What's ur Best Marriage Advice

1. good communication
2. good problem solving skills
3. make your priority his happiness, not yours (if he loves you, he will do the same for you and this takes all the "work" out of marriage.
4. Get your prenuptial agreement from the same firm I did. It's from Smith & Wesson and reads "if I'm not mad enough to kill him I'm not mad enough yet." in other words, divorce is not an option.
5. Mutually respect each other (I tell everyone my husband is perfect, and he says I'm always right.)
6. Sit down together once a week and write in a journal what you love about each other. (read this whenever you can't remember why you married him)
7. Never miss an opportunity to say, "I love you" & have an unspoken way to say "I love you" ( like tugging your ear) so you can say it when speaking isn't possible or practical.
8. Once you have forgiven him for something, never bring it up again. And don't let him.
9. Don't argue about style. If he does things differently than you do, but the job still gets done, what's the big deal?
10. Shared core values - We both love our Lord Jesus Christ and this gives our marriage a third strand of strength to get us through the hard times.

My hubby and I have been happily and contentedly married over 10 years, and we both follow this advice. We don't think of marriage as hard work. If you do what is right for each other every day and don't let stuff pile up it only gets easier and better.
Since we married my husband has lost both his parents and I have had cancer, among other things, so our marriage has been tested and this works.

My husband is my best friend and I truly admire so many things about him but he does occasionally get on my nerves. When this happens, I think back on all the reasons I fell in love with him and my frustration starts going away. In other words, focus on the positive. If you have to criticize decide first if the criticism will be edifying to the relationship. If it is something that has to change for the relationship to be happy and healthy then by all means say it. If it is not helpful to the person or your relationship, just keep your mouth shut. If it will be more hurtful than helpful it is not worth mentioning. Like the quote from the movie Bambi, "if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all."

Talk about your views on money BEFORE you tie the knot. If you don't agree on finances, this will cause conflict sooner than later.

Be open with each other, NO Secrets. They will surface one day and cause problems. Talk with each other- very important. After 26 years we have been through a lot. He is still my Best Friend first, then my Husband and then my Lover.

One more important thing in a marriage is Never Work With FAMILY. Of the 26 years we have been married we have worked together all but maybe 3. That has been the hardest thing in our marriage.

6. Don't tell your family and friends everything wrong with your relationship.

Oh, yes this is a good one! I have never, ever been one to ring up my mother or MIL to dish about my husband. They were very resentful of it for years, because apparently that's how it should be done? (I don't get it but it was brought up to me by both of them.) Anyway, later, when my brother got married, his wife DID do that and my mother really came to appreciate not getting those calls from me. And I have never had to worry about anyone butting into my relationship (married 18 years!)

One last thing, when (if) you become parents, keep being a wife as well. In my house kids are in bed by 9 pm nightly and I like to make talking about htem off limits if we can. I was once told that you should be your hubands wife and his mistress! :blushing: Never be afraid to try new things in bed-keep it interesting, set a bse of rules and then try anything else(if you are going to sleep with one person the rest of your life make sure it is fun!)

We actually hold meetings every Sunday to discuss what went wrong that week, or if there are things we want the other to apologize for or we want to apologize for. It sounds silly but it works miracles.

Wow, it definitely sounds ridiculous, but I want to try it anyway!!! Sometimes those apologies escape our minds and then remain unsaid. Chances are, the one who needed to hear that apology will still need it long after the "culprit" has forgotten. It would be great to store those in a memory bank and make sure they don't go unsaid. Of course, the apologies could come out before that "meeting" as well, but I think it's a good idea to have the meeting as part of your routine just in case you need it as a backup time to say the "I'm sorry" you had forgotten to say.

Remember that it takes WORK from both of you!

Continue to date your spouse after you're married. Don't take them for granted. Most everyone needs and wants to feel special.

If you find yourself in a disagreement, try to stop and think "Is this something WORTH getting this upset about?" or "Do I really need to be right all the time?" or "Will this matter in 2,5, or 10 years from now?" (I'm not so good at this, but I'm pretty sure it would be a good thing for me to practice)

Have fun together and try to carve out a little time to enjoy yourself on your own. I think it's important to continue to grow as a person, as well as a couple. So spending a little time pursuing some of your own interests may be a nice thing to keep in mind.



I hope you have a beautiful wedding and a blessed marriage!

best advise i ever gotten from from my daddy- he said know when to smile and say yes dear... and it works!!!!!!!

know when to walk away from an agrument- not everything is worth fighting about even though theres things bout him that will drive you crazy just remember theres things you do that are equally irrating

and communicate- it does have to be on everything little thing but when it comes down to serious decision making it should be mutual unless you or him are in a situation where you have to make the call....

and theres more to marriage than love- its time, patience, compassion, respect, forgiveness etc....

Always remember no one is perfect that includes you ; )

Marriage means a commitment to love each other for worse or for better. Be truthful to each other.

Forget never go to bed angry. GO TO BED ANGRY. In the morning, it's likely you will not understand why you were so angry. If you're still angry, there's a problem that needs to be sorted.

I have never woken up still angry.

^^This is good advice. While I rarely wake up still mad it does happen sometimes and that is when the talking begins. Married for 15 years now so something is working.

Just celebrated my 2 yr anniversary with my husband this week. We found out quickly that first God is there and will get you through anything. and don't smoother eachother.
Give eachother space
Don't Nit Pick or Nag(This is the biggest mistake for girls, The ones I know at least)
Enjoy him
Be selfless
Don't feel like your his mother.

It is working perfectly for us, Happy to say I am still the happiest girl in the world!!!!!

6. Don't tell your family and friends everything wrong with your relationship.

Oh, yes this is a good one! I have never, ever been one to ring up my mother or MIL to dish about my husband. They were very resentful of it for years, because apparently that's how it should be done? (I don't get it but it was brought up to me by both of them.) Anyway, later, when my brother got married, his wife DID do that and my mother really came to appreciate not getting those calls from me. And I have never had to worry about anyone butting into my relationship (married 18 years!)

Wow....this one!!!

I'm the same way, our marriage is our marriage, whatever issues there are, we deal with. I've been married 13 yrs and have never called my mother, sister, friends to dish the dirt on him. I put this one right back under the respect thing......I wouldn't want him calling his mom telling her every detail or problem that might come up, so I give him and our relationship the same respect.

Oh, I forgot you add, make sure you also SPEND TIME APART! I don't mean days or weeks on end, but I think it helps if you keep some hobbies and friends separate, otherwise you won't have anything new to talk about and easily get bored of each other!