Publicly humiliating someone is mental.

If I would have been there and heard that, even if I did not know you, I would have decked the guy.

My sister, who is obese, lost almost 100lbs as she wanted to look good for her high school reunion. She went from 360 to 260, and while still overweight, she looked much better. She felt better, she had more confidence than ever before. Well, she went to her high school reunion and someone called her fat and she felt so bad she gained 50lbs of it back within 2 months, had a downward spiral. She was crushed.

I found out who it was and let's just say it was not pretty.

She is back to losing weight again, but it is a daily struggle. Some people have no soul. Congrats on losing 25lbs, keep up the great work.

I think there are a lot of ignorant and rude people out there...especially young people in groups of their friends.

When I was younger I remember lots of people - especially guys - who would say mean or cruel things to girls. They think they are being cool in front of their friends. I remember a friend of mine who used to moo at girls that were overweight...even at girls who weren't just to make himself feel superior I guess...

I think all of us have experienced what you are feeling at one time or another. I remember walking home one day and these young guys were driving by and they said 'cow'...my fiance says they were actually saying 'wow'...but I personally believe he was being nice and trying to make me feel better about myself...lol

I think too when we are feeling bad about ourselves we take everything to heart. We believe everything people say is about us, or being aimed at us...but really they were just a bunch of guys in a bar being stupid. Probably drunk too...and who knows who or what they were really talking about.

Be confident! Continue working hard! Believe in yourself and others will believe in you too! You can do it girl...don't let those jerks bring you down!

You are right, he's mental, needs a good slap. You are doing great keep up the good work! I have had a similar experience, waiting in a long holiday line up to cross the boarder into Canada. The guys were all int he vehicle ahead of us and we'd been in line for 45 mins already. I changed lanes to stay in the same line-up as they were, some guy tried to butt in between us, but the Transport behind me was leaving room for him and waving him in.... he yelled at me "B$tch, why don't you go eat more donuts!!"
What is wrong with their heads, they have no idea what goes through people's minds when something like that happens.
The only advice I can give you is keep on doing what you are doing, stand tall, be proud of who you are, and let Karma take care of the jerks!

I am so sorry that happened to you....To answer your question ONLY A&*holes who are insecure with themselves do that.

When I was young I was that a@#hole!

Then I got older and loaded on the weight and got a taste of the other side of the equation!

There is no excuse for my behavior in my youth but today I am working on being a better person.

I am truly heartbroken that you have suffered at the whim of the ignorant.

That you have taken charge of your life and are working hard to be healthy is inspirational. Although it is cold comfort, the advice I have given my children as they have dealt with similar people: Ignore the opinions of the people whom you do not know or respect. It is the opinion of the people who know and care about you that is important.

All the best on your journey!

Since you've repented and paid your debt to society, I guess we'll let you live, and keep your tongue! :laugh:

I haven't really anything to add, but as I read through all of these responses, I must say that every time I see the words "tiny penis" I hear them in my head to the tune of Don Ho's "Tiny Bubbles."

Last night, for the first time in MONTHS I got up the courage to dress up, go out to dinner in a nice restaurant and have a glass of wine at one of the popular casino bars. People were everywhere, there were huge events yesterday.

I was wearing nothing revealing, unfitting, or skintight. Have to say I at least looked nice.
The only thing making me stand out a little is I wore a pair of heels.. after 2 years.

Night was going fine, I felt great.
Walking by on the way to the bar a guy yelled "That's why fat girls should never come out."
I felt so disgusted I no longer wanted the drink and went home.

This happens even after I lose over 25lbs, could've easily discouraged me altogether.
What kind of people who even have thoughts like that, have the balls to actually make it heard?
Anyone else experienced this while doing nothing wrong?

Yeah, I kind of suck at holding my tongue, there would have been a drink in his face and a lashing so brutal he would have needed to pick his ego up off the floor and sew it back on if he still wanted it.

I don't know what its like for that to happen to me...but that was so rude

Just saw something a friend posted on Facebook thought it might make you smile!

WHILE YOU WERE BUSY JUDGING OTHERS YOU LEFT YOUR CLOSET OPEN AND YOUR SKELETONS FELL OUT.

I agree, Mrs.Rose. It's such a common insult that people don't realize it's still the name of a medical condition that people who have it get mocked and ridiculed for so many days of their lives.

In the UK we call them W&nkers.

I have a few stock answers to men who make rude comments.

1. That may be true but you still couldn't afford me
2. You will never get close enough to find out.
3. Yeah but in a few months I will be slim, but you will still be a W&nker
4. I wouldn't kiss you with someone elses lips.

Make up some of your own it's fun. You don't have to say them to the guys face of course that could be dangerous but just hearing them inside your head will make you smile and smiling as you walk away drives them batty. :flowerforyou:

**LIKE**!! Sorry girl, hold your head up and keep up your good work!

You should have said "and retards should wear helmets Where's yours"

And with that, you have succeeded in insulting my daughter, amongst others. I know you meant it as a joke, but please don't use that word, it sinks you to his level and then some.

Mrs. Rose - I just posted basically the same thing. We also have a mentally handicapped daughter and the use of the 'r' word is very hurtful. God bless!

What kind of people who even have thoughts like that, have the balls to actually make it heard?
Anyone else experienced this while doing nothing wrong?

When they do that, they just want to be heard. A good portion of the time, when people put others down, it is so they can make themselves look better. Hang in there. Those are the types of people I avoid. Unfortunately, people like that will always be around.

You ARE a pretty woman. Don't let a person with nothing better to do than hang out in a bar and behave like a jerk get into your head.
Speaking of getting into people's heads..... I'm just curious... Were you with friends? I ask, because then, even if you didn't have a come back at the time, you could've made a practice of pointing at him and laughing with them. The mystery of WHAT you were saying would've driven him up a wall!

What a boring life that man must lead that he can only get attention and have fun by making dumb remarks.

Some one once told me that my *kitten* was so big, one could park a caravan up it ... LOL

I lost the weight.... she's still as ugly as sin!

Sit back and let karma ***k people like that up. The wheel turns!