LIBIDO!!! how to get one??

You both can have mine...it's through the roof, and my partner couldn't be less interested.

Take it before it drives me crazy.

Ah, same here.

But, the 30 Day Shred did good things for me. I'm not sure what it was, but right after I got done with it, I wanted to get laid. Possibly TMI? Ah, oh well.

Eat more!

You both can have mine...it's through the roof, and my partner couldn't be less interested.

Take it before it drives me crazy.

Im on the same boat!

Solution: The three of us need to fornicate with each other. XD

Read a few articles online. It seems like Vitex (Chaste Tree Berry) may be a worthwhile try.

"Vitex is one of the only natural substances which balances both estrogen and progesterone levels. Many herbalists have noticed that 20% to 30% of the women using Vitex report an increase in sexual desire."

Good luck ladies.

BC

You are very brave to post this! Just because a dip in libido is normal (and it is) doesn't mean that you have to like it or just wait around hoping it comes back.

There are many reasons that your libido may be on vacation, and you may need help beyond MFP

Most things that are good for getting your body healthy will be good for your libido as well. You need lots of water and good solid nutrition for ALL parts of your body to work properly. I have recently found that increasing my calories has added a boost to my own.

Sometimes you need to up the level of freakiness to keep things hot, break away from the routine, read naughty stories, get a new toy or a positions book...

Last thought - you need to spend quality time together. Who wants to have sex with the person you have only seen for half an hour and discussed bills and cleaned the table with this week??? Not me!

Good luck!!

I was going to say the same about the pill, i changed mine recently, hoping it will help!

Had the same problem recently, but its hard when you're working different shifts and to be honest on 40 degree days sometimes you don't wanna get any more hot and sweaty than you already are! ;P

in all serious though, was thinking of trying that horny goat weed supplement for sale in coles etc... can't hurt to try it?
Me & my partner also have to schedule it in and make an effort, sounds boring but sometimes its the only way we fit it in!! (literally) haha

I know it's from the POV of the opposite sex, but with an ex I got to the point I just wasn't interested.

Same sort of thing - it was awesome when we did, but basically it sort of just boiled down to laziness in a way.

I got past it though, by basically just making the decision I wasn't going to be passive about it any more.

For me, it sort of dwindled off a bit, as it does naturally - most people aren't going to be at it 4 times a night and again in the morning every time they see each other forever...lol

But as it dwindled, it slowly became longer and longer between times until it became almost awkward? to start anything.

I then decided I wasn't going to let it go down like that - as I say once we did, it was good, it was just getting started - so I forced myself to make the effort, pretty much nightly, until I forced myself to realise how it wasn't actually an effort. It became a regular part of our relationship again and honestly it was back like being in the honeymoon phase again.

Moral of the story - just do it.

Eat more!

Low calorie diets can have an effect on libido and suppress it.

^^ This

Birth control. Get off of it. (Assuming you are taking it.) That will cure your problem!

Seriously. I had been on BC since I was about 19 (after having a baby while NOT being on it). My libido TANKED. I couldn't figure out why since I never had any problem before. I thought maybe it was because we had a kid and ya know how they say that will kill it. Phhhht. For years I dealt with this problem...him being a 20 something male...me not caring. Ohhh it sucked so bad. I finally made the decision to get off of BC to see if some other hormonal issues I was having would improve. BEST D@MN DECISION I EVER MADE!!!! Took a couple of months .... but now...I'm begging HIM for more than the 2x weekly romps. *sigh* (I suppose that losing some weight and exercise definitely helped as it was a major help for my confidence.)

I have not found a BC that didn't affect my libido, and I've tried many. So...we are now using condoms and praying (sucks when you've been together 14 years) because I really don't want a baby right now. But girl, it's back....with a vengeance and 12 years to make up for!!!

(Also, side note...I've read recently that yohimbine helps with sex drive....and if you don't care for the side effects, to try AlphaBurn as it does the same but less side effects. That is, if you are looking for a supplement...)
Good luck girl ~ I know all too well the frustration you are feeling!!!

i am taking birth control. ive been on the pill for about 15years but ive had a bigger libido than this and i was on it.

I asked because I used to be on it for a few years, and the last year of it I started feeling kinda like you do. I went off it because I researched about all the dangers of taking it, & only a week after stopping the pill I felt completely back to normal. Maybe you should give it a try.

Honestly, and I know this might sound strange, but getting in touch with my sexuality is what keeps my sex drive high in my relationship as well. I *kitten* pretty regularly, and not only has it helped me learn what i like and need, but it keeps me interested in being sexual, especially when I can teach my man to do what I know works for me, which is always great.

Other than that, since you say you enjoy sex once it's started, maybe just try initiating it gradually. Spend an hour or two while you're on the couch watching TV to cuddle up to him, then put your hands on him, then throw in some intermittent kisses — and then stop for a while before you start up again. Teasing first will get you both more interested and involved then just jumping to the bedroom within 30 seconds.

You both can have mine...it's through the roof, and my partner couldn't be less interested.

Take it before it drives me crazy.

Seriously, same here. My libido has always been (when quietly compared with other women I know) quite crazy, and my girlfriend's isn't nearly as high. It drives her nuts...but I really do believe that a strong libido comes from a lot of love for oneself, both literally and euphemistically.

I find that, when I don't touch myself as often, my sex drive goes way down. And not only does it make me less inclined to want sex (boo!) but it also makes me think a lot less of myself...I don't love the way I look and feel as much, and *that* is something that I can't bear to live with.

-First, look at yourself and your relationship and see if there's any underlying issue that makes you feel less comfortable around him.
I have that "initiating it" problem a lot of the time too and I think that has to do with my own insecurities--like inside I'm thinking, "well if he isn't making a move, he must not want me" and it's so silly.
-Secondly, are you on a birth control pill? My sex drive/sexual responses DIED when I was on the pill, in addition to a host of other bad side effects ):
-Thirdly, a supplement often used with weight-training programs called L-Arginine is an amino acid that helps with vasodilatation...I've read that it can help boost female sexual response. I've taken it (not for that reason) and had no unpleasant side effects if taken with a meal. worth a try?

As already said: maybe try another birth control pill or even another sort of birth control. Birth control messes with your hormones!
If you've ruled out any underlying problems such as maybe insecurity, stress, things that bother you in the relationship, it might just be that you are one of very many women that have this "problem". It's not uncommon. A lot of women don't have the drive to "start" it, but get into it as it goes.

What ihateroses said is true too by the way, try to find some female friendly porn if you feel comfortable with that, it might spice things up a little!