantly heavier than me, in all honesty, it presents more challenges.
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