MEN...what size would you want your woman?

dup post, sorry

I agree. It's dumb to say "I wanna look like men want me to look".

Actually, when I've been able to communicate to certain friends that losing weight will help her attract a better guy, it's great motivation for getting in shape.

Is it just the two guys like this I've known (through their ex wives, who I became friends with while they were married), or is it seriously true that men who prefer significantly obese men tend to have control/abuse issues?

I have no type. I've been attracted to size 16 and size 0. Blondes, redheads, brunettes (ok, I am partial to blue hair). Every color skin under the rainbow. Good girls, bad girls, crazy girls.

My wife? I want her to be whatever size makes her happy, so long as she's not endangering her health.

My advice? Find the size that makes YOU happy. That way you're not allowing someone else that kinda power.

Crap, I went deep here, didn't I? Eh...sorry.

Well said. Your wife is a lucky lady.

Does it really matter what men think. I honestly spend more time getting dressed and looking great to out with the girls than my own man. Even when we first dated, if he didnt like the way I looked than too bad, someone else will. I look good for myself....and he obviously loved my look and still likes it after 5 years+. Now I am improving myself, so he is loving it!

We don't need to set our goals through men's eyes. That's ridiculous. Different men have different preferences.

We need to set healthy goals for ourselves that are based less on appearance, and more on fitness.

Well said.. Setting goals based on other people's opinions is wrong.

Without being too twee, WHATEVER SIZE MAKES HER HAPPY, I am not with a person because they can fit in my travel bag or stop a Mack truck in its tracks. I am with them because they are funny, engaging & sexy! I have been with size 6's insecure & needy & I have been with size 14's(UK sizes) Confident & Vivacious. What I would say is that whatever women I have been with they mostly want to be their friends, the skinnies want bigger breasts & the larger curvier women wanted to be smaller & wear clothes where men didn't stare at their tits all day haha.

Russ

haha this is so true!

This thread is crackin' me up!!! Of course we all want to lose weight and get in shape for ourselves. . . eventually. I can safely say that 75% of the women on here are losing weight so they can either attract a mate, or feel more attractive towards the one they already have.

*Honestly, if it was common place for the vast majority of men to desire larger women, a good chunk of us gals would not be on this site*

Sorry if it makes anyone mad, but I am just being honest. And there is nothing to be ashamed of, it's human nature to want to mate!

On a side note, I think if this question were reversed (women choosing men) there would be all kinds of specifications and there would be one hell of a deffense if anyone said anything about how "shallow" we were. So for those of you who are complaining about how wrong this question was or how superficial these men are, stop. You know you want what you want and there is nothing wrong with that!!

and finally, I have one last thing to say:

<<< Should have been in a Sir Mix A Lot video. . .

Even though I think women should set their own goals, I do appreciate hearing the male perspective.

What a loaded question. Why come on this site and ask that question? Lame.

This is actually not that easy to answer bc every one have a different frame so various body types work for some ppl and not others. I will say though that usually 4-8 sizes might cover them all BUT some women look sexy as hell wearing a size 10-12

Men want their women size "available and willing" lol

This is very true, but we want you to be happy so that your more of the above more often, so be yourself!

We need to start setting our goals/standard/dream size through our men's eyes. The size they want to see us in., and that attracts them.

Um, no. No we don't.

Significat others come and go. We need to make ourselves happy and healthy. There is nothing sexier than a woman who is confident in her own skin.

My husband like girls with 'softness". Extra layer of fat, I guess. He liked it when I was 125 at 5'2. Which is not at all what I would like to look like. I'm about 5'4, 120 right now. I tell him that I am going to have abs, He says that that is not attractive. I think he doesn't like the IDEA of that. I just tell him that he doesn't know yet, and he will have to see. I don't think he actually cares as long as I am happy, though.


That being said... He said my abs/stomach are starting to look good just last night. Wapow! How bout them apples?

If you spend all of your time doing exactly what men want you to do you will probably very sore, and very tired.

And with scabbed knees.... Yes I went there. Ha!

LMAO. We could go on a tangent on the multitude of examples this would bring, but we prob shouldn't LOL.

As for the post, I wouldnt go by what a guy wants, if he doesnt like me at a size 14 he dont need me at a size 6, I say 6 because *I* wouldn't be happy any smaller. I like meat on me.

preemptive strike: I am not saying women who are 0-4 dont, Im saying I wouldnt, so simmer down.

I will speak for the minority then in saying, I have never had a problem regardless of when I was small, medium, or large, on finding a "mate" and I am going through a divorce so it DEF isn't for him. There are millions of men in this world, I guarantee there are men who enjoy petite framed women and those who enjoy the morbidly obese, you just might have a hard time finding a mass of guys knocking at your door.

And I think more women use what society as a whole enjoys seeing on billboards as a basis for what size they need to be than accepting guys dont have a clue what size 0 means.

This thread is crackin' me up!!! Of course we all want to lose weight and get in shape for ourselves. . . eventually. I can safely say that 75% of the women on here are losing weight so they can either attract a mate, or feel more attractive towards the one they already have.

*Honestly, if it was common place for the vast majority of men to desire larger women, a good chunk of us gals would not be on this site*

Sorry if it makes anyone mad, but I am just being honest. And there is nothing to be ashamed of, it's human nature to want to mate!

On a side note, I think if this question were reversed (women choosing men) there would be all kinds of specifications and there would be one hell of a deffense if anyone said anything about how "shallow" we were. So for those of you who are complaining about how wrong this question was or how superficial these men are, stop. You know you want what you want and there is nothing wrong with that!!

and finally, I have one last thing to say:

<<< Should have been in a Sir Mix A Lot video. . .