Relationship Question?? Cheating.

Just curious! What do you consider cheating in a relationship? From your answer to that, have you ever cheated or been cheated on? (I'm curious if this alters people's opinion.) What in your definition of cheating can be forgiven?

In answer to your question.........another........why would you like to know? "Just curious" doesn't really answer my question.........in most cases curiousity killed the cat.........is there a deeper meaning behind it all? Or was your brain in the clouds today (not intending for it to have negative connotations......just wanted to know because it happens sometimes)?

Cheating for me:
Kissing someone else
Having sex with someone else
Written texts / emails to someone else with the intent to do the above

I've not cheated, nor have I been cheated on, that I know of.

But there are different levels to it, that I am finding hard to explain, so if someone else explains it better than I could, I'll let you know. :P

As much as I think Dr Phil is a tool, I think in regards to this issue, he's dead right: if you can't tell your spouse, or have him/her right there and you have to do it, what ever "it" is, behind his or her back, it's cheating.

It's really that simple.

This. Great way to put it.

i agree with the above posters. Anything you wouldnt do/say in front of your significant other is considered cheating. whether it be physical or on an emotional level. a lot of people dont understand that cheating doesnt have to be sex.

To me, any kind of betrayal of trust is "cheating." It doesn't even have to be romantic betrayal. Willful failure to live up to the responsibility you have to your partner (and this is dependent upon the level of commitment you've made to each other) is infidelity, in my book.

But assuming you're talking about "straying" with another man/woman, I draw the line at any kind of contact that is made with romantic intent. That includes e-mails and text messages, as someone else mentioned.

As far as what I'd be willing to forgive, theoretically, I can forgive anything. But forgiveness and trust are not the same thing. If you do something that makes me unable to trust you, unable to believe you even when you're looking me dead in the eyes, then we're done.

When we play Scrabble, my wife uses the American dictionary and I use the English one. I think that might be cheating.

If you have to hide it or lie about it to your partner, it's cheating. Period.

if you can't tell your spouse, or have him/her right there and you have to do it, what ever "it" is, behind his or her back, it's cheating.

Exactly this.

Would you and your partner be willing to switch cell phones for a week? If the answer is no, one of you is probably cheating.

We don't lie to each other, period.

Exclusion of the truth is also lying.

If I've told little white lies to him in the past (or felt that I portrayed something in a way other than it was), I always feel guilty, come back to it later, tell him, and tell him why I felt that way.

We try to be very honest, it's disrespectful to yourself and to the other person not to be...